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~~~~~~~~No Bra Day~~~~~~~~
Posted:Oct 13, 2017 9:49 am
Last Updated:Oct 16, 2017 8:50 pm
No Bra Day: Here's why women are going braless today

Today the world will celebrate No Bra Day.

Women are being encouraged to leave their bras at home for the day to raise awareness about breast cancer.

No Bra Day is steadily growing in popularity worldwide, and is celebrated every year on October 13, in the middle of Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

The awareness campaign day started in 2011 with women using the hashtag #nobraday on social media to support the campaign.

While some people have raised concerns regarding the nature of the campaign, with suggestions that it could be exploitative, with some critics even describing the event as being 'purely sexual'.

The campaign, however, is more about raising awareness on breast cancer, than about not wearing a bra to work. Women who don't want to go braless, are also encouraged to take part - by wearing something purple for the day.

So ladies….leave those bra’s home if you can, although if you’re going to work or at work….ya might wanna put one on, or leave it on for now….wouldn’t want the boss to freak out…..lol.

And don’t forget…..CHECK THOSE BOOBIES!!


A Study On Male Baldness- Attractive,Confident & Dominant?
Posted:Sep 18, 2017 8:12 am
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2017 7:13 am
Bald​ ​Men​ ​Are​ ​‘Perceived​ ​As​ ​More  Attractive,​ ​Confident​ ​and​ ​Dominant

Many ​men​ ​try​ ​to​ ​prevent​ ​hair​ ​loss​ ​as​ ​they​ ​get​ ​older,​ ​but​ ​a​ ​new​ ​study​ ​has​ ​revealed​ ​that  bald​ ​men​ ​may​ ​actually​ ​be​ ​sexier​ ​to​ ​women. 

The​ ​research​ ​found​ ​that​ ​hairless​ ​men​ ​are​ ​leading​ ​the​ ​way​ ​of​ ​attractiveness,​ ​and  appear​ ​more​ ​confident​ ​and​ ​dominant​ ​to​ ​the​ ​opposite​ ​sex.  The​ ​​study​ ​​was​ ​conducted​ ​by​ ​The​ ​University​ ​of​ ​Pennsylvania,​ ​who​ ​asked​ ​male​ ​and  female​ ​students​ ​to​ ​rate​ ​photos​ ​of​ ​men. 

They​ ​had​ ​to​ ​give​ ​each​ ​picture​ ​a​ ​judgement​ ​based​ ​on​ ​three​ ​categories​ ​-​ ​attractiveness,  confidence​ ​and​ ​dominance​ ​–​ ​and​ ​bald​ ​chaps​ ​led​ ​the​ ​way​ ​across​ ​the​ ​board. 

Participants​ ​consistently​ ​rated​ ​natural​ ​bald​ ​men,​ ​and​ ​those​ ​who​ ​had​ ​their​ ​scalps  digitally​ ​enhanced​ ​to​ ​be​ ​bald​ ​for​ ​the​ ​study,​ ​as​ ​stronger​ ​than​ ​those​ ​with​ ​thick​ ​or  thinning​ ​hair. 

Not​ ​only​ ​this,​ ​but​ ​baldness​ ​was​ ​found​ ​to​ ​make​ ​the​ ​men​ ​appear​ ​taller. The​ ​study​ ​said:​ ​“Namely,​ ​the​ ​men​ ​were​ ​viewed​ ​as​ ​nearly​ ​an​ ​inch​ ​taller​ ​and​ ​13​ ​per​ ​cent  stronger​ ​when​ ​pictured​ ​with​ ​shaved​ ​heads​ ​versus​ ​with​ ​hair. 

“Because​ ​only​ ​their​ ​hair​ ​was​ ​altered​ ​in​ ​these​ ​photographs,​ ​other​ ​factors​ ​cannot  account​ ​for​ ​these​ ​differences.” 

And​ ​the​ ​growing​ ​trend​ ​for​ ​men​ ​to​ ​debut​ ​bald​ ​heads​ ​or​ ​shave​ ​off​ ​their​ ​head​ ​is​ ​popping  up​ ​all​ ​over​ ​Hollywood​ ​too.  The​ ​style​ ​has​ ​been​ ​made​ ​popular​ ​by​ ​the​ ​likes​ ​of​ ​Vin​ ​Diesel​ ​and​ ​Jason​ ​Statham,​ ​the  latter​ ​of​ ​which​ ​is​ ​married​ ​to​ ​none​ ​other​ ​than​ ​Victoria​ ​Secret​ ​model​ ​Rosie  Huntington-Whiteley.
The​ ​study​ ​concluded:​ ​"Instead​ ​of​ ​spending​ ​billions​ ​each​ ​year​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​reverse​ ​or​ ​cure  their​ ​hair​ ​loss,​ ​the​ ​counterintuitive​ ​prescription​ ​of​ ​this​ ​research​ ​to​ ​men​ ​experiencing  male​ ​pattern​ ​baldness​ ​is​ ​to​ ​shave​ ​their​ ​heads. 

"The​ ​results​ ​of​ ​these​ ​comparisons​ ​should​ ​shed​ ​light​ ​on​ ​whether​ ​men​ ​with​ ​thinning​ ​hair  can​ ​alter​ ​their​ ​interpersonal​ ​standing​ ​by​ ​shaving​ ​their​ ​heads."
By​ ​Becky​ ​Pemberton 15th​ ​September​ ​2017,​ ​6:32​ ​am Updated:​ ​15th​ ​September​ ​2017,​ ​9:08​ ​am

So​ ​ladies...what​ ​say​ ​you?​ ​

Do​ ​you​ ​find​ ​bald​ ​men​ ​attractive​ ​and​ ​sexy,​ ​​ ​or​ ​do​ ​you​ ​prefer​ ​a  man​ ​with​ ​a​ ​full​ ​head​ ​of​ ​hair?​ ​Would​ ​you​ ​consider​ ​them​ ​more​ ​confident​ ​and​ ​dominant because​ ​of​ ​their​ ​baldness,​ ​or​ ​just​ ​think​ ​it​ ​has​ ​more​ ​to​ ​do​ ​with​ ​who​ ​they​ ​are​ ​(personality  etc)​ ​period?

I​ ​don’t​ ​mind​ ​a​ ​bald​ ​man….and find them attractive. Although I do think the shape of his bald head counts a bit...lol

My​ ​last​ ​lover​ ​was​ ​a​ ​bald​ ​man-not​ ​totally​ ​bald,​ ​he​ ​had​ ​hair​ ​on  the​ ​sides,​ ​but​ ​kept​ ​that​ ​hair​ ​very​ ​short.​ ​I​ ​liked​ ​to​ ​rub​ ​his​ ​head​ ​as​ ​he​ ​performed​ ​oral​ ​on  me….lol    I'd say he was a mostly confident man, and he was what I would say a dominant man. But I'm not sure that was because of his baldness. Just who he was....

That’s​ ​not​ ​to​ ​say​ ​I​ ​wouldn’t​ ​enjoy​ ​a​ ​man​ ​with​ ​a​ ​full​ ​head​ ​of​ ​hair​ ​as​ ​well​ ​though! There's something to be said, and enjoyed by running my hands through his hair as he's down below pleasuring me!

As​ ​for  confidence​ ​and​ ​dominance...my​ ​opinion​ ​is​ ​that-that​ ​just​ ​comes​ ​from​ ​within.​ ​If​ ​being  bald​ ​bothers​ ​a man,​ ​then​ ​I think his confidence could suffer, but I'm not sure his dominant "feeling" would so much...perhaps.

Men feel free to chime in with your thoughts on your own baldness or how you perceive men who are bald.

This Little Gem
Posted:Sep 7, 2017 12:04 pm
Last Updated:Sep 21, 2017 9:30 am
Yay....another lovely email from a stand up guy on AdultFriendFinder!

Trust me guys...I do know for a fact that not all of you are like this particular neanderthal. I get some very nice emails as well, and I email with a very, very few on a regular or semi- regular basis.

This is a strange one because it almost looks like perhaps a cut and paste kind of email.

Below is a screenshot of the email-

I was nice (perhaps I shouldn't be) and blurred out his profile name, and this guy even included his phone number. I was tempted to leave it in with the hopes that he would get some crank calls....but I just don't really have it in me.

Maybe for those of you who may read this and send emails like this to women- you should first think twice about sending it at all, and second think real hard on including a phone number. You might not get so lucky the next time.

I didn't feel like toying with this idiot, like I have sometimes in the past with stupid, mean or nasty emails. This one took it a step up from other ones I've gotten.

UGH.......his has been deleted and he got blocked!!

Bye bye you big dope.....lol

Oooops....his name is there....but oh well....it coulda been worse for him....lol

Just A Few Thoughts If I May......
Posted:Sep 4, 2017 3:43 pm
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2017 7:00 am

Just a few friendly suggestions if I may, when encountering a woman camming on A*F*F. Ladies if you have any to add...please feel free.

If any gentlemen have suggestions on women watching them on cam….you can comment on that as well, or you can write a blog on one for that…..lol.

This all seems pretty much common sense honestly, but not all men behave the same way on this site. Sorry - some don’t have that sense to know any better, and some just think with the head below their belts, instead of the one on their shoulders.


First maybe remember :

Not all of us women go on the cam to masurbate for you or put on a show! Some just hop on occasionally to video chat or just say “Hi”.

Perhaps read her profile first before you (some of you) start with all the lewd or rude comments. If the profile indicates the woman has no interest in that type of chat or behavior- ( does anyone like rude?), maybe think twice! I personally will ignore you!!

Don’t ask her to show you her boobs or pussy if she has already indicated that it isn’t gonna happen. ( I plainly state it in my profile this fact, and had you read it- you’d already know this). If you are a gold member...you have no excuse.

Don’t beg or whine if she declines your request, should you ask anyway. I’ve had this happen, not a pleasant thing...trust me!

Don’t send her your dick pics - most of the women on here will ask if they want one from you...don’t just assume and send it. If she wants to watch you cam….she would most likely have tuned in already.

Don’t get bent out of shape or mean if she doesn’t answer your IM quickly - most likely she is being inundated with IM’s and can’t respond as quickly as they come in. Be patient…...

DO be nice and friendly...perhaps even a bit respectful….it goes a lot further than the other way.

I DO understand that this is a sex site, but it doesn’t mean that all women are here for that singular reason. Some are here for other reasons...to blog, to read profiles, to observe, and maybe just chat with a few friends they’ve made along the way! Camming or video chatting is just another way to do that sometimes.

Remember you are not just typing words...there is actually another person on the other “end” of the keyboard.
Some Of Us Better Get Busy I Guess....lol
Posted:Aug 23, 2017 9:27 pm
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2017 7:02 pm
Here’s an article I came across that mentions that there are unpleasant things that happen to our health (both physical and mental/psychological) if we are not having sex.

Obviously you don’t have to be in a serious or committed “relationship” to be having sex. There are men and women men/men..women/women that are friends with benefits, no strings attached friends, and just plain old fuck buddies!

Those in a relationship or those who are couples….well I guess just keep busy doing what you’re hopefully doing!

Those of us who are single and have been celibate, for whatever reason...ie: haven’t found that someone yet that we want to get down & dirty with!

I guess we better get busy…..lol

Sooooooooooo what do you think? Have you noticed any of the things mentioned below....happening to you? Do you agree or disagree with the article?

12​ ​Bad​ ​Things​ ​That​ ​Happen​ ​to​ ​Your​ ​Health When​ ​You​ ​Stop​ ​Having Sex
by​ ​​August ​Mc Laughlin

If​ ​the​ ​only​ ​fun​ ​you’ve​ ​had​ ​naked​ ​lately​ ​consists​ ​of​ ​a​ ​bubble​ ​bath,​ ​you’re​ ​not alone.​ ​Going​ ​from​ ​sexually​ ​active​ ​to​ ​sexless​ ​is​ ​relatively​ ​common,​ ​especially in​ ​long-term​ ​relationships​ ​or​ ​obviously​ ​in​ ​one​ ​having​ ​no​ ​relationship.​ ​You​ ​may find​ ​yourself​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​due​ ​to​ ​a​ ​breakup,​ ​changes​ ​in​ ​your​ ​health​ ​or life​ ​stress.​ ​While​ ​sex​ ​isn’t​ ​necessary​ ​for​ ​overall​ ​wellness,​ ​there​ ​is​ ​scientific proof​ ​that​ ​physical​ ​intimacy,​ ​arousal​ ​and​ ​orgasm​ ​can​ ​invite​ ​some​ ​pretty awesome​ ​benefits​ ​you​ ​may​ ​miss​ ​out​ ​on​ ​by​ ​going​ ​sex-free.​ ​Read​ ​on​ ​to​ ​learn about​ ​how​ ​not​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​can​ ​negatively​ ​impact​ ​your​ ​physical​ ​and​ ​emotional well-being​ ​—​ ​and​ ​then​ ​use​ ​this​ ​information​ ​as​ ​motivation​ ​to​ ​get​ ​back​ ​on​ ​the wagon.


Arousal​ ​and​ ​orgasm​ ​can​ ​cause​ ​the​ ​release​ ​of​ ​feel-good​ ​chemicals (endorphins)​ ​in​ ​your​ ​body.​ ​These​ ​chemicals​ ​are​ ​known​ ​to​ ​relieve​ ​pain​ ​and boost​ ​mood.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​stop​ ​regularly​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​you​ ​may​ ​then​ ​miss​ ​those​ ​rushes —​ ​similar​ ​to​ ​putting​ ​an​ ​end​ ​to​ ​the​ ​workouts,​ ​that​ ​once​ ​gave​ ​you​ ​the​ ​proverbial “runner’s​ ​high,”​ ​says​ ​Sheila​ ​Loanzon,​ ​M.D.,​ ​a​ ​gynecologist​ ​in​ ​San​ ​Jose, California.

2.​​ ​​MORE​ ​STRESS

If​ ​you​ ​remember​ ​how​ ​relaxed​ ​you​ ​once​ ​felt​ ​after​ ​a​ ​romp​ ​between​ ​the​ ​sheets, you​ ​may​ ​not​ ​be​ ​surprised​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​that​ ​less​ ​sex​ ​makes​ ​way​ ​for​ ​more​ ​stress.​ ​In a​ ​study​ ​published​ ​in​ ​the​ ​Journal​ ​of​ ​Family​ ​Psychology​ ​in​ ​2010,​ ​female​ ​college students​ ​reported​ ​their​ ​levels​ ​of​ ​daily​ ​stress​ ​and​ ​sexual​ ​activity​ ​during​ ​several months​ ​before​ ​a​ ​major​ ​exam.​ ​Women​ ​who​ ​reported​ ​the​ ​most​ ​stress​ ​also reported​ ​having​ ​less​ ​sex.​ ​While​ ​there​ ​are​ ​other​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​manage​ ​stress,​ ​you may​ ​end​ ​up​ ​noticing​ ​that​ ​your​ ​stress​ ​levels​ ​go​ ​up​ ​as​ ​your​ ​sexual​ ​activity declines.​ ​On​ ​the​ ​flip​ ​side,​ ​high​ ​levels​ ​of​ ​stress​ ​can​ ​make​ ​sex​ ​less​ ​appealing.


Physical​ ​intimacy​ ​works​ ​like​ ​feel-good​ ​glue​ ​for​ ​many​ ​couples,​ ​drawing​ ​and keeping​ ​you​ ​more​ ​connected​ ​emotionally.​ ​Unless​ ​you’re​ ​asexual,​ ​having​ ​less sex​ ​with​ ​your​ ​partner​ ​may​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​a​ ​drop​ ​in​ ​satisfaction​ ​for​ ​you​ ​both.​ ​The Journal​ ​of​ ​Family​ ​Psychology​ ​study​ ​also​ ​showed​ ​that​ ​women​ ​who​ ​reported less​ ​sex​ ​reported​ ​less​ ​relationship​ ​gratification.​ ​This​ ​may​ ​be​ ​partly​ ​because orgasm​ ​causes​ ​the​ ​release​ ​of​ ​the​ ​brain​ ​chemical​ ​oxytocin,​ ​also​ ​known​ ​as​ ​“the bonding​ ​hormone.”​ ​Oxytocin​ ​produces​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​trust​ ​and​ ​closeness​ ​and may​ ​even​ ​help​ ​you​ ​and​ ​your​ ​partner​ ​see​ ​each​ ​other​ ​in​ ​a​ ​more​ ​positive​ ​light


Shifting​ ​from​ ​sexually​ ​active​ ​to​ ​sexually​ ​sedentary​ ​may​ ​also​ ​damage​ ​your relationships​ ​in​ ​another​ ​way​ ​—​ ​including​ ​the​ ​relationship​ ​with​ ​yourself.​ ​“From a​ ​medical​ ​perspective,​ ​having​ ​less​ ​sex​ ​will​ ​not​ ​affect​ ​neurotransmitters​ ​or medical​ ​diseases,”​ ​said​ ​gynecologist,​ ​Sheila​ ​Loanzon,​ ​M.D.​ ​“However,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​the emotions​ ​and​ ​judgments​ ​that​ ​we​ ​superimpose​ ​on​ ​ourselves​ ​that​ ​can​ ​be detrimental.”​ ​Minimal​ ​sex​ ​or​ ​sex​ ​drive​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​a​ ​smorgasbord​ ​of​ ​emotional challenges,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​self-judgment,​ ​embarrassment​ ​and​ ​anxiety.​ ​“These emotions​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​fester​ ​internally​ ​and​ ​can​ ​extend​ ​to​ ​our​ ​relationships​ ​and​ ​be palpable​ ​to​ ​partners,”​ ​she​ ​adds.


Seldom​ ​getting​ ​busy​ ​may​ ​be​ ​a​ ​recipe​ ​for​ ​fewer​ ​erections.​ ​A​ ​study​ ​published​ ​in the​ ​American​ ​Journal​ ​of​ ​Medicine​ ​in​ ​2008​ ​showed​ ​that​ ​men​ ​who​ ​reported having​ ​sexual​ ​intercourse​ ​once​ ​per​ ​week​ ​were​ ​half​ ​as​ ​likely​ ​to​ ​experience erectile​ ​dysfunction​ ​when​ ​compared​ ​with​ ​men​ ​who​ ​had​ ​less​ ​frequent​ ​sex.​ ​The researchers,​ ​who​ ​studied​ ​more​ ​than​ ​900​ ​male​ ​participants​ ​ages​ ​55​ ​to​ ​75, concluded​ ​that​ ​routine​ ​intercourse​ ​may​ ​protect​ ​against​ ​ED.​ ​While​ ​many​ ​other factors​ ​contribute​ ​to​ ​ED,​ ​says​ ​New​ ​York​ ​City​ ​sex​ ​therapist​ ​Stephen​ ​Snyder, M.D.,​ ​once​ ​it​ ​occurs​ ​it​ ​can​ ​lead​ ​to​ ​additional​ ​problems,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​relationship tenseness...​ ​and​ ​sex​ ​avoidance.​ ​“ED​ ​is​ ​probably​ ​the​ ​number-one​ ​reason​ ​men avoid​ ​partner​ ​sex.”


Regular​ ​vaginal​ ​sexual​ ​activity,​ ​whether​ ​with​ ​a​ ​partner​ ​or​ ​solo,​ ​promotes vaginal​ ​health.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​especially​ ​important​ ​from​ ​midlife​ ​and​ ​beyond,​ ​according to​ ​the​ ​North​ ​American​ ​Menopause​ ​Society,​ ​because​ ​dryness​ ​and​ ​less elasticity​ ​are​ ​a​ ​common​ ​result​ ​of​ ​hormonal​ ​shifts.​ ​Sex​ ​play​ ​stimulates​ ​blood flow​ ​to​ ​your​ ​genitals,​ ​helping​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​vaginal​ ​muscles​ ​toned​ ​and maintaining​ ​their​ ​current​ ​length​ ​and​ ​stretchiness.​ ​Similar​ ​to​ ​managing​ ​erectile dysfunction,​ ​this​ ​tends​ ​to​ ​make​ ​sex​ ​more​ ​appealing​ ​and​ ​enjoyable​ ​as​ ​well.


When​ ​you​ ​are​ ​sexually​ ​active,​ ​whether​ ​female​ ​or​ ​male,​ ​you​ ​probably​ ​notice that​ ​wetness​ ​plays​ ​a​ ​major​ ​role​ ​in​ ​arousal.​ ​Sexual​ ​excitement​ ​stimulates glands​ ​that​ ​produce​ ​wetness​ ​in​ ​the​ ​vagina.​ ​If​ ​a​ ​woman​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​feels​ ​turned on​ ​regularly​ ​or​ ​at​ ​all,​ ​they​ ​may​ ​experience​ ​vaginal​ ​dryness​ ​—​ ​which​ ​can​ ​make any​ ​sex​ ​you​ ​have​ ​painful.​ ​While​ ​there​ ​are​ ​other​ ​causes​ ​of​ ​“down​ ​there”
dryness,​ ​such​ ​as​ ​hormonal​ ​imbalances​ ​associated​ ​with​ ​menopause,​ ​routine masturbation​ ​or​ ​couple​ ​play​ ​may​ ​make​ ​all​ ​the​ ​difference.

8. ​ ​​LOWER​ ​MOODS

It’s​ ​tough​ ​to​ ​say​ ​which​ ​comes​ ​first,​ ​low​ ​sexual​ ​activity​ ​or​ ​low​ ​moods,​ ​but research​ ​shows​ ​a​ ​significant​ ​link​ ​between​ ​the​ ​two,​ ​according​ ​to​ ​a​ ​report published​ ​in​ ​the​ ​Journal​ ​of​ ​Economic​ ​Behavior​ ​and​ ​Organization​ ​in​ ​May​ ​2015. If​ ​you’re​ ​feeling​ ​down​ ​or​ ​depressed,​ ​you​ ​may​ ​be​ ​less​ ​interested​ ​in​ ​sex.​ ​Given the​ ​feel-good​ ​perks​ ​of​ ​sex,​ ​however,​ ​there’s​ ​also​ ​a​ ​fair​ ​chance​ ​that​ ​going​ ​from a​ ​robust​ ​sex​ ​life​ ​to​ ​very​ ​little​ ​sex​ ​could​ ​contribute​ ​to​ ​blah​ ​moods.​ ​Engaging​ ​in foreplay​ ​and​ ​sex​ ​somewhat​ ​regularly​ ​may​ ​be​ ​just​ ​what​ ​the​ ​doctor​ ​ordered.


This​ ​is​ ​another​ ​possible​ ​Catch-22.​ ​While​ ​sex​ ​may​ ​help​ ​minimize​ ​stress​ ​and benefit​ ​heart​ ​health,​ ​stress​ ​and​ ​poor​ ​cardiovascular​ ​health​ ​can​ ​interfere​ ​with arousal​ ​and​ ​sexual​ ​function.​ ​One​ ​study,​ ​published​ ​in​ ​the​ ​American​ ​Journal​ ​of Cardiology​ ​in​ ​2010,​ ​linked​ ​low​ ​sex​ ​frequency​ ​with​ ​an​ ​increased​ ​likelihood​ ​of cardiovascular​ ​disease.​ ​Studies​ ​like​ ​this​ ​one​ ​don’t​ ​necessarily​ ​prove​ ​that​ ​sex prevents​ ​heart​ ​disease,​ ​according​ ​to​ ​the​ ​Cleveland​ ​Clinic,​ ​but​ ​they​ ​do​ ​show that​ ​sex​ ​suits​ ​a​ ​heart-healthy​ ​lifestyle.


Touch,​ ​arousal​ ​and​ ​orgasm​ ​lower​ ​stress​ ​levels​ ​in​ ​the​ ​body​ ​through​ ​pleasure, providing​ ​a​ ​sense​ ​of​ ​comfort​ ​and​ ​release​ ​and​ ​setting​ ​those​ ​feel-good chemicals​ ​in​ ​motion.​ ​All​ ​of​ ​this​ ​is​ ​helpful​ ​for​ ​your​ ​immune​ ​system​ ​because​ ​a less​ ​stressed​ ​body​ ​can​ ​better​ ​fend​ ​off​ ​illnesses.​ ​No​ ​longer​ ​having​ ​sex​ ​may undo​ ​those​ ​benefits​ ​you​ ​were​ ​receiving,​ ​potentially​ ​making​ ​you​ ​more vulnerable​ ​to​ ​colds,​ ​the​ ​flu​ ​and​ ​other​ ​viruses.


While​ ​it​ ​can​ ​have​ ​the​ ​opposite​ ​effect,​ ​having​ ​less​ ​sex​ ​may​ ​lead​ ​you​ ​to​ ​desire less​ ​sex​ ​over​ ​time.​ ​Many​ ​people​ ​and​ ​sex​ ​experts​ ​report​ ​that​ ​“use​ ​it​ ​or​ ​lose​ ​it” applies​ ​to​ ​your​ ​libido.​ ​From​ ​a​ ​physical​ ​standpoint,​ ​if​ ​having​ ​little​ ​to​ ​no​ ​sex​ ​has detrimental​ ​effects​ ​on​ ​your​ ​sexual​ ​health​ ​—​ ​causing​ ​vaginal​ ​dryness​ ​or erectile​ ​dysfunction,​ ​for​ ​example​ ​—​ ​you​ ​and​ ​your​ ​body​ ​may​ ​become​ ​less easily​ ​or​ ​frequently​ ​aroused.​ ​And​ ​the​ ​less​ ​habitual​ ​sex​ ​becomes,​ ​the​ ​more you​ ​may​ ​gradually​ ​grow​ ​accustomed​ ​to​ ​not​ ​having​ ​it​ ​or​ ​begin​ ​seeing​ ​yourself as​ ​less​ ​sexual.​ ​Think​ ​of​ ​it​ ​as​ ​a​ ​snowball​ ​effect.


When​ ​women​ ​are​ ​concerned​ ​about​ ​having​ ​too​ ​little​ ​sex,​ ​they​ ​often​ ​blame themselves​ ​for​ ​doing​ ​something​ ​wrong,​ ​says​ ​gynecologist​ ​Sheila​ ​Loanzon, M.D.​ ​“If​ ​compounded​ ​over​ ​periods​ ​of​ ​time​ ​this​ ​can​ ​impact​ ​self-confidence​ ​and desire​ ​for​ ​intercourse,”​ ​she​ ​says.​ ​In​ ​addition​ ​to​ ​addressing​ ​any​ ​medical​ ​or emotional​ ​cause​ ​of​ ​libido​ ​loss,​ ​prioritizing​ ​pleasure,​ ​getting​ ​to​ ​know​ ​your​ ​own body​ ​through​ ​masturbation​ ​and​ ​giving​ ​yourself​ ​permission​ ​to​ ​enjoy​ ​sex​ ​as​ ​you wish​ ​can​ ​help​ ​restore​ ​lost​ ​confidence.

A Few Eclipse Views From Oregon
Posted:Aug 21, 2017 11:22 am
Last Updated:Jun 12, 2019 3:27 pm
My lives in Oregon..which was in the path of the Solar Eclipse's path of full totality. Here are just a few pics he sent to me during it. He was only using a cell phone.

He wasn't able to get it at it's totality because it was too dark....that picture was taken from a newscast on TV.....lol

The last two pics are shadows that were cast on the ground from the eclipse. Pretty cool looking!!

Here in Philly..we're supposed to get 80% totality at 2:44 pm EDT...but it's rather cloudy right now, and not too sure what we may see.

Next one is in 2024

Oh...The Emails We Get Sometimes...lol
Posted:Aug 9, 2017 10:02 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2017 8:03 pm

Had one of those strange emails earlier that we sometimes get ….

In the grand scheme of things it wasn't the worst I've ever had...just thought I'd share and throw a question out there in the end....lol

Sender was a divorced Asian male and this was the extent of his profile besides the regular stats usually listed.

Introduction- (on his profile)

Unwavering tool box that I have !

The email went like this: (senders name not included for obvious reasons)


You writing a thesis? Just get to the point, lady

8/9/2017 8:10 am


You write your profile the way you like...and I'll write mine the way I want!! You don't get to tell me what to do..or how to do it!!
Thanks and have a great day!

8/9/2017 10:19 am


You're right, sorry

8/9/2017 10:20 am


Thank you......

8/9/2017 10:46 am


Don't need to fuck you unless you beg me if you want ?

8/9/2017 11:17 am


Thanks...not looking to fuck right now! And I don't beg anyone to fuck me...nor do I beg to fuck anyone......strictly voluntary....lol

8/9/2017 11:34 am


Thanks for your opinion. Don't feel like to volunteer to fuck you or any other... coz I got some over flow cushions...lol

8/9/2017 11:38 am


Oooooooooooooooooooooook!! Good luck with that!!.......lol
8/9/2017 11:43 am

The Guy

Thanks babe

8/9/2017 11:58 am

WTF does that mean? What are overflow cushions? Am I missing a new sex toy or what?...lol

Each day is certainly an experience in the weird and sometimes unusual on this site…..lol

To Circumcise or Not? PSA!!
Posted:Aug 8, 2017 8:49 pm
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2017 1:20 pm
I guess this article makes a good case for having baby boys circumcised in this day and age. I have four sons and I and my husband (at the time) made the choice to have them circumcised.

It certainly makes a good case for practicing safe sex…..but that of course should be standard practice circumcised or not.

For me personally (no offense to those not)....I prefer a circumcised penis as opposed to one not.

Uncircumcised Men May Have a 63 Percent Higher Risk of HIV

To circumcise or not to circumcise? According to recent statistics, the number of newborns undergoing the procedure in the U.S. has steadily declined over the past 30 years, with an increasing number of parents opting not to have their baby boys circumcised.

For this reason, it’s more apparent than ever to be aware of this news from the American Society for Microbiology: Certain bacteria found under the foreskin of uncircumcised men could increase their risk of contracting HIV by a staggering 63 percent.

Researchers from George Washington University followed a group of uncircumcised men in Uganda for a period of two years. Bacteria samples were taken from under the foreskins of these men at the beginning of the study and then again after a period of two years
The researchers then compared the penile bacteria of the 46 uncircumcised men who became infected with HIV with that of the 136 uncircumcised men who didn’t.

Scientific News reports that the findings were quite shocking: The total amount of penile bacteria didn’t differ, but men with higher levels of anaerobic bacteria — meaning they thrive in environments with low oxygen, such as under the foreskin of uncircumcised men — were more likely to have contracted HIV.

In fact, having just 10 times more of this anaerobic bacteria present was directly linked to a 54 to 63 percent increased risk of contracting HIV — and researchers think it’s because of the body’s natural inflammatory response.

“Specific bacteria might cause inflammatory response that would cause the immune cells to congregate in the penis, where they’re more likely to be exposed to the virus,” study co-author, Cindy Liu, told Scientific News. “HIV targets particular immune cells, so recruiting an immune response to the penis might have an unintended consequence — a free ferry ride for the virus into the bloodstream.”

Liu also makes the point that this is something that can be avoided: “While practicing safe sex is still the best HIV-prevention strategy, topical creams that adjust the bacterial balance on the penis might someday help lower the risk of infection.”

It’s not only men and that are affected: According to the study, this dangerous bacteria can be spread through intercourse, potentially leading to an increased HIV risk in women.

Thomas Hope, a cell biologist at Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago, believes the removal of the foreskin means the bacteria don’t have the moist, oxygen-starved environment they need to thrive. He also makes the important point that this study shows an association between, rather than a cause-and-effect relationship with, the bacteria and HIV.

So whether you are circumcised or not, the most important thing to remember is to practice good hygiene and safe sex — always.

An Assortment of Vagina and Penis Pics (sorta)
Posted:Aug 7, 2017 1:33 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2017 9:24 am
For some reason I never realized or thought about all the types of things that could be made in the shape of vaginas (or pussy lips etc) or Penises. Not necessarily one of those Earth shattering or important things in life...but certainly funny....lol

Of course we all know about the sex toys in those "shapes" and those are fantastic and fun!!

I'm talking about other things.....some pics to illustrate...lol

Penis ring Pops...penis bubble containers...penis pasta...penis soap...a water gun and my favorite and most delicious (besides the real thing....haha) a doughnut from a place called Vodoo Doughnuts in Portland OR. I had one the last time I was there!

Ahhhh the Vaginas....there are Vagina soaps...vagina taffies....vagina necklaces...and even a vagina whistle....lol

I think our society may have a fixation or just some "dirty" minds.....lol

Yup..Another Man- On AdultFriendFinder....LOL
Posted:Jul 10, 2017 4:33 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2017 9:36 am

Sooooooooooo...once again a guy contacts me with some lame ass email and apparently expects me to jump for joy and be grateful? Excited? Blown away with his way for words?

Guys..in case you didn't know - this is NOT how you get most women to respond in a positive way, or even respond at all. I just happen to occasionally like to clap back if someone is this childish-especially at the age of thirty six...when he really should know better!

Gimme a break!!

I've named him the Man-. Obviously not his profile name, but since I didn't want to violate the TOU's and I didn't want to embarrass his immature behavior personally.

I'm just nice that way.....lol

I honestly don't feel like I have to take this kind of shit. I realize it happens and most times I just delete the email and that's that. BUT sometimes if ya just happen to catch me on one of those days....Ya get the sarcastic me....too bad!!

The Man-

Wanna give me a blow job?
7/10/2017 3:38 pm


Uhhhhhh.....no thanks!
7/10/2017 3:45 pm

The Man-

Why not? I'll return the favor.
7/10/2017 3:47 pm


Why not? I don't even know you...and you think I would just give you a blow job?
7/10/2017 3:49 pm

The Man-

This is a site where people look for sex, just sayn. Don't you like to get your pussy licked and fucked? Well i like to get licked and fucked too.
7/10/2017 3:51 pm


Read my profile and see if you think I'd really consider your request...
It may be a sex site...but that doesn't mean everyone is looking for mindless sex just for the sake of it!
In answer to your question though...of course I do....but not just by anyone!
So my advice to you would be to find someone that wants to take care of that for you....cause it won't be me...just sayin'.....lol
7/10/2017 3:55 pm

The Man-

You should join ourtime.com Thats a dating site for old folks. That’s more your speed.
7/10/2017 4:00 pm

Ahhhhhhh....a typical response from a boy when he's shot down. Attack and insult the woman that he wanted to give him the blow job!!
Good luck finding a woman young or old to pay any attention to you..with an opening email line like that!!
You're clueless.....lol
7/10/2017 4:57 pm

The Man-

You're old

7/10/2017 5:23 pm


Honey....I'm experienced.....lol

Age is but a number! You are thirty six and acting like you're fifteen. YOU contacted ME and wanted to know if I wanted to give you a blow job...I gave you an answer you didn't want to hear and you continue with the BS because I said no!!

Grow up....lol

I'm done with you now......so how about you find a young girl that is on par with you mentally and hope she'll give you that blow job- this woman wouldn't give ya the time of day! I prefer mature men.....

I've wasted enough time with you, but it has been fun.

Btw...look for our little exchange in my blog....it's always good to show how NOT to interact with a woman to those others who may be like you. I'll keep your name out though, since it's against TOU's to include it.

But I'd sooooooooo love to be able to keep it in...just so the ladies know to stay away from another little man- on this site!!
7/10/2017 5:38 pm

The Man-

You're old

7/10/2017 6:21 pm



You said that already!..

The day I start giving a shit what you think about me fucktard....will be a really cold day in hell....lol

Too bad you won't see our little exchange in blogland! I'm done toying with you now....and you will be blocked!!

Thank you though for the laughs you've provided me today....LOL


Ohhhhh.... What A Tangled Web We Weave.....lol
Posted:Jun 26, 2017 2:55 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2017 6:15 pm
So I’ve been watching the " saga" of this guy who created a profile about a week ago. It is clearly a fake profile or one made by a liar. My interest in this profile is because he emailed me wanting to know more about me. He opened himself up to my curiosity…...lol


First it was the profile of a single/divorced man...saying he was new and didn’t know what to say, it “said” he had two photos on it, but none had posted yet. So I figured he was waiting for AdultFriendFinder’s approval of the photos. So when next I saw the profile it had a picture of a man’s cock (who knows if it was his)....and a woman’s boobs. Then it had become a “couples” profile..while still listed as a man’s profile. Those pictures disappeared before too long..as did the profile. Btw…..he’s a Gold profile...

Then when it was brought out again...he had also posted pictures that were clearly screenshots of another couple’s pictures that he lifted from AdultFriendFinder. The couple’s profile name was plain as day in the screenshots. I even commented on those screenshots…I asked him if he “lifted” them and mentioned you could see the couple’s profile name in them, he then hid the profile again and then he took all the photos down...when it came back out, yet another time. He then put a single black and white photo of himself (perhaps that’s someone else’s too) and now there is no photos AGAIN. But so far the profile is still out there.

He claims to be looking for a new woman….in his “tag line” (what happened to the wife)?

His introduction says he is divorced and looking for the right one this time now.

But yet his ideal person says: Easy going couple my wife's into females but really likes men to. (he misspelled-not me….lol)

So…..which is it buddy? Are you divorced and looking for a new woman OR are you and the wife looking for hookups?

Those statements contradict each other...apparently he’s not smart enough to figure that out.

There is another thing strange about the profile and screams fake or liar.

The town he has listed as his, does not exist in NJ (which is listed on the profile)….but it does in Pa.

Too bad the fakes and liars keeps growing on here! Beware of this profile ladies….if you happen to come across what I’ve described. I’d wager it isn’t REAL or it's that of a man you may not wanna mess with!!

He even has seven clueless friends…….lol

Update..(7/7/17) - he now has nine clueless friends and changed the profile yet again...also added two pics to his profile- but faked those before...so who knows if the ones he has now are real or stolen from yet another profile!

The pic is the way the "hometown" changed over from a legit one to one that doesn't exist.

Guess the moral is...pay attention. You can spot the fakes or morons....

Update 8/14/17- This profile finally got with the program and figured out Huntingdon Valley is in Pa and not New Jersey!....lol

Still keeps playing with his pics- takes it down..puts it up...takes it down..puts it up! I'm not sure how his "friends" have increased and no one has figured this out yet?

Is He A Player??
Posted:Jun 8, 2017 3:11 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2017 6:17 pm

So this post is more for the ladies, but if any gentlemen want to chime in with some thoughts….feel free!

I really do LOVE men...but I absolutely can’t stand liars and men that just wanna play games with a woman’s head or heart!!

*********Just To Clarify A Bit********

These signs are more worrisome if one is looking to have a long term, committed relationship...as opposed to casual sex or simple hook ups!


Some men are trustworthy……..Some men are not. (as are women..YES..I get that)

It’s amazing how many women who are highly intelligent, beautiful, kind, smart, witty and bright, get so easily duped by players.

Players know how to say the right things, how to hook you by telling you want they think you want to hear. Generally if you say no to sex they loose interest pretty fast in you. However some will hang around feeding you all the right lines, then if you cave in they sometimes will rapidly lose interest as they are addicted to the chase not you. You are the lucky ones then!!

Some Signs He Could Be A Player

Out of Sight-Out of Mind

If a guy's really into you, he makes concrete plans and follows up. A player is only interested when you're physically in front of him! If he fucks you and forgets you until he wants you again,he most likely has another woman on the hook!

You Haven't Met His Friends or Family

MAJOR warning sign: If he has lots of other women he's hanging out with, he's not going to introduce you to his group of friends or certainly not his family! That opens up the chances that someone could spill the beans, that you're not the only one in his life. And that would seriously mess with his game!

IF He Does Introduce You - He Won't Drop The G-Word.

When you’re out with your man, does he introduce you as his girlfriend? Have you noticed he either introduces you as his “friend” or simply by your first name?If he’s not calling you his girlfriend, you’re not his girlfriend. He doesn’t want people around him to get the wrong idea and think he’s off the market. If he’s avoiding the discussion, he’s never going to make moves.
He’s just going to keep stringing you along for the ride. He’s not interested in being tied down by a label.

He’s Cheated Before

Once a cheater, always a cheater. If you have recently started dating a guy, and you know his last relationship ended because he cheated, the probability of him cheating again is pretty high.
If you happen to be the “other woman,”you know, the woman he cheated on his last partner with, the probability of him cheating on you is even higher. Seriously, what’s to stop him from cheating on you, when he cheated on his last partner with you?

He Guilts You About Unannounced Calls

If you just call out of the blue and he's mad about it, that could be a tell. He could be with another woman and doesn't know how to explain your call to her. (now granted, he could be with mom or something else going on).

He's Constantly Texting When You're Together

Players are usually very good at making you think you have their full attention. But if he seems distracted by his phone. that could be a sign he has a woman or women on the side!

He Takes Calls In Another Room

If it's one time, or he says "Hey sorry, I have to take this, it's not a biggie. But the guy who is always leaving the room for calls or checking his phone and ignoring calls...that's a big sign.

He Never Takes You On Dates

His idea of a date is watching a movie on Netflix and having sex, either at his place or yours. He has never asked you to go out to a real restaurant, and if you suggest it, he just blows you off or offers a lame line like, “but I just like to be home with you.”He likely doesn't want you to get too attached to him because he isn't attached to you.
He wants to keep things casual because he feels casual about the relationship.
He's not about to spend his paycheck on you because he thinks you'll come around regardless of whether he puts in the effort or not.

It’s Maybe All The Time

If you’re talking to guy and he always replies with things like “I’ll see,”or “Hmm, maybe”....... after you’ve asked him if he wants to hang out later, or tomorrow, or even next week, then you are dealing with a player. That’s because he’s probably not sure if he’ll be out on any dates with other women during those times, so he’s keeping you hanging until he gets bored or figures out if he can make “better” plans

He Is Often Full Of Excuses (not just occasional)

One of the classic signs he is a player is a guy who is often full of excuses. He can act so smoothly and convincingly that you cannot notice that he is just lying to you. He had to work late and couldn’t call. He has a work deadline and can’t get together. He’s just beat and needs to relax alone. If he has , they will sometimes be his excuse. He seems sweet and apologetic whenever he gives you excuse, perhaps, he is covering up the truth that he is lying to you.

He Avoids Making Things Clear

Oftentimes, a player might not walk right up to you and say that he is a player so you need to stay away from me. He will be coyer about it so he could hold you on a string together with the rest of the other girls he is also playing with. Hence, once he does not make things clear about the relationship between he and you, then you could take it as a signal of a player. It means that he does not want anything serious yet still wants you to be around him. Also, it means that he does not respect you and does not value you. It does not matter whether he wants just a simple friendship or further, but he still needs to let you know what your relationship to him is. In case he does not, it is safe to conclude that he is playing the field with you.

It’s All About Being Physical

If you’re with a guy who would rather be in bed with you than talk to you, you’re not with the right guy and he’s playing you. Physical intimacy is important in every relationship but it shouldn’t DEFINE the relationship. If the guy you’re seeing just always rushes to intimacy and doesn’t even ask you how you’re feeling, if by chance you say no to him, he throws a huge fit about it and starts blaming you for everything.

Some other possible signs

He has women all over his social media page.

He always arrives late and never has a valid reason.

He talks a good talk but doesn’t walk the talk.

He doesn’t seem that interested in understanding your moods, feelings or thoughts
He is non committal about planning ahead.

He pushes for sex on the first date.

He is self obsessed and doesn’t ask about your life, needs or wants.

Often players text you obsessively and then they withdraw and you don’t hear from them for days. They also feel they have the right to call you or text at the last minute to meet up.

Obviously these are just possible “tells”.....Often women know when there's something to worry about, but we tend to just focus on the positive stuff about the guy. Go with your gut.

IF he feels shady, he probably is shady!
Whew...It's Just Me....being ME - (informational and long)
Posted:Jun 7, 2017 10:29 am
Last Updated:Jun 19, 2017 8:15 am

I’ve wondered why I seem to cry over the simplest of things, reading a sentimental birthday card in Walmart (and trying to wipe away those silly tears before anyone sees me), those commercials for stray or mistreated animals on TV etc. I’ve often gotten angry with myself for being indecisive or “wishy-washy” at times, and getting somewhat “put out” if I am criticized.

I’ve always wondered WHY I just seem to FEEL too much!

This is my answer...each one of the 16 “habits” rings true for ME! This is a personality trait..not a defect, although I use to feel that way. That something was “wrong” with me. Always good to know that you’re mostly normal…..or at least like 20% of other people…..lol

I do plan on hopefully reading the books mentioned in the article below...just so I can understand myself even better.

16 Habits Of Highly Sensitive People

Do you feel like you reflect on things more than everyone else? Do you find yourself worrying about how other people feel? Do you prefer quieter, less chaotic environments?

If the above sound true to you, you may be highly sensitive. This personality trait — which was first researched by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D., in the early 1990s — is relatively common, with as many as one in five people possessing it. Aron, who has written multiple studies and books on high sensitivity, including ​The Highly Sensitive Person​, also developed a self-test to help you determine if you are highly sensitive. While ​recent interest in introversion​ — driven largely by high-profile publications on the subject, including Susan Cain’s ​book “Quiet,”​ — has brought more awareness to personality traits that value less stimulation and higher sensitivity, Aron notes that highly sensitive people still tend to be considered the “minority.”

But “minority” doesn’t mean bad — in fact, being highly sensitive carries a multitude of positive characteristics. Read on for some of the commonalities shared by highly sensitive people.

1. They feel more deeply.

One of the hallmark characteristics of highly sensitive people is the ability to feel more deeply than their less-sensitive peers. “They like to process things on a deep level,” Ted Zeff, Ph.D., author of ​The Highly Sensitive Person’s Survival Guide​ and other books on highly sensitive people. “They’re very intuitive, and go very deep inside to try to figure things out.”

2. They’re more emotionally reactive.

People who are highly sensitive will react ​more in a situation. For instance, they will have more empathy and feel more concern for a friend’s problems, according to Aron. They may also have more concern about how another person may be reacting in the face of a negative event.

3. They’re probably used to hearing, “Don’t take things so personally” and “Why are you so sensitive?”

Depending on the culture, sensitivity can be perceived as an asset or a negative trait, Zeff explains. In some of his own research, Zeff says that highly sensitive men he interviewed from other countries — such as Thailand and India — were rarely or never teased, while highly sensitive men he interviewed from North America were frequently or always teased. “So a lot of it is very cultural — the same person who is told, ‘Oh, you’re too sensitive,’ in certain cultures, it’s considered an asset,” he says
4. They prefer to exercise solo.

Highly sensitive people may tend to avoid team sports, where there’s a sense that everyone is watching their every move, Zeff says. In his research, the majority of highly sensitive people he interviewed preferred individual sports, like bicycling, running and hiking, to group sports. However, this is not a blanket rule — there are some highly sensitive people who may have had parents who provided an understanding and supportive environment that would make it easier for them to participate in group sports, Zeff says.

5. It takes longer for them to make decisions.

Highly sensitive people are more aware of subtleties and details that could make decisions harder to make, Aron says. Even if there is no “right” or “wrong” decision — for example, it’s impossible to choose a “wrong” flavor of ice cream — highly sensitive people will still tend to take longer to choose because they are weighing every possible outcome. Aron’s advice for dealing with this: “Take as long to decide as the situation permits, and ask for more time if you need it and can take it,” she writes in a recent issue of her Comfort Zone newsletter​. “During this time, try pretending for a minute, hour, day, or even week that you have made up your mind a certain way. How does that feel? Often, on the other side of a decision things look different, and this gives you a chance to imagine more vividly that you are already there.” One exception: Once a highly sensitive person has come to the conclusion of what is the right decision to make and what is the wrong decision to make in a certain situation, he or she will be quick to make that “right” decision again in the future.

6. And on that note, they are more upset if they make a “bad” or “wrong” decision.

You know that uncomfortable feeling you get after you realize you’ve made a bad decision? For highly sensitive people, “that emotion is amplified because the emotional reactivity is higher,” Aron explains.

7. They’re extremely detail-oriented.

Highly sensitive people are the first ones to ​notice the details in a room,​ the new shoes that you’re wearing, or a change in weather.

8. Not all highly sensitive people are introverts.

In fact, about 30 percent of highly sensitive people are extroverts, according to Aron. She explains that many times, highly sensitive people who are also extroverts grew up in a close-knit community — whether it be a cul-de-sac, small town, or with a parent who worked as a minister or rabbi — and thus would interact with a lot of people.

9. They work well in team environments.

Because highly sensitive people are such deep thinkers, they make valuable workers and members of teams, Aron says. However, they may be well-suited for positions in teams where they don’t have to make the final decision. For instance, if a highly sensitive person was part of a medical team, he or she would be valuable in analyzing the pros and cons of a patient having surgery, while someone else would ultimately make the decision about whether that patient would receive the surgery.

10. They’re more prone to anxiety or depression

(but only if they’ve had a lot of past negative experiences). “If you’ve had a fair number of bad experiences, especially early in life, so you don’t feel safe in the world or you don’t feel secure at home or ... at school, your nervous system is set to ‘anxious,’” Aron says. But that’s not to
say that all highly sensitive people will go on to have anxiety — and in fact, having a supportive environment can go a long way to protecting against this. Parents of highly sensitive , in particular, need to “realize these are really great , but they need to be handled in the right way,” Aron says. “You can’t over-protect them, but you can’t under-protect them, either. You have to titrate that just right when they’re young so they can feel confident and they can do fine.”

11. That annoying sound is probably significantly ​more ​ annoying to a highly sensitive person.

While it’s hard to say ​anyone is a fan of annoying noises, highly sensitive people are on a whole more, sensitive to chaos and noise. That’s because they tend to be more easily overwhelmed and overstimulated by too much activity, Aron says.

12. Violent movies are the worst.

Because highly sensitive people are so high in empathy and more easily overstimulated, movies with violence or horror themes may not be their cup of tea, Aron says.

13. They cry more easily.

That’s why it’s important for highly sensitive people to put themselves in situations where they won’t be made to feel embarrassed or “wrong” for crying easily, Zeff says. If their friends and family realize that that’s just how they are — that they cry easily — and support that form of expression, then “crying easily” will not be seen as something shameful.

14. They have above-average manners.

Highly sensitive people are also highly conscientious people, Aron says. Because of this, they’re more likely to be considerate and exhibit good manners — and are also more likely to notice when someone else ​isn’t ​ being conscientious. For instance, highly sensitive people may be more aware of where their cart is at the grocery store — not because they’re afraid someone will steal something out of it, but because they don’t want to be rude and have their cart blocking another person’s way.

15. The effects of criticism are especially amplified in highly sensitive people.

Highly sensitive people have ​reactions to criticism​ that are more intense than less sensitive people. As a result, they may employ certain tactics to ​avoid ​ said criticism, including people-pleasing (so that there is no longer anything to criticize), criticizing themselves first, and avoiding the source of the criticism altogether, according to Aron. “People can say something negative, [and] a non-HSP [highly sensitive person] can say, ‘Whatever,’ and it doesn’t affect them,” Zeff says. “But a HSP would feel it much more deeply.”

16. Cubicles = ​good ​ . Open-office plans = bad.

Just like highly sensitive people tend to prefer solo workouts, they may also prefer solo work environments. Zeff says that many highly sensitive people enjoy working from home or being self-employed because they can control the stimuli in their work environments. For those without the luxury of creating their own flexible work schedules (and environments), Zeff notes that highly sensitive people might enjoy working in a cubicle — where they have more privacy and less noise — than in an open-office plan.

Article is from The Huffington Post:
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