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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1886 posts
4/24/2017 5:08 pm
Holy SHIT! Take The Time BEFORE You Contact!

I try very hard to be a patient and kind person, and honestly it is something that nine times out of ten just comes to me naturally! It is just in my nature.

But I can get pretty frustrated at times when I am contacted by younger guys or people asking to meet!

I make it very plain on my profile why I am here at the moment. And I will be wording it a little different after this post, to include and hopefully be visible...that I am NOT interested in younger guys!

I took the time to put together an honest profile. I am assuming that they are just looking at a profile pic! I'm glad you may like it...but come on!

Now I can understand IF someone is not an upgraded member and can't read my entire profile...BUT even when you hover over one...you can see the first part of it.........so what is the problem here??

Stopping by to say "hi" is one thing....but asking to meet or asking if I'm into younger guys...is not okay....it says right in my profile that I'm not doing either of those things!



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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 5:10 pm

If ya just wanna say "Hi"...great! Otherwise READ the profile FIRST!! Please!

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 5:16 pm

    Quoting  :

Well.....I AM hopeful in the assumption anyway...lol

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TB5758 62M/63F  
540 posts
4/24/2017 5:23 pm

I agree 100 percent. Happens all the time though.


umaykissmesoftly 63F
291 posts
4/24/2017 5:26 pm

I totally understand what you're saying. I have a few things in my profile as well regarding what I am NOT looking for. I even changed the font color and moved it further up on my profile page. Don't you know, half the e-mails I get are from just those people. And as I'm getting an e-mail, it's definitely from a paying member. Either they just skipped over the majority of my profile or didn't bother to read it at all. Oh well, easy enough to just delete the thing.


GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 5:33 pm

    Quoting TB5758:
    I agree 100 percent. Happens all the time though.
Thanks....and I agree, it happens all the time! But it shouldn't really, if one just takes a little time or looks at more than a pic!

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pocogato12 68F  
34284 posts
4/24/2017 5:42 pm

I have decided that if they cannot read the conversations will be as empty as their heads so I just delete and block

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angeldemoted 41F  
54 posts
4/24/2017 5:42 pm

I'm convinced most of them don't read profiles. I don't have any time to play at the moment. My profile says as much. Still day in day out... wanna meet up? free tonight? etc etc


GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 5:54 pm

    Quoting umaykissmesoftly:
    I totally understand what you're saying. I have a few things in my profile as well regarding what I am NOT looking for. I even changed the font color and moved it further up on my profile page. Don't you know, half the e-mails I get are from just those people. And as I'm getting an e-mail, it's definitely from a paying member. Either they just skipped over the majority of my profile or didn't bother to read it at all. Oh well, easy enough to just delete the thing.
That's what is so frustrating to me..that most times it IS from a paying member...as opposed to a free member! At least THAT I can understand!

I agree I can just delete....and usually do!

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 6:02 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    You can put anything you want on your profile, but you can't really get angry if some take that chance of contacting you anyway.

    Life is about taking chances.
That is very true....and I do put what I want and don't want on my profile. I suppose my mistake is in hoping that someone will respect that.

I generally don't get too angry, as opposed to more frustrated.

They can contact if they want...I can't stop them...but they will just get deleted! Now they know....

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 6:04 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    I have decided that if they cannot read the conversations will be as empty as their heads so I just delete and block
Sounds reasonable and I usually will delete...but so far haven't blocked. Although there are a few that keep sending the same email and it may be what I need to do next.

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 6:07 pm

    Quoting angeldemoted:
    I'm convinced most of them don't read profiles. I don't have any time to play at the moment. My profile says as much. Still day in day out... wanna meet up? free tonight? etc etc
Yup....it just gets frustrating at times...delete and block I guess is what I'll just have to do......

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mc_justmc 60M  
6500 posts
4/24/2017 6:09 pm

wait, we can contact others??? Oh, it's gonna be a late night..


Brownie202 63F
1879 posts
4/24/2017 6:18 pm

No matter how clear a profile is there will be some that write who did read it but chose to ignore. They THINK they are special so you will make a exception for them. I have no younger but most that wrote was younger. Have not meeting at this time. Still get mail asking to chat. Had kink only but most don't know what it is. Had must be experienced but most wanted me to teach them. Very few was the right age, experienced etc. Then of course there is the ones who think that because this is a sex site we are suppose to f anybody who shows interest. They don't get there is a profile we have to fill out the

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temptationplus58 62F

4/24/2017 6:21 pm

I get stuff like that all the time.. like people who think I am a potential playmate.. I state that I am not one very clearly in my profile. Children have playmates. I am not looking to service all the visitors to my city nor am I interested in someone who is young enough to be my son.


GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 6:50 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    wait, we can contact others??? Oh, it's gonna be a late night..
LOL.........

okay.....I get that not all free members can contact other members. I think perhaps they may use points to do it, which makes it all the worse for them to bother contacting me and getting deleted.....or blocked depending on how bad their email is....lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 6:56 pm

    Quoting  :

Well....welcome to the madness...lol

I agree..IF I was looking to meet at the moment I would want to take the time to get to know them and that would initially be through emails...IM's etc.

But when one states that they are not looking for that at the present time...it should (in my opinion) be respected for the honesty that it is. They can always hot list me if they'd like...keep an eye and if they notice a change in my profile..then take that time to contact me.

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/24/2017 7:21 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    and I do put what I want and don't want on my profile. .... Maybe just enter what you do want. Remove from your profile , the items you don't want. That might eliminate most of the annoyances who may be just contacting you knowing full well you don't want them.

    I suppose my mistake is in hoping that someone will respect that. ...Nooo. 1. You're practically inviting trouble, and 2. Those who may be serious should always take that chance just in case.

    They can contact if they want...I can't stop them...but they will just get deleted! ... Doesn't matter, at least [those who may have been serious] now know. So no regrets later on for them. They tried.
I appreciate your suggestion:

(Maybe just enter what you do want. Remove from your profile , the items you don't want. That might eliminate most of the annoyances who may be just contacting you knowing full well you don't want them).

BUT...I like my profile just the way it is and shouldn't have to change it for anyone.

.Nooo. 1. You're practically inviting trouble, and 2. Those who may be serious should always take that chance just in case.

1. I'm inviting trouble by expecting people to respect my wishes? Hmmm...guess I'm just a troublemaker then..lol 2. I guess I can agree with this a bit...but they also can't get angry if I don't respond to them...or keep sending the same damn email constantly and expect me to be happy about it.

Doesn't matter, at least [those who may have been serious] now know. So no regrets later on for them. They tried.

Okay...maybe so....and I'm thrilled if they have no regrets later and can tell themselves they tried.

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let_me_see1 61M  
664 posts
4/24/2017 7:51 pm

It can all be summed up with one word....RESPECT!!! People post what they are looking for on their profiles, in their blogs and in some cases, their pics. And those reading it should show the respect that they would want to be shown to them. I look at this as if it were a bar. I would not go up to a stranger in a bar and ask if they want to go to bed. I would attempt to get to know who they are and what they are about. If things click, the other stuff will happen. But respect is where it all begins in my opinion!

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FMAOPLS 67F  
27037 posts
4/24/2017 8:52 pm

I am currently having the best conversations with a guy who can't read my profile, or see my pics. Quality will always win out.

The rest, I delete, once I have wiped my tears and picked myself up off the floor.

The numbs kills just help us separate the wheat from the chaff, without having to actually do any work.

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valdezvicvic 62M
996 posts
4/24/2017 9:02 pm

Hey, I'm an oldster! 59!!! So that is good right? Hey, lots of people do that - don't read or act like they don't - or think that they are an exception - so ....


notsure1949 71M
9840 posts
4/25/2017 5:03 am

some people just like to look at photos, others will take the time to read the profile


GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/25/2017 6:15 pm

    Quoting let_me_see1:
    It can all be summed up with one word....RESPECT!!! People post what they are looking for on their profiles, in their blogs and in some cases, their pics. And those reading it should show the respect that they would want to be shown to them. I look at this as if it were a bar. I would not go up to a stranger in a bar and ask if they want to go to bed. I would attempt to get to know who they are and what they are about. If things click, the other stuff will happen. But respect is where it all begins in my opinion!
I agree...it is about respect! I always try to give it in my dealing with people on this site. When I read profiles and note that I am not really what they might be looking for, then I will just move on to another one to view.

If there is nothing in common that we may connect with, then chances of anything working out are pretty slim.

It is the purpose of our profiles on here- to let others know what we want..what we are looking for-what we don't want and aren't looking for. Otherwise why bother to even write one. Some don't, they just have a blank intro-what a waste...but still their choice.

We're all here for different reasons...and should show respect for them!

Makes for a better site...hopefully...lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
4/25/2017 6:21 pm

    Quoting notsure1949:
    some people just like to look at photos, others will take the time to read the profile
Yes...some just look at pics and that's fine. We all have our reasons, but if one wants to make a real connection they should take the time to read a profile..see if there is any commonalities and proceed if there are. If there are none, then there is not much sense because most likely a connection will not be made.

At least that is my opinion on how it should "work" on here...

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FMAOPLS 67F  
27037 posts
5/12/2017 2:38 am

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They were to cheap to upgrade to gold or too lazy to read profiles and think "Hi" is all that is needed because this site is full of women who are here to do nothing than be available to any cock that comes along.

There are millions of them out there, that think "they are the bait". Goodgawdalmighty, are they in for a surprise. WE ARE THE BAIT.

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GreenEyedLady_60 60F  
1909 posts
5/27/2017 11:32 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    ...it is about respect! .... Cutting in here, for a bit, ...actually this has nothing to do with respect at all, but everything to do with attraction and chemistry. ....If the question of "Respect" is a thought pinging between your ears with some guy, you're with the wrong guy.

    For example, guys who are assholes, get all kinds of tail. You think those women who have sex with him is concerned about being respected?! ....ha...no way!! Why? Because she's hot for him.
I agree it has to do with attraction and chemistry....but for ME...I'd like to cultivate that a bit before I move on to the next level of having sex with someone. If they're not into waiting.....then see ya!! They weren't the one for me. I'm not so desperate for sex that I'm gonna have it with just anyone!

I think maybe you miss a point...that not all people (men or women) are, or feel the same way! I could be immediately, sexually attracted to someone, but guess what? I'm still NOT gonna jump his bones THAT night. I LOVE sex....but it ain't the end all and be all of my existence!

If a man wants to have sex with me...He'll respect my position!

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