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Horny_Holly 39F
910 posts
3/8/2015 7:23 pm
Living your relationship online

Would you do it? Have you done it? Did you regret it?

Would you blog about it when it all goes wrong?

Do you think it's acceptable or tacky to share your sexual encounters with loved ones for friends and strangers alike to read?

Or do you think nothing is sacred anymore?

I wonder...
Hell, no! It's no one's business but ours!
Sure! I don't care who knows!
I just want my side to be heard first!
I just love sharing the nitty gritty of my intimate relationships!
Absolutely not. The odd comment here and there is fine, but no intimate details.

"I'm always disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually catch on fire..."

PaisleyPolly 28F
121 posts
4/29/2015 5:39 am

I wouldn't want to read the dirty details of someone else's sex life and I wouldn't share the details of my own either. I think it's very tacky and worse if both parties don't give permission. Not for me sorry!!

Horny_Holly replies on 4/30/2015 4:20 pm:
Not for me, either

Thanks for commenting

SomewhereNTX 58M
1630 posts
3/28/2015 7:48 am

I don't like to share details and am generally considered a very private person, yet in my blog you will find me discussing some details of the things that led to the dissolution of my marriage. It doesn't matter if it's casual or serious relationship, I'm not going to talk details.

Horny_Holly replies on 3/31/2015 12:06 pm:
It's all in the detail! As a private person myself, I'm all for keeping the details to myself.

Thanks for commenting!

desiringyouforme 40M
133 posts
3/28/2015 7:26 am

Trust is a huge thing in any relationship and when you break up that doesn't give anyone the right to shout their mouth off about how it all went down, or if it's ongoing then keep the intimate details to yourself. Don't people want to keep something just for them? Tacky? Yeah. Acceptable? Not to me. I wouldn't want to read about it, I'd feel as if I were intruding on something that is none of my business, it's personal and should stay that way.

Horny_Holly replies on 3/31/2015 12:04 pm:
It's not a subject matter I'm interested in either. I'm not a voyeur and I have no desire to read about the sex lives of others. Nor am I interested in the fallout afterwards. It can all get so ugly and unnecessary. And, at the end of the day, IMO, it really is no one's business but the people in the relationship.

ppaulsgoodlife69 30M/26F
19 posts
3/14/2015 5:47 pm

Husband: I like to talk about how I have been with beautiful women but I will not go into detail or say who they are. I like discreet and I like the women I was with to be the same.
Wife: I will tell close friends some things but thats about as far as I will go.

Horny_Holly replies on 3/31/2015 11:58 am:
Discretion is key, I agree.

I also agree that it's not for public consumption.

Thanks for commenting!

MrEman6976 43M
1170 posts
3/14/2015 5:06 am

I would not share relationship details on here- events yes but not personal details or breakups and those things. I don't mind reading others' though and this is a site for people to say what they want- I've often read things that have helped mould my perspective.

discreteSteve62 52M
2076 posts
3/11/2015 11:17 pm

I think there's a middle ground that isn't quite covered by the poll answers.

If it's a hook-up, and I'm not naming names, it's pretty much fair game, as long as I'm not a politician or someone else who might get into scandal trouble by sharing. Maybe most others aren't interested, but if they're not interested they can tell what I'm writing quickly enough to stop reading.

If it's a past relationship, and I preserve the former partner's identity (which is a stronger standard of anonymity than just "not naming names"), more discretion is appropriate. If it's something good, it might be taken as a gesture of good-will by the former partner if she ever sees it, or an intrusion on privacy, depending on the former partner's attitudes about sharing. If it's something nasty, it might be taken as sour grapes by some readers (in which case it's a bad idea because it makes the writer look bad), and it might be taken as libel by the former partner (if she sees it and finds it embarrassing).

If it's a current relationship, full anonymity isn't really possible, because anyone who knows the writer knows who the writer's partner is. The partner should consent. For us, it's not too much to say that my wife loves my oral, but it would be intrusive to detail the last occasion, in terms of when it was or just how it went.

Horny_Holly replies on 3/12/2015 6:12 am:
As I'm very clearly talking about relationships - see the title of the poll - then I have no need to cover hook-ups in the poll answers.

Thanks for taking the time to comment.

comingtogetya4me 50M
165 posts
3/11/2015 2:30 pm

There are some people who just love to tell all the salacious details of their lives - or almost all - and those who'll eat it up for all the wrong reasons. It's not for me. Yeah, to each their own and all that, but I really don't have any interest in the private intimate details of anyone else's sex life. Maybe it's for voyeurs. Only in this case; ie blogging; chat room talk etc then it's the words that's getting their rocks off?

Would I convey a passing comment or two about casual sex or casual dating experiences? Maybe. But not about any serious relationship, that's a big no-no.

matt-battler 46M
199 posts
3/9/2015 11:42 am

I remember reading a magazine piece on here a few years ago where a woman from the Southern US wrote in detailing how her man had lost function in bed. He claimed it was because he was getting tired and stressed because of his job, she went onto say 'I don't believe him, I think he might be cheating on me - what do you think?'. My thought was 'and what are you doing on here, other than to cheat on him? You couldn't take the piss more if you tried!!!'

It's hard to write about an intimate long term relationship and either not say stuff that's inappropriate or not come across as an arsehole.

Yes I've written about dates on my blogs, but it's nearly always about women who never got a 2nd date so they drifted in and out of my life pretty quickly (and are no longer here so can't be identified by the nosy). I wouldn't write about a long term partner though - that is a genuinely important part of your private life and it should stay private . . .

Horny_Holly replies on 3/12/2015 5:58 pm:
Hahaha, yeah, why ask strangers versus addressing the problem with the person you're involved with? So silly

There are nosy people on this site Say it ain't so

I completely agree. It should stay private

bisarahsmiles 30F
282 posts
3/9/2015 9:57 am

Tacky tacky tacky!!

I've read some very one-sided accounts of break-ups and what goes along with that on online communities. Sure you might want the opinion or need the shoulder of a friend for support, fine, but it's something that should be done in private, not publicly. I've also seen the fallout when it happens, people taking sides, making comments about a situation they've only ever read about and not been involved in personally,that's just very wrong IMO.

After all, we never truly know what goes on behind closed doors no matter what's being written. So to me it's just another way of seeking attention.

Horny_Holly replies on 3/12/2015 5:56 pm:
Yeah, that's one of the many problems, I think. When people are commenting on something they really don't know much about. They might think they do, but they don't. I've seen the whole taking sides nonsense, it's so childish and it's obvious why some people take sides. IE; they like the person doing all the talking so they're kissing their ass, etc.

FullOn4U 54M  
20444 posts
3/9/2015 3:26 am

I tend towards the British stereotype of reserve and good manners - it's tacky to just put it all out there for everyone to see.

I understand that some people want to prove they are "real" with action shots, videos and testimonials showing "where they've been" on their profiles, but again it's a bit too much information for me.

I mention the occasional fuckfest on my blog (no real details though) but I found out a long time ago that the one thing that women can't stand is the thought that a man might be enjoying himself

On the other hand, tales of sexual disaster - preferably with injuries to pride if not body - go down very well with a female audience!

Horny_Holly replies on 3/12/2015 7:44 am:
"I found out a long time ago that the one thing that women can't stand is the thought that a man might be enjoying himself." Hahaha, that is too funny, and so true of many women

Hmmm, interesting That would only go down well with me if it was about someone I didn't like, haha.

I completely agree with the rest. Tacky; attention seeking; and way too much information for me, too

burblesback07 39M
532 posts
3/8/2015 9:34 pm

Id write about an extraordinary encounter as a tribute if she didnt mind
Ive written about an encounter once, but it was a bad one, I wasnt mean or even hint at her identity, she was nothing like her profile and lied about most things which I thought funny enough to write about ?

With consent from the other person to name them and go into details, I cant see the harm ?

Without naming or hinting to the other persons identity, I reckon its also ok to talk about your encounters

I definitely wouldnt call anyone practicing this tacky and if no one's the wiser and youre not hurting anyone then Id say its perfectly acceptable ?

To each their own

Horny_Holly replies on 3/12/2015 5:38 pm:
Encounters aren't relationships, though. People talking about one night stands aren't likely to be hurting anyone or be any the wiser, as you put it. Unless of course the person is from the site they're on, etc, and they didn't sign up for kiss and tell stories.

To each their own, indeed. But it seems it's not for many.

Thanks for commenting!

kzoopair 69M/67F
25849 posts
3/8/2015 9:13 pm

Up to a point....I don't mind sharing. That's why so many people blog- to get it out there. Some stuff you can't just bring up when having vicar over for tea of an afternoon, you know? But it's kind of hard to nail down...how much is too much. I'm just winging it here. But I think that's what a lot of bloggers do...just wing it. Some items seem to intimate, too personal, too recent, too painful. One of the draws of this site is openness about sex, but I have a wife whose privacy I need to consider too.

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Horny_Holly replies on 3/12/2015 6:29 am:
"Up to a point..." being the operative words I definitely think there should "be a point" where there's no need to share just quite so much about yourself and your relationship. As you say, you respect your wife's privacy. Sadly, some don't care enough to do that.

I get that for some it is probably cathartic for some people to get it all out there. I think another poster mentioned that. But I'd rather keep the good, the bad and the ugly to myself and to those who are close to me. No need for strangers to know every little detail.

Thanks for commenting!

BrockmanBites 33M
89 posts
3/8/2015 8:09 pm

If it's just a bit of sexual fun and you want to give a few details - with permission of course - I guess that's okay. I certainly wouldn't conduct my relationship online whereby people know my day-to-day business on a blog or any online community. That's just weird to me.

I prefer to keep it real. Keep things between my lover and I.

Some things are definitely sacred, to me anyway.

Horny_Holly replies on 3/8/2015 8:29 pm:
Yeah, I'm a very private person and my day-to-day life isn't something I'd put online for all to see.

I guess it's a "to each their own" kind of thing. Some people just don't have any, or at least very little boundaries when it comes to revealing personal details about themselves.

__Pauline__ 35F
42 posts
3/8/2015 7:53 pm

I wouldn't. I see people do it though and it makes me cringe.

If it was a casual relationship maybe, but not if it's a serious one. Some things definitely should be kept between couples, or one might start to wonder how far you'd go with discussing private and personal details.

Horny_Holly replies on 3/8/2015 8:39 pm:
Yeah, that's how I feel, too.

Someone a while back blogged about me a few times and it really made me cringe, ugh. I am not a fan of conducting my relationship in public at all. But that's just me.

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