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Horny and happy
Posted:Oct 1, 2019 6:50 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 2:35 am

Feeling great these days. Healthy diet, exercise, enough rest, enjoyable activities. And I love sex, mostly solo for now because I can't host and not really free be, uh, er, "". But "dishes" are super clean and inviting. Horny enough for a brass band: trombone, French horn, trumpet. Woohoo. Age is by no means all "dust and injury" but there's get up and go too. Um and go o . ...\8
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That special touch
Posted:Sep 16, 2019 8:01 am
Last Updated:Nov 20, 2019 6:57 am

Ever notice how special a sincere touch can be? Same with a smile and a pleasant word. I love naked pleasures, sharing, mutual affection. Amazing how good it feels to enjoy and be enjoyed another person. Takes time to get beyond the shyness of getting acquainted, feeling safe and non anxious. But oh those touches mutually invited and delightfully satisfied are priceless. Enjoy yourselves. I'm here for enjoyment too!
Passion and Compassion
Posted:Aug 24, 2019 7:15 am
Last Updated:Oct 2, 2019 3:17 am

To me passion, like desire, is an appetite. Compassion, though, is feeling another person's or other people's feelings, including how they're handling what's going on in their life. Because there's nothing wrong with my appetites I stay curious about to uh, well, what to eat or sample or whatever the appetite is. But I just can't be okay with what's happening in me. Satisfaction is impossible without "the other" being okay and in a similar place.

With desire for touch, for sex, for intimacy I have to feel a mutuality: it's more than "consent" even if it is at least consent. Mutuality that I think about is more like Yeah, let's get acquainted, check each other out. If there's chem, compatibility, well, that's great. If not, that's okay too. We at least took a step. Our situations just didn't match. But maybe they could or would another time, or maybe we move on with good will just the same.

At this time of my life, I'm a bit fragile emotionally and physically but I'm still passionate and curious and because of who I am, still very compassionate. Makes me happy when others feel the same way. How about you? I am so curious!
Mutual pleasuring
Posted:Jul 16, 2019 6:33 am
Last Updated:Jul 16, 2019 3:07 pm

Feeling horny but worried about what someone else might want or expect? Not to mention being anxious about mixing microbes? Here's an idea. Getting acquainted over cyber space is so different from face-to-face acquaintance. Our photos are static. Our bodies are not.

Soooo, we might well wonder "IS REALLY YOU? You don't look like your photo!" So it goes, eh? But, here's an idea. IF after usual back and forth corresponding or texting, you want to get together for more than coffee, but maybe not for full sex, then how about mutual masturbation.

Just seems like a safe, sane way to get happy in a NSA way. More can be negotiated. Enough can be enough. Even less can be more What do you think?
We are not a spirit with a body, but a body with a spirit ;)
Posted:Jun 1, 2019 6:31 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2019 12:47 am

Yup aging is not only a state of mind (spirit) but a physical reality. Butts are real. Ifs not so much. Well maybe. ANDs still matter when the equipment works just fine, even though somewhat "refined" (or is it "redefined" ). If you want to meet let me know. Maybe we will meat. But anyway let's chat. Wish I could host or that you could. So many things matter so much more than age. After a very serious life, I'm exploring desires, pleasures but really just into sane, safe, consensual relationships. I'd rather be happy than sappy, wouldn't you?
More than "performance"
Posted:May 8, 2019 12:07 pm
Last Updated:May 9, 2019 8:30 am

When the Beatles sang "What would you do if I sang out of tune, Would you stand up and walk out on me?", they expressed an anxiety about performing. That's always impressed me--they were courageous to be honest about their own performance anxiety. Me too. What about you?

But their answer rings true to me: "I'll get by with a little help from my friends." YES! YES! YES! We can do that with each other and for each other. Finding friends as adults isn't about performing like a star, a model, a "performer" as much as it is about enjoying our natural humanimality. Mutually, respectfully, passionately. At least that's what it is for me. Yes is Yes. No is No and hold any insistent expectations. Here's to greater happiness all around. We can be bi with a little help from our friends Smile:it be cums us
Posted:Jan 22, 2019 4:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 20, 2019 4:24 am

Hey there adult friends. I'm looking for women and men who like to correspond about their feelings, sexperiences, sexplorations, desires and how you cope with a repressive society and internal passion. Love younger people for their curiosity and view on life. What matters? Friends! Sex is just part of how I'm put together, but an important part. How about for you? I love to please and have a hot imagination.
Posted:Dec 31, 2018 3:39 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 2:35 am

I feel great. Really. Would you like some mutual feelings? I feel you. You feel me. Or we watch each other feel ourselves until we feel comfortable enough to touch each other? ! Just seems so natural and pleasurable and renewable It doesn't have to lead anywhere but it might. Open to possibilities. Enjoy sexplorations, don't you?
The hardon between the ears
Posted:Nov 5, 2018 3:43 am
Last Updated:Jun 21, 2019 1:11 am

What's a lonely old guy in good shape for the shape he's in do with the adjustable hardon between his legs? Many complain about fakes and phonies on AdultFriendFinder. Not me. We may all be here because we value sex in all the different ways we value it, but actually finding matches that really light our fires is like ... like what? Finding a hardon in a haystack. While some of us may want that one and only (with exclusive access and a whole, healthy person to go with the pleasures of intimacy), seems to me most of us are looking for relief from loneliness and/or variation from the sameness to which we have become accustomed and want something more. Let's face it, some of us are just hot and horny a whole lot and it messes with our lives in many ways.

I have lots of views, flirts, hotlists, even correspondence andI love it all. What's going on in anyone else's life is beyond my control. If something nice happens between me and a woman and/or a man, that's great. It's mutual and without insistent expectations and may or may not happen again. So it goes. It's natural and feels necessary within certain consensual limits. I am at the center of no one else's life but my own. I don't want a or a pussy for a pet but rather a humanimal who is thoughtful, kind, affectionate and passionate. That allows for a wide range of behaviors and individualities. So be it. That's life.

If your eyes have swept through this much text, you're my kind of woman and/or man. The rest is getting behind what's up front. Maybe you're a care-giver or burdened by a physical condition--well that's me too. What we have to give one another that is sane, safe and consensual matters more than what we hold back. I love pets. Mmmmmm
Feeling Wholesome, Whole
Posted:Aug 22, 2018 8:33 am
Last Updated:Jan 24, 2019 2:26 pm

Feeling a tug to take a break from AdultFriendFinder. In "All That Jazz" the main character choreographs an erotic dance--very hot--after which he concludes "We promise so much and deliver nothing." That was before social media and places like AdultFriendFinder.

I love corresponding with W and M, remain hot and horny even more than ever, but I miss the whole experience. My wife and I love each other deeply but sex is out and going to explore "senior living facility". My awkward gait and unsteady balance make using a cane easy. Caregiving is exhausting and I've neglected my own care. We've grown apart together and now I need an environment of greater interaction. She doesn't seek the same and is not ready to come with me.

I seek safe, sane, consensual sexploration. It's integral to my whole being. We've talked out our differences thoroughly. Being wholesome is not about shutting down who we really are, nor making one aspect of who we are the whole of our being. I simply love giving pleasure fully as much as receiving it. More and more I am attracted to the philosophy of Epicurus and the relatively new Society of Friends of Epicurus. It's about being whole as individuals with friends and family and living pleasantly with what it takes to have enough, to be satisfied with sufficiency and let go of insatiability and all that is perturbing.

letting go of patterns, prejudices, pre-conceptions and engaging my whole being as musician, philosopher, "masseur", pleasurer. What keeps me on AdultFriendFinder is the passion, the searching, and the deep longing for wholeness. If you've read this far, you're a friend. Thanks
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Sexual Self Efficacy (Effectiveness)
Posted:Jul 3, 2018 7:09 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 2:35 am

I came across the distinction between sexual self confidence--all about feeling good about yourself; and sexual self efficacy--feeling good about yourself in relationship to your partner/s feeling good about you and themselves. This came from attending a conference of the Society for Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) a few years ago. Feeling good about myself is important of course but it's really a part of feeling good back and forth with partner/s. I like that distinction.

Part of self efficacy (being effective sexually speaking) is learning how to hear what a partner is saying, lowering personal anxiety to allow for considering the other person's desires and concerns. Since I'm not a "player" nor very active sexually these days (though my hand is handy for those hard times lol), I enjoy seeing what Dr. Lindsey Doe has to say about all kinds of sexual matters in her regular You Tube vids called "Sexplanations". She is so sex positive and sees possibilities for pleasure through honest communication, constant curiosity and the desire to enjoy one of life's greatest pleasures.

I'm also reading Tolstoy's 1889 little novel "The Kreutzer Sonata". Wow. He packs a lot of contemporary issues of sexual desire, activity, challenges with the Victorian moralism of his time (even though he's Russian). Amazingly candid about sexual desire he opens up a way to get into the moral confusions and traditions and transitions from his time to ours. Good for having conversations about all kinds of sexual hangups and hang-in-there's.

We're complex people but we're also inclined to want to comfort, please, and enjoy one another. At least that's what I believe and have experienced. The effort that takes is well worth communicating rather than hiding or pretending or hurting. I love corresponding when I can't get out and play. Really into safe, sane, consensual sex. It's so effective
Restless, lonely, hopeful
Posted:May 14, 2018 4:17 am
Last Updated:Aug 24, 2018 2:11 am

A youtube video by a young Norwegian woman on loneliness got me thinking about the prevalence and harm it causes among so many people of all ages. I was surprised to read that loneliness affects those 18--22 in large numbers. I thought it just applied to folks around my age. It's even more serious than smoking or obesity in affecting the heart and mind. And here's a young woman, Karen, bravely explaining how it had affected her, too. I was moved.

It has touched me too even though I have a loving family. True I am in a sexless marriage caregiving a whole lot. Ill health takes a toll on intimacy and sexual differences complicate matters a lot: me bi, she str8. One of the things I like about this AdultFriendFinder site is the variety of men and women who have so many different interests. I think many of us are restless and lonely. And yet we're here because we're hopeful to connect with others who are at least somewhat like us in mutually satisfying ways.

I love being naked, giving/receiving massages with guys and gals. I like safe, sane, consensual interactions and have been lucky to find satisfaction and passion here. Yet existence is rough and unpredictable. Many complain about fakes here and I suppose there are some who are just plain lost in frenzied pursuit of the elusive thrills of sex. I feel that way at times. Mostly, though, I think many of us restless, lonely souls are just hoping for some easing of the emotional pain we experience in the many daily responsibilities we face. We are not free to play for many reasons. We'd like to but other things come first--caregiving for example. Or family. Or work. Or hobbies. Or activism.

I feel for the restraints that hold us back and don't blame others or myself. I just keep hoping that schedules, health, hosting and so forth line up to allow delightful encounters of the happy kind. And I love corresponding as well. Brothers and sisters, happy hunting. Don't give up. We only need to find one another.
Time Out: Time In
Posted:Jan 24, 2018 2:43 pm
Last Updated:Aug 24, 2018 2:09 am

Hmmm. Ever notice the number of words that begin with "EX--": exploration, experimentation, exercise and all their verbs? Well, friends, I love to add an "S" at the beginning of these fun words. XXXy, right? Write? SSSSS silky, milky.

Can't believe that sex is so important even now as the shadows lengthen in my day. I'm open to sexplanations and sexaminations. Just like there's more to life than money, same with sex. Time out for much else. And time in for those special intimacies that are more than secstacies.

Ever notice how we all have different diets and desires but remarkably similar digestions and "processed food"? Pity our common ground is soooo taboo considering how very different our "tastes" are and everywhere broadcast. You may have noticed that long ago. Some of us--me--are just getting on board and off bored. Oh, if only time and inclination came together sexceptionally well.
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