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Age -- myth and reality
Posted:Mar 17, 2017 4:02 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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I'm hornier at 72 than I was at 27. I got hard fast and often at 27 and loved sex. Really, though, I was too busy to engage in it as often as I wanted. Plus I believed it was all wrong to be queer, bisexual--whatever you want to call it, if you want to call "it" anything. I don't. I don't like labels. I like labia, tits, clits and yup labia and pussies, f and m. Too much NO NO NO and not enough guidance in the ethics of pleasure. So I let work and family and culture DICKtate sexual function. I was flush with a cultural circle that was as tight as a toilet hole. Age has broken down rigid social frameworks and metaphysical binders and allowed in the light and fresh air of a new regard for pleasure. Same bubbly joy of being sexual as ever but without the social corks (repressive strictures) to squelch the fizz, the physicality of mutual pleasure. Instead age slows function, not passion. A slower function is NOT an absence of interest. Far from it. Just need more non-anxious presence in the present moment. Woohoo! Cum join me
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Ethics of Pleasure
Posted:Feb 18, 2017 2:30 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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A masseur I especially enjoy uses his whole body to massage mine. He's 20 something, great personality, avid athlete , awesome body, sometimes wears shorts, open to my touching him as he touches me, AND AFFORDABLE!!! It only works because I have no insistent expectations and we like each other as well. I don't ask for sexual favors or compromise his dignity or good nature. Yesterday he told me he's studying ethics in an online course. To me ethics is an illustration of character. Whatever we think of ourselves comes out in how we treat others.. If pleasure is really important to us, as it is to me, then I feel obligated to respect the other person as much as I expect the other person to respect me.

I think of pleasure this way, with someone I enjoy and who appears to enjoy me: "I want you to want what I want, but if you don't, that's okay". In other words pleasure is not all about me, me, me, but about a kind of flow between us, us, us.

Coercion is not cool. Seduction with no intent to honor the other is not cool. The tricky and complex thing is that our hard wiring for sex IS in fact often insistent and terrifically powerful. That's what makes this ethics challenging. That's a good reason for learning about our sexual desires, their diversity and how best to satisfy them without abusing others. Pleasure is as possible as it is desirable, but not so easy as it sounds. Any thoughts?
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Naked honesty and pleasure
Posted:Feb 6, 2017 2:26 am
Last Updated:Apr 23, 2017 1:21 pm
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Love to be naked as much as possible. Honestly, honesty sometimes sucks. And licks and kisses and caresses and smiles. Pleasure, however, is a gift we can keep on giving and receiving with others. Some want sexclusivity. I want friendship, an easy exchange of affection. Affection trumps affectation every time Pleasure can be intense, athletic even, but ceases to be pleasure when expectations get too insistent. Easy does it. Flow with the go. Health is wealth. This site offers opportunity for mixing nakedness, honesty and pleasure without being shamed with repressive taboos or taking unhealthy risks. Even if we can't meet up we can correspond and be friends. Women and men. Think of all the pleasurable combinations{=}! Honestly!
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In the bleak mid-winter
Posted:Jan 17, 2017 3:08 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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It's only bleak without the warmth of affection, the hugs and kisses, the slip and slide of mutual pleasure. There are so many points of pleasure: nipples, clits drive me wild. Precum and wet juices; the taste of them, the scent of ecstasy. I often wonder what it would be like to get acquainted by being together in pleasant conversation about passion and lust. Removing our clothes and touching ourselves across from one another, revealing the swellings, the breathing, the smiles, the yearning for mutual pleasure against the backdrop of initial restraint. Perhaps it would lead to physical connection and maybe the exposure of our own self regard would be enough. Would it be too much? What do you think?
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Celebrating our differences
Posted:Dec 18, 2016 2:28 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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I've been a member of AdultFriendFinder for years now and have met awesome men, women, and Ts here. Mostly we've corresponded, tons of views and flirts, and once in awhile actually getting together. So many people have had so much more sexperience than I've had but many are just looking as well, hoping for honesty and candor in conversation and potential relationship. It's never too late to explore the playground of our emotions, lusts, desires, bodies and spirit. We're all bodies--can't get away from those functions and changes that define our nakedness. We all seek genuine affection, respect, worth--at least I believe we do. If we're lucky we find our matches and meet up. I just find it fascinating that we are so different and also have so much in common. We want to be who we are but we also want YOU and YOU and YOU. Fabulous! Hope all of you have wonderful, magical, special holidays! There are so many differences we can celebrate {=}
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Pleasure Health and Happiness
Posted:Dec 2, 2016 5:09 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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Age hasn't erased the link between pleasure and happiness. I love oral pleasures, touch and taste and scent of fresh bodies lovingly cared for. Massage is such a friendly and comforting intro to even more pleasure when mutually desired. Even the touch alone is satisfying. Oh for the satisfaction of skin hunger to be touched and treasured even for a few moments. Heavenly. I like this site because it pursues pleasure in a world too obsessed with nastiness. Money may make the world go around but pleasure makes it worth going around
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Loneliness Comfort Friendship
Posted:Dec 1, 2016 3:28 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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I wonder if you agree: a lot of us on AdultFriendFinder and other similar sites are lonely for the kind of comfort and friendship that is more than sexual release but less than full strings attached commitment. Perhaps like me you are committed to a partner whose health prevents sexual intimacy any more. You give comfort and help as best you can. You don't want to hurt your partner who may not be at all open your sexual needs/wants. But what do you do? Shut down your passion? That doesn't work for me. Live with debilitating depression with medication maybe? I don't like side effects of meds. Watch porn? It helps me. Correspond with any willing correspondent? Yes, indeed. Jerk off? You bet. Sublimate? A whole lot.

My sexual passion is central to my self understanding and joy in living. I am fit, clean, healthy, exercise regularly, eat well, play Bach Goldberg Variations, work on the Rachmaninoff 3rd piano concerto cadenza first movement, still learn new music, read, correspond a lot, give and receive massages whenever possible. Perhaps that's all there is. But a friend with benefits would be great as long as it was mutually satisfying. What do you think? What do you do?
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Gratitude for views and correspondence
Posted:Nov 21, 2016 5:53 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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I feel so lucky to have so many views and flirts and hotlists and yes, correspondence too. I look forward to seeing everybody and love correspondence/chatting as well. It would be so nice to touch and feel and enjoy one another where the feelings we were mutual and we were close enough to get together. Meanwhile I look forward to seeing adult friends online and wish you all health and happiness. Ian
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Lust and love
Posted:Nov 11, 2016 3:02 am
Last Updated:Aug 6, 2017 2:55 am
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Lust is such a part of our makeup. Love makes us human. Love is all about mutuality and sharing and caring. Lust is about exercise and building and releasing tension. At least that's how I see lust and love. Some of us are so lofty in love we see lust as a conflict, a threat to be repressed or restricted. Religion is good at splitting off love from lust. I think the two could help each other live a happy and healthy life. We're all differently endowed emotionally and physically. This site helps us to acknowledge our lust. Some of us, me for instance, would like to explore with a woman and/or a man the pleasure of lust with respect to the thoughtfulness of love.
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Scent and taste of sex
Posted:Nov 7, 2016 1:39 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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Nothing more intimate physically than exchanging microbes from mouth, sweat, pussy. Such interesting tastes and smells. I like it when it's all fresh and ready to eat and drink. I don't eat off dirty dishes and feel the same way about pleasuring. I keep my "dishes" clean and fresh. I love kissing and licking nipples and feeling a nice breast in my mouth. I love a woman's ecstasy, escape from the rough and tumble of existence. A long moment of intimate sharing scents and tastes is bliss. {=}
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Cyber fun
Posted:Nov 6, 2016 3:58 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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Love watching the young fit bodies of men and women who so obviously enjoy pleasuring one another. Sure some of it seems staged all too obviously, but it's easy to see they "get into it". I'd like to find a willing partner for such fun. It's missing in my life and I miss it To understate the matter. Would love to even correspond with women and men who love oral pleasuring. Have fun while the sun shines*Y*
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Comfort and Calm from Pleasure vs Anxiety, Fear from Violence
Posted:Nov 4, 2016 2:49 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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Does it seem strange to you that sex in our culture is taboo or shameful or guilt-ridden for so many people, while violence in entertainment, sports, not to mention war, is so accepted or taken for granted or fascinating? Touch and pleasure bring out the best in me: more compassion, willingness to help others, less guarded and more generous. On the other hand, fears of disease or involuntary domination or violation of decency and dignity make me tense up, suspicious, stingy. I wish we could embrace our various sexualities--that seems to me one of the greatest features of this website--AdultFriendFinder. Yes, safety, respect, hygiene are essential for genuine pleasure. At the same time, I wish I didn't feel like our culture accepts and even worships and adores violence and hostility and incivility as it seems to me we do. When the beauty of pleasure is available why is there such ugly violence?
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Skin hunger
Posted:Oct 23, 2016 4:00 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2020 4:20 am
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Touching is a delightful pleasure when the other person wants it as much as I do. Age hasn't shrunk my desire for physical intimacy, for body rubs, kissing, nipple play, licking and sucking and cumming. I've been on this site long enough to realize how diverse our desires are and how important they are as well. I'm not into any kind of coercion, not into BDSM or pain or scat. Slow simmering, smoldering, edging are great. I like safe fun. Would love to find a fwb. Enjoy corresponding too.
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