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Why Can't People Just Be Honest???  

Jlohappy1978 53M/42F
3 posts
7/8/2018 11:13 am
Why Can't People Just Be Honest???

I know most people try to not hurt someone's feelings, so they will not say how they truly feel. But honestly if you don't have feelings for someone and are just manipulating them or using them then you are going to be hurting their feelings when the truth comes out.

I just don't understand why people are so afraid of being honest with each other. They would rather drag people along and play with their feelings instead of just telling them they are not interested and letting that person go and find someone who does want them.

So here is my story:

When my husband and I first married 17 years ago, we believed in a marriage of Faith and only having sex with your spouse, and it was great. But we had more pussy and dicks thrown at us than the meat at an all you can eat buffet, and we were always loyal.

My love, my knight in shining armor, he was my very first and he showed me more love than any one person could ever give. He built up my self esteem and showed me what a beautiful woman I am. I had always been put down all my life before I met him. I did not even know how to take a compliment, as I had never been given one until him.

Ok present day,

We have decided to put some more spice into our marriage. Don't get me wrong he gives me all the sex and love a woman could ever want or need. But he has also opened my thoughts and curiosity of thinking of having the soft hands and lips of a woman on my skin. So we have chosen to add a female to our relationship.

Well now all the pussy we had thrown at us before, is no where to be found. First we started looking on all the typical sites; Craigslist, BiCupid, Sister Wives, and several others. We are members on several different site. But all seems to be the same outcome, a lot of Fake people and profiles. I have even had a profile on a porn site, and let me tell you it was fun at first. But there was too much obsessions and disrespect with some of the people, and still a lot of Fake ones.

You will get people contacting you and right off the bat they send you a picture of their cock or pussy and say lets Fuck. I know that is what most may be into or looking for. But I have always been the type that I have to know a person before I Fuck them. And the ones that do send those responses, I tell them damn no hello or foreplay just straight to wham bam thank you ma'am. Then they will get mad and respond with very negative, disrespectful and cruel statements. And the thing is they contacted us, and in our ads and profiles we are clear as day as to what we are looking for and want. We are honest people and we just ask them to be honest with us. I mean don't drag stuff out and play games with someone. If you are not interested in them just tell them and be done with it so you both can move on.

We had one girl contact us from our Craigslist ad, and we talked and chatted a lot for a few months. When plans were made to visit and go out. she stopped communicating with us, even blocked us. I mean we were in the middle of our conversation making the arrangements and she did not reply. We contacted her everyday for a week and nothing. We actually was very worried about her because she did have health issues. So after a week of no replay and realizing we had been blocked, we sent a message saying you could have just said you don't want anything to do with us.

I mean damn people just tell someone you don't want to be with them. They will understand more that way then being dragged around.

Then there were several that messaged with women profiles just to turn out to be a man. I don't understand why bother with this, I mean do you think you are going to be such a stud that you are going to make a woman, who states clearly she does not want a man only a woman, change her ways.

Then we had a girl that was local and she contacted us. We helped her out with a lot of things and thought this one might just be the one for us. But we were wrong again. This girl would cancel on any plans to meet up with us. And I don't mean a meeting for a Fucking I mean like a first date. We only was able to chat with her and only seen her when she needed something. This went on for about 4 months and still no first date. So we just told her to be honest and tell us she is not interested in us so we could all just move on. She says no she is interested in us but she too much going on to try and have a relationship. But will post on social media all kinds of things and have guys comment on her.

And now out of the blue the first girl that just never responded, contacted us after about 6 months of nothing. And surprisingly when I tell her to call me, she does not. And when she messages and says I am not ignoring you, I just tell her well just call whenever you have time. And I have not heard anything from her in over a week.

I have come to the conclusion that I refuse to try and have a relationship through messages or chatting, it is too fake. If you cannot call me or meet with me, then you might as well forget it. Actions speak louder than words and that is why I have no faith in chatting with people. Don't get me wrong I will chat with people but I don't put no faith in anything being said. Until I see actions and if you cancel on meeting up with me then that is one strike on you. Then you will have to make the effort to meet with me or just forget it.

Updates to come on progress, but just be honest with people and let them go.


Jlohappy 😊😎


japaneseass 53F  
49855 posts
7/8/2018 1:27 pm

agree with you so much...there are so many fakes and flakes on this site...there are even few men sits behind a female or, a couple profile when there was no other partners (men only there behind the female profile)!!!

i don't do meeting anymore, due to my schedule and other family situation, but when i was, i was stood up for a few occasion, then people ghosts and disappears all the time.

and there are these people who can take my refusal with their grace and if i say no, they get nasty on me...

but, but...

i have experienced a few good one, too...so just be patient...and i am wishing you good luck..

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Tmptrzz 57F
86718 posts
7/8/2018 3:28 pm

Wow this is crazy so sorry to hear that people are acting like this. And I agree with you that you definitely have to get to know the person first as you can not be too safe these days. I hope you both will finally find someone who step up to the plate and you get to enjoy that threesum. Honesty is always the best policy..

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


Knoxslutwife 45M/41F  
181 posts
10/7/2018 1:52 pm

people suck most of the time, especially on these sites. just keep on truckin and you'll find a fun woman for you.


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