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What brings us here?................  

KtMnDu 68M
7227 posts
11/15/2013 4:39 am
What brings us here?................


There are times when I receive a response to a message of mine........yea, it happens once in a while.........and I usually ask her what brought her to AdultFriendFinder; what prompted her to put up a profile here? The answers vary, of course, but a number of them seem to register on a whim.......just put something out there and see what happens. Often times I suspect in these situations, they were a bit horny, feeling that urge, that need........spent a little time looking around, and figured what the heck......it's free, could be entertaining, so here goes.........

I see the profiles where one registered on Monday, last visit was the following Wednesday, and that last visit was 2 years ago. And those profiles, of course, have very little info.....the ubiquitous "Prefer Not To Say"......

And so, these thoughts come back to me when I come across a recently registered profile, especially one with a lot of "Prefer Not To Say" entries.

I first came to the site many years ago, registered pretty much on a whim.....standard member.....quickly became discouraged, and went away. A bit later, I returned, probably in a moment of horniness or whatever, registered again.....paid the money this time.......made a real effort at a profile which reflected who I was, put up an image that might raise one's curiosity, and hoped for the best. I searched the profiles, sent the messages.............I met a few women, generally enjoyed it.......nice experiences, but a bit short of my (excessively) lofty expectations.......and so, again, I drifted away.

Between then and my current iteration here, I have come to know myself better......that's a given assuming one pays attention........and as such my approach to it all has changed. I also came to realize that not everyone here is looking to actually meet up with someone, regardless of what their profile says.

One needs to be open to the possibilities. I know she is out there, the one that together we will find all that we desire in all those ways. There are moments when I realize I may never meet her, that our paths may not cross. As I wander, I no doubt will meet women who will be wonderful partners, some will become good friends, and our time together will be with me forever, and I will treasure those times, even though they may not evolve into "The One."

I have this patience now that I lacked previously.......I suspect it is age working it's wonders........and so my experience here, this time, is tempered by that..........

And having this blog on which to ramble helps a bit too..............

MyNameIsKay 59F  
11823 posts
11/22/2013 5:40 am

I, for one, am glad you are here. I enjoy the way you write very much. You seem...patient.

I came to the site looking for play but because someone I was dating unceremoniously dumped me. He had been on this site many years ago and found a wife (since divorced). But I didn't join to find a mate but to get a reaction from him. He saw me as too naive to be able to deal with a site like this.

That motivation ended quickly when I received for the first time in my life ALL this attention. About 8 months later I found blogging, which is what keeps me here mostly. I now think I can find the one here...most of the time. We'll see...

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KtMnDu 68M
6214 posts
11/22/2013 4:54 pm

Thank you Kay for the nice comment.....I have always considered myself a patient guy, and I am glad that seems to come through in the writing..........


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