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What’s the diff, flirt or hotlist?  

LetsChillax 53F
8768 posts
9/1/2018 3:09 pm
What’s the diff, flirt or hotlist?


What do you use these features for?

red_guy_oh 45M  
183 posts
9/10/2018 11:20 am

For me:
Hotlisting is mostly for myself. It is someone I want to refer back to at a future date.

Flirting is something I usually only do to someone I have already chatted with and in that case it is basically just like saying hi.


azriel1970 49M  
30011 posts
9/2/2018 4:48 pm

I agree Hotlist is Perving and possible Flirting

Flirting means I am interested.


CleavageFan4U 63M  
62101 posts
9/2/2018 6:53 am

I don't really know, and reading the responses here didn't help much. I think it is key to understand that certain nonpaying female members get a LOT more privileges than their male counterparts. In part, this is based on profile views they've generated, and is just one aspect of how this site uses you female members.

I don't use the flirt feature. If I'm interested in someone I get off my ass and email them!

I use the hotlist feature to bookmark a profile, but not because I'm interested in meeting them, but for some other reason. For example, I recently spotted the profile for a local lady what was clearly a pro on here, and am curious how long till she gets booted off.

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LakeRidgeBBWSeek 59M
3755 posts
9/1/2018 8:19 pm

Standards CAN flirt for a price, can pay per flirt. Hotlist can be used by anyone to show interest however. But frankly, it seems most women dont pay any attention to hotlisting.


camhound 62M

9/1/2018 7:37 pm

I'm trying to quit flirting , okay I'm trying to stop lying


oldbstrd55 63M
3118 posts
9/1/2018 6:51 pm

Most of the flirts I get are from 20 something standard females looking for a LTR. Sounds legit I don't bother with the flirt. I have hotlisted a few which makes I easy to pop on their profile to perv pics and videos. Other then that they mean nothing. I don't even pay attention to the who viewed me, most of that is when some ones curser happened to go across my profile pic. Little things the site uses to make you think you're special.


BiggLala 48F  
28538 posts
9/1/2018 5:40 pm

    Quoting Zinny1953:
    Clearly -- from the answers I read -- no one knows. It's as if we all have our own individual meanings, which may (or more likely, may not) be what the person on the receiving end of a wink or a hotlist notificaton thinks it means...

    For ME, I think of a flirt as a way of saying "I like and/or appreciate your profile," period. Flirts are free. At least for Gold members, anyway. But putting someone on your hotlist requires points...there is a cost incurred by the "lister," if you will, as points are sent to the "listee." For me, that certainly suggest that placing someone on your own, individual hotlist is more meaningful than just a flirt. That said, I would hope the recipient likes both actions and the attention they imply.
Hot listing someone does not cost points. I think you're thinking of being someone's Top Fan, where a 'bid' of points is required. There is no bid required to simply hot list someone.

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BiggLala 48F  
28538 posts
9/1/2018 5:38 pm

    Quoting bitchkitty2017:
    flirting is gold members only?? Are you trying to say if a standard member flirts with me its not real?? lol I am gold and I don't flirt by choice but I get a ton of standard members flirting with me , the only way they can message and chat is if I friend them first ...flirting is not only for gold..lol
Standard members cannot send flirts. Therefore, it's probably that they sent the flirt while they still had gold before it ran out. Standard members can only hot list.

To the OP...there really isn't a difference between the two features, as everyone uses them for different reasons. Also, if you play the Hot or Not game, any pic you click as 'Hot', the person is added to your hot list and is notified that you hot listed them.

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2Saltie2 26F

9/1/2018 4:14 pm

As a few said it depends on the person sending it. My picture is of a tattoo and i don't cam, have videos or anything else . I can't see anyone sending me either unless a scammer or the man is interested in me but doesn't want to write to let me know. Means nothing to me to get. I don't do it back. Not even read the person's profile.

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cinnamon0133 28F

9/1/2018 4:12 pm

They dont mean a damn thing! Lol

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JustlomesumMe 65M
570 posts
9/1/2018 4:06 pm

I don't use or pay attention to. 95% of them are from women 20-35 years old. Why would I want a woman less than half my age.

Wish they had a delete button on the viewed you section as most of them are 20 and 30 years old too.

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justskin1 68M
11705 posts
9/1/2018 4:05 pm

I no longer do either even when I have gold. Still, I tend to see hotlisting as a way to mark a person whose pics etc you want to go see on a regular basis. A flirt is to let them know you are interested in them. Not worth much when you live far away. Better to send mail.

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benard69 63M/63F  
5182 posts
9/1/2018 4:05 pm

Neither adds up to a Hill of Beans...


Zinny1953 66M  
238 posts
9/1/2018 3:56 pm

Clearly -- from the answers I read -- no one knows. It's as if we all have our own individual meanings, which may (or more likely, may not) be what the person on the receiving end of a wink or a hotlist notificaton thinks it means...

For ME, I think of a flirt as a way of saying "I like and/or appreciate your profile," period. Flirts are free. At least for Gold members, anyway. But putting someone on your hotlist requires points...there is a cost incurred by the "lister," if you will, as points are sent to the "listee." For me, that certainly suggest that placing someone on your own, individual hotlist is more meaningful than just a flirt. That said, I would hope the recipient likes both actions and the attention they imply.


SomewhereSE 62M
232 posts
9/1/2018 3:47 pm

Very little difference, since they are almost exclusively sent by scammers pretending to be younger women while hanging out on IM, hoping for someone stupid enough to respond. You also get hotlisted if someone tags you as hot while playing the hot or not game.


bitchkitty2017 67F  
5289 posts
9/1/2018 3:44 pm

    Quoting KlaiveZero:
    Flirting is gold members only .... hotlist is a way non gold members can use to let them know they are interested ,

    ALSO if you are not gold and using a computer hovering over their pic in your hotlist lets you see more of their profile than normal ..... at least it did back before I was gold .
flirting is gold members only?? Are you trying to say if a standard member flirts with me its not real?? lol I am gold and I don't flirt by choice but I get a ton of standard members flirting with me , the only way they can message and chat is if I friend them first ...flirting is not only for gold..lol


Bunnysyummy2 60F  
10402 posts
9/1/2018 3:39 pm

I usually only return flirts to acknowledge the flirt I recieved
I see the hotlist feature as a way to "bookmark" a profile and the pictures/videos
Neither of which is an invitation for anything more unless I want it Rude? pehaps.. but it's honest


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KlaiveZero 47M
14 posts
9/1/2018 3:30 pm

Flirting is gold members only .... hotlist is a way non gold members can use to let them know they are interested ,

ALSO if you are not gold and using a computer hovering over their pic in your hotlist lets you see more of their profile than normal ..... at least it did back before I was gold .


Pussycumwanker 49M
103 posts
9/1/2018 3:20 pm

hotlist = wish list

Flirt = costs and means wanting to talk imho

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LetsChillax 53F

9/1/2018 3:09 pm


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