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What is the least amount of time that you think you should know someone before you become intimate?  

LetsChillax 53F
8323 posts
12/26/2018 2:44 pm
What is the least amount of time that you think you should know someone before you become intimate?

Not at all, I like em strange
At least a few minutes at the bar first
Few days of online chatting
Few weeks of online chatting and phone calls
Two-three dates
30-60 days
Depends on the person
Other, described below

MrThiiickDiiick 35M

3/24/2019 10:06 pm

Yeah totally

adventuresrus50 57M  
17 posts
3/13/2019 6:31 pm

Every man alive will take the first chance he gets. If it is 5 minutes or 5 weeks the moment she says go he is all in. So basically women control the time of courting to fucking. I have made the mistake of the 5 min wait time wound up in the hands of an alien. So now I try to at least figure out if they are what they appear to be before going for the end game.

LetsChillax replies on 3/26/2019 7:25 am:
Alien, made me giggle

BlackPussyRules 56M
840 posts
3/9/2019 10:42 pm

Not at all in my fantasies. In real life though I want to know that person.

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PHD314 56M
4 posts
3/6/2019 4:29 pm

If a hot woman came up to a guy alone in a room and undid his fly and started to work on him, few guys would complain.

PCBDean57 62M
27 posts
3/6/2019 3:33 am

It depends. On other vanilla sites I ran into a couple that wanted it right away. Kinda made me leery about their ulterior motives. But on here hadn't really made any contacts yet but as a rule I like to chat a couple of times first.

55 posts
2/24/2019 3:40 am

It depends on the personality of both the partners. After all its a joint work for a single goal.

spoilyoubb 55M
30 posts
2/10/2019 12:41 pm

it just depends.....

_IKanCu2_ 101M
2706 posts
2/7/2019 11:06 pm

][ voted other...

You may come too know in that very first Minute/Look/Touch/Kiss,,,

,,, or maybe not ever ~

oralguy200 74M
26 posts
2/6/2019 2:51 pm

In a swinging party say a half hour of chatting

thejashman 35M
72 posts
2/1/2019 5:12 am

if the chemistry is right from the first mn of the meet up i don't waste time

funasianma1e 46M
119 posts
1/15/2019 9:58 pm

depends on the 2 people involved and the vibe they feel for one another.
If it takes one meeting to get it or if it takes a few meetings.

waterman230 45M
5 posts
1/14/2019 2:52 pm

well im here for NSA so i think this is different for everyone. i want a women to want me tho. i like to talk a few times just to make sure. i refuse to pressure anyone into sex or anything else for that matter. just my nature i guess.

mcs4849 64M
33 posts
1/11/2019 8:43 pm

Not with all women but some definitely

Me59x 64M
22 posts
1/11/2019 8:19 pm

I had spent several weeks talking with women, then had a date or two to get to know them before jumping in the sack

Dan_Thevoyeur 69M  
1 post
1/7/2019 6:56 pm

It depends on the chemistry/energy you feel when you meet. I normally like knowing someone for a while, but I’ve had it occur in less than 2 hours after meeting. Very intense sex. Sometimes you just feel it.

GuyinVegas1 61M
7 posts
1/7/2019 9:35 am

If you are looking to fuck, then only enough time to say "Hi"

twoxjr 60M
6 posts
1/7/2019 6:09 am

it depends on how "HORNY" you are.

oldman1973 72M/35F  
561 posts
1/6/2019 9:06 pm

When we meet I Phon (F) will fuck for any man my husband has selected straight away

mcs4849 64M
33 posts
1/6/2019 10:58 am

It depends...have had situations when we clicked immediately, other times several meetings and a lot of chat time.

KT1207 52M
26 posts
1/5/2019 5:02 pm

It all depends on the chemistry, situation and mood... no formula.. just go with the flow.

brandini734 26M
176 posts
1/5/2019 3:35 pm

2-3 dates is the safest in my opinion.

WellINever101 51M
77 posts
1/5/2019 8:31 am

I agree the genuine people here just wanna fuck. I’ve fucked a few women who I didn’t necessarily find attractive but boy could they suck a cock!!

ohsosmooth69 59F
10 posts
1/4/2019 3:27 pm

for me it has been as little as 10 minutes,and few times it was months,depends on the circumstances and person. the 10 minutes, makes me sound like a slut, but i had girl/girl fun with her"my roommate at the time, her and i talked about a 3some with her boyfriend, whom worked away at the time,and i had never met,i came home from work,knew he was coming over soon, went and showered, came out of the shower and he was there and they were already busy in my bedroom, thought this is a open invitation, walked up and said hi, can i join, she said please, he smiled and said HELL YES, so even less than 10 minutes, but enjoyable, hehehe, my first 3some, actually went through my mind i should wait, but thought i would chicken out if i thought about much, so i just seized the moment.

flasher4u3 63M  
77 posts
1/4/2019 11:39 am

I love having sex with my friends. It is very exciting when we both know what turns each other on and share feelings along with sensations. Having said that, I have had some very exciting experiences with total strangers a few times too!

edstarr2 54M/50F  
8 posts
1/4/2019 9:43 am

just present yourself

Bull_mature 58M
41 posts
1/4/2019 8:58 am

Depends on connect & chemistry between the two

EnjoyLife6446 62M
21 posts
1/3/2019 10:11 pm

each person an each situation is different

puzzieasslicker9 50M
31 posts
1/3/2019 5:14 pm

After we say hello.

cunnilingdude01 58M  
5 posts
1/2/2019 12:28 pm

I like to get to know a little bit about a woman before I hop in bed with her. I've been put into too many uncomfortable situations, and mostly a chemistry between two people turns good sex into great sex.

fucktoyshavefun 42M/41F

1/1/2019 11:36 pm

i would have to say what ever feels right

Cpllooking6671 53M/49F  
2667 posts
1/1/2019 1:08 pm

Since we are looking at both single & couples, it all depends on the chemistry and the dynamics of the personalities involved. We may or may not have a chance to chat some before a meet n greet or we have a few dinners after the meet n greet. We have played directly after the meet n greet cause that spark was there and the spontaneity was hot!
So all in all- Just go with the flow/feeling is how we see it.

69PussyLuver 58M  
50 posts
1/1/2019 1:03 pm

It depends on who it is, and where. It's all about the instant connection, and chemistry. It can be as quick as a few minutes, or several days. I have met women during my airline career, where we hooked up right away. Other times, it takes a few dates.

throatscock 92M

1/1/2019 5:02 am

Depends on the person. First appearance tells a lot about someone and it doesn't take long before you get turned on or off. Go with instinct I say.

Yourtoy2use2019 25M
15 posts
12/31/2018 7:07 pm

Never to soon

Janet4fun2016 59T  
898 posts
12/31/2018 5:01 pm

When your both in the mood.

need2chew 59M
18 posts
12/31/2018 4:02 pm

if we talk for a few and agree what we want out of us hooking up

newportnewsman69 38M
19 posts
12/31/2018 9:18 am

Very interesting.

MyraJessie 40M
1 post
12/31/2018 8:15 am

nice tits love them

Timetraveler2 57M  
159 posts
12/31/2018 4:17 am

It seems that most of us feel the same, it depends on chemistry and the situation.

Keltstar1 51M
4 posts
12/30/2018 1:34 pm

It always depends on what chemistry/magic ignites upon meeting. Maybe the sexual desire will be immediate, or maybe it will be interest and a need to know more. Haven't we all had those experiences??? Basically, it's always what you feel most, and not to over think it . . . and to miss/lose something that intuition tells you will be unforgettable!

Crystal_Lake 37F

12/30/2018 11:27 am

The title of this poll should be called:


My cup runneth over
Like blood from a stone
These stand for me
Name your god and bleed the freak
I like to see
How you all would bleed for me

XGaladrielle 56F  
15 posts
12/29/2018 7:21 pm

Chemistry? I'm on this site to fuck, meet strangers in a hotel room, intense kissing as soon as he enters the room. sucking his cock after 1 minute. Don't wanna know his life,will never see him again.

Y a tout ce qu'on doit taire, tout ce qui ne se dit pas… JJ Goldman

man4tgirl2 67M  
22 posts
12/29/2018 3:58 pm

got to see if there is chemistry

sexydad1167 52M  
1361 posts
12/29/2018 1:35 pm

Ive had some women naked in 10-15 min of meeting after a day or a week of emails or texts. I haven't gone past second date in many many years. To me its so important to make sure we are completely sexually compatible otherwise no point in continuing especially if its going to be a romantic relatikonship.

9 posts
12/29/2018 1:24 pm

I am just looking to fuck as love as they are DDF no need to wait

DoctorBooty 39M  
6374 posts
12/29/2018 7:46 am

It really depends for me. I have taken a hotwife to my apartment after one day of chatting, I've taken girls home from the bar, and i've chatted with some women for months before we could meet.

Invariably, the buildup makes it better, so long as the time is within reason. A few weeks at most. When it gets to months, then others will take your attention away.

johnt999x 58M
22 posts
12/29/2018 5:14 am

Been to a swingers and have had sex with a few women and I cannot even tell you there name. It was all about recreational sex

letsgettogeth119 60M

12/28/2018 9:30 pm

Depends when we want to get it on.

872295433 33F
11 posts
12/28/2018 7:14 pm

If I am just looking for a one night stand, there is not reason to wait.

Luv2bottom4u2 63M  
1568 posts
12/28/2018 4:24 pm

Well I think it all depends, I am a bit older but I am sure things may somewhat be the same. I have met women at a bar and had sex that evening.
Then again it might of been a date or two before sex.

LetsChillax 53F

12/28/2018 12:07 pm


dammifiknow2 53M  
90 posts
12/28/2018 7:48 am

cliche as it is......it IS all about the chemistry.......physical, emotional, and mental

Knoxslutwife 45M/41F  
181 posts
12/28/2018 7:44 am

since we play totally safe, we don't even need to know your name, lets get it on!!!!!!

HedonicHeathen 53M
198 posts
12/28/2018 5:49 am

    Quoting LetsChillax:
    Gonna be all kinds of answers coming on this one I bet...
Of course you didn't clarify which even is the ideal time ... so I'd say that research has shown that most women decide within the first 15 seconds if a man is fuckable. Men gawk at that fact and not realize that strategy her eye contact can be subsumed as strategy too.

Men are the gas women are the brakes - it has been said, probably by some backseat driver. So extending that metaphor ... the vehicle traveling is the intimacy.

How soon is now?

yumehole 54F
110 posts
12/28/2018 5:05 am

I've done 5 min. up to a couple months, prefer the 5 min.

zeke53028 61M  
1109 posts
12/27/2018 3:25 pm

My days of picking (or trying) up woman for sex are long gone. I much prefer getting to know someone and making a connection first. Now it's possible that can happen very quickly.

danthe69er 44M
82 posts
12/27/2018 2:22 pm

I agree depends on the person

sequimlooking 76M

12/27/2018 1:18 pm

If I'm comfortable with them I could have sex within the hour after meeting them.

silk_petal_rose 57F
2123 posts
12/27/2018 1:15 pm

30 to 60 days....all depends.


Aquariusto69U 51M
1 post
12/27/2018 12:54 pm

The question was “the least amount of time”. My answer to that would be, at least a couple hours. That’s the least amount of time it has taken for me and a partner to be comfortable enough with each other to engage in sexual activity.

possibleplaydate 48M/44F

12/27/2018 11:26 am

I knew my first wife for 1 day before we we had sex. I knew she was the one right from the start and thank goodness, she felt the same way. We were married 12 years and had 4 sons together before she died in an auto accident with her sister.
The times have changed from our (great)grandparents days. For whatever the reason, it is always up to the two people concerned.

LetsChillax 53F

12/27/2018 9:50 am

What a fun poll

CarpeDiem22202 58M  
348 posts
12/27/2018 8:34 am

Great Question! I personally don't subscribe to any artificial "time requirement" before sharing pleasure with someone or a couple. If the feeling is right and mutual then why wait, if it needs more time to simmer then respect that and take a bit more time, especially if all parties are into fostering more than a one time thing. FWB with a Capital "F" is great! Happy New Year All! >>! happym;

mnoral 59M  
23 posts
12/27/2018 7:22 am

It depends sometimes a little chatting or just a face to face

jajo696 65F
2490 posts
12/27/2018 6:20 am


not into it for a hook up...im not a fly by kinda person....so i need to know the person is sincere and not nuts and not looking to satisfy an experience that they desire. That takes time and a certain connection.

gtrider28 64M

12/27/2018 6:16 am

I hate to fall into the same category as the majority here but it really does depend on the person. But on the other hand LOLO and time is fleeting

RobK2006 53M
5588 posts
12/27/2018 5:46 am

Hah! Ideally, I'd like to know the person for a while first, but, in the real world, if the mood strikes us both...

albaflying 59M  
51 posts
12/27/2018 5:00 am

Depends on person. I had it both ways.
You kinda know which way its going to go

SomewhereSE 62M
243 posts
12/27/2018 3:44 am

Long enough for them to return to their default rather than “best foot forward” behavior and to know them well enough to not make them the next “biggest mistake you’ve ever made.”

LetsChillax replies on 12/27/2018 4:50 am:

powercaps716 64M
33097 posts
12/27/2018 2:11 am

depends on the person

sphxdiver 70M  
21067 posts
12/26/2018 9:26 pm

A lot of different factors play into it.

Lot of it depends on the person too.

lookin4herMI 48M
139 posts
12/26/2018 8:18 pm

Depends on the person, and situation. I went on 4 dates, and multiple phone, and text conversations before I was comfortable enough to be intimate with one woman. While after weeks of texts, and phone calls with another woman it only took a couple of drinks in person before we were undressing each other as quickly as we could. Then the last woman I will mention we had a very heated conversation late one night that ended in each other’s naked embrace by morning time. For me it all depends on how comfortable I am around her, and she has a lot to do with that, mood, attitude, or just vibes she’s putting off. I don’t think there is a right amount of time, or should you put a time limit on it. Go with the flow, go with your own gut feeling, and never let someone change what you’re feeling inside. I can say I never regretted being intimate with any of these women regardless of the amount of time I did, or didn’t know them.

golfnut5469 66M  
4 posts
12/26/2018 7:42 pm

depends on where you meet them, if you meet them on a site like this, then your both on the same mind set, should be quicker, On a regular dating site, take some time, you don't know what they are after

RyuFujin 53F  
1280 posts
12/26/2018 6:25 pm

It varies, as everyone is different, and every situation will be different.

You could hit it off great through emails, chats, and texts, though when you do meet face-to-face... hmm, no chemistry? It has happened.

On the flip side of that is your interactions with one another here, phone calls/texts, produce an interest, but nothing major until you meet... then WHAM!
You're struck by lightning.

One can never tell.

"Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.

azriel1970 50M

12/26/2018 6:17 pm

Totally depends on the person!!!

Whaoo196370 56M
32 posts
12/26/2018 4:45 pm

When both persons are comfortable with each other .

lok4fun500 110M
47760 posts
12/26/2018 3:31 pm

At least time for me remove my hat (s)

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xtremeblaz022 39M  
25 posts
12/26/2018 3:19 pm

It all depends on the person and the feeling that may be there. Sometimes you can just click and want to go for it. Then you have other times you want to what and learn more about the person. But most the time when you do sleep with someone right after meeting it never seems to really last.

IVFalternative 49M
630 posts
12/26/2018 3:17 pm

Within 30 seconds of sending them a dick pic.


At least, that's how I assume I'd like it to go. I'll let you know if it ever happens

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pocogato12 68F  
34842 posts
12/26/2018 3:11 pm

All kinds of scenarios!!! But trust comes first

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redrockrascal 62M
21710 posts
12/26/2018 3:11 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    There is no right answer for all...It's when you are comfortable
Yup this

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

justskin1 68M
11760 posts
12/26/2018 3:05 pm

I want some time to get comfortable with her and the time can vary from person to person. Certainly don't feel comfortable going from online to meeting for sex.

If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin."

I always behave. Preferably not well.

benard69 63M/63F  
5321 posts
12/26/2018 3:00 pm

There is no right answer for all...It's when you are comfortable

bitchkitty2017 68F  
5299 posts
12/26/2018 2:59 pm

voted and personally I don't feel I could just meet and get intimate as I dislike hook ups which it pretty much is ...I prefer an fwb situation as I am just widowed a couple years and am disabled because of an accident ..I want to feel a bit secure first...so far its been going good..

flaguy522 64M  
1466 posts
12/26/2018 2:59 pm

I think when both feel comfortable, have at it!!! Could be instantaneous or could take awhile.

LetsChillax 53F

12/26/2018 2:45 pm

Gonna be all kinds of answers coming on this one I bet...

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