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Masters_sl_a_v_e 51F
72 posts
2/21/2020 3:18 pm
Introduction Title: IMs will be ignored. I play with others.

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Masters_sl_a_v_e 51F
69 posts
2/21/2020 3:21 pm

Respecting someone's limit is a huge part of something I was taught from when I was knee high to a grasshopper prior to falling into this rabbit hole. I feel very disrespected when someone does not read what I have written and will not tolerate this kind of treatment nor will I play with someone like this.

Please let me know your thoughts.

Thank you,

Master's slave


Fluffy7591 62F
53 posts
2/21/2020 4:35 pm

I agree. Most that send me one do pay. No excuse not to read my profile AND respect what is there. They choose not to read or ignore so I ignore them. My introduction says I do not use it. Non paying members can see that part so again no excuse for not knowing.


sensualmaninmn 58M  
481 posts
2/21/2020 5:27 pm

There are many that just don't care because it is the internet. But there are also standard members that supposedly can't view profiles (I am not one of them). If that is the case, they may be messaging you and others out-of-the-blue hoping the score a "live one" . My 2 cents.


lonlyforlove2 77M  
3648 posts
2/21/2020 5:31 pm

These are your constrains, people should respect them.. I see no problem, have a nice evening

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fffinder2000 56M
82 posts
2/21/2020 5:38 pm

It is disappointing when someone doesn't read a profile. I can turn the other cheek at times, maybe they had a few to many and feeling horny, it happens. But I find it very disappointing when one receives robo communications from so called members. Nothing like getting winks or emails from profiles that either don't exist, get shut down or are fabricated communications generated from some master entity. But here we are, souls looking for other souls. Peace


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/21/2020 8:37 pm:
Thank you for your thoughts surrounding this topic. I truly do appreciate it.

lookin4herMI 47M
126 posts
2/21/2020 5:39 pm

You know you need to get over yourself, at least they tried contacting you the only way they can now since all the changes AdultFriendFinder made, and to do that they still had to spend points on you, and the reason they wanted to do that baffles me!


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/21/2020 8:33 pm:
I do not believe that I need to "You know you need to get over yourself, at least they tried contacting you the only way they can" would be applied to a standard member. I do check to see if they are a standard member or not. These are gold members who are sending me IMs. I know that you are able to read a snippet of one's profile when using the website verses the mobile app. I utilize this feature as often as I can before I respond to someone if at all possible. If someone is a standard member, then I will consider also using my points that I earned to respond to them.

I do appreciate your input to my post. Thank you.

dogslife2live01 67M
1797 posts
2/21/2020 6:17 pm

if your decisions are set in stone why would my opinion matter

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/21/2020 8:35 pm:
I like to know what others have for opinions since I am still an evolving creature. Just because I have a certain limit for one thing at this time, does not mean that it has been set in stone. If this was the case, then I would never have asked?

Thank you for your input. I truly do appreciate it.

JustLookn439 54M
529 posts
2/21/2020 8:31 pm

Well I would certainly not do something that I was asked not to....so I won't be IM'ing you. But, what people can see sometimes is very limited when on IM. If you show up and someone IMs you it may not be an act of disrespect but their inability to see enough of your profile to realize your request.
Why is it that you are averse to IMs? Do you prefer email messaging?
Many people can use points to IM when they can't email due to being a standard member.


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/21/2020 11:10 pm:
I find the regular messaging system works better for me.

Thank you for your information and opinion. I do appreciate it.

Heathen_G 61M
7867 posts
2/21/2020 8:35 pm

You most certainly do need to get over yourself.

It's just an Instant Message. Get the fuck over that , too!


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/21/2020 11:31 pm:
Heathen,

If I need to get over this then you have some getting over to do via your own post.

We each have our own opinions. What I have experienced using their IM system and what information has been available to me when I was a gold member and now as a standard member via their website versus their mobile site, the mobile site does not provide for much information. This I will concur with. However, as a gold member, they are still able to open up someone's profile before sending a message. They filled in some information to create a profile and they know what kind of information was being asked for, then they should be able to read a profile unless their appendage is what is running their fingers and other brain.

I know this is a sex site for people to know if they are even interested in meeting to f*** one another, so do not go there with me. For me, thought still goes behind the f***. If I am not able to be comfortable with someone on here, then I am not going anywhere with them.

Difference of opinions and I asked for yours and others. Thank you for yours and providing me with a glimpse into your thought process and why I would never be interested in continuing a conversation of any kind with you outside of what has just transpired. Thank you.

h4rry66 53M
1943 posts
2/21/2020 10:10 pm

I wouldn't do that beautiful especially when you have specifically started that you dont want people to. I don't understand why anyone would still donit. Maybe they've been a taken back by your beauty and dont see anything else. Have a lovely weekend x


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/21/2020 11:46 pm:
Thank you for your opinion and your lovely compliment. I truly appreciated reading them both. I hope you have a wonderful weekend as well.

Heathen_G 61M
7867 posts
2/22/2020 2:03 am

I gather people still cannot read even my Introduction Title which specifically states: "IMs will be ignored. I play with others." ... So ignore the Instant Message. Problem solved.

Meanwhile, regardless of what you say in your profile, men will IM you.

Now get over it.


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/23/2020 4:20 pm:
Thank you for getting over it with me!

seems6666 49F  
3598 posts
2/22/2020 8:30 am

Just don't log onto the IM .. put yourself as "busy" then no-one can contact you. I'm a bit confused as to why you are on here then, if you're not engaging/meeting people?
I don't meet, but I clearly state that, but I do chat to people


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/23/2020 4:21 pm:
It happens when I am on the mobile app that it does not allow me to block the IM piece. I have it blocked when I am on the website.

Thank you for your opinion.

FresnoWoman 49F
696 posts
2/22/2020 11:29 am

I'm in the same situation. Recently, I changed my profile and introduction to state that I'm just here to read the blogs, not to chat with anyone or try to meet. I still get IMs. If they want to waste 15 points (for standard members) or one of their daily opportunities (for gold), so be it. I just dismiss the IM notifications.

It is very frustrating that there are those men who won't try to read, or if they do read, they dismiss it. That's part of why I decided to stop trying to meet anyone from here. You have my sympathy.


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/23/2020 4:24 pm:
I am sorry that you are going through similar experiences as I am.

Thank you for sharing your experiences.

dogslife2live01 67M
1797 posts
2/23/2020 2:02 am

"I ignore IMs from whomever since this is a sign to me of them being disrespectful towards me. I do not tolerate being treated in a manner that I have set as a limit."
"I like to know what others have for opinions since I am still an evolving creature. Just because I have a certain limit for one thing at this time, does not mean that it has been set in stone. If this was the case, then I would never have asked?"

one of these must be a untruth... unless you are just looking for validation.
on this point i completely agree with you... we all have our likes, our dislikes, and they are ours to hold or fold
bonne chance

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/23/2020 4:31 pm:
Both of these statements for me are truths. I know that I was using my cell phone which goes directly to the mobile app when I receive messages. It just got to me after awhile of having some of the same ones send me a message especially if they had written a regular message and this just accumulated after several months that I just decided to post my thoughts and feelings at this time.

You are also correct on the validation point. Sometimes, what I think should be a common courtesy is not necessarily that. I like to know what things might not be viewed in my mind set what is a more common and accepted practice. How else do we learn if we do not ask?

Thank you for your opinion.

dogslife2live01 67M
1797 posts
2/23/2020 5:14 pm

"You are also correct on the validation point. Sometimes, what I think should be a common courtesy is not necessarily that. I like to know what things might not be viewed in my mind set what is a more common and accepted practice."

from what i read in the blogs common courtesy is uncommon here... if someone asks people not to IM them... then common courtesy would dictate not to send them a IM.
if you make contact with someone and they are kind enough to reply "sorry not looking right now... common courtesy would dictate that you politely move on to the next victim with sexual intent (after all this is a body exchange site)
now i will concede that AdultFriendFinder has worked hard to dehumanise members and give the impression that there is no need to hold back our vulgarity, but rather to excuse it with points. as a believer that self respect should put us above that mindset i strongly disagree with such actions.
"How else do we learn if we do not ask? "
at our age we should know what is and what is not acceptable to us... and how much we will allow outside our moral/comfort zone... and act freely on that without consulting others as to what is acceptable to us
hope that helps

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


Masters_sl_a_v_e replies on 2/24/2020 1:15 pm:
Unfortunately my mind and its' abyss has much different thoughts and patterns, hence, why this critter sometimes does what she does and asks because this is just me being me, someone who asks questions for clarity and not to drive everyone up the wall.

Thank you again!

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