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A Lesson For All Of Us  

New2Midlo 52M  
742 posts
10/7/2021 7:35 am

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A Lesson For All Of Us


While I tend gravitate toward Top Gun as a timeless story that helps me to understand and address any situation, 's another tale I find particularly useful, from a relationship perspective. While would have been more helpful post this while I was writing about my relationships and encounters, better late than never.

was once a man discovered a alligator in his back yard. Being an animal lover, he was afraid the poor thing would perish, being separated from its , so he took in and raised as a pet, naming Ricky. This man loved Ricky unconditionally and lavished him with attention. He gave Ricky and fed him the best alligator chow. In order for Ricky to feel like he was in its natural habitat, he had an enclosed lagoon built in his back yard, with a tub for when the gator was stressed. He was positive his love and these gestures got through to the now full grown alligator, suppressing the beast's natural predatory instinct.

One day, he was teaching Ricky how to fetch, when Ricky decided fetch him and mauled him death.

When the man awoke at the pearly gates, face face with Saint Peter, he was dumbfounded and heartbroken.

"I don't understand how this happened! I loved Ricky with all my heart and did everything I could demonstrate my affection. Yet, he mauled me death!"

Saint Peter responded, "What do you expect? He was an alligator and that's what alligators do, you dumb shit!"

The moral of the story is that regardless of how sincere and earnest your actions, you can't change the nature of another and can lose your head over it. Literally.

Perhaps some context would be of value here. This post has nothing to do with illegal aliens r1ping and pillaging. Not sure how anyone would make that leap, but that's a subject for another day. The first time I shared this story was during my divorce. True to her word, my borderline ex wife was pulling every underhanded trick she could to punish me for abandoning her. A couple of friends couldn't understand why I wasn't livid over her<b> nasty </font></b>stunts. My answer was that a borderline was like an alligator. Her brain was wired to hate me, so why get angry over something she couldn't control? have been other instances where this story has applied (e. others with abandonment issues) as well.

Audio video here ://youtu.be/QtBDL8EiNZo

New2Midlo 52M  
1037 posts
10/7/2021 7:35 am

Oh, and Saint Peter can be a jerk.


Brownie202 64F  
2591 posts
10/7/2021 9:11 am

I don't blame the alligator. Should of found out from a expert what to do with him. His own fault. Not a true story I know but those things really happen.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


New2Midlo replies on 10/7/2021 1:21 pm:
That's the message of the story. You can't blame someone or something for what they have no control over, when you're aware of said lack.

Brownie202 64F  
2591 posts
10/7/2021 9:14 am

    Quoting 62Mature4young:
    Too often people assume their own good intentions will be reciprocated--I see it in people who welcome illegals into the country or even their homes, only to be assaulted or killed by them

    The lesson, I think, is to stop projecting one's own morals and ethics onto another for the sake of self-pride in one's attitude--being stupid is not and never has been a virtue
So Americans don't assault or kill? No molesting torture?

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


lindoboy100 58M
23886 posts
10/7/2021 9:36 am

I was trying to think of something clever to say here McMid, but I was somewhat distracted by the astonishing response above mine........errrrmmm......what?!?!?!!?!

Anyways, aye, I think this tale of Ricky the alligator could be taken a number of ways.....does it speak to a bad experience, were you fleeced?


New2Midlo replies on 10/7/2021 1:22 pm:
It seems I'm becoming a magnet for the right wing folks. At least there was no ranting about vaccine mandates.

I've added some context to the story that should help with origins / motivation of sharing it.

seems6666 51F
4761 posts
10/7/2021 11:08 am

A Leopard never changes it's spots


Jules1590 53F
7941 posts
10/7/2021 12:28 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    I was trying to think of something clever to say here McMid, but I was somewhat distracted by the astonishing response above mine........errrrmmm......what?!?!?!!?!

    Anyways, aye, I think this tale of Ricky the alligator could be taken a number of ways.....does it speak to a bad experience, were you fleeced?
LOL.
Its soooo crazy how a blog post can go right off the rails. Wheeeeeeee...!


New2Midlo replies on 10/7/2021 1:24 pm:
But the occasional train wreck can be entertaining as a diversion, so long as it's a freight train and not one carrying unvaccinated passengers.

positively4you 72F  
4514 posts
10/7/2021 12:43 pm

I wonder at those people who have boa constrictors as pets. Why? Just why?
Is it a macho thing? Anyway, I think I get the meaning.


New2Midlo replies on 10/7/2021 1:26 pm:
The story is a metaphor for human behavior where mental illness may be present.

As for snakes, they're my only irrational fear. Ewww...

Jules1590 53F
7941 posts
10/7/2021 12:56 pm

"The moral of the story is that regardless of how sincere and earnest your actions, you can't change the nature of another and can lose your head over it..."

So the analogy that you frame your relationships around (outside of the venerable 1980's TG cult classic -lol) is of an alligator eating her master's head off despite being loved and cared for so wonderfully. I don't know why that makes me sad.

I make the bold claim that Ricky's a female, since the gator-fable reminds me of praying mantises "who are famous for attacking and cannibalising their (male) mates during or after a sexual encounter." THAT and you said this tale "is useful from a relationship perspective."

I think people generally telegraph quite clearly who they are and its up to us to accurately "read the room." If someone is communicating through their words and actions "this is who I am" we have to actually SEE IT, accept it, and not try to change them. We need to quickly move on and "vaya con dios" our way right out of there before its any more painful to leave.

I've been guilty of convincing myself of what I WANT to see despite all their efforts to show me otherwise. I suppose I get myself out of there before my head gets eaten off too.

Good post.


CL_Love 49M/48F
373 posts
10/11/2021 11:11 am

You can't expect the alligator to not be an alligator, but you can avoid getting killed/eaten. I don't expect people to change, but I do remove myself from being their whipping post sometimes.


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