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Can Bouzouki MelodieS and GallonS of WhinE... SavE A DatE... ๐Ÿค”โ—  

Paulxx001 64M
9425 posts
8/17/2021 9:57 am

Last Read:
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Can Bouzouki MelodieS and GallonS of WhinE... SavE A DatE... ๐Ÿค”โ—

Her brilliant smile and those twinkling eyes had been the alluring snare. I have no CLUE what she saw in me. But there we were, anchored at a vibrant Greek bistro over on Montreal's Fairmount Street.

Thin beams of porcelain light framed every table. We sat cloaked in warm shadows, over at the back of that cheerful room. Bouzouki music weaved lively rhythms and bounced off pastel murals as our black-tied waiter ambled over and raised his pen to his pad. SHE, paused her incoherent rant, and with slurred consideration โ€” announced her order.

"I'll take the 'Seafood Pikilia' and a tiny 'Greek Salad' with a small bowl of tzatziki, on the side. Oh, and I'll have another bottle of white wine. But don't serve the meal just yet."

Then, she turned to me and flashed those luminous teeth; I grinned.

"You want some too?
Ok โ€” TWO bottles of white wine," she concluded.

And THAT'S how our first date had evolved. I excused myself and headed towards the bathroom but veered into the kitchen. (*listen, I'm not a total asshole, but I'd had enough.*) I waved to the cooks, laid a couple of twenties on the stainless steel counter, and walked out the back door.

Slipping through that dark alley, I turned towards the street and reached into my blazer for my phone. For fuck's sake! In my haste, I'd left THAT precious hardware on the leather bench seat โ€” back at the restaurant.

I stopped in my tracks and turned around.

She DID have dazzling incisors and those gleaming eyeballs. But there was more whine coming; a lot more. *Ugh* Second chances rarely work โ€” or do they?

(*addendum : so what do you want me to say? that things worked out; they didn't.
it was a peaceful failure. *)

................

The Greeks invented the orgy but the Romans added women.



Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 9:58 am

A warm smile and sparkling eyes โ€” are the first traits attracting me. THAT, and a quick wit.
I think there's always hope for a second chance if there's some mutual attraction. ๐Ÿ˜Š
(*if she has a nice bum, it's a bonus.*)

The 'deal breakers' for me are; a conflicting political POV, and a fickle food veto.
NO second chances on THOSE! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 9:59 am

What attracts you, and what deal-breakers blow it up? ๐Ÿค” ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ—


spunkycumfun 61M/66F
38614 posts
8/17/2021 11:38 am

My deal-breakers are no sense of humour, poor body hygiene and right-wing politics!


smartasswoman 64F  
34993 posts
8/17/2021 11:44 am

One of the last people I was strongly attracted to, had great conversational skills. Lots of give and take, a good listener, and convincingly curious about me and what made me tick. Too often it seems like people fall into one of the other extremes - either so reticent that it's like pulling teeth to get them talking, or one of those nonstop talkers where you can't get a word in edgewise.


author51 58F
124016 posts
8/17/2021 11:45 am

Not when they are whining my friend, be it White or Merlot....Run for your life..xoxo Deal breakers for me is no sexual chemistry or any at all , No sense of Humour and one who whines..xoxo

You can never have enough JOY in your life...xoxo

WICKED WEDNESDAY SEX YOU UP


Paulxx001 replies on 8/17/2021 3:05 pm:
Presuming the other criteria are met. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

superbjversion2 66F
23470 posts
8/17/2021 1:08 pm

I'm always attracted to a great smile ... if he has dimples BONUS! needless to say bad teeth (not necessarily crooked but broken, missing, diseased) are a deal breaker.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Paulxx001 replies on 8/18/2021 3:07 pm:
I take daily walks around the lakes and parks and rivers of this town and since the masks have come down, it's a shocker to see what, some of the people I've been speaking with actually look like.
I imagine, they're shocked with my LOOK ร  a well.
lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
Oh well... ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—โ—

positively4you 72F  
4480 posts
8/17/2021 2:38 pm

Old, ugly, married, poor. I know, I know, alone for the rest of my life. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 2:48 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    My deal-breakers are no sense of humour, poor body hygiene and right-wing politics!
Politics and humour are givens. Now that hygiene thingy? I've never met anyone where THAT was an issue.
Should I ask? Feel free to gross us out. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ โ— โ— โ—


scoupe42 58M  
12617 posts
8/17/2021 2:49 pm

My situation was different, I had a woman that walked out on me, while just 5 min on the date. I guess people have their reasons!


Paulxx001 replies on 8/17/2021 3:44 pm:
Hey! What happened to your profile pic.
Get it back up there bro!
Seriously. It is you! ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—

Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 2:58 pm

    Quoting smartasswoman:
    One of the last people I was strongly attracted to, had great conversational skills. Lots of give and take, a good listener, and convincingly curious about me and what made me tick. Too often it seems like people fall into one of the other extremes - either so reticent that it's like pulling teeth to get them talking, or one of those nonstop talkers where you can't get a word in edgewise.
'... convincingly curious...'? So he faked it? ๐Ÿค” He musta been good to pull wool โ€” over YOUR eyes.

So true about the art of having a conversation. I think I've been guilty of all three styles, although my preference is 'content' as opposed to silence.

Don't most people fear silence, and that's why they blather? ๐Ÿค”


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 3:04 pm

    Quoting author51:
    Not when they are whining my friend, be it White or Merlot....Run for your life..xoxo Deal breakers for me is no sexual chemistry or any at all , No sense of Humour and one who whines..xoxo
So true about sense of humour, and that whining stuff.
But can't compatibility in the bedroom be cultivated, and shared? ๐Ÿค” Can't you train and educate your lover to acquire your tastes?
Or is it a lost cause?, ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ—โ—


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 3:35 pm

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I'm always attracted to a great smile ... if he has dimples BONUS! needless to say bad teeth (not necessarily crooked but broken, missing, diseased) are a deal breaker.
Yep, I can see that. Unfortunately I can see that clearly. Funny, but teeth strike me before eyes do. Although, I don't know about you, but with that BUG and masks, I was evaluating people from the bridge of the nose โ€” up.

Imagine the surprise when that mask is lifted?

You make such a good point. Implants are the latest craze. As long as I don't end up looking like one of those old people jutting jaw, with the oversized teeth of a twenty year old.
Hmmm...

Anyway... Any loose or messed up teeth? ๐Ÿค”


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 3:41 pm

    Quoting scoupe42:
    My situation was different, I had a woman that walked out on me, while just 5 min on the date. I guess people have their reasons!
Wow.
That, is like a kick in the head.
How was your psyche after THAT? ๐Ÿค”

Then again, she musta had issues, and drama, and stuff she was hiding.
It's all good,

Isn't it better to know, in the first five minutes, rather than in the last five years? ๐Ÿค”
๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—


ltrskr 73M  
5023 posts
8/17/2021 3:54 pm

Sounds like my last meet before the Pandammit.......
She had been at the restaurant awhile before I got there, three empty's on the table..... Two more while we waited for our food.
Then she toppled out of her chair, the waiter caught her! Ah..this happens often., he says! Hmmmmm, didn't see that in her profile......
What do u do, the wait staff had it handled
I left $40 on the table...
Having to drag them to the room kinda takes the edge off....
As I got in my truck I heard EMS turning the corner......


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 5:15 pm

    Quoting ltrskr:
    Sounds like my last meet before the Pandammit.......
    She had been at the restaurant awhile before I got there, three empty's on the table..... Two more while we waited for our food.
    Then she toppled out of her chair, the waiter caught her! Ah..this happens often., he says! Hmmmmm, didn't see that in her profile......
    What do u do, the wait staff had it handled
    I left $40 on the table...
    Having to drag them to the room kinda takes the edge off....
    As I got in my truck I heard EMS turning the corner......
I used to confuse patience and tolerance with being kind. But being kind to yourself is the best thing for everyone at that table.
It's what it is, right?

I'm sure you have fonder memories to recall, right?๐Ÿค”
Ya have to step up and say no sometimes. I hear you. โ—โ—


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/17/2021 7:00 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    Old, ugly, married, poor. I know, I know, alone for the rest of my life. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ
NOT, necessarily.
The fruit section of your grocery store and anywhere else men linger โ€” might be your homeland. It's a numbers game.
You never know, do you?
Look helpless and ask for advice about how to gauge the ripeness of an avocado ๐Ÿฅ‘.
Just a thought.
Just a thought... ๐Ÿ˜Šโ—โ—๐Ÿ‘


pollly_anna 57F  
675 posts
8/17/2021 8:50 pm

hahahaha you forget your phone on the bench.lol.

ohoh .i'm a extremely picky eater,lol.....

deal breaker is facial hair,,,drugs of any kind....bad teeth,,,,,big drinker.


Heathen_G 62M
7956 posts
8/18/2021 2:14 am

It's not a date if you don't have sex with her.


spunkycumfun 61M/66F
38614 posts
8/18/2021 3:31 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Politics and humour are givens. Now that hygiene thingy? I've never met anyone where THAT was an issue.
    Should I ask? Feel free to gross us out. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ โ— โ— โ—
There was one occasion when after my first attempt I never wanted to give oral sex again because of the smell not just to one woman but all women. I soon realised that different women have different smells. That's not too gross, is it?!


Paulxx001 replies on 8/18/2021 1:04 pm:
I know EXACTLY, what you mean.
Ugh... yeah.
We decided a shower would be an amazing idea. lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

mc_justmc 61M  
6791 posts
8/18/2021 4:12 am

When you were laying out the 20s I thought you were paying them to rush the meal to the table, when I read you were leaving I literally "laughed out loud". I would never have the nerve.


lunchandconvo 51F
3728 posts
8/18/2021 4:30 am

HA on the Romans!!

my deal breaker are the folks on here demanding a pic swap.
i'm a chatter.
not that i don't have photos....
you've read enough of my blog so you've seen them when i share them.

but i will be honest and up front that i don't pic swap.
and then the demands come...

Sherman and i do not have the same political views.
i just smile and nod.


sexyldy1000 60F  
9205 posts
8/18/2021 4:49 am

A manโ€™s overall appearance will catch my attention, especially a twinkle in his eyes and an engaging smile. Turn-offs are the inability to speak engagingly & intelligently and poor manners.

Stimulate my mind and letโ€™s see what happens.
Be That One


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/18/2021 12:58 pm

    Quoting pollly_anna:
    hahahaha you forget your phone on the bench.lol.

    ohoh .i'm a extremely picky eater,lol.....

    deal breaker is facial hair,,,drugs of any kind....bad teeth,,,,,big drinker.
Facial hair? ๐Ÿค” Hmmm...
I can understand the teeth. I guess you don't like spicy food?
We all have different things on our list.


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/18/2021 1:00 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    It's not a date if you don't have sex with her.
Yeah. I gave up before we got to the finish line.
If sex isn't achieved and you didn't call it a date, what do you call it? ๐Ÿค”


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/18/2021 1:03 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    When you were laying out the 20s I thought you were paying them to rush the meal to the table, when I read you were leaving I literally "laughed out loud". I would never have the nerve.
I've never done that before, but I'd reached my limit. Why put yourself through agony?
The second half of the date went better... sort of. lol ๐Ÿ˜‚


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/18/2021 1:07 pm

    Quoting lunchandconvo:
    HA on the Romans!!

    my deal breaker are the folks on here demanding a pic swap.
    i'm a chatter.
    not that i don't have photos....
    you've read enough of my blog so you've seen them when i share them.

    but i will be honest and up front that i don't pic swap.
    and then the demands come...

    Sherman and i do not have the same political views.
    i just smile and nod.
Smiling and nodding is GREAT! So ya got the figured out home diplomacy? ๐Ÿค”
Kool...
I don't have the pic swap issue but I imagine it would be annoying.
Yay Romans... lol ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜ฎ ๐Ÿ‘


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/18/2021 1:14 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    A manโ€™s overall appearance will catch my attention, especially a twinkle in his eyes and an engaging smile. Turn-offs are the inability to speak engagingly & intelligently and poor manners.
Speak engagingly?
So written emails and texts can fool you. You need a live exam.
Hmmm... Is there an oral test as well? ๐Ÿค”
Ever have someone fail your criteria but still manage to attract you?๐Ÿ˜ถ


sexyldy1000 60F  
9205 posts
8/18/2021 1:36 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Speak engagingly?
    So written emails and texts can fool you. You need a live exam.
    Hmmm... Is there an oral test as well? ๐Ÿค”
    Ever have someone fail your criteria but still manage to attract you?๐Ÿ˜ถ
No, emails and texts donโ€™t fool me. They provide the writer the ability to pause and edit (but we both know how easy it is for some to fail to do that). Switching over to a phone call validates/verifies my first impression.

Stimulate my mind and letโ€™s see what happens.
Be That One


Paulxx001 replies on 8/18/2021 3:03 pm:
True, about phone calls ; a live voice can't lie and befuddle the other person; ya either have it or ya don't.
Lots of people don't.
Some do. ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿ‘ โ—โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž

PonyGirl1965 55F
19123 posts
8/19/2021 12:39 am

Smart Romans! LOL


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/19/2021 2:15 am

Ya think? ๐Ÿค” lol ๐Ÿ˜‚
Yepper... ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—โ—


scoupe42 58M  
12617 posts
8/20/2021 5:57 am

My deal breaker, is when she's not into me, so there are times when I Abort the date. You should do more blogs, you have a way of expressing yourself.


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/20/2021 11:55 am

    Quoting scoupe42:
    My deal breaker, is when she's not into me, so there are times when I Abort the date. You should do more blogs, you have a way of expressing yourself.
Thanks โ— for the prop.
Hey, Q... What happened to your profile pic? ๐Ÿค”


flannel_light 59F  
4070 posts
8/20/2021 7:39 pm

I meet one guy from here and the whole entire time I was trying to have a conversation with him at the restaurant, he was on his cell phone the whole entire time. I just looked at him and I stopped talking. If I had my cell phone that night I would have called a friend to pick me up. What a jerk.
He must have a good sense of humor, good kisser especially French, a nice arse
My dislikes, cell phone, a small dick, not at all passionate, smoker, a Drunk
I could go on and in but I will leave it at that

The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness.


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/21/2021 12:17 am

    Quoting flannel_light:
    I meet one guy from here and the whole entire time I was trying to have a conversation with him at the restaurant, he was on his cell phone the whole entire time. I just looked at him and I stopped talking. If I had my cell phone that night I would have called a friend to pick me up. What a jerk.
    He must have a good sense of humor, good kisser especially French, a nice arse
    My dislikes, cell phone, a small dick, not at all passionate, smoker, a Drunk
    I could go on and in but I will leave it at that
His cell phone, the whole night? ๐Ÿค”
That's messed up and rude. I guess a second chance was out of the question.
Then again, if it happens on a first date, you haven't wasted much of your time.
Or had you? ๐Ÿค”
There's always the NEXT one.
Did you ever find out who he was talking to on that phone?
Better luck next time! ๐Ÿ˜Šโ—โ—


Heathen_G 62M
7956 posts
8/22/2021 6:10 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Yeah. I gave up before we got to the finish line.
    If sex isn't achieved and you didn't call it a date, what do you call it? ๐Ÿค”
"Hanging out", is what you'd call it.

Do that too often, people recognize that as being , "Friendzoned".


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/22/2021 10:40 pm

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    "Hanging out", is what you'd call it.

    Do that too often, people recognize that as being , "Friendzoned".
Yeah, I hear you. No zone of friends with THAT one.
Thanks for the clarification! ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—


pollly_anna 57F  
675 posts
8/23/2021 9:38 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Facial hair? ๐Ÿค” Hmmm...
    I can understand the teeth. I guess you don't like spicy food?
    We all have different things on our list.
incorrect I like spicy food........


loneleix 61M
894 posts
8/26/2021 3:53 am

For me, dealbreakers can be divided into two categories:

1) She seems like a good person and is probably quite interesting but there is no spark there. We can be friends but I'm pretty instantly aware there isn't a possibility of anything else.

2) She is not a good person and I can't spend the hour or so it will take to have a polite meal without it being too painful to contemplate.


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/26/2021 9:13 am

    Quoting pollly_anna:
    incorrect I like spicy food........
I'm allergic to nuts ๐Ÿคช, so desserts are usually a simple choice for me โ€” or I'll pass. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‘


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/26/2021 9:18 am

    Quoting loneleix:
    For me, dealbreakers can be divided into two categories:

    1) She seems like a good person and is probably quite interesting but there is no spark there. We can be friends but I'm pretty instantly aware there isn't a possibility of anything else.

    2) She is not a good person and I can't spend the hour or so it will take to have a polite meal without it being too painful to contemplate.
I understand where you're coming from.
I occasionally encounter that THIRD option.
You know, the one where she's fooled me for a whole meal, we get to the after dinner drinks โ€” and she shares with me her theory and belief that the moon landing was faked.

*UGH* What a painful drive home. ๐Ÿ˜ถโ—โ—


BeccaLuvs 59F
20390 posts
8/27/2021 8:37 am

Seems like the "phone" could have "saved that date" Paul?! "Big grin", and big sigh ..... The "Smiley Faces" still won't work! Like you, a "warm smile" and a sense of humor are def attractions!

..... And always 'hold onto all those sexy thoughts'!
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Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/27/2021 9:15 am

    Quoting BeccaLuvs:
    Seems like the "phone" could have "saved that date" Paul?! "Big grin", and big sigh ..... The "Smiley Faces" still won't work! Like you, a "warm smile" and a sense of humor are def attractions!
Hmmm... you're right โ€” it might have!
I cheat; I post my blogs from my phone and find the emojis THERE.
Also true about a smile and a sense of humor. โ—๐Ÿ˜Ž
Our heat wave is over. Ugh
.. In the mid twenties today. ๐Ÿ˜Š
It's probably normal for you when things were in the high thirties here. ๐Ÿค” โ—


1seeking1 56F
3717 posts
8/30/2021 12:11 pm

Pay for meal and slip out the back door, interesting, did you get your phone back?


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
8/30/2021 3:33 pm

    Quoting 1seeking1:
    Pay for meal and slip out the back door, interesting, did you get your phone back?
The mission for the phone ๐Ÿ“ฑ was a success.
That date, less so; it crashed and burned.
The meal was great.
You've never had a complete fail on a first date? ๐Ÿค”
I'll have to plan for a better
exit strategy, I guess. ๐Ÿ˜•


bustinout20202 64F  
843 posts
9/2/2021 2:44 pm

I look for humor, flirtability, [both of which can indicate some level of intelligence and chemistry to me], along with a great smile and laughing eyes..

Turn offs: no chemistry, no conversation, too pushy, bad breath.

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
9/2/2021 5:52 pm

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    I look for humor, flirtability, [both of which can indicate some level of intelligence and chemistry to me], along with a great smile and laughing eyes..

    Turn offs: no chemistry, no conversation, too pushy, bad breath.
Yeah, ya like flirts; so do I.
Laughing eyes?
Can they squint through the lights? ๐Ÿค” lol ๐Ÿ˜‚

Eee... No conversation is a bust, but I've tried to plow through โ€” you?
Now pushy... and bad breath; THAT'S not fun.
Bad breath? ugh.. ๐Ÿค”

How would you react to someone who'd take the lead in a polka? ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—


bustinout20202 64F  
843 posts
9/4/2021 9:03 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Yeah, ya like flirts; so do I.
    Laughing eyes?
    Can they squint through the lights? ๐Ÿค” lol ๐Ÿ˜‚

    Eee... No conversation is a bust, but I've tried to plow through โ€” you?
    Now pushy... and bad breath; THAT'S not fun.
    Bad breath? ugh.. ๐Ÿค”

    How would you react to someone who'd take the lead in a polka? ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—
If they lead...I will follow As long as they don't step on my toes in the process!

~~~" Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift." --Mary Oliver~~~


Paulxx001 64M
21624 posts
9/4/2021 9:33 am

    Quoting bustinout20202:
    If they lead...I will follow As long as they don't step on my toes in the process!
gtNo danger of that, from one who's been dancing since he was ten. ๐Ÿ˜Žโ—โ—
We'd see just how dizzy we could get. I love that feeling when the world spins around, but all you notice is your partner's eyes. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ‘


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