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He Craved Her Gentle Touch...  

Paulxx001 64M
9439 posts
8/7/2018 6:33 am

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He Craved Her Gentle Touch...

I don't write a 'Regular Blog'. I post, 'easy reading' , simple, erotic stories. However, what if, I were to share deeper personal thoughts and ramblings, about random themes with you? What would my blog resemble?

It's been almost 4 months now since I got on 'A F F' , chose my user name, and pressed 'enter' . I had no idea what I was doing. I was intrigued, as this site just seemed to 'smell' of the thick scent of musky sex - sort of like what your bedroom might smell like, the morning after , while your lover still slept, next to you. It looked alluring and risky and some people walked around naked and that was exciting and cool.

I started this blog, posted stories, and I began 'watching' other bloggers. I noticed that although some blogs may have seemed simple enough on the surface, many bloggers shared subtle, intimate details of their lives, including the heartbreak and sadness that they'd suffered, and broken promises they'd endured. Others shared concerns they had, about where their lives were heading, and about their jobs and their families.

Regardless of what they wrote about, they all shared their thoughts and musings with this huge, curmudgeon data base of naked and half naked 'friends' and 'watchers', for one reason ; they wanted to touch them, and they wanted to be touched , by the right people, of course!

Today , I accidentally stumbled upon a blog post, from 20. The blogger, a woman in her early 50's, had been diagnosed with level four, terminal bone cancer. All treatment had been abandoned and she was waiting. I read her very... last.. post , where she spoke of never getting the chance to watch her two daughters graduate, or get married or to see her grand . She explained, how sad it was that she was leaving this earth, before her parents. She spoke about her life and how it was ending too soon. I was compelled to read her other previous posts. I wanted to get to know this person. I could barely see anything, as tears blurred my vision and emotions choked my throat as I thought of my own, two daughters. She was a real person, her name was Debbie , and she died in 20.

This site is full of 'real' people, and if you spend enough time reading someone's blog, you'll probably discover something deeply personal about that blogger. It's smeared on their hearts and souls, like that stain you just can't remove, and it surfaces in the words they write - whether they realize it or not!

I might one day, be one of those people who feel open and comfortable enough to be able to share something worthy, and personal with you. Instead.... for now... I'll be the guy by the lake, sipping those frivolous frozen Jello vodka slushies , with an empty, welcoming chair, next to him, stringing and shaping random words together, and I'll be pretending that this is just a 'sex hookup site' . Perhaps that's all this site is - but today , as I reflect, it seems more than that.

I'll probably title this blog in a suitably misleading fashion and include a random naked picture of some sort, because, I am shallow and I'd like a few 'views' on this blog post ... Yep...


Do you think this site is more than a trivial sex hook up sex site?

What about your own blog... Do you share your personal thoughts or do you keep it trivial and more impersonal ?

Please share your thoughts.
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Paulxx001 64M
21889 posts
8/7/2018 7:33 am

I don't know if I will be posting another blog post like this, very soon. I visited this woman's blog by accident and I was touched. But I've also been touched by what I read from the blogs I frequent. This place is more than just a sex, hook up site... But, with all due respect.... I wouldn't mind getting laid, periodically!

Paulxx001 64M
21889 posts
8/7/2018 7:43 am

I'll still be posting erotic stories.

Paulxx001 64M
21889 posts
8/7/2018 7:44 am

But I think, periodically, I'll splice it up with a random thought provoking post.... Yep...

Tmptrzz 59F  
103963 posts
8/7/2018 9:16 am

Paul, great blog this morning you know that's so sad about Debbie loosing her life, you know I have lost four friends here in the past few years due to CANCER they were terrific ladies its sad and it definitely puts our lives in perspective.

Do you think this site is more than a trivial sex hook up sex site? I do think its more and it can be a great place as I have matched up a few couples here and they are now happily married.

Do you think it is ONLY a sex hook up site? I think some of the men here believe join today get laid tonight but it doesn't always happen that way.

Or is it somewhere in between? I think if members take their time and get to know each other without rushing wonderful relationships can be had. And this one I speak from wonderful experiences I have had here..

What about your own blog... Do you share your personal thoughts or do you keep it trivial and more impersonal ? I do share personal thoughts about myself and my life as I am very careful though as we all should be..

Is this a guy OR a girl thing? I think it could be both honestly as I see more ladies just wanting a quick hookup too, but I have also seen a rise in scammers.

Are y'all shy or something, or just afraid to speak up? Oh HELL NO I am not afraid to speak my mind..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..

Paulxx001 replies on 8/7/2018 10:00 am:
Wow... That's scary stuff - loosing so many friends here. True enough about perspectives being twisted by some people about this site. You....? Holding back? Lol.. But I hear you. Thanks for popping in.

Paulxx001 64M
21889 posts
8/7/2018 4:46 pm

Interesting pov. Hmmm. Glib is good and you're right about posts sometimes getting you personal. Thanks for dropping by... I'll probably stick with smut... It's easier to write... Lol

Paulxx001 64M
21889 posts
8/7/2018 4:49 pm

I accidentally deleted your comment. F.. Ck...

pollly_anna 58F  
683 posts
8/7/2018 9:54 pm

In my minds eye it has always been more than a sex site . i've never thought of it as such. but i'm not one to visit the chat rooms much.....in there i see the guys seeing a.f.f. as only a hook up place with no thought to it being real people here. on the blogs , more people come to free their thoughts with a mix of fantasy stories or real life stories......I have a blog friend who lives in the sahara desert, he blogs only from may to sept...for yrs,yrs we chat throu out ourblogs he is 86 yrs old and well this is his 2nd summer he has not appeared,so i worry,he might of passed but I guess I'll never know.

Paulxx001 replies on 8/7/2018 10:04 pm:
Hmmm . . . Well that's a slightly sad story , (about your friend). And you're right - you'll probably never know...True about bloggers here -they seem more down to earth (notwithstanding me ), and a more thoughtful bunch . . But the chat rooms ...are totally shallow. . . I'll go in there once in a while for a laugh, but recently , I can't take more than a few minutes before I have the urge to rush out. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your pov.

pollly_anna 58F  
683 posts
8/7/2018 11:07 pm

just the pity not to many quebecers blog.

Paulxx001 replies on 8/7/2018 11:28 pm:
There are a few QC-ers here who do . . And then there is me. . . How many good ones do you need ? (puts in the perfunctory lol to make sure she understands he does not take himself too seriously) . .. . Uh yep ! Hey . . . I've got a fridge filled with food and drinks and there's a widescreen and some nice chairs - in the private room, if you ever want to visit . . .The A/C works great and you can visit even when I'm not there. I trust you.

pocogato12 69F  
36939 posts
8/8/2018 10:43 am

For me it definitely is more than a trivial sex site as evidenced by my own blog and by the men I have met

And then the men that join- a huge percentage are hung on a quick lay bender ( I think it's part of male DNA,)which is no good to any one if you dont take time to know the other person in some aspect. Take the time and even if it's FWB of NSA the sexual aspects/contact can be heightened

I only keep my mouth shut when what I want to say can hurt someone.
I try not to finger point but sometimes it cant be helped( you werent here for the WAR)

I've never venture into these chat rooms anymore. The pace is rude and tough if you are not a regular visitor

And I still have watermelon granita in the freezer

(Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group

Paulxx001 replies on 8/8/2018 2:12 pm:
Ahhh watermelon granata...! The war? (another time, over a glass of wine... ) Interesting pov...Thanks for dropping by. It's Happy Hour... Jello Slushies?

Enchanted3000 101F

8/8/2018 11:53 am

Good blog.
Yes, It’s more than that.
Even if it was meant to be predominantly about sex, it doesn’t have to be trivial or cheap.
As to sharing personal thoughts….
sure, you can share but you can’t expect others to understand you very well.
We do occasionally see some blogs with personal thoughts. Most of them don’t get much attention. If they do get comments ---most are just glib soothing words. It takes additional time and effort to write a good comment. By the time when the draft gets done, it feels either too good or too late.
The poster needs to enjoy one’s own doing. And the commenter enjoys one’s own commenting.

Paulxx001 replies on 8/8/2018 2:15 pm:
Wow... So kind of you to pop in, a second time. R u always this patient? Hmmm It's Happy Hour. Jello Slushies in the private room...? The DJ will take your requests...

misskissin 58F
87742 posts
8/9/2018 4:35 pm

I started my blog just to share erotic stories, hence the title "Erotica", that was 7 years ago... It was a surprise to me that as people commented on my stories people would ask questions about me. So I started random get to know me blogs mixed in. Life took over and it became a diary of random thoughts. Sometimes sexual, sometimes funny, sometimes very serious. It definitely became me. I've since deleted most with the exception of recent and a few really meaningful posts I did several years ago around "Life Lessons"... a very cathartic year for me. Bottom line, nothing is all about sex. Yes we are sexual and sensual beings but there is more to every one of us than that.

Paulxx001 replies on 8/9/2018 5:47 pm:
Wow. 7 years... I missed that. I'm a baby here. Thanks for sharing your pov

sexyldy1000 60F  
9340 posts
8/9/2018 5:32 pm

Despite how this site is promoted as a quick and trivial hook up site, it's whatever individual members want it to be. There's no right or wrong, it's highly individualized regardless whether you are a paid member or not.
The same thing applies to the blogs. Some use it to post about their daily thoughts and musings, almost like a diary. While others post hightly erotic and titillating stories based on their fantasies sprinkled with real encounters or just cut and paste naked pics from the internet.
It's not gender specific.
And yes, sometimes, you will come across very personal and sad stories. There are many lonely people who are simply looking to share and get some support and care in return.
Continue to use this site as is comfortable for you.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊.
Lest We Forget

Paulxx001 replies on 8/9/2018 5:40 pm:
Wow...Thanks for sharing your pov. I agree...

Paulxx001 replies on 8/10/2018 7:30 am:
I have noticed many lonely people here, even with those who speak bravely that they are not. 'Lonely', is one reason to be here. I do find bloggers and their friends, easier, more fun and more interesting to hang out with. I have met many nice people here, and perhaps one day I'll connect with someone in person. I hope you find who you are looking for. The bar in my private room is closed, but I'm serving coffee and Montreal bagels with cream cheese and smoked salmon. Invite a friend, if you want, and come on in!

SeaGirlFL 57F
9220 posts
8/12/2018 10:21 am

It is definitely more than just a sex/hook up site. I'm here again for the blogging, though it is definitely different than it was in 2008. There were more bloggers and fewer who posted only naked photos every day. Lots of fascinating things to read.

One of my favorite bloggers mused once that it would be nice if everyone here was required to blog, so you could find out a little more about them before ever reaching out. I kind of think that is a brilliant idea.

I love the little bits we find out about each other through posts and comments...even when we are "anonymous" to one another. I think that people's personalities come through, no matter what they are writing about. It's all very interesting.

I'm really glad you found your way here.

"Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black

Paulxx001 replies on 8/12/2018 11:20 am:
True... You hit all the key points, and yes - if more people blogged you'd know who they are. The fact that not everyone does is fine with me. I'm looking for a person who loves to read and who can express themselves. So true that you can tell a person's personality from their blog. Eeeee... I better watch what I say...... NOT.... LOL! Hey, thanks for popping in. As you know, my fridge is stocked and you're always welcome!

sweet_VM 63F
81559 posts
8/13/2018 8:04 am

Great post. This site is anything you make of it. Over the years I have made some great friends in blogland. I have also meet some awesome people from the site as well. It is more then just a sex hookup site. One couple I meet are now married in real life. They found true love. Hugs V

Become a blog watcher sweet_vm

Paulxx001 replies on 8/13/2018 1:16 pm:
They found 'true love'? Well, that's a happy story! I'm sure you have other happy stories to share. Thanks for stopping by.

GratefulGirl69 52F

8/27/2018 8:12 pm

Delayed as I may be in reading it, I very much appreciate this post.

Being a Gemini, maybe I'm just naturally inclined to see duality in things, but I think many would agree with me that this site has two faces... at least, to those of us who don't limit our engagement with it to the stripped down phone app's features, who venture into the deeper and more personal side of members through the blogs.

I love the blog community here... though I am coming to despise the dating/hookup side of this A.F.F. Janus, which almost seems designed for everyone's failure. The latter encourages exchange at the most superficial level- many (if not most) won't even look at a profile before making an effort to connect with someone... and the former encourages plunging into each other's lives with an honesty and intimacy that is pretty much unparalleled, unique among all of the blog platforms out there because people can say almost anything here.

My heart aches for Debbie, at the loss of her... and so much of her life and feelings are recorded here- and is there anyone in her life who sees those things? Are her daughters privy to her last thoughts here, or only us strangers? There's something a little sad about the fact that, this being and "adult" site, some of the things we share that the regular people in our lives might delight to know, will never be available to them.

As I've mentioned, my daughter is the primary intended audience for my blog- I write things that I want her to know about me, for the days when I won't be around any longer, when I go the way of Debbie. I do print my posts and save them in a folder for her, as I don't think there's any way she could ever find me HERE.

I appreciate that you appreciate the humanity of all of the folks here, not just the bloggers, but everyone. The overall dynamics of this site make it difficult to remember that sometimes- difficult to even care sometimes... but it serves us all, I think, to always keep in mind that there are living human beings behind every screen name... and we're all here- every one of us- because we feel a desire, even a need, to connect with others on one level or another.

Thank you for the thoughtful reminder of that- and for the lovely nod towards someone who may be gone now, but who continues to inspire through the words she left here.


Paulxx001 replies on 8/27/2018 11:58 pm:
It is admirable of you to keep your blog for your daughter... and truth will be told - you are one of the 'real ones' here. Thanks for dropping by and for sharing your pov.

smartasswoman 64F  
35211 posts
9/6/2018 7:56 am

My blog has evolved. Early on I did post erotic stories, but after a few years my fantasy well ran dry, haha. Probably coinciding with changes in libido/sex drive that have gradually occurred over the years...

Anyway, try being vulnerable now and then - you don’t have to always hide behind your Jell-O shots, sir.

Paulxx001 replies on 9/8/2018 2:01 am:
True.. The Jello slushies r a prop... Sort of. I did write Accidentally In Love... more recently... I stepped out of the box with that one There is a warning that I posted. Thanks for dropping by. Changing libido? Only temporary... Right? Lol

Paulxx001 replies on 9/8/2018 7:03 am:
Hmm... My problem is that that I'm a little too vulnerable... My blog would be a dark place if I started sharing what I really think. Balance... I guess...

smartasswoman 64F  
35211 posts
9/8/2018 11:10 am

I'm pretty sure the changed libido isn't temporary...but I'm a lot more OK with it than I thought I'd be.

Maybe a topic for a blog post some day rather than replying at length here

Paulxx001 replies on 9/8/2018 3:22 pm:
Hmmm... Really? Well... I've got a private Mail room if you want to talk... The fridge is stocked lol

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