Hookup, Find Sex or Meet Someone Hot Now

Appearance 101 and it Wasn't an Elective  

Sapphire_Mystery 64F
233 posts
8/31/2019 11:59 am
Appearance 101 and it Wasn't an Elective

This post is only viewable by AdultFriendFinder members.
Join AdultFriendFinder now!

Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
8/31/2019 12:16 pm

"When I am an old woman I shall wear purple. With a red hat which doesnโ€™t go, and doesnโ€™t suit me." From the poem "Warning" by Jenny Joseph.


midhorn69 64M
23 posts
8/31/2019 12:24 pm

the body does not make a person. it's the heart and soul that makes that person.


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
8/31/2019 12:30 pm

    Quoting midhorn69:
    the body does not make a person. it's the heart and soul that makes that person.
Agreed, midhorn69. Thanks for stopping by my blog. Have a great day.


benard69 63M/63F  
5176 posts
8/31/2019 12:36 pm

Looks like you have answered your own many questions...And Bravo to you for enjoying and loving yourself first and foremost!


dogslife2live01 68M
1984 posts
8/31/2019 12:48 pm

well if you gravitate towards controlling type personalities then you experienced a lower than normal amount of criticism. on the other hand if they were even balanced personality then you received more than normal.
but like my late mom always said
if you don't like my face then it is not my face you can kiss!!


there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


PhilAbustR 57M
23 posts
8/31/2019 2:19 pm

Great blog. There are many lessons to be learned here. Interesting that you remember so many comments from your past.


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
8/31/2019 2:36 pm

    Quoting benard69:
    Looks like you have answered your own many questions...And Bravo to you for enjoying and loving yourself first and foremost!
Thanks for reading, Benard69. Yes, life is good!


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
8/31/2019 2:39 pm

    Quoting dogslife2live01:
    well if you gravitate towards controlling type personalities then you experienced a lower than normal amount of criticism. on the other hand if they were even balanced personality then you received more than normal.
    but like my late mom always said
    if you don't like my face then it is not my face you can kiss!!

That's a cute/funny quote of your mom! Have a wonderful evening, Dogslife!


SpringBerry1991 29M
28 posts
8/31/2019 3:41 pm

I tend to fall for the person when I have feelings for someone, looks are a bonus


pocogato12 68F  
33727 posts
8/31/2019 3:58 pm

I LOVE dogs mom's quote and that's exactly how I live

(Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group


MufMunchHer 58M
34 posts
8/31/2019 4:11 pm

The real beauty of any woman can be found while you make love to her in the dark. The sweet soft conversation as you play around all as your hand slides around her sweet soft curves. Then sounds of her passionate moans as you gently touch those erotic zones that excite her so. Then at that point she makes your body explode. Looks have nothing to do with any of the sweet pleasures she can give you.


Heathen_G 61M
7863 posts
8/31/2019 4:15 pm

Those listed remarks, I would not categorize as "Inordinate".

Parents use to [once upon a time , very long ago] be concerned about their children putting on weight, so I'm going to say that doesn't even count as criticism. Just good parenting.

The winter hat [probably not in winter], the earrings, the bra... the weight guess ....I mean come on... that's not inordinate either.

As for what your ex husband thought was too revealing? Maybe he was right, I have no idea.

Anyone of us, spending time with someone else, or others, is going to get "Appearance feedback"..... that's just part of being social animals.


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
9/1/2019 1:28 am

    Quoting PhilAbustR:
    Great blog. There are many lessons to be learned here. Interesting that you remember so many comments from your past.
Thanks for stopping by, Philabustr. Sometimes I wish my memory of my past wasn't as good as it is! lol


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
9/1/2019 1:29 am

    Quoting SpringBerry1991:
    I tend to fall for the person when I have feelings for someone, looks are a bonus
That's a nice attitude, SpringBerry. Thanks for reading and commenting.


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
9/1/2019 1:31 am

    Quoting pocogato12:
    I LOVE dogs mom's quote and that's exactly how I live
Agreed, Pocogato. Dogslife's comments ring true with me too.


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
9/1/2019 1:34 am

    Quoting MufMunchHer:
    The real beauty of any woman can be found while you make love to her in the dark. The sweet soft conversation as you play around all as your hand slides around her sweet soft curves. Then sounds of her passionate moans as you gently touch those erotic zones that excite her so. Then at that point she makes your body explode. Looks have nothing to do with any of the sweet pleasures she can give you.
Thank you for the nice reply mufmunch!


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
9/1/2019 2:00 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    Those listed remarks, I would not categorize as "Inordinate".

    Parents use to [once upon a time , very long ago] be concerned about their children putting on weight, so I'm going to say that doesn't even count as criticism. Just good parenting.

    The winter hat [probably not in winter], the earrings, the bra... the weight guess ....I mean come on... that's not inordinate either.

    As for what your ex husband thought was too revealing? Maybe he was right, I have no idea.

    Anyone of us, spending time with someone else, or others, is going to get "Appearance feedback"..... that's just part of being social animals.
Thanks so much for the very interesting reply, Heathen_G.

Not sure why anyone would wear a winter hat in any season other than winter but if they did I wouldn't be one to judge.

The last few words of your reply, about how humans are social animals ... right on target! A great idea for a future post. Thank you!


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
9/1/2019 2:13 am

    Quoting  :

Thanks for stopping by and reading, Superbjversion 2. That never even occurred to me about my mother's comment, but now that I think about it I bet you're right!! Yeah, the ex thing .. life is way better post divorce.


Newmartingale 40M
15 posts
9/11/2019 12:02 pm

I guess it only matters if you let it disturb you. However, I do agree that women are judged more harshly than men in than men in the looks aspect. Hopefully, that will change, but if it will it will very slow. There is certainly a lot more than looks, but in some aspects attraction is the key, especially on a site like AdultFriendFinder or any online dating, and this is mainly decided by looks (which probably goes both ways).


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
9/12/2019 2:27 am

    Quoting Newmartingale:
    I guess it only matters if you let it disturb you. However, I do agree that women are judged more harshly than men in than men in the looks aspect. Hopefully, that will change, but if it will it will very slow. There is certainly a lot more than looks, but in some aspects attraction is the key, especially on a site like AdultFriendFinder or any online dating, and this is mainly decided by looks (which probably goes both ways).
Thanks for stopping by and reading, newmartingale. I agree with your observations. Have a wonderful day!


Paulxx001 63M
16603 posts
5/6/2020 12:57 pm

I think we should all do and it depends - on how thick our skin is and how comfortable we are in it.
I was always fairly comfortable in mine and rarely took offense with any remarks. On the other hand - as a woman - perhaps the words of another were harsher.
Hey... Ya came out of it intact. Good for you! ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ˜Š ๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿ˜Ž


Sapphire_Mystery 64F
134 posts
5/7/2020 1:59 am

Thanks for your comment, Paulxx001. Having come out of it intact is the most important thing!


Become a member to create a blog