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SexyGILFNeedsLuv 64F  
163 posts
9/13/2020 10:04 pm
WTF Is With Guys?

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fashionablegma 77F
8159 posts
9/13/2020 10:29 pm

Well i would expect that kind of behaviour here rather than a vanilla site


Pepper_Pott 36F
229 posts
9/13/2020 11:00 pm

Men in their 60's come from a time when was scarily ignored.

At your age you should of shown better judgement and female instinct and not gone to his sexual molester den.


ULIXBIG 66M
8665 posts
9/13/2020 11:34 pm

"Against my better judgment, I did."
Maybe you should trust your better judgement ...


Wis54603 54M
13 posts
9/14/2020 12:06 am

You sent nudes over a Vanilla Site,Not the best idea,That gives him a Mixed Message,Be Straight to the point with Men,I tried for 10 years and got nothing but lonely nights at home.Alone since 2006 and gave up back in 2015 Best Of Luck To You


SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:03 am:
No I sent the nudes to his phone, not over the vanilla site.

Wis54603 54M
13 posts
9/14/2020 12:08 am

Never knew what i was missing with a good woman until they passed me over lol


donaldstill1973 47M
38 posts
9/14/2020 12:15 am

" he wanted me meet him in his hotel room"

That is a total red flag. Please be more careful. This is the internet, who knows, the guys you meet could range from creeps to seriously dangerous. I strongly suggest that your first meeting(s) be in a public place. Trust that little voice in the back of your head

"It was very strange. I felt like I was seen as strictly a sex object and not as a person. Am I missing something here?."

No, not at all. He DID see you strictly as a sex object.


luuuvestolick 58M  
86 posts
9/14/2020 12:16 am

we live in a very scary world right now where common decency is becoming a rare commodity and unfortunately trust is at a premium. Even the very innocent looking (both male and female) can turn out to be wolves in sheep clothing. Where did it all go wrong or was it never right?


TippyMoreland 59M

9/14/2020 5:11 am

Just a thought here.
If you ar not planning a fuck date then sending nude pictures might not be the best plan.
Going to a hotel room to see after sending nude pictures not a good idea in my mind either.
That being said; regardless of pictures you did say meet to eat and that should be respected.
I'm a slut...with morals; and I meet with zero expectations and live in a world where no means no.


SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:05 am:
Point taken on the nude photos. I told him I wanted to meet at a restaurant and got the "come by my hotel just for a minute" line. Won't do that again.

lov2suk1969 51M
12 posts
9/14/2020 5:16 am

first mistake was sending him nude pictures even tho they didnt show anything... 2nd mistake was meeting him in his room those 2 mistakes made him think you wanted sex


Yours_4A_knight 55M
1423 posts
9/14/2020 5:30 am

Maybe it is the part of the world that I live in, or just the assumption that all men are going to behave like the guy in question, but my experience with this or a more mainstream site is that I must be approaching women wrong because I don't ever even get to the stage of exchanging pictures.

But that being said and as others have perhaps said before, sending overly sexualized, in his mind at least, made this about sex.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.


Massass1963 57M
543 posts
9/14/2020 6:15 am

I see you have a lot of advice, generally good, already. I'll weigh in, anyway. Most women want a "normal" guy. Normal guys do exist, but a normal guy would put himself in the shoes of the women when deciding where to meet, initially. I'd NEVER ask a women to meet for the first time in a hotel. Instead, it would be for a drink or coffee, her choice on those two choices. THis isn't just for her benefit, but also for me. Perhaps I don't want to take it further if she isn't what I expected. A hotel room is incredibly awkward if I decide I am not into her for any reason. For either of us, it is potentially dangerous to meet in total privacy for the first time.


CleavageFan4U 63M  
63609 posts
9/14/2020 6:42 am

It seems you repeatedly ignored your gut feelings. That certainly doesn't excuse his behavior, but still not a good plan.

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Blueyedguy823 54M  
663 posts
9/14/2020 7:23 am

Never. Never. Never Ever meet a dude in his hotel room unless you are ready to have sex with him. The number one signal to a man that a woman is ready to have sex with you? She accepts an invite to his hotel room. That's the scenario that runs through a man's head. Right, wrong or otherwise... that's the truth.


SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:08 am:
I get it now. Won't do it again. Thanks.

countrygal848 70F  
66 posts
9/14/2020 8:24 am

In this day and age it boggles my mind that women of any age wouold go to a strangers hotel room for a first meeting. I don't want to dump on you however you could have ended up a statistic. Just saying


papis_baby_girl 41F
5385 posts
9/14/2020 12:33 pm

and he wanted me meet him in his hotel room. Against my better judgment, I did.
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are you nuts?
You obviously knew what he wanted and you fell into his trap.

Women set the tone on a date. If you are truly looking for a LTR, you should have never gone to his hotel. And you question why you are seen as a sex object.

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SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:10 am:
So somehow this is my fault? Even though he told me it was just for a minute. As to my common sense and being 63, I was married for 30 years so maybe I haven't had the experience you've had.

papis_baby_girl 41F
5385 posts
9/14/2020 12:34 pm

    Quoting Blueyedguy823:
    Never. Never. Never Ever meet a dude in his hotel room unless you are ready to have sex with him. The number one signal to a man that a woman is ready to have sex with you? She accepts an invite to his hotel room. That's the scenario that runs through a man's head. Right, wrong or otherwise... that's the truth.
you would think at 63 that would be common sense...

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fisherman5999 57M  
707 posts
9/14/2020 8:35 pm

So..., you sent him vanilla 'nudes', then you meet him 1/2 way between homes, at a hotel. Then you stayed over an hour with him feeling you, & making out. You didn't get up & leave when he started undressing. What message do you think you sent him ? Did he offer you money ?


SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:11 am:
No money offerred but it felt like he should have. Lol

BiggLala 48F  
29059 posts
9/14/2020 10:01 pm

I find it difficult to comment without jumping on the "it's your fault", "you should have known better" bandwagon. That's projecting responsibility of his behavior onto you.

That said, you do have some accountability in this situation in the sense that you failed to follow your better judgement (your own words). I immediately knew where this was going when I read that he wanted you to come to his hotel room. That is a red flag that warrants an all stop. However, I'm curious about what agreement the two of you made on when/where to meet. I ask because it sounds like you were not as definitive on what YOU want.

Lesson learned...use your discernment and listen to your instincts.

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SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:13 am:
Our agreement was to go to a local restaurant to talk. He threw in the "meet me at my hotel" thing pretty much last minute. I NEVER had previously discussed meeting him at a hotel.

s2ndegree 61M  
9732 posts
9/15/2020 11:08 am

Both of your houses are about a mile apart?
So he got the hotel room just for the occasion?
Not one of his texts even mentioned any apology or
sorry for being out of line?Count your blessings!

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SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:15 am:
No an hour away. Not a single apology or anything like it. He kept asking when he could have sex with me and what "tests" he had to pass. He really didn't seem to get it at all. Yes, I did count my blessings that it didn't go any further.

BiggLala 48F  
29059 posts
9/23/2020 10:44 am

Re: your response to me that, "Our agreement was to go to a local restaurant to talk."
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In that case, and if nothing else, I'd say going forward to enforce that "ALL stop" I mentioned, and stand firm to your agreements. He demonstrated his lack of respect for you and the agreement you made. I understand your time was wasted by driving at that point, but wasting time and gas is much better than putting yourself in a situation with such a person.

Glad you're safe, and good luck going forward.

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TinselTreeTart 52F
42 posts
9/26/2020 10:21 pm

you give a lot of mixed messages..you need to take some time and decide what it is you really want one minute its an LTR next minute its polyamory, you are on a regular site sending nude pics...I have to be honest reeks of desperation no man finds desperation sexy for anything more than its intention a roll in the hay


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