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SexyGILFNeedsLuv 65F
169 posts
9/13/2020 10:04 pm
WTF Is With Guys?

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Cornflake_Girl_ 36F  
495 posts
9/13/2020 11:00 pm

Men in their 60's come from a time when was scarily ignored.

At your age you should of shown better judgement and female instinct and not gone to his sexual molester den.

9254 posts
9/13/2020 11:34 pm

"Against my better judgment, I did."
Maybe you should trust your better judgement ...

Wis54603 55M

9/14/2020 12:06 am

You sent nudes over a Vanilla Site,Not the best idea,That gives him a Mixed Message,Be Straight to the point with Men,I tried for 10 years and got nothing but lonely nights at home.Alone since 2006 and gave up back in 2015 Best Of Luck To You

SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:03 am:
No I sent the nudes to his phone, not over the vanilla site.

Wis54603 55M

9/14/2020 12:08 am

Never knew what i was missing with a good woman until they passed me over lol

donaldstill1973 48M
38 posts
9/14/2020 12:15 am

" he wanted me meet him in his hotel room"

That is a total red flag. Please be more careful. This is the internet, who knows, the guys you meet could range from creeps to seriously dangerous. I strongly suggest that your first meeting(s) be in a public place. Trust that little voice in the back of your head

"It was very strange. I felt like I was seen as strictly a sex object and not as a person. Am I missing something here?."

No, not at all. He DID see you strictly as a sex object.

luuuvestolick 59M

9/14/2020 12:16 am

we live in a very scary world right now where common decency is becoming a rare commodity and unfortunately trust is at a premium. Even the very innocent looking (both male and female) can turn out to be wolves in sheep clothing. Where did it all go wrong or was it never right?

lov2suk1969 52M  
104 posts
9/14/2020 5:16 am

first mistake was sending him nude pictures even tho they didnt show anything... 2nd mistake was meeting him in his room those 2 mistakes made him think you wanted sex

Yours_4A_knight 56M
1501 posts
9/14/2020 5:30 am

Maybe it is the part of the world that I live in, or just the assumption that all men are going to behave like the guy in question, but my experience with this or a more mainstream site is that I must be approaching women wrong because I don't ever even get to the stage of exchanging pictures.

But that being said and as others have perhaps said before, sending overly sexualized, in his mind at least, made this about sex.

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.

CleavageFan4U 64M  
68340 posts
9/14/2020 6:42 am

It seems you repeatedly ignored your gut feelings. That certainly doesn't excuse his behavior, but still not a good plan.

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Blueyedguy823 55M
1001 posts
9/14/2020 7:23 am

Never. Never. Never Ever meet a dude in his hotel room unless you are ready to have sex with him. The number one signal to a man that a woman is ready to have sex with you? She accepts an invite to his hotel room. That's the scenario that runs through a man's head. Right, wrong or otherwise... that's the truth.

SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:08 am:
I get it now. Won't do it again. Thanks.

oral4bothU 58M  
926 posts
9/14/2020 8:35 pm

So..., you sent him vanilla 'nudes', then you meet him 1/2 way between homes, at a hotel. Then you stayed over an hour with him feeling you, & making out. You didn't get up & leave when he started undressing. What message do you think you sent him ? Did he offer you money ?

SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:11 am:
No money offerred but it felt like he should have. Lol

BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
9/14/2020 10:01 pm

I find it difficult to comment without jumping on the "it's your fault", "you should have known better" bandwagon. That's projecting responsibility of his behavior onto you.

That said, you do have some accountability in this situation in the sense that you failed to follow your better judgement (your own words). I immediately knew where this was going when I read that he wanted you to come to his hotel room. That is a red flag that warrants an all stop. However, I'm curious about what agreement the two of you made on when/where to meet. I ask because it sounds like you were not as definitive on what YOU want.

Lesson learned...use your discernment and listen to your instincts.

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SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:13 am:
Our agreement was to go to a local restaurant to talk. He threw in the "meet me at my hotel" thing pretty much last minute. I NEVER had previously discussed meeting him at a hotel.

s2ndegree 62M  
9797 posts
9/15/2020 11:08 am

Both of your houses are about a mile apart?
So he got the hotel room just for the occasion?
Not one of his texts even mentioned any apology or
sorry for being out of line?Count your blessings!

Using more than all the road!

SexyGILFNeedsLuv replies on 9/23/2020 12:15 am:
No an hour away. Not a single apology or anything like it. He kept asking when he could have sex with me and what "tests" he had to pass. He really didn't seem to get it at all. Yes, I did count my blessings that it didn't go any further.

BiggLala 49F  
30139 posts
9/23/2020 10:44 am

Re: your response to me that, "Our agreement was to go to a local restaurant to talk."
In that case, and if nothing else, I'd say going forward to enforce that "ALL stop" I mentioned, and stand firm to your agreements. He demonstrated his lack of respect for you and the agreement you made. I understand your time was wasted by driving at that point, but wasting time and gas is much better than putting yourself in a situation with such a person.

Glad you're safe, and good luck going forward.

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