My sexual milestones: masturbation
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Posted:Feb 17, 2015 5:54 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2018 4:41 am
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For years I've felt like I was a freak when it came to sex and that no one else shared the same struggles I experienced as I learned about my body and how to enjoy sex. A few years ago I dated a man who showed me this was not the case. I'm beginning a brief serious of blogs about my own sexual experiences in an effort to make others not feel so alone as they take their own sexual journey. I'm curious to know if others had similar experiences or why their own was so different.
My first sexual milestone was learning how to masturbate properly.
When I was a and began to notice boys, I started to think about physical intimacy for the first time. Initially, I didn't really understand what I wanted but began to imaging what sex might be like. At that time I assumed it was little more than a boy peeing between my legs but I didn't see what could be fun about that.
But with hormones racing I began to experiment. My first success was sitting in the bathtub with my feet up on the wall and my vagina carefully placed under the faucet with the water pouring in at full blast. It felt wonderful! It was like I had discovered a new toy! At some point my parents were concerned and asked why I was taking so many baths.
Gradually I moved on and began playing with the lips of my vagina using my fingers after I had gotten into bed and had some privacy. At first it was frustrating. I had a girlfriend who was already having sex and I felt like I was falling behind because I hadn't even had an orgasm. With practice I got there but it still took quite a while. Afterwards, I'd be worn out, hot and sweaty and must have looked like I'd been pounding nails or doing hard labor.
This was a major turning point. I could have orgasms whenever I found the time and privacy. My hobby became finding phallic shaped house hold appliances that I could use to masturbate that could be hidden in plain site. I probably spent a year having sex with cucumbers, Coke bottles, the fat end of a broken pool cue, ice cubes, a small plastic pipe I found in our garage, a container designed to hold your toothbrush when you travel and even tube of body lotion to name a few. I don't recommend any of these things over a sex toy but when you're a 13 year old girl you don't have a lot of options.
After all this practice playing with myself, I was a master of the five minute orgasm and entered high school determined to begin my sex life. However all this solo practice had not prepared me for the facts that real sex involved two people who were working together to enjoy the experience and high school boys are terrible at sex.
To be continued...
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Anal Sex
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Posted:Jul 1, 2014 4:41 pm
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2017 12:32 pm
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I've noticed more guys are asking for anal sex so I thought I'd focus this blog post on the topic. From my experience it seems as if younger guys, the ones in their 20s really want it, so it may be a generational thing.
If the guy you're with is really into anal, tell him not to push it too much on the first date. Any kind of sex, especially anal, is very personal and involves your being completely comfortable with him and it's rarely possible to achieve that level of comfort on a first date. Or even on a second or third date many times!
Keep an open mind to it. Many men love it and it really is something special and enjoyable you can offer your partner once he has earned the priviledge.
If you've never done it before, you should probably wait until you're in your next long term relationship. Anal is not really something you should try the first time with an AdultFriendFinder guy. You need to completely trust the man you have anal with and not wonder if he's going to call again.
Every time you do anal, it really does require a lot of lube. I'm never ready for it without lube and have to spend considerable time getting ready. Your anus is very tight and your partner can tear some of the sensitive tissues back there if you don't use it. And once you actually decide to do anal, be sure he puts more lube on every few minutes. It doesn't last long and after 10 or 15 minutes it may feel like he never used lube in the first place!
I also have my partners take their time with extensive foreplay. This gets me into the mood and really increases my comfort level. I find when I'm turned on, I can be much more daring when it comes to sex. Men who are obsessed with anal often want to lick or play with your hole and you should encourage it. This helps open it up so that when you does begin to penetrate you, it goes in much more smoothly.
As he puts it in, don't tense up because this shrinks the hole and dramaticly increases friction - which can hurt! This was my main problem throughout high school and college and I just assumed I couldn't do it right. Only after I learned to relax could I enjoy it. A lot of my friends who have given up on anal have done so because they are so tense that it hurts. This is very unfortunate because anal really can be fun once you figure it out.
Communicate with your partner about what you're feeling. If it feels terrific, give him a sexy moan. But if it hurts, don't let him keep going. Talk to him! Don't suffer in silence. I know too many people who keep quiet about the pain and they end up very sore or reluctant to try it again.
Have your partner take it easy back there when he's doing it. Some guys get so caught up they start pounding away without realizing how much they may be hurting you. You may be so caught up with it that you don't realize either until after he pulls out. There's something about sexual passion that covers up a lot of pain. But after your done, suddenly you'll feel all the damage you ignored and really regret it. Great anal is easy if you both take it easy!
Don't let the mess scare you. Anal can be a little more messy than most sex acts but it's definitely worth it. Keep some soap and towels nearby to deal with any mess you both make.
And most of all, try to have fun with it. There's a variety of sex acts, positions or even sex games you can play that focus on anal sex. Find out what you like, what's safe, and just have fun.
Hope this helps!
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How to make a great impression on your first AdultFriendFinder meeting
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Posted:Jun 17, 2014 6:02 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2018 4:44 am
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I've been off and on AdultFriendFinder for years and have followed peoples' blogs about their sex lives. I recently decided to join in the fun and share some of my perspectives on sex, AdultFriendFinder and anything else that I can think of. I hope you enjoy what I have to share.
For my first blog I'd like to offer some tips to guys who want to make a great impression when they meet someone on AdultFriendFinder for the first time. So many men completely flop the first date and this spoils their chances. It may seem that woman on here have it easy and are too quick to change our minds once we've met a guy but in all honesty, when we meet for a drink, we've already made up our minds that we're ready for sex. If it doesn't happen, it usually means the guy crossed a line somewhere and today's blog is to help men be more successful in wooing their dates into bed.
#1. Don't rush us to meet up at a motel or your place. That's too scary and way too forward. Meeting in a bar for a drink is a great way to start. When we're meeting a guy for the first time, we're almost overcome by doubts about whether or not we should be doing this or will we regret the date if we do jump into bed with him or even maybe AdultFriendFinder was a big mistake in the first place. Meeting in a bar feels like a normal date and is a very comfortable situation. There's nothing improper about meeting for drinks and seeing if you click.
#2. Don't talk about your ex girlfriend, other girls you're sleeping with or even your current wife or girlfriend if you have one. Nothing is a bigger turn off than being told we remind you of someone else or we're prettier or sexier than that other girl you were just with.
#3. Read the signals your date gives you to indicate she's open to sleeping with you. I generally know in 15 minutes if I'm comfortable enough to sleep with a guy I just met. Once I've made up my mind, all I can do is flirt, laugh at his jokes and maybe make a few comments to suggest I'm interested. I've had a lot of AdultFriendFinder dates where I'm ready but the guy fails to pick up on the hints. After an hour or so, I usually give up and that door sort of closes for the guy. Then it's a frustrating night for the both of us.
Be prepared that your date may decide she doesn't want to sleep with you and pick up on her signals. When I decide not to I usually stop talking and just listen. I've been told I stop smiling but I consider this impolite and don't do this on purpose. Once you figure out she's not interested, don't keep trying. Most women won't change their mind and the date really becomes an unpleasant chore.
#4. Know where you're going to have sex. I've agreed to sex many times only to be told the guy has a roommate and he clearly isn't going to pay for a hotel room. It gets worse when he suggests we do it in the car. I have enjoyed car sex but usually once I am into the guy and we're on our 20th date. If you can't provide a place to actually have sex, you're both probably going to go without.
#5. Pick a place to meet that neither of you go to often. You don't want to have the local waitress talking about your last AdultFriendFinder date when you show up with your friends a few days later.
#6. Take time to just talk casually about romantic relationships without getting too graphic in public. It always seems when someone says "AdultFriendFinder" or "sex" in public, everyone in the bar probably heard him and that's embarrassing. The conversation is a way to build up how you communicate so when you're alone you both feel comfortable sharing what you like or what you'd like your new partner to do sexually.
I'll add to this list in future postings. Thanks for reading!
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