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Kissing....kissing....and more kissing!
Posted:May 10, 2014 7:02 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2014 5:37 pm

Okay, a quick little post as I sit here watching hockey...seems like the perfect time to talk about kissing.

I love kissing. Nothing can be a bigger turn on, or turn off than kissing. I have been fortunate enough to be with some pretty great kissers (thank goodness!) but have experienced some not so great kissing. These bad experience have been with both men and women and seem to lack the same PAPOW! They were too soft, not really present...kinda flat.

Now don't get me wrong! I do NOT like having my face chewed on, or a tongue shoved so far down my throat that it tweaks my gag reflex (and I try hard to control that!). But I am just not a fan of those soft, limp kisses...much like a limp handshake! There! That is it!!

Kissing is the sexual equivalent to a handshake! When you go for an interview, you need a confident, solid handshake...not sweaty, clammy or limp. The same can be said for a kiss!!! You need a confident kiss that tells (no...SHOWS) the person that you want to own them, own their body, their orgasms....oh helllllllz yes!

Kissing, when done right can almost bring me to orgasm...when done right, I am humping your thigh!

I think I am a good kisser (although I am sure everyone does) but I suppose I am only as good as the person I am kissing. Have I mentioned I love kissing?

Well, as I watch my team lose at hockey...I will wrap this up.
May all your kisses be confident...and your panties be damp
(or cock be twitchy)
Back and excitement is brewing....!
Posted:Apr 14, 2014 4:59 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2014 5:38 pm

Well it has been a long while since I have enjoyed the visual goodies of this site and the messages that await in my inbox. That is, until the messages include simple two lines generally comprised of 'hey, nice pic. like a big cock?'

Now, don't get me wrong. Who DOESNT like a big cock but to be honest, a more thoughtful email often breaks the monotony of simple cock shots. When I think about it, it IS a sex site and well, generally cocks are a given (as are tits, pussy and ass). But, is it wrong the enjoy the excitement of new connections? The anticipation of the next message? The build-up to that first meeting? I mean, I am NOT looking for a marriage proposal or heck, even a committed relationship (got both of those already, thanks) but is it too much to ask that there be a bit of effort?

I am a 'people-person' who has an entire career of engaging others, making them feel like they are the most important person in that room (till I negotiate what I want from them or their company). So, naturally, this spills over into other aspects of my life. When I choose to take on a 'lover', I want them to feel like the most important person in the room, the sexiest, most desirable person...is too much to want the same in return?

So! My question to you:

How do you make the moves on your next 'partner'? A cock-shot, one-liner? or an exciting series of messages and build-up?
Much ado about....much adieu....goodbye until we meet again...
Posted:Sep 17, 2012 9:34 am
Last Updated:Sep 18, 2012 6:03 pm

For some reason that title seems fitting...also makes me think of the show 'Wayne and Shuster'...which inevitably make me giggle.

What are we saying goodbye to? We are saying goodbye to the summer, for one. Always a bit of a depressing time but I adore the fall weather so there are beginnings here.

This summer has had me saying goodbye to long-time lovers. Again, that has me sad even though I was initiating the goodbyes. But, like with the change of the seasons there comes new lovers. That's a plus! But with new lovers, I am saying goodbye to things that I once found acceptable or even deemed 'normal'. While I still remain focussed on the need for the 'something to add to my great life' and the notion that I am not looking to change my situation, I am now very comfortable in tossing aside things that do not make me feel good inside...or show me the respect I deserve.

I am very much of the philosophy that if I let you cum on my tits, or pound my ass, its because I want it. I think that I can still be a sexjally festive gal 'aka slut in the boudoir' and still be respected and worshipped like a goddess.

I will still adhere to the belief that if you can stimulate my mind, my pussy is not far behind....a quick show of dampness in my congested pussy can show that. But I'm leaving behind some of my driving need to please others and to leave a bit of myself behind.

Here's to the Fall Festivities!!!!! May they all be orgasmic!
Over Exposure....of my bits
Posted:Jun 1, 2012 5:05 pm
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2014 5:40 pm
So...I had a date a wee while ago with a friend that I have seen a few times. We met here, actually...about two years ago. Hit it off instantly! Lots of common interest beyond sex and the chemistry was palpable. He and I had spent months together....every few weeks, enjoying each others company, talking about life and some wildly crazy sex. Then like all things, the natural progression of these kinds of 'affairs' took its course and slowly we lost touch.

Out of no where, months after our last encounter, I get an email. He was 'checking in', like areal friend in our friends with benefits arrangement. I was pleasantly surprised and naturally agreed that we needed to see each other again and catch up. We texted and emailed naughty things to each other...reminiscing about blowjobs during his conference call with work (I played hookie that day) while he worked from home, and some of the best anal sex I have ever had. I did notice that this time, he seemed more targeted, and 'dominant' in his messages. There was a definite tone of hunger in his words....he needed me, he needed the pleasures we had experienced together.

Now, I am a pretty open gal. I love pleasure almost as much as I love intimacy. I am a true pleaser, wanting to hear my lover speak to me while I bring him (or her) to height of pleasure. I also like to be an engaged listener, asking about their lives and history. I will say as I have said before, there is NOTHING as fantastic as orgasms at the hands of someone you know and have a vested interested in.

So...this time, my friend asked me to wear a skirt with no panties when we met for drinks. SO unlike him to be so forward and actually request something. Naturally I obliged (although, man I had no idea how slippy my pussy would get with a Brazilian wax and NO panties as the day went by and our meeting time was approaching), and walked into the pub after work in my skirt and lowcut blouse.

We hugged, his hand brushing my bottom checking for panty lines (of which there were none), and enjoyed a quick drink. Upon leaving, he was drinking me in with his eyes commenting on my cleavage. As we drove to a more secluded place, his hand worked up my thigh and moaned at the heat eminating from my now drenched pussy.

I felt like I was in a movie! I had no clue of space and time as he brought me to orgasm while he drove along the busy downtown roads. It was one of the most intense moments of my life...I just let go, not caring who saw me or what I looked like in his eyes.

Built a Better Me...or your money back!
Posted:May 29, 2012 3:57 pm
Last Updated:Jun 1, 2012 5:52 pm
Okay so that may be slightly misleading as I don't have sex for money and if I did, no way am I giving my hard earn cash back! I did however recently (well the last few months) been recovering for stomach surgery. As a one-time BBW, I seem to have found myself almost half the person I was. With that comes the nasty after effects of quick and extreme weight-loss: SKIN!

Now I will admit that I love the side effects of increased stamina, oodles of energy and confidence in my self as a person (not that it was ever really lacking). But I am acutely aware that I am not as 'perky' as I once was and that I enjoy my 'girls' more in a lovely piece of lingerie rather than out and about! OH! Another plus is that new lingerie! Bra and panties that MATCH!!!!

So here I find myself again, as my hornitude (aka humping every leg I can find) returns in full form, putting myself out there in a naked forum. How will it be? Will I be nervous being naked with someone for the first time post surgery? What will it feel like having a hand run down my back to my bottom? so many questions...what are your thoughts on body and body image?

Fantastical Frustrations
Posted:Sep 25, 2011 11:32 am
Last Updated:May 29, 2012 3:42 pm
So...here are some thoughts that have plagued my mind and funked my horny...sigh.

I started off my adventure of exploration and sexual festiveness with a laundry list of fantasies. For example...I wanted to feel hands...alll over my body...smells of pussy and cum filling my nostrils...cocks everywhere looked...bodies, skin, lush colours and sounds...my senses overwhelmed with orgasmic pleasure of my mind, body and senses...CHECK!

I wanted to experience two cocks at once, two women at once, facials and anal, ATM, young men, older men...CHECK! CHECK! CHECKIDY CHECK!

Sigh....so here I sit....two years following and when I am asked by a potential new lover in their deep, lustful voice: "What are you fantasies, baby?" my sensual response is: "....eerrrmmmm...." HAWT!

I have to stop and think, what are my fantasies? I adore sucking a beautiful cock, feeling warm streaks of cum ice my tits and face...but this is in fact a reality.

I no longer wonder what an orgy would sound and feel like, to have men stand around and jerk off to the sight of four women fucking each other simultaneously. Nor do I wonder how it would feel to be a little cumslut or fucktoy for a happily married couple, with a wife encouraging her hubby to fuck me from behind as I bury my face deep into her soft velvety folds...or to have a woman gush her sweet metallic cum in my mouth, dribbling off my chin onto my rock hard nipples.

For me, my fantasies were what fed my orgasms while masturbating and pushed my writing into areas I have never ever experienced....and they are gone. My muse has left....sigh.

HOWEVER!!! I would not change a thing! My experiences have been phenomenal! I have met some wonderful (and not so wonderful) people...and they have added and shaped who I have become in this lifestyle. They have helped set up my boundaries, showed me how to navigate the, at times, complete nonsense that fills people's heads on here.

I NEED fantasies...As I lay on my bed, listening to chirping outside my window, I have visions of myself sitting on a street corner with my black stiletto in my hand, asking a passerby: "Hey buddy, spare a gal a fantasy?"

Would you spare a gal a fantasy???

Emotion Commotion
Posted:Sep 21, 2011 6:42 pm
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2014 6:19 pm
Time for some more observations and dilemmas to ponder...

As I peruse profiles of cocks and tatas, it becomes a reoccurring theme in most that many people are looking for exclusivity. This is not to be confused with long-term relationships or marriage proposals but rather one-on-one security built on trust and comfort with a like-minded individual.

What is not to like!? I mean, I for one have had the pleasure of seeking and finding friends with benefits that have been on-going for months - generally they have a lifespan - only to find a new one to take his (or her) place. Although I do try and limit my friends to one maybe two at a time so that I can invest in that person and make myself available for their needs, and they for mine.

Often I find the sex is more open, liberating and intense. There is no need to mask nerves with booze or endless chatter but rather move into the motions and movements of skilled lovers, appreciating the terrain of your lovers skin -- their curves, valleys, warm and damp areas, hardness, ridges, veins...sigh.

I find my experiences with my 'friend with benefits' can be intense, fast, hard, rough or fun, goofy, silly, playful and lazy or soft, sweet, tender love-making...it runs the gamut.

The hard part is keeping those feelings along the line, walking the tight rope of trust and partnership...not wanting to develop feelings of possession and jealousy...or not to encourage feelings similar in my lover towards me.

And what to do when you want a little one-off fun with a group or couple?

Being married has helped me maintain this line although it has not made me impervious of caring a little too much for my lovers or investing in their emotions, feeling, dreams, and desires.

See...I am a pleaser...I want people happy...especially those I care about...and quite frankly it SUCKS. BUT...I am not willing to change. It makes me a better lover and essentially adding the FRIEND to friends with benefits.

Okay....your turn! Thoughts???

Emotional investment in an exclusive lover OR straight-faced stranger fucking?

And because I feel it necessary...BOOBIES!

Don't ya just hate it when...
Posted:Sep 7, 2011 6:02 pm
Last Updated:Sep 17, 2012 9:16 am

Its a peculiar thing how the Fates know when you are trying to be one way and they usurp you into being something else. We have all had this experience at some point in our lives but yet mine seems to have been particularly head slapping since I have joined this site.

Shall I provide you with some examples??? Heck, I have no need to put on "airs" or to pretend I am some suave temptress...heehee, I still am completely at ease in laughing at myself. So! Feel free to laugh as well.

In no particular order, my demonstrations of sexy turned ridiculous:

1) In a particularly hot moment with a lover, he had me up on his kitchen counter, his massive cock hitting ALL the right areas. Naturally I squirted like a river all over his tile floor. Upon dismount, I proceeded to slip in my own mess and skid across his kitchen bare-assed.

2) Upon a first face-to-face meeting with a new playmate that I had chatted with for months, we were enjoying some much loved petting and heated makeout in his car when we decided to take it to a more private location. It being February, we were hit with our standard freezing rain storm earlier that day. As he proceeded to pull into a secluded municipal parking area, we promptly careened off the road and found ourselves sideways in a large ditch. We eventually crawled out of the driver's side door and scrambled along the ice to flag down a passing car. After finally locating a two company that would dare venture out on "a night like this", my playmate still held hopes that we could find a parking lot where we wouldn't get stranded....oh, and he poked me in the eye when we hugged goodnight.

3) I pride myself on my abilities and skills when pleasuring men (and women) orally. I realllllly get into it when I am sucking, stroking, and jerking a lovely cock...waiting for the warm streams of cum to reward me by streaking across my face and tits. Also, as part of the act of fellatio, I have been known to move beyond the shaft to the balls and (dare I say) puckered little sweet spot. On a second date with a playmate, we were relaxing watching the hockey game (Hellz Yeah!) when I decided that now was the time to fulfill that little fantasy of sucking a guy off as a little cumslut while he watched the game (so silly I know). As I had finally really got him to that sweet spot where his fingers were wrapped in my hair, his hips raising to meet my mouth, I brought my hand up to take over the stroking to focusing on his balls and ass. As I went in for the 'ass tickle' with my left index finger, his hips bucked and he let out a squeak and a clench. O_o

Uh oh...it was the perfect storm. I, being me, began to apologize profusely...with a hint of a giggle. Sigh...I haven't seen him since.

So these are just a FEW of my smooth moves...so I ask you two things:
1) What are your 'head slap' sexy moments?
2) How ya like me now????

Back at it...with a little retail therapy!
Posted:Sep 1, 2011 5:21 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2011 1:47 pm
Well, as most of you are well aware there are great people out there that we connect with yet never seem to be able to meet off line. This could be due to a variety of reasons, most of which center around our real vanilla lives...or perhaps we are nervous and insecure about what will transpire once we take the conversation off our computers and into the "real".

I am also guilty of being someone who struggles to meet the people she finally connects with...the people she writes sweet, hot words to about licking, sucking, fucking, teasing...

My reasons also range from family commitments, commitments to other lovers and well at times, just plain nerves (rare but it has happened).

Today, that changed! Today, I finally met someone that I have been chatting with for, gosh, months!!!! Finally our lives provided an opportunity that we could go for a smoothie and stroll in the park...that initial meet. Oh! And of course a visit to a local sex shop for new nipple clamps!

He perused the merchandise as I talked toys with the sales rep....we giggled over the hydraulic 'fucking' machine and massive dongs...it was a great start to the day.

After some yummy fruit smoothies, it was a stop at a park to walk, talk and warm up to each other...but the warming began when he leaned in for the first kiss...his delicious lips that I had so long admired in his pics were finally on mine, his tongue explore so gently, it was barely perceptible.

Finally under the shade of a large tree, perched on a bench, I felt his hardness beneath his jeans. There is something to be said for tracing the head of a cock with my fingers tips as it presses against the material for release, twitching to be stroked.

Between the laughter and chatting, and the occasional elderly couple taking a mid-day stroll (pervs!), we kissed and petted, building up hardness (or in my case uber wetness!) leaving me wanting more.

Sigh...just like when I was a .

I'm Back to Blog Another Day
Posted:Aug 20, 2011 6:37 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2014 5:39 pm
Hi everyone!

I was (once upon a time) Jade James...on AdultFriendFinder, meeting and getting to know lovely men and women but decided to take a hiatus. In the mean time, I ended up deleting some really great and FUN posts about my encounters...THIS WILL NEED TO BE FIXED!

I love experimenting and detailing my experimentation and experiences on here for others to enjoy.

I begin my re-emergence by creating my 'fuck-it' list...lets see what I can think of....

1) connecting with a female...not just physical (that has happened many times) but I mean, MIND-BLOWING connection...*dampness in my loins*

2) another MFM experience...I had a teaser experience and well, I neeeed more of them!

3) finally get to a darn swingers CLUB! sheesh!

4) another group play party...I reallly enjoyed the last one, people were great, hosts were wonderful, the sex and play...WOW!

5) women-only play party...canyou imagine???!!! four or five women, pussies, tits, softness, sweetness...I'm giddy at the thought!

6) MFF...seems hum-drum and lord knows I have had those but I want to spoil the male in tandem with the female...strip him down slowly, tease him with two sets of well...everything!

Okay....I am off to bring myself to a magnificent orgasm at the thought of potentially ticking off (and even adding) to my list....



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