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What Do Men Need?  

Smooth_Michelle 68T  
39 posts
6/18/2018 11:28 am
What Do Men Need?

Here is my attempt at another Blog. Thank you for all the views and comments on my other Blogs.

This is a topic that definitely intrigues me. What do men need? Not, what do they WANT, but what do they NEED? There is a big difference guys!

It is nice being contacted by men......single and married/attached men. It is nice to know that you all want sex, but as a woman-to-be, I want to know what a typical man REALLY needs.

Many married men seem to have wives that have lost interest in sex and companionship, and I feel that is a real shame. Wives and women should always be interested in giving what their men NEED.

So, my question to all your men is this...….What do you need from a woman to make you happiest? Companionship? Friendship? Occasional kisses? Occasional grabbing or touching of your crotch or butt? A drinking buddy? The list goes on and on and...…

In my continuing journey into becoming more feminine, this will help me understand men and their needs and help me to be a better companion in the future.

Thank you in advance for your input and comments.

hungsailorman69 82M
67 posts
6/18/2018 1:10 pm

you hit on a main reason why a man seeks attention and companionship from other that his wife, the lack of interest in the mans needs, the self
interests of the wives wishes, and interests. She if often
more interested in her own gratification.

Smooth_Michelle 68T  
21 posts
6/18/2018 2:57 pm

Let me also add....is it important what we wear for you? If so, what do you like for us to wear?

Heathen_G 62M
7849 posts
6/19/2018 2:36 am

    Quoting Smooth_Michelle:
    Let me also add....is it important what we wear for you? If so, what do you like for us to wear?
Dude.. you are 66 years old.... was it ever important what a woman wears for you? You'll figure it out with your partner.

Heathen_G 62M
7849 posts
6/19/2018 2:39 am

You should be able to answer these questions yourself. I understand you're transgendering, basically you're still a man , born a male, and had some idea of what you needed.

What do men need? .... To survive? To compete? To live? The simplest answer is to break it down to the most basic primal and build on that based on current anthropological standards.
What men need hasn't really changed that much in 50,000 years.

Many married men seem to have wives that have lost interest in sex and companionship, .... That happens more frequently than anyone knows. If a man wants sex and companionship , he should never marry to get it. That's stupid. Now he's stuck on a rock.

and I feel that is a real shame. .... Not only a shame, but also a rip off. Ones spouse loses interest.... the marriage should be legally over.

What do you need from a woman to make you happiest? ... Nothing. If a man wanted to be his happiest, he would completely avoid getting married , and completely avoid committing to one woman.

In my continuing journey into becoming more feminine, .... I don't know what you hope to accomplish by doing that. In todays society , men and women are equal socially, even if one is masculine and the other is feminine, so you're not actually gaining anything, nor any special attention changing from male appearance to female appearance. Seems you've just made life harder for your self. Why not just stay a gay male?

Ianpoman 76M  
77 posts
6/19/2018 4:19 am

I like your question, Michelle. What do men need? Here's just what I think realizing that others probably would list other needs. I need kindness because I try to do good things for others but don't always succeed. It's easy to criticize or judge, but I respond well to appreciation, gentle correction and affirmation. I'm not perfect and don't expect anyone else to be either, so forgiveness is something I need--both giving when others bug me and getting when I bug others. I need affection--I love physical expressions that are offered but not insisted on. Because I am passionate at heart, I need the stimulation of the passion in those I like to be with. I can't deal with being "possessed" by anyone--too smothering. Same with being managed (aka "controlled") by another person. Been there, felt that, wore out the t-shirt. I need to care about others without creating expectations from them--no strings attached, no quid pro quo--well not basically anyway. I need there to be mutuality--mutual respect and cooperation, toleration of differences without scorn or sarcasm or condescension. Guess I'm a needy person just hoping to find others with similar needs. Thanks for getting me to think about NEED, Michelle. Hope our needs have something in common. I think they do!

lookingtoplay511 66M  
21 posts
7/2/2019 5:51 am

Thanks for the post. In my case you have hit on some of the cause and effects of a mans needs.
I for one like the companionship. The thrill before there is an actual meeting is the beginning of a great trip.
A casual meeting, with a beverage or small meal, with a fact finding conversation. As the meeting progresses, stolen glances, discreet touching and the escapement of trepidation. Hopefully the initial meeting leads to an extended date or another date. I also find, in most cases, that the women works hard to be just that a women. And I for one really appreciate that and treat the lady as a lady.

Smooth_Michelle 68T  
21 posts
7/2/2019 12:47 pm

Thank you...that was an awesome comment! I think it is quite common for the first date to be a "fact finding conversation." We probably would not have had that first face-to-face if our previous messaging or conversations weren't interesting. As for me, I rely a lot on messaging before the first meet to get to know something about the other person. You are right....it isn't that easy being a woman, but I do enjoy the journey tremendously. And finding a man that treats a woman like a woman is a wonderful feeling! Thank you for sharing!!!

lookingtoplay511 66M  
21 posts
7/3/2019 4:59 am

Michelle thank you. I forgot to mention that when I meet a woman, I hope that she is dressed in such a manner that she fits in with the environment that we are in. Dress your age, don't bring undo attention to yourself. But dress to impress your date.

Smooth_Michelle 68T  
21 posts
7/4/2019 5:27 am

I completely agree with you about the way we should dress. I do not want to dress in something that will make me stand out in the crowd. I want to Just blend in, but a nice skirt and top and heels would be on the top of my list to wear. I have seen so many women dress so casually when they are out with their significant other that it couldn't be much of a turn on for the man. They are only thinking about themselves when they do that. At least for me, it is all about the man!

76youngo82 87M
2 posts
10/23/2019 8:04 am

dearest lovely. Michelle, this man, needs friendship and a lot of loving.
What I need is to have a relationship based on mutual respect, one that includes getting touched or hugged as often as possible,(putting a hand on me as you pass BI ). there is so much that turns me on need lots of kissiig and
being together [post#4110830]
love clyde.

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