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StrongBlakDick4U 40M
54 posts
11/26/2018 8:36 pm
RACISM on Adult Friend Finder


I a black man, and I extremely proud of that fact.
I a straight black man, and I extremely proud of that fact.
I a straight black man with 2 Master's degrees. My parents are very proud of that. I proud that I pleased them.
I a college educated straight black man who is also a decorated combat veteran, I extremely proud of that fact.
I a college educated straight black decorated combat veteran that has twice been wounded in service to my country.
I a college educated straight black decorated combat veteran twice wounded in service to my country, that has no baby mamas.

DOES RACISM EXIST ON AdultFriendFinder?
Of course!
Racism exist everywhere.

Honestly, I feel much better when a profile tells me she has no interest in me because of my race. It saves time. Kipling speaks to the "unforgiving minute", as it were. It allows me not to waste time. It allows me not to bother someone that has absolutely no interest in me, for reasons I can not change. I love when a profile says, do not contact me if you are black. Their proclivities are their own. I think everyone who feels that way should be forthright and list it upfront in their profile. There are women that appreciate blackness. Not every woman can handle the rich hearty flavors of a straight black man.

Profilers should not be ashamed of their preferences. Their honesty is refreshing.

StrongBlakDick4U 40M
263 posts
11/26/2018 8:44 pm

I hope this can be a respectful conversation about race, without degrading into insults.


BiggLala 48F  
29190 posts
11/26/2018 8:53 pm

In what way is it racist for a person to not be interested in a person of a different race than their own?

As you understand racism exists everywhere, what led you to think online would be different?

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StrongBlakDick4U 40M
263 posts
11/26/2018 9:01 pm

Actually, I don't think it is racism. We have the freedom to be intimate with whoever we choose to. Our bodies are our own. We have the right to use them as we choose, except as a weapon.


Frankie_Valley 53M
31 posts
11/26/2018 9:02 pm

I dunno.... I see the exact opposite of "racism" in my feed every day I log on! To the point where a change in the name of the web site might be in order!


StrongBlakDick4U 40M
263 posts
11/26/2018 9:23 pm

I luv a person with a good sense of humor lol thanks for the brevity


JoKeR69_57 41M
43 posts
11/26/2018 11:54 pm

i dont view this as anything more than being an agitator as i don't go around proclaiming all of the above and being white.. in that instance i would be a racist so what make you any different... it doesn't, and hence the double standard ..

if karma is a bitch... then god is a woman =)


BiggLala 48F  
29190 posts
11/27/2018 7:04 am

    Quoting StrongBlakDick4U:
    Actually, I don't think it is racism. We have the freedom to be intimate with whoever we choose to. Our bodies are our own. We have the right to use them as we choose, except as a weapon.
You added a post stating there is racism on this site, seemingly implying that the white women who don't want black people contacting them are racist. I think I can correctly assume you mean the white women you are interested in.

You also recognize that people (ALL people, yes? ) "...have the freedom to be intimate with whoever..." they choose, because people's bodies are their own. However, you then say you don't think it is racism.

Ummm...allllrighty then.

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StrongBlakDick4U 40M
263 posts
11/27/2018 7:36 pm

I think some of you misunderstand. I am not calling a person who excludes a person from their body a racist. Not at all. I am applauding them for being true to themself and their desires......

It does not change the fact that racism exist on AdultFriendFinder. I know that because I have been called a monkey, an ape, etc. It was in regards to those insults that I wrote my post - explaining that I am a man.

When a person tells me in their profile that they have no interest in me as a sex partner or me as a person, I MOVE ON...... I do NOT accuse that person directly or indirectly of being racist...... When the person does not list a racial preference directly on their profile and they are innocently contacted - calling that person a monkey or an ape or a dog - is in fact racist.


MsMellowTX 59F

11/30/2018 9:12 pm

The world has only one race...the human race. This all started when one person wanted to feel like he was better than the other and chose the color of his skin to vilify...it could just as easily been blue eyes, or people with flat feet.


HedonicHeathen 53M
198 posts
1/14/2019 6:08 am

    Quoting MsMellowTX:
    The world has only one race...the human race. This all started when one person wanted to feel like he was better than the other and chose the color of his skin to vilify...it could just as easily been blue eyes, or people with flat feet.
Correct. That was one of the many things they I was taught in college. Like I am a white person is colloquial as 'I from Caucasian lineage, Sicilian family, German heritage ...blah blah blah European BS,' Since the extinction of the Neanderthal and the only remaining hominids, the great apes, all humans, as descended from African, are all of the same race with differences in pigmentation, stature, physicality and numerous other biological, genotype-phenotype, and cultural differences being mostly due to to smaller changes resulting in evolving into the environments they conquered. If not the same race then mating and offspring would not be possible.

Some have argued that the use of language is what separates the human from the animal and this has been an ongoing debate since the beginning of what is probably best known as recorded philosophy, It is through the use of words and their embeddedness in cultural matrices (the matrix) that tribal in-group vs out-group notions of belongingness (Whether that be romance, kin, folk, bros, family, or even ... race as it is taken to be meant culturally from a metaphorical standpoint).

Not being able to grasp language is an archtypal weakness that both fuels and stokes the flames of in/out group identification. It is what makes the notion of debt, ownership, and eventually slavery possible. For instance if a person (this one that one any one) were to posit the notion that the human body is 'our own', which in the modern idiom of American English could imply 'a single instance of a human body belongs to all of us' and that 'this group has a right (which could then be conflated with rite) to use 'them' (again vague) as a the group chooses, except as a weapon. The sentence I dismantle there is grammatically correct ... but so us the sentence 'green ideas masturbate simply.' It is semantically lacking preciseness ... as just who is this 'we' you are speaking of that has a right to a body?

But ... that is the test here ... the one who says 'I'm not part of this group you call we and therefore am not using language the way ya'll do' ,,, or as those above mason-dixon would put it ..you's all ... that would be considered an outlier ... now what makes said person vulnerable to whether or not they can be degraded to an animal (metaphorically and therefore culturally) is how personally they take statements of others as dealing directly with them as an individual. What I mean is that statements and writings of others are interpreted as 'being' about a third person.... the outlier. That person can be a problem for the group survival as they challenge the cohesiveness. But if they listen and don't differentiate or discriminate the differences between the pronouns and perspective then they run the risk of being programmable and eventually a slave.

Backing up again to the collegiate ... what must be in place before racism is prejudice. As they are defined as prejudice is thinking that one culture or group is lesser than the group the one considers their own. Racism is when it actually takes the shape of outward action that impacts the lives of others and their rights the other in question. Since probably before language there have been human's enslaving other humans ... today, in the good ol' USA, this is seen happening via banks and debt,

This is highly codified and language bound notions where in order to be a member of a group, one must agree legally to the definitions of words such as debt, money, wages, and other terms ... just to belong. Money itself is nothing more than a promise to pay, But in accepting these terms as such we also become slaves to those whom we promise to pay back. Religio from the latin 'to tie back.'

This shell game, three card monty, or iron triangle, the trinitarians putting it to the unitarians, or for the saltines ... as referenced by Abbot and Costello and their document "who is on first, What is on second and ... I don't is on third. Is the modern method of determining if there is going to be a question of race, and by that I mean master race (available for those that are playing and participating and understanding the words as they are used).

For those going 'wait ... what ...who' and feel left out, What defines a human being versus an animal is 'we are the one's that talk'. It is the human that asserts the 'am' and defines what the 'am' is referring to in terms of being versus merely existing. With that what is left unsaid says it all .. but damn if I like saying what it is that seems unsaid. So pardon me ... I don't want to disturb your masterbaiting ... that would be a real dick move. As for who is the real profilers though .. that would be those that crafted the AdultFriendFinder profile questions ... 'hey guys how many boxes can we put you in and then use to pimp you out?'

I wanna thank you though ... I'd never read Kipling much less his 'If' ... I did for this and the above is what I got out of it ... because it is by casting doubt over what is meant by the terms put forward that allows for doubt to predominate and there are two ways about it ...If that sucker misses what 'I am' for what is being said an opportunity may open like a window; and conversely, those that miss the what that other is defining themselves as should run like they know what sin really is, which they probably don't. I take sin to be like Dante put it to mean 'missing the mark ... which can be like missing the point, but moreso.' Then that new window is there but you gotta pull the shades up first.

tl;dr-Be the Verb ... dynamics of power is in ability to change. Nouns are already dead. Apologies for those not into deconstruction ... Much longer than anticipated and so just gonna end with a quote by Keith Richards in his little diddy called "I'm gonna walk while I still can, before they make me run." You can delete or ignore this and no offense I just like writing ... but it is not a reading for most.


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