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Don’t Name your genitals – and especially don’t name mine  

Tiamat2020 50F
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5/26/2020 3:13 pm
Don’t Name your genitals – and especially don’t name mine

The first man to see and touch my breasts fell in love with them. He treated them as precious, cupping them in his hands as he murmured how beautiful they were. It would have been awesome if I hadn’t been 13.

The second man to see my breasts was my high school boyfriend. We were drunk as fuck, making out in a friend’s attic listening to punk rock at deafening levels. I staggered to my feet and clumsily pulled of my shirt. His jaw dropped and he said “Wow! You have Playboy tits!” I was so embarrassed I put my shirt back on. It wasn’t the looking, it was the demotion of my breasts to being tits. Later, I lost my virginity to that boy, but that’s a story for another time.

As crude as I am capable of being, as virtuosic as I am in cussing (I can and have made marines blush), I hate hate HATE baby talk and stupid names for body parts. If you named your genitals for your own amusement, and find talk of pussies, cunts, dicks, and other names sexy, go for it. But don’t use that lame shit on me.

I don’t have boobs, tits, fun bags, or boobies. Boobs are those assholes who block your view of a great painting in the museum so they can get the perfect shot for Instagram. Tits are birds, as are boobies. Also, bubie means grandmother. Fun bag makes me think of something you get at a ’s birthday party. What’s fun about a bag with a severed breast in it?

I have breasts – just say it. My breasts have large nipples, brown aureoles. Now less perky, a few faint stretch marks due to age. Now more scarred from life. One interesting mole. But they are still beautiful. They will fill your palm as you caress them, worship them.

I don’t have a pussy. Nor do I have a clit. A pussy is a small feline, or a nasty, juvenile pejorative used to insult people based on their presumed ownership of a vagina. It’s stupid, sexist, inaccurate and tired. My lack of a penis doesn’t make me any less of a bad ass. If you need to insult someone, be more creative. It’s a lot more fun that way.

Pussy is reductive. Clit is dismissive. I don't have a cunt or twat, but I might BE a cunt or twat if you are a Millwall fan.

Give my body it’s full due. I have a vagina, labia, a clitoris. Drag your tongue over each word, roll them in your mouth. Feel the silkiness of my flesh as you run your fingertips along the outside of each fold, the soft wetness of my vagina. Don’t reduce my body to crude syllables – it tells me that you fear it. That you have no idea what to do with me, you don’t care, and have no imagination.

I’m not your baby or sweetie. I might tolerate honey or sugar. Talk to me like an adult, because I am one. Speak softly. Mean what you say. Don’t perform your passion based on what they do in pornography. Or that you think is what we are supposed to say during sex. Crooning “oh baby, fuck me” only works in 1970s porn; you know, the sleazy stuff with bad music, wood paneling in the background, and everyone was on cocaine.

That being said, if that’s what comes out when you are aroused and it’s genuine, say it. There is nothing sexier than being wanted. There is nothing sexier than being told how badly someone wants us, how good they make us feel. Do it with passion, not a set script. You owe it to yourself. And it makes the sex better.

Seduction begins in the mouth. The first word. The first kiss. Taste. Moan. Sigh. Each sensorial experience is part of our vocabulary of touch. There are many vernaculars, and each of us speak our own. Pleasure is a conversation. Making love, sex, fucking are all different moods and languages. Flavors of sensation. I’ll fuck, have sex, make love, depending on my mood and yours. Negotiated space and touch. It might not work. We might not be compatible. No matter, but don’t disrespect my body and yours.

If you respect each syllable of my body, I will respect yours. Whatever your body is, respect it. Love it. It is your home, and deserves to hear each, delectable syllable.

Paulxx001 63M
16577 posts
5/26/2020 6:56 pm

"... delectable syllables..." Now THAT's an interesting way to put it.
Then again, some people don't bother chewing their food - they just swallow whatever is on the plate. The challenge would be to find someone who munches at the same speed as you do.

Tiamat2020 replies on 5/31/2020 6:49 pm:
Exactly! To each their own, and everyone savors - or bolts - their food differently. And we are all ok just the way we are.

ProfessorNaught 107M
1166 posts
5/26/2020 7:21 pm

Then you miss the entire point...
You're saying "I am no fun"
while projecting "I personalize everything"

Wow, that would be such a catch. . .
for the grime reaper

Mr_Flirt_2020 47M
169 posts
5/26/2020 7:31 pm

Wow..truely amazing, really worth giving a serious thought and using right appropriate names rather than using all those scripted dailouge by few writers for thier benefits which has been grasped and has been used even in our daily life lingo .. isn't it that many of us have been addicted to such words now..your post definately inspires a person like me to use originality than made up vocabulary ..good luck buddy,stay safe, stay healthy ..

Tiamat2020 replies on 5/31/2020 6:50 pm:
Thank you, you, too!

Lkn4funwith2 55M
926 posts
5/26/2020 8:57 pm

My very first gf in high school was the one who named my penis and her vagina. She was happy calling our genitals by those names, so I was happy if she was happy.

Tiamat2020 replies on 5/31/2020 6:51 pm:
Whatever makes people happy is always best; I had several lovers who were happy with their named parts, and I was okay with that, though preferred to name my own body.

Mr_Mercedes 59M
200 posts
5/26/2020 8:59 pm

Quoting Tiamat2020: " Give my body it’s full due. I have a vagina, labia, a clitoris. Drag your tongue over each word, roll them in your mouth. Feel the silkiness of my flesh as you run your fingertips along the outside of each fold, the soft wetness of my vagina … "

Oh hell yes, woman! Now you're talking.

You are in my most inappropriate thoughts...

justaguyinalaska 54M  
565 posts
5/27/2020 12:13 am

Before all else, what is even more disappointing than the requirement that you share these *revelations* to a (presumably) sex-positive community, is that your compelling (however blunt) words will mostly fall upon deaf ears (*closed minds* is more to the point). See comments above mine.

As USA persists in grinding through its Puritanical (and all-too-often hypocritical) sexual repression, our culture is largely absent any proper effort at making *respect* part of our sex education. So we are left to thoughtful (and typically) women as yourself to provide these articulate and constructive *public service announcements*.

As you convey in much better ways than I am capable, lovemaking is about communication, imagination and respect- all natural and in equal parts.

Tiamat2020 replies on 5/31/2020 6:52 pm:
Thank you! And we all communicate in our own vernaculars, even moods, according to where we are. At heart is respect and admiration, mutuality.

jajo696 65F
2204 posts
5/27/2020 2:30 am

Some of those names would be welcome within the context of a relationship. If partners have private names for each other and each others body parts....its all good.

I take offense to those who havent a clue whom i am , nor taken the time to find out...come out with those names. I call it taking liberties and dismissive and then dismiss them as the ' twats ' ~~

Thanks for these words....

Tiamat2020 replies on 5/31/2020 6:53 pm:
Right? We negotiate with our loves as to how we want to be called, and it's part of the fun. But no one gets to tell me my body.

ludwig202 68M
11866 posts
5/27/2020 2:42 am

welcome to my page
Thank you for your visit
very special thanks to the couples
thanks to all loved women
and men

voyeurs53 41M  
367 posts
5/28/2020 7:08 pm

Wow... you have a very elegant and descriptive way with words that build anticipation and piques the mind... you deserve compatibility and respect while finding life’s great pleasures... I hope you find it... and share some those adventures... the great thing is that you never know where they might take you...

Tiamat2020 replies on 5/31/2020 6:54 pm:
Anticipation and the erotic are my favorite parts! Playing with the words is also fun, finding ways to say what is inside my head is a real challenge. It's worth it, and I'm glad others are enjoying it!

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