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Why More Women Should Consider Ethical Non-Monogamy  

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3/19/2021 8:57 am
Why More Women Should Consider Ethical Non-Monogamy

I’m a writer and recently a gentleman reached out me write on the female perspective on Wife Sharing. For context, here is I am:
I’m a lifelong entrepreneur and women’s empowerment coach. I’ve built more than one six figure business and have always been in command of my personal, financial and social life. I was married my ’s father for 15 years and although he is a good man, we lived completely separate lives. was not a partnership at all.
One day after a major surgery I came the realization I could not live like I had been living. In spite of my deep reservations against divorce, I felt like I was living in a relationship where I had all the obligations and restrictions of<b> monogamous </font></b>marriage, and NONE of the benefits. I did not have a companion, a lover or a friend. And so I asked for a divorce.
For many years after the divorce, I was happily solo….and didn’t even date for ten years. I was SOLIDLY convinced I’d never “do” relationship again.
Somewhere I decided I needed companionship and love and friendship and all the things I had been wanting over a lifetime…they were not gone, just hidden.
So, I ventured out. I played my natural inclinations and found pals that I could dominate. I relished taking control and getting inside a man’s head and playing out something he craved. I got off on power.
Eventually I got a bit more serious about a partnership and sat down ponder “what kind of man” I would best fit with. The answer came fairly quickly: a cuckold . Why? For me, I had made a rock-solid commitment myself that never again would I be trapped by the expectations of monogamy. may be the mainstream in American society, but is not right for me at all, or natural, in my opinion. I believe women should own and share and enjoy their bodies however they see fit. Never again would I allow myself be trapped by monogamy.
I was serious about finding a cuck. I placed an ad in Craigslist for one and my darling husband responded my ad. We have been very happily together for almost 8 years and have grown and evolved and explored many of the joys of non-monogamy. I should add that he is completely<b> monogamous </font></b>with me, I am the one is not. This is one of the agreements we have.
Wife sharing today is more and more mainstream but more often than not initiated by the man. It is EXCEEDINGLY rare that a woman will go to her husband and seek permission to have sex with other men. In my case, it was on the table from the first date and I will NEVER ask permission for it. I also realize I’m far from a “mainstream” woman.
Here is a list of reasons and motivations that I believe why people are drawn to a shared wife lifestyle and why men might be interested in watching their wives with other men.
Your Health and Well-Being

I would also start with something that rarely if ever gets mentioned on sex sites: women need to take good care of their endocrine system and hormones to keep as healthy as possible and your libido intact. This is a useless discussion if you don’t have a sex drive.
Since I have had a hysterectomy, I use bio-identical HRT to keep my hormones in balance. It has paid HUGE dividends. Before the Covid lockdown, I spent the weekend with a great man (half my age) and I in fact fucked him down till he could barely crawl back to his car after the weekend. We didn’t need a drop of lube the whole weekend: I rest my case on why you should fix your hormones if you are 45 and above. It is the key to your health and happiness and sexual vitality.
It is a VERY common misconception that women’s sex drive disappears after menopause. (a hysterectomy threw me into surgically induced menopause at 39. NO WAY I’d give up right ) surely can disappear if you don’t attend . With today’s non-cancer-causing solutions for both women and men’s libidos…no excuse to let yours just drift away. Fix it. You will be healthier and more vital.

Reasons To Consider Being a Shared Wife

• Female empowerment. It did not surprise me to hear about my husband describe the joy he felt at my increased independence, confidence, and assertiveness, coming from my freedom to have sex with other men. Through my open sexuality, we actively and consciously reject social pressures to suppress female sexuality, assert monogamy and a wholesale rejection of patriarchal power. This is my top reason I’m designed the way I am and why I’m dedicated to raising awareness for women everywhere to take control of their own sexual behavior and pleasure. My husband enjoys every second of how happy I am, how vital, how energized I become with a new lover.
• Sperm competition. As Christopher Ryan, author Terry Gould, and researchers Baker and Bellis have suggested, is a biological response playing out here, one that affects a sexual drive. After watching their wife with another man, the husband is prompted biologically have longer, more vigorous sex, has a shorter refractory period between erections, ejaculates harder, and his ejaculate contains more sperm. I will affirm this. After I’ve been with another man, my husband is like a wild animal and I love it.
• Voyeurism. Many suggest that we live in a "pornified culture," where most men of college-age and older have seen pornography, and use it as a part of their sexual repertoire. Watching your wife have sex with another man may be a next step, or progression, from watching yourselves have sex by having a mirror on the ceiling, then using a video camera during sex, and finally watching one's spouse with someone else. Many men told me, "My wife is the most beautiful woman in the world to me. I'd rather watch her having sex than some porn actress I don't know."
• The thrill of the taboo. are few things in our society as stigmatized as a husband whose wife is unfaithful. Historically, such men have been beaten, ostracized, and ridiculed, and regarded as weak, "sissy men." Some of the men I’ve interviewed described explicitly that the taboo was the thrill for them, from the excitement of the forbidden and the naughty. I’ll take this one step further: I deeply believe that most people have very embedded sexual shame and guilt. Playing in this arena is an extremely healthy way to expose those acts or thoughts that can produce shame, but to play them out and bring them light is healthy and can lead to greater intimacy.
• Bisexuality. bisexuality can a role in the husband's desires watch his wife have sex with another man. This played out in different dynamics. Sometimes, bringing a man bed with the wife was a pretext—a bait and switch if you will—for the husband then engage sexually with the man as well. Sometimes, the husbands were overly concerned about being seen as heterosexual, but they spent an awful lot of time looking for well-endowed men for their wife. my mind, a man is that focused on the size of other men's penises really does not qualify as all that straight. (and totally doesn’t matter) The point is: ’s healthier for the couple openly talk about this and not shame him if he wants experiment with men too.
• Female sexual fulfillment. Women's sexual capacity is far greater than that of males'. The world record for male orgasms is about 26 in a 24-hour period. Per Sherfey's research, women have documented as many as 60-65 orgasms in a single hour. I saw many men reported that their wives were highly sexual beings, with a greater sexual capacity, and it simply turned the husbands on and pleased them be able see their wives sexually satisfied, at a degree that a single husband couldn't match. I also speculate that is a degree of vicarious experience here: By being a part of the experience, the husband gets vicariously experience what 's like have that greater sexual capacity, and identifies in a strong manner with his wife and the essence of female sexuality in a way that most men never experience. is a term in polyamory that is “compersion”. is the opposite of jealous, and where your partner is genuinely happy see your happiness. is worth working toward and very rewarding.
• Masochism. Leopold von Sacher-Masoch was a 19th-century fan of flagellation wrote Venus in Furs about dominant women. Masochism was named after him. Leopold posted ads in German newspapers of the day, looking for "energetic young men" befriend and pleasure his wife. Leopold's interest in the experience was specifically the humiliation aspect—being cuckolded, treated as weak, lesser, and not a real man. Like those seek the taboo, these cuckolds often seek out a strong SM flavor, in which the husbands are dominated, belittled, and degraded.
My husband has this and I actually took a class to better understand erotic humiliation. Women are systemically programmed to never tread on the ever-fragile ego. In the cuck , can be a need experience verbal and perhaps physical humiliation. Here is how I understand : Erotic humiliation is draw all the sexual shame and guilt we carry up the surface, at, talk about and in so doing, releases the shame that has been hidden inside. Don’t underestimate how powerful and healing this is.
• The royalty perk. In the 1960's Motown song, the line goes "save the last dance for me," as the husband watches his wife dance with other men. Many of the men I interviewed got a thrill, a sense of being "king" that they had a wife was so sexy that other men wanted be with, but ultimately came home with him, the husband. It made the men feel powerful and successful that they had such a sexy wife. I believe this is especially true if your cuck has been humiliated by the bull….he still goes home with the prize.
• Misogyny. Sadly, I’ve seen some couples in which the husband's encouragement of the wife have sex with other men was about degrading the woman. Some of these men talked about treating the wife as a , as a piece of meat, and "taking her down a peg." I completely reject this and hope that women that have been subjected this learn a better way have pleasure. As in every corner of kink world, are toxic, dangerous people do not have your best interests in mind. Beware!
So my challenge you is: own your own power. Figure out what you want and pursue ! Be open minded and nonjudgmental, be completely honest with your partner and lovers about everything and you will join this great life-affirming adventure!
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