Am I being unreasonable?
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Posted:Nov 28, 2017 10:52 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2017 4:26 pm
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I recently posted this on the advice line ( Am I being unreasonable?), but thought I would post here too Blogland. Please feel free to comment on either or both posts. Hopefully, by leaving this here, maybe suitors who actually read my profile, will know how I want to addressed.
Recently, I was talking to this guy about meeting up tomorrow.
He was texting me very provocative messages. I asked him
to talk to me like a lady and not like a . He got very defensive
and ed me a Drama Queen. Am I being unreasonable in asking
for respect? The way I see it, 95% of the time I go out on a date,
I will fuck them unless they creep me out or stink. I don't
see the need of talking it up before hand. I will make sure
they have a good time as I give 120% every time. I will go until
my body just gives out. I'm sure every else is the
same way here. In order for me to have a good time, I need stimulation
between the ears, not just the genitals. So my second question
is what is the point of talking it up ahead of time? Most time
the talking it up ahead of time just leads to disappointment.
I would much rather be pleasantly surprised than be disappointed
in something that doesn't meet expectations. I hope
I'm making sense here.
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Suggestion #4: Emailing a woman
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Posted:Feb 2, 2017 4:57 pm
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2017 8:25 am
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So you have upgraded to gold. Now you can actually contact a woman. You have posted an interesting, non-threatening picture and an interesting profile so maybe she will respond. There are no guarantees in this blog only suggest on what peaks my interest.
Remember that the ratio of men to women on this site is very skewed. YOU are going to have make the initial contact. YOU are going to have to do the chasing. YOU are going to have to be patient for a response,
I hate to be negative, but there are some things you should NEVER EVER put in an email:
NEVER be vulgar -- at least not at first. You don't who you are talking to. It may offend her. Don't assume that just because this is a sex site that woman want to be talked dirty to. If she leads you there you can follow, but let her initiate. Remember deep down women a looking primarily for a companion, not just a fuck buddy. Don't say anything to her that you would not want to be said to your mom, sister or .
NEVER just say "Hi" or "How are you?". Yes, it nice, but those get over-looked by more creative emails. It's better than being vulgar and you may get some responses, but I would try a more creative approach.
NEVER get upset by a rejection or no response. IT IS GOING TO HAPPEN A LOT. Get used to it and move on. It could be that she is a little bit overwhelmed at the moment or is taking a break. If you send her a nasty note, she will remember it and block your ass. BE NICE. If you are kind to her, she may change her mind when she is not quite so busy. Always remember no means no. Don't harass her.
NEVER tell you entire life story in the first email. If it takes more than 15 seconds to read, you may loose her attention no matter how creative it is. Be like Shrek, an onion with many layers that have to unpeeled slowly.
NEVER use a cookie-cutter email. A smart woman will see through that. Be specific to her.
NEVER put your eggs in one basket. Don't just email one woman email several of them.
Things you should do:
Refer to her profile and tell her why you chose to email her. Be specific otherwise you may get accused of the cookie-cutter email. Don't be generic. Make it about her personality, not her looks. Don't refer to anything genetic. I would much rather be told that I have a sexy personality than a sexy body. Hell, it may not even be a current picture. She may not even look like that anymore.
Be creative. Remember we dozens of emails a day. You want to be memorable, not just another message. A poem is always good and so is a joke or a riddle. Personally, I can't stand not knowing the punch line so I would have to reply to get the answer. Also, remember women like a little romance.
Avoid endless emails. You want to have actual physical contact, right? So ask her out for drinks or a coffee within the first couple of correspondences. You don't have to know a person inside and out before you meet them. The only real way to get to know someone is face-to-face. Don't expect sex on the first meeting. Personally, if I'm feeling it, my legs will open wide first date, but I'm unusual. Most women like to be chased at least a little. BUT don't be pathetic. If she gives you uninterested signals, don't chase. Leave it be.
Be honest. We will figure it out anyways.
My next blog will be about the actual date itself. It's time for wine & popcorn.
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Suggestion #3: Fill out your profile
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 1:59 pm
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2017 9:03 pm
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So you have your gold membership and a decent profile pic. The next step would be to complete your profile.
You don't have to write a novel like I have, but it needs to be more than one or two sentences. I want to know if I'm going to fit what you want. If not, I'm don't need to waste your time or mine. Be honest about who you are and what you are looking for. Confidence is ok, but don't be a braggart. Don't brag about how well you do in the bedroom or that you will be the best at .... whatever. That's for me to decide. When someone brags like that, I feel like the opposite is probably true. Recently, I was with someone who bragged about being the best pussy eater I would ever have. First of all, I had to ask. A lady should never have to ask. Then he was only there for about 5 seconds. That's not enough enough time for my clitoris to pop her head out. His excuse was that I was with another man a few days before. Well I washed since then. The guy was also wearing a condom, so I don't buy it. Well, I guarantee my pussy has been satisfied way better than that. Don't make promises you won't keep.
You could use the site suggestions to get you started. Modify the wording and make it your own. Put some effort into it. It does not have to static. Mine is constantly changing as I am constantly changing what I'm look for. Review it every so often and update it as necessary. Make sure spelling, grammar and punctuation is on point. Yes, we look for that stuff. The more effort you put into your profile tells prospective partners how much effort you are going to put towards them. We like men who puts effort into us.
Keep the sexual innuendos to a minimum. Yes, we all know this is a sex site. We all know the ultimate goal is to bump and grind. But women want an emotional connection. We want an emphasis on the word "friend" in friends with benefits not just the "benefits" part. Trust me, if you fulfill the "friend" part first, the "benefits" will come.
While we are on this subject let's talk about definitions from a woman's perspective. May sure you use the correct terminology on your profile.
Friends with benefits -- you hang out and do other things outside of the bedroom, not necessarily having sex every time you're together. Relationship is based on friendship, not sex, Neither party is obligated to meet each other's family nor are they obligated to be available to each other's beck and call. Neither are expected to be exclusive.
Fuck Buddy -- you meet for sex and that's it. Relationship is based on sex. Yes you can go out and fun together, but it is not a prerequisite. Neither give a damn about each other's family or job situation. Most likely you won't even get to know each other's last name. Neither party is exclusive. Hint: most women don't prefer this situation.
Girlfriend/boyfriend -- exclusive relationship. There are strings attached. The L-word is used often. You are required to meet her family. You are required to take her out for dates. You are required to give her roses for Valentine's Day, Birthday gifts, Christmas gifts and Anniversary gifts. An exclusive pussy is an expensive pussy, but at least there will be pussy.
Next time I will write about making contact..
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Suggestion #2: Profile pic
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Posted:Jan 7, 2017 8:05 am
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2017 5:09 am
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I get asked quite a bit by men how to improve their profile. I'm no expert & I can only make suggestions from my perspective. I don't claim to represent all women, but I will be happy to pass along my ideas.
Ok, now that you have gold status and thus the means to communicate with someone, you now need to put up a profile pic that will attract attention. You need to determine your target audience and cater to their tastes.
Personally, and I think most women will agree, I prefer face pics. Dick pics are a turn-off. There are so many on here that there is no shock value to them any more. You might as well post a pic of your elbow. I'm not saying chock shots don't have their place in your profile, but not as your main pic. Yes, I have naughty pics on here, but for the most part, they are classy and/or artistic. They are buried in my pic folder. My target are men. Men are visual creatures. Good advertising includes pussy shots, boobs and blow jobs. Women are emotional. Show us who you are. A face pic will tell us whether or not you're a cousin. If she tells Grandma you are here, then she's telling on herself too. Remember there is more of a stigma for women on here than men (sluts vs studs connotation). I know in some parts of Missouri, especially about 2 counties south of here, fucking a cousin is considered normal, but hat's a no go for me.
I understand the argument...you're worried that someone might recognize you on here. But guess what? They are on here too. Simple rule--don't post anything here or on any social media site that you wouldn't own in public. I would think the goal would be to eventually meet someone face-to-face. Are you going to shake their hand with your penis so that they know who you are?
Another argument-- you don't take good pictures. Well, figure out the problem & fix it. Do you need a haircut or at least run a comb through it & maybe some product? Easy fix. Do you need to trim the beard or, my preference, shave the fucker off? Another easy fix. Does you skin look horrible? Get a facial. Men need and are entitled to maintenance too. Do you need to update your eyeglasses or get contacts? Whatever is wrong is fixable. And for God-sake, smile or at least don't scowl. Who wants to fuck a guy that looks like he wants to choke the life out of you? Ok, well maybe there are some...
Still no face pic? Well, tease me then. My favorite pics, are those that let my imagination go crazy like the jeans that are unzipped to just there, an unbuttoned shirt or just a shot of the eyes. There is this one picture of a man, Gunner (yes, I called you out), laying naked on a beach with a flaccid penis. You can almost feel the heat of the sun and the sound of the water hitting the shore. Gets me hot just thinking about it...
While we are talking about pics, let's talk about other pics in your profile. Show us what you like to do outside of the bedroom. Remember women like to make an emotional connection. Do you like to scuba dive? Show us some of your pictures of a coral reef. Do you play an instrument or write music? Post a video of your work. Speaking of videos, a guy jacking off is boring and sad. Stop posting those.
Other things I don't want to see here
1. Your asshole. Gross!
2. You fucking another woman unless you are a couple & it's your partner.
3. I know I said post pictures of you hobbies, but I don't want to see a dead deer. It just makes me want to cry. Post the picture of deer prior to the killshot.
4. Your . This is a sex site after all. They have no place here. You can show them to me when we meet.
5. Your ex.
To sum it up so far-- Get a gold membership & post a face pic, not a crotch shot, as you main pic. At the very least, don't be the shadow man and not post anything. That will get you no attention. Stop being a pussy & let us see your face.
I'll talk about filling out your profile the next time I get a chance to blog
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How to be successful on this website. Suggestion #1
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Posted:Jan 3, 2017 5:12 am
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2024 6:49 pm
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I get asked quite a bit by men how to improve their profile. I'm no expert & I can only make suggestions from my perspective. I don't claim to represent all women, but I will be happy to pass along my ideas.
Buy a gold membership with a visa gift card. Never use a personal credit card on this site. It's been hacked too many times and there may be some erroneous charges that show up . Honestly, you can't do much on this website besides instant message without a gold membership.
The ratio of men to women is around 20:1. When I go on im, I get probably 10 pings in the first few seconds. I can only keep up with 3-5 conversations at a time. I do look at profiles before I answer No gold means that most likely we're not going to continue the conversation another time and eventually off-line which is my goal. I don't im much nor am I going to stay long on the im. It gets too overwhelming. I will politely decline and you have wasted one of five of your allotted pings.
If you are too cheap to buy gold, what kind of date are we going to go on? What kind of hotel are we going to fuck in? Suck it up, buttercup and fork it over. It does say a lot about you.
Ok, gotta get up and go to work. To be continued
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Do you ever wonder....
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Posted:Jan 1, 2017 10:55 pm
Last Updated:Jan 3, 2017 9:02 pm
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if people really care about you or if they are just giving you the illusion of caring so they can take advantage of your vulnerabilities? For example, I'm a certified "Pleaser" ( a shrink said so, so I guess that makes it true). I have a hard time saying "no". I think I do things to make someone else happy, even though it makes me feel "dirty" just to hear the words "good girl". Does that make me sad & weak?
I put up this facade of separating my heart from my vagina and may not even remember the guys name the next day, but that's just because I'm old and memory is not so good. Yes, I do like to have fun. I do like to have sex with no strings. I swear that I won't be monogamous ever again. But that's just a shield for my heart. Deep down under many layers of brink walls there is a heart here. And that heart wants the fairy tale -- a man who thinks I'm worth the strings. Someone that wants me to be monogamous and will be monogamous to me.
Maybe I'm just PMSing....
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Glad I wore my big girl panties today.
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Posted:Aug 12, 2016 8:05 pm
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2017 6:39 am
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I had bariatric surgery. Lost 120 lbs since October. The surgery was actually in February, but I always count back October as that was when the process started. I've actually lost way too much, but that's what happens when you can't keep anything down. Well, I found can take regular vitamins instead of those damn disgusting chewables that made nauseous and ruined my appetite, so I'm doing much better now. Anyway, that's not the story.
I have a hard time with clothes fitting. Everything I have is too big for me. I buy some britches and in a couple of weeks they are too big for me and I just can't buy cheap. So I can't keep up. Right now, I don't have any belts that fit and my blouses look like dresses.
So I put on these britches today that were just a little loose last week thinking I could pull it off. As the day wore on today my jeans kept getting looser and looser, but it wasn't uncontrollable....yet
I was completing the weeks work by scanning a bunch of paperwork and then take it to shred as it is all confidential stuff. I'm in HR you know. I finished scanning and was taking this arm full of stuff to the basement to shred. As I was walking, I could feel them sliding down a bit further and further and pretty soon. I was standing in the middle of an office full truck drivers and sales people with my waste band around my ankles. Luckily today was NOT No Panty Day, nor that time of the month. So there I was in my pink granny panties (laundry day is tomorrow) for all to see. You could hear a pin drop in that office full of sales people and truck drivers. Those are two groups of people that never shut up. Oh, and instead of wearing one of my blouse dresses, I was wearing one my 's t-shirts. It's a little big, but not big enough to cover the booty. Needless to say papers went flying everywhere. I'm sure there something with a social security number laying on the floor somewhere which I will get fired for leaving out.
Please someone tell me that I'm not the only person that this has happened to. I've also had the issue of my skirt getting caught my drawers after I've left the ladies room. Just can't win....
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Just a sweet poem
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Posted:Jun 23, 2016 5:10 am
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2017 8:06 am
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A Good Relationship
Big ol dreams
Capture my mind and free my soul
Tales to tell our future
Of how you swallowed my heart whole
You made me whole when I was incomplete
Showed you why with no other you ever had to compete
The worlds waiting for us
To prove that love does in fact exist
Deeper than sex,wetter than any kiss
You touched my intellect
Vibes intertwined
And from that point on
I knew you had to be mine
Enveloped in love and trust and lust
In my darkest hours your love has the brightest touch
Written by monaelisa (jadamonaewhite)
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