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bi4himherorboth 52M
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1/21/2020 10:05 am
Group Sex

Let's start with a definition. 3ways are 3ways. Group sex is MORE than that.

Some people are strictly 1x1. My GF is like that. She values focus on her and on who she is with. She doesn't even want anyone watching.

Others are good with 3 ways. There are lots of great ways for 3 people be fully engaged with each other. Many well known positions and variations. This is true for FFF, MFM, MMF, MFF, and MMM. 3 ways are intense and dynamic and very exciting. And the most that most people want do.

But group sex is different. My first group experience is when I was young, living out west, and a woman I started going parties with was part of a small group of people "who got together, got high, got naked, and had fun." I was in!!

My first time was wild! people there when we arrived. Roughly equal numbers of women and men (though clearly not exactly). Some looked like couples but I later learned those were all swaps except 1 couple who always just showed up have sex among other people having sex - exhibitionist and voyeurs. , that is the easiest way be involved in group sex. Just do what you do in front of a group of people. That can be VERY thrilling.

The group had all known each other for a while and slowly added new folks, others dropped out over time. It was about 20 people and about half that number usually showed up their once/month "get togethers." Over about 18 months we went times. We ended up in all sorts of different scenarios and it was very freeing and thrilling.

But groups ONLY work when there are some well established rules everyone follows:
1. RESPECT. Never push (one ask is all you get). Never go beyond what is O Always respect everyone else's preferences and boundaries. Without the safety this rule represents, groups never work and I would never engage in one that didn't have everyone plugged into this.

2. STDs. This is tied into respect and making a safe environment. Get tested. Get treated. Don't show up until it is gone. if you can't be treated for it, then don't bring it. But this is KEY... everyone doing this had to get tested for everything monthly, and bring your results. Trust but verify.
That is a little strict for some, but I get it and it always made me feel more comfortable.

3. Have fun. This is important. Engage with people in the joy of pleasure and sex, no matter how that is defined. Even if you're being DOM with someone, never forget that their pain is their pleasure, so focus on that, enhance that.

I have slowly cultivated a small group that gets together occasionally. I'm trying to make it more consistent so people can plan. And it is not like any group I've been part of before. It was born right here on AdultFriendFinder. There were consistently a group of guys who, mid-day, were stroking and edging on the cams here. As I started asking if they ever did their exhibitionist jacking in person, nearly all of them said they hadn't but would like to.

Going on about a year now, there are usually anywhere from 4-8 guys come together, watch some porn (straight or MMF) and stroke, edge, and now that we're all more comfortable, usually some sucking happening too. Pretty expressive for a bunch of bi/straight/curious guys... But this freedom of expression and experience only has happened over time and with trust.

That's how all group sex should be - just like all other sex: safe, respectful, fun.

NOTE: Photo is NOT our group. Photo credit is on the photo.


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