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Why a blow job matters?  

chillgal11 60F  
31 posts
10/17/2018 5:18 am
Why a blow job matters?


Let’s admit that most, not all, but a large majority of men have a blowjob fixation. Straight or bi/gay, men crave a good or even mediocre blow job. They have since their first wet dream. If they are yoga buffs, they likely have tried to suck their own cock. That is a fact, almost as strange in my view of men grabbing a dressmakers measuring tape or a straight ruler to measure their erect cock....yup, I’m 7 inches!

So on the blow job issue. Men post hundreds of videos of them receiving oral sex, or a photo of the act, as if GETTING a blow job is some spectacular skill or talent that will entice a lover. I find that strange. What a woman wants to know or even see evidence of is the man’s skill at GIVING cunnilingus . Now there’s a man worth chatting to. Show us your skills in pleasing US not in. How you are pleased. That’s like showing a woman a photo of the dream car you covet when she’s looking for the right pair of shoes, don’t worry , ladies get the analogy.

So my thoughts are, if you are hoping to attract a lover, advertise what you can do for her and less on what you think you deserve. Just a thought

BiggLala 48F  
28949 posts
10/17/2018 6:09 am

While I can understand wanting to engage in a pleasurable sexual act (like...who doesn't lol ), I don't understand some men's fixation on solely receiving a blowjob. Some men say that's *all* they want, and even go so far to want a beej more than pussy.

I don't comprehend it, but then again...I don't have to.

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wvguyforfun 45M
6 posts
10/17/2018 6:22 am

Actually.....I agree!


xtita3 58M  
420 posts
10/17/2018 6:22 am


Daytimer09B 52M
781 posts
10/17/2018 6:32 am

From this man's point of view, ...yes, a good blowjob is better than average sex if your partner is just the kind who wants to lay there and have you do all the engagement. I love 69 where there is more stimulation for my brain and the incredible feeling that it brings. However, I can also understand why women want cunnilingus by itself so they can bask and focus on the pleasurable feeling. And also from this guys point of view, I can go at it longer than she will be able to handle. I have two dream ways of waking up in the morning: one is to getting a bj and the other is her sitting on my face. Both of those are a very good morning. So how would you prefer to wake up?


chillgal11 replies on 10/18/2018 5:19 am:
I think many who wrote comments here, all of which I appreciate, are missing the point. I advocate oral sex on both parties enjoyment level.

The point was why do men advertise getting a blow job as part of their profile instead of giving cunnilingus.

Now to answer your question, awaking with a man’s face buried between my thighs is a lovely thought....and has happened. I’ve also made the good morning gift of oral to my partner, and yes morn8ng sex is the best!

BigMan757362 58M

10/17/2018 6:44 am

As I have been told by a few very nice Women on this site "Do not generalize". Yes most men like a good bj, but there are those of us that would forgo that for being with the right person. You make an excellent point, just remember not all of us think the same. Have a great day and good luck in your search for the guy who will please you all day.
Still do not get the shoe thing but, we are fixated on our own stuff.


BiggLala 48F  
28949 posts
10/17/2018 7:42 am

    Quoting Daytimer09B:
    From this man's point of view, ...yes, a good blowjob is better than average sex if your partner is just the kind who wants to lay there and have you do all the engagement. I love 69 where there is more stimulation for my brain and the incredible feeling that it brings. However, I can also understand why women want cunnilingus by itself so they can bask and focus on the pleasurable feeling. And also from this guys point of view, I can go at it longer than she will be able to handle. I have two dream ways of waking up in the morning: one is to getting a bj and the other is her sitting on my face. Both of those are a very good morning. So how would you prefer to wake up?
...yes, a good blowjob is better than average sex if your partner is just the kind who wants to lay there and have you do all the engagement.
-Would this type of person even give a 'good' blowjob? Or a blowjob at all?

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qvillebiman 63M  
370 posts
10/17/2018 9:19 am

as a bi male I enjoy both sides of a blowjob. But as I get older I realize that I enjoy pleasing my partner whether it's another male or my wife more than just receiving no matter how good they make me feel


younggun4fun27 32M
54 posts
10/17/2018 11:48 am

I think for some people its the idea of being "served" ... but this isnt for all men. I enjoy a good blowjob but I dont find myself craving it. I can do without and enjoy a good sex session. I do love giving oral to women though, and find it hard to go without it during sex.


Icould 62M
3807 posts
10/17/2018 6:40 pm

sex without oral? Must be a desperate quicky that both parties need. head is great to just lay back and enjoy or to watch your cock slide in and out of her mouth while you hold her....opps distracted again.
I do love performing oral as well and bringing her to orgasm (hopefully more then once) the feel of her thighs squeezing the taste of her flowing juice, her hands in my hair pulling me into her as I feel her begin....And again I distracted.

What was the question?

There you go
That's all and none of it tragic.


chillgal11 replies on 10/21/2018 5:46 pm:
Hey hands9me! Glad to see you still haunt my blog.....I t3nd to break off when bored. Miss my west coast life . Take good care! K.

OpenmindedinY 46M
134 posts
10/19/2018 4:51 pm

I must say i totally agree with you n many aspects its kind of funny how many guys show of there junk kind of hilarious too, cause to me that shows there brains means not much, or getting a blow job really thats all you got to show but no difference when a woman shows a guy putting his cock n her pussy showing every one, most women think guys love seeing that well not every guy loves to see that either.
So point proven but women show some of the stupidest shit too so it goes both ways but i do agree with you, and some of the comments I've read here as well too.
Actually the ultimate blow job is when a woman swallows as well, sadly not a lot of men like to go down on women not cause there not clean its some thing else, it think cause a lot are married or have a girlfriend thats my opinion mind you.
69 is one of the best for both parties to enjoy oral no one can complain either.
S theres pros and cons to your the blow job aspect though.
Some men and women like to those things to it gets them off for some reason too, down know why.
So you made good points though i think, a few others have as well too. Not every woman is good at BJ either sadly. You need every thing else that comes alone with it too.
Im sure your going to get your share of interesting comments as well too.


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