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chillgal11 60F
31 posts
10/13/2017 10:17 am
Words and Meaning


I am not a fastidious editor of communication but I do get confused at times when faced with the many varied subliminal or not so subliminal use of words on this site or in the what I have dubbed "porn language"adopted when adults are trying to talk about sex.
FUN... I get asked what do you like to do for fun? or what kind of "fun"do you like?This is after I've read their profile saying they are looking for "fun" or using the word fun in what is obviously a substitute for sex. So I struggle ...do they mean do I like anal sex or sex swings, or golf ?

NSA: No strings Attached, I get it it the want of sex without commitment to giving a shit about the other person, maybe not even knowing their name or marital status. But truly once you have a name or address, a bit of a conversation about their life, then put your cock in their vagina or mouth. or pee in their toilet, you are acquainted...there is a string, it may not be a rope but its a string, the only true NSA sex is the type you pay for, thats ALL business, who cares if you never see one another again, the clerk at the 7-11 doesnt care if you return for another Slurpee, thats NSA...ejaculating all over Mary's sheets, now thats a string, sorry to tell you.

FWB. Lets examine what a friend is....someone whose company you enjoy, whose character agrees with you, hopefully someone you have some care for , certainly are in mutual agreement that you get along, share opinion or attitudes with, IF you had to introduce them to another friend you would not be embarrassed doing so.Now Benefits...a very positive concept, it should ADD to your overall situation, bring you some betterment in your life. So together its a wonderful concept, yet its often used to describe ongoing casual sex, the kind where you ring up for a nooner or booty call, fuck and leave with no expectation of anything else until next nooner or booty call. I dont find that very friendly or beneficial (for me) That is a fuck partner, period, which is fine as its what alot of folks are only interested...its a hookup right? AND for you married dudes if you are sleeping around with another woman...shes your Mistress...lets resurrect the term OK?, you are cheating on the wife with your mistress. Ladies I'm not sure what the male counterpart is called, perhaps Stud?

Also "Do you like younger men"has been an opener for many. Yes Im 57 but when a 45 year old dude who is a grandpa asks me that I almost choke on my wine....and you guys under 35 who lead with that question, usually dont carry the internal maturity to converse with me anyway. The 19 to 25 year olds, forget about it, Ive forgotten more about sex than you have experienced, just go away.

Insights from the chill seat....read em and weep, comment crucify...Enjoy!

forgotforgetting 54M
7285 posts
10/16/2017 2:55 pm

Ah words. Facinating. Language itself is a coding system. Then add codes within codes within codes and it is an endless source of interest for me. Yeah, I am quite nerdy about this.

The ambiguity is somewhat by design and by trial and error. Afterall, there is recognized dictionary to consult. All things considered, reading profiles and the like on this site is no worse than reading the real estate ads.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


chillgal11 replies on 10/17/2017 9:28 am:
Real estate listing descriptions, good analogy. Guess that is why you need to have a walk through or drive by to see for yourself.

forgotforgetting 54M
7285 posts
10/18/2017 6:52 am

Exactly! Now, I have all manner of thoughts about "curb-side appeal."

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


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