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Rejection Retribution. Ridiculousness
Posted:Nov 8, 2018 11:35 am
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2019 2:14 pm

I’m certain in all of our lives, either in person or on line, have felt the sting of rejection. It’s humbling, it’s hurtful and it’s just a fact of life.

On here I’ve rejected or declined a man’s invitation, I am always polite with a no thank you .org , not interested comment. If the very first contact comment is a rude or inappropriate comment, I may be less polite. However on a few occasions the rejection is met with sudden indignant insults, I must be an ugly stupid bitch not worthy of their superior attention! Yet they were desperately pursuing ME!

If after not responding to your fourth email in which you state the same drivel I’ve said no to over and over again until I snap! I now get insulting...please guys, no means no, silence means no, no thanks, means no. Move on...I do when it’s obvious the man isn’t interested.

There’s a shoe for every foot, go find yours and be polite. It doesn’t mean you are unworthy of a fuck, it’s just I’m not that into you.....or you into me.

Just chill!
Why a blow job matters?
Posted:Oct 17, 2018 5:18 am
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2019 7:54 am

Let’s admit that most, not all, but a large majority of men have a blowjob fixation. Straight or bi/gay, men crave a good or even mediocre blow job. They have since their first wet dream. If they are yoga buffs, they likely have tried to suck their own cock. That is a fact, almost as strange in my view of men grabbing a dressmakers measuring tape or a straight ruler to measure their erect cock....yup, I’m 7 inches!

So on the blow job issue. Men post hundreds of videos of them receiving oral sex, or a photo of the act, as if GETTING a blow job is some spectacular skill or talent that will entice a lover. I find that strange. What a woman wants to know or even see evidence of is the man’s skill at GIVING cunnilingus . Now there’s a man worth chatting to. Show us your skills in pleasing US not in. How you are pleased. That’s like showing a woman a photo of the dream car you covet when she’s looking for the right pair of shoes, don’t worry , ladies get the analogy.

So my thoughts are, if you are hoping to attract a lover, advertise what you can do for her and less on what you think you deserve. Just a thought
See where it goes?
Posted:May 14, 2018 1:10 pm
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2020 5:44 am

I am simply baffled at the phrase, see where it goes....men often insert this into their profile as a filler or perhaps a teaser to certain women to expect a sexual encounter to lead to Love everlasting. I’m not saying miracles don’t happen, but come on.

If a man is looking for ANY possibility of a love connection, the last place he’s looking is on AdultFriendFinder. That pertains to women too. We are on AdultFriendFinder because do not want a serious love Match relationship. For whatever reasons we have we would like either u ncomplicated fucking with folks we really don’t want to know much about or invest time into knowing OR we want an ongoing casual sexual friendship , sometimes it includes social activities but it does not include the expectation of Love and committment, hello....eharmoney....

So the tag line , see where it goes , is just a man trying to use the lure of Love for sex, blow me baby , I might take you out for a burger,lol. Please! My other pet peeve repetition of tag lines on here is “I’m not trying to change my life , just shake it up or enhance it”....sorry to tell ya, that means change. But I know they mean I’m married and not leaving my spouse so don’t get any funny ideas.

Just a few thoughts from the chill zone. Clearing the bullshit out is fun isn’t it?
Men...We Know where your cock is!!
Posted:Nov 8, 2017 11:02 am
Last Updated:May 8, 2018 4:00 pm

So here is the thing. Men get anxious about ensuring they get a blow job. So they position themselves in a way to dangle the dick in front of your mouth, straddle your face. I get a tad upset at the move. Giving oral sex, by either party, is a gift. When a man makes his way down my body and begins to make love to my lady parts, I simply sigh with delight and certainly communicate my appreciation to my lover in ways I'm certain he understands.In fact the last man was so aroused at MY arousal level he ejaculated while performing oral sex on me.

Guys I know where your cock is and when I am ready to gift you of my oral skills I will find it, and you will enjoy it because I am enthusiastic about pleasuring you. I don't need a Cirque de Soliel move by you to accelerate the process, I do not need you to fuck my face either, it is a gift, let me give it to you...sit back, relax, enjoy.
Things that make you go Hmmmm
Posted:Oct 18, 2017 6:34 am
Last Updated:Dec 26, 2018 12:03 pm

Being a curious person, I often wonder about the thought process behind men and women who use AdultFriendFinder as a means to meet others and their chosen advertisement pictures.

We can all agree there are plenty proud cock pics. Each man with his fully erect 5 inches (that he thinks is 9), do you guys actually pull out the ruler or measuring tape or just guess...I visualize this. At 57 I have never measured a mans penis. Ladies with their ample breasts bursting from a lacy bra or garment, all lovely in their presentation. Some prefer the tushy pic, again nicely done I personally prefer the clothed, leave something to the imagination pic, but that's just me.

On another note, the photos meant to display sexual talent or what you bring to the equation of sexual satisfaction. Most men display a "me getting a blow job" photo, which either says..."I love Blow Jobs or I am so proud my last hookup was this good looking and who I photographed looking up at me while she blew me I put her face on the internet sucking my cock, but I'm not going to show you my face, someone might recognize me, but her? who cares, she blew me and I'm proud of that....

I can certainly understand a woman choosing to post a pic of her talents but guys, if you really want to entice a woman show a pic of YOU performing cunnilingus on a woman, show us YOUR talent, we already know you want us to go downtown, show us your best effort in that realm.

Thoughts from the chill seat...
Words and Meaning
Posted:Oct 13, 2017 10:17 am
Last Updated:May 9, 2018 7:59 pm

I am not a fastidious editor of communication but I do get confused at times when faced with the many varied subliminal or not so subliminal use of words on this site or in the what I have dubbed "porn language"adopted when adults are trying to talk about sex.
FUN... I get asked what do you like to do for fun? or what kind of "fun"do you like?This is after I've read their profile saying they are looking for "fun" or using the word fun in what is obviously a substitute for sex. So I struggle ...do they mean do I like anal sex or sex swings, or golf ?

NSA: No strings Attached, I get it it the want of sex without commitment to giving a shit about the other person, maybe not even knowing their name or marital status. But truly once you have a name or address, a bit of a conversation about their life, then put your cock in their vagina or mouth. or pee in their toilet, you are acquainted...there is a string, it may not be a rope but its a string, the only true NSA sex is the type you pay for, thats ALL business, who cares if you never see one another again, the clerk at the 7-11 doesnt care if you return for another Slurpee, thats NSA...ejaculating all over Mary's sheets, now thats a string, sorry to tell you.

FWB. Lets examine what a friend is....someone whose company you enjoy, whose character agrees with you, hopefully someone you have some care for , certainly are in mutual agreement that you get along, share opinion or attitudes with, IF you had to introduce them to another friend you would not be embarrassed doing so.Now Benefits...a very positive concept, it should ADD to your overall situation, bring you some betterment in your life. So together its a wonderful concept, yet its often used to describe ongoing casual sex, the kind where you ring up for a nooner or booty call, fuck and leave with no expectation of anything else until next nooner or booty call. I dont find that very friendly or beneficial (for me) That is a fuck partner, period, which is fine as its what alot of folks are only interested...its a hookup right? AND for you married dudes if you are sleeping around with another woman...shes your Mistress...lets resurrect the term OK?, you are cheating on the wife with your mistress. Ladies I'm not sure what the male counterpart is called, perhaps Stud?

Also "Do you like younger men"has been an opener for many. Yes Im 57 but when a 45 year old dude who is a grandpa asks me that I almost choke on my wine....and you guys under 35 who lead with that question, usually dont carry the internal maturity to converse with me anyway. The 19 to 25 year olds, forget about it, Ive forgotten more about sex than you have experienced, just go away.

Insights from the chill seat....read em and weep, comment crucify...Enjoy!
Being Ridiculous
Posted:Oct 11, 2017 9:09 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2019 9:29 am

This is an "Adult" website. I get that, so why do so many at like impulsive hormonal teenagers?

If you feel the need to say "Hi I'm horny...." just take care of your situation like a big boy (or girl) and be done with it.

Act like an adult, be respectful , use real words, porn speak is for those fake videos where there are men with 9 inch cocks and women take it up the ass like its a train entering the St. Clair tunnel.

Just saying , in my opinion, if you are articulate and friendly, the intimate conversation will develop naturally as you chat, you dont need to lead with your dick hanging out.

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