Whatcha Whatcha Whatcha Want?
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Posted:Jun 21, 2015 5:59 am
Last Updated:Nov 22, 2015 2:14 pm
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To continue in the vein of my last post, I decided to view my 'dating hiatus' as a period to do some casual research.
I've noticed that:
1) More women/couples are sending me flirts and friend requests.
2) Men are *slightly* more polite when they email me, even though I specifically asked NOT to be emailed.
3) I've been sending a stock response to those who DO email and IM me: Thanks for reaching out, but I am currently not looking to meet or chat with anyone. Good luck and have a great weekend . Most dudes have turned around and thanked me for at least giving them the courtesy of a response. Others just walk away, which is fine with me. But....
4) A lot of men ignore my reply and continue to send messages, asking where I live or why I'm taking a break. One guy on IM persisted with "So how can I get to know you?" to which I replied, "Well, I'm blocking you now, so the chances of that happening are slim to none."
5) Several men have emailed me patronizing messages in an effort to prove that they are somehow different, and deserve a chance to prove it. I find this more annoying than endearing.
6) One dude emailed me out of the blue this very morning to tell me that I'm full of myself, and that I should 'jus b nice', lol. Because telling strangers that they are arrogant is clearly the polite thing to do  .
7) (This one is my favorite) An unprecedented number of fellas have suggested that instead of being frustrated that I'm not finding a "boyfriend" here, I should go to Match or EHarmony because THIS IS A HOOK UP SITE.
Um. It is?
Let talk about that for a minute.
I log into P.assion, where the homepage says 'Sexy personals for passionate people' or something to that effect. I am not passionate and my profile is not sexy, and yet they've allowed me to join. And sure, the couple pictured on the homepage are half naked and intertwined, but that doesn't mean anything. After all, Gerber baby food has a photo of a baby on the jar and well, y'all see where I'm going with that. Nowhere on MY interface does it suggest that this is strictly a HOOK UP SITE.
But let's dial it back and define 'hook up'...
To ME, hook up means NSA sex. Feel free to tell me your definition-- I'd be curious to know.
Okay, having established that there is NO written indication that this site is strictly for random NSA sex, I am loathe to believe that there isn't room for folks who seek something in between "sex" and "marriage".
So why suggest I'm better suited for Match or EHarmony? I'm not looking for a boyfriend or a husband. And contrary to the name of the of the site that most of YOU log into (A.FF), I'm also not looking for a "friend". I'm looking for someone to fuck. It just so happens that I think it's kinda important to get to know him insofar as ENSURING THAT HE'S NOT GOING TO MAKE A SKIN SUIT AND MATCHING GLOVES FROM MY RATHER SOFT AND TANNED HIDE.
Since when does requiring a sense of safety dictate that I'm looking for a boyfriend? If I wanted a boyfriend, I'd be more concerned with a host of other minutiae that I couldn't care less about when it comes to the reason I'm here, such as his employment or whether he prefers Sammy Hagar to David Lee Roth (he better not).
BTW: I see TONS of profiles written by men which include a variation of the statement, "not looking for one night, would prefer ONE woman for FWB or dating". And here's where y'all will tell me that those men are liars who are just patronizing women and saying what we want to hear. If that's true, those men are EXACTLY the reason women here need to BE WARY and perform some DUE DILIGENCE. The MEN dug their own graves with that one.
But since it's clear that some men (and women) are seeking something other than one night of passion with a total stranger, maybe this ISN'T strictly a hook up site? And MAYBE the folks at Various Inc should find a way to separate the folks who want to fuck, from the folks who want to know your first name before they fuck you.
Oh wait. They did find a way. They created MULTIPLE SITES under different guises which ALL LEAD BACK TO THE SAME POOL OF PEOPLE.
[Insert eye-roll here]
So, while YOU many have logged into 'fuck a slut' (yes it exists) , I logged into 'passion', and somehow we both think we're on the same wavelength. And no wonder no one is getting laid around here!
Let me ask you, Wise Readers...what does this site mean to YOU? When you signed up, were you looking for a NSA hookup? Or perhaps you wanted to meet someone for regular, casual sex but no commitment? Maybe you were hoping to find a meaningful relationship or spouse?
Talk to me...
In the meantime, I'm gonna go check out bloggeresonhiatuswhostillwantsex dot com. I just know it'll have the perfect man for me .
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Shopping the Competition
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Posted:Jun 4, 2015 6:38 am
Last Updated:Jun 18, 2015 8:09 am
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So...have you? Shopped the competition, that is...
Ever taken a gander at other members of the same gender?
You can tell me...I can keep a secret  .
On the heels of my last post regarding the Top Fan contest, I thought it might behoove me to actually look at some profiles of the ladies who are wading around in my pool of probables. What I saw surprised me.
1. There are four or five women who are consistently both friends and top fans of the men I have my eye on. It's the same chicks each time...seems we have the same taste in men.
2. "Modesty" is a dying art when it comes to men AND women where photos are concerned.
3. I have a pretty vagina.
4. There seem to be a plethora of women who need to get laid as much as I do, lol. And many of them aren't shy about it.
Where are all the uptight, flaky, drama queens that you men are always complaining about??
For real- the women I saw were ready, willing and able to meet. They were standing on a virtual street corner screaming, "Fuck me, please!" They were engaging and funny, clear in their requirements (which didn't seem all that restrictive- basic stuff like non-smokers, D/D free, etc.).
Wtf are y'all men complaining about?????
I have seen more vageen in the past two days than I care to admit, and sure-- some of it made me lose my lunch, but there are some ladies out there who appear perfectly acceptable. I would go so far as to say they make me a little nervous, lol. No wonder I can't get laid! Lovely smiles and slim, perfect bodies (both young and old)...sigh. I'm out of my league.
But enough about me and my insecurities...
Have YOU taken a look to see what you're up against? Any thoughts?
Remember, I can keep a secret...
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A Dose of the Good Stuff
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Posted:May 3, 2015 4:34 am
Last Updated:May 26, 2015 3:48 pm
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I'm jinxing myself by writing this post-- I just KNOW it.
Fuck.
Okay, here goes nothing...
Remember Doc? From a few weeks ago? The one with the smoking hot profile photo? After our first meeting, I was kinda milquetoast about the whole thing. The meeting was fine- he matched his photos and was just as engaging in person as he was via text, but something just wasn't clicking. We lost touch for about three weeks until he approached me mid-April after he returned from a visit to Canada. I had a class in Illinois that upcoming weekend and he invited me to come over and hang out for a bit...and he really is a nice guy, so I thought, "Why not? No reason we can't be friends."
Well, let's just say that the clicking sound was LOUD AND CLEAR that evening (wink, wink).
Following that meeting, things were jumbled and awkward this past week. I felt a disconnect- as though he was being evasive even though HE was the one initiating conventions with ME. I started seeing signs of 'THAT GUY-itis'. It was as if he was purposely avoiding paying me the simplest compliment. This did not bode well for us, and I told him as much. I basically said that I didn't think this was going to work because I needed a man who could EXPRESS himself. I still wanted to be friends, though. I really do enjoy his company...
Anyhoo... I saw him again yesterday, after yet another baking class. We drove to a playground and sat on the swings and talked. We held hands and talked some more. We kissed on the bleachers like teenagers and got to the crux of the matter. And I *think* we got it figured out.
I think this might work.
Texting is good for a lot of things, but the inflection in someone's voice is a crucial piece of the puzzle. That's the bottom line. And I'm glad that I gave him a chance to explain things in person...that we both had a chance to see a bigger picture full of hand gestures, facial expressions and body language. I think I forget how vital those means of communication can be...
And his kisses? Worth a thousand words  .
Wish me luck, Guys and Dolls. For now, it seems the Doctor is In.
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