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hotdreamer1000 60M
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5/22/2014 11:07 am

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Fire and Rain


I had some dreadful news a little while ago. It’s taken a while for it to sink in, and I hesitated to say anything about it here, partly because I was worried it might come as a shock to any of you who had not heard, partly because anyway I don’t want to make any of you guys sad, and partly because I didn’t really feel like I had any right to be affected by it, or to write anything about it here, as I was only a bystander really.

Bubblevishous wrote to me, to tell me the news for fear of me hearing it first on line, and I was grateful for that, so I apologise to anyone who is upset by this.

One of our most cherished blogging friends, TheRedHeadinHeat has died. She was only fifty, and died in hospital after a very short sudden illness.

I only know Red from her blog and her comments here on mine, but from the very first time I read anything by her I was captivated by her straightforward honesty and kindness, and her ability to get straight to the important part of anything, but at the same time without ever taking life too seriously. Whenever I wrote about anything which was important to me, she always seemed to understand what I was saying, and I always looked forward to seeing that look of knowing amusement - the trade mark of her user picture – when she posted me a comment.

Bubblevishous was one of her best friends in real life, and although I knew Red first, it was Bubbles I met once, when she came to visit London. We talked about Red a lot, the fun they had had together, what a great friend she was, and how much she was sure I would like her. Bubbles was one of a few cherished women on this site who have recognised how to approach me without making me feel like retreating. As many of you know, I am really only here to blog, and I almost never initiate contact with anyone, but I am willing to respond if I am asked to.

Bubbles - it’s in her nature - took that a stage further, wanting to meet when she was in England, and I agreed. I wish……I wish, that Red had been with her. Having met and made friends with Bubbles, somehow I always thought that one day, through her, Red and I would also meet. But we never even exchanged emails, and now of course we never will. But she was still my friend, and I will miss her every time I log on, and every time I write something here. Maybe that's why I haven't posted anything for a while - I couldn't really face it. Now anytime I write anything, I will have to remember that I no longer need to wonder what she will think of it, and whether she will comment.

Like I said, I was only a bystander in her life. I can not imagine how her real friends and family must feel. I didn't think I had any real right to cry for someone I never even knew, but then a few days ago a well known voice came on the radio and suddenly I was in floods.

"Just yesterday morning they let me know you were gone."



Violette001 48F
4497 posts
5/22/2014 12:11 pm

whether you were just a bystander in her life or more, it doesn't matter. She meant a lot to you, and you looked forward to your interactions with her. So, you have as much right to grieve as anyone else.

i've been wondering where you've disappeared to.... i'm glad you're back. Because... i always look forward to hearing your thoughts on my posts too.... and you're missed sorely when you're silent.... and if you were to die, i'd have to mourn you as if i'd really known you while at the same time wishing i truly had.

i'm so sorry for your loss, Dreamer. it's kinda nice that people carve themselves a space into your heart... but it's so bloody empty when they disappear, isn't it???



"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/22/2014 1:45 pm

Hey Rascal, thanks.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/22/2014 1:49 pm

    Quoting Violette001:
    whether you were just a bystander in her life or more, it doesn't matter. She meant a lot to you, and you looked forward to your interactions with her. So, you have as much right to grieve as anyone else.

    i've been wondering where you've disappeared to.... i'm glad you're back. Because... i always look forward to hearing your thoughts on my posts too.... and you're missed sorely when you're silent.... and if you were to die, i'd have to mourn you as if i'd really known you while at the same time wishing i truly had.

    i'm so sorry for your loss, Dreamer. it's kinda nice that people carve themselves a space into your heart... but it's so bloody empty when they disappear, isn't it???


I didn't mean I didn't have the right to be sad - I was just kind of, you know, respecting the grief of her real family and friends.

By the way, just so you know, I will absolutely never disappear on you without a word. I have seen that done, and I know what it feels like. So you are safe from that from me. I might be away for a while, but you'd still be able to get hold of me.

Unless I died. I might not be able to get on line then. Hopefully it won't happen!


MyNameIsKay 58F  
11807 posts
5/22/2014 11:17 pm

I'm not sure I can add to what Peter has written...other than to say that I'd give you a big hug and tell you that everything will be okay. I'm sorry Dreamer...

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hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/23/2014 5:09 am

    Quoting  :

Thanks mate.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/23/2014 5:12 am

    Quoting MyNameIsKay:
    I'm not sure I can add to what Peter has written...other than to say that I'd give you a big hug and tell you that everything will be okay. I'm sorry Dreamer...
Thanks Kay, a hug would be nice.

But I'm okay really. I mean it's like I almost don't quite believe it. And we weren't really friends. I just feel an emptiness about it, you know what I mean?

I mean I probably could just forget about it - pretend she wasn't a real person and move on - but I don't really want to. And I just feel so sad for all the people who really did know her.


domandginger 61M/61F
7299 posts
5/23/2014 9:34 am

I used to read and comment on her blogs.. so sorry to hear about Red..
I liked her
Just goes to show... live life to fullest!
Ginger


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/23/2014 3:54 pm

    Quoting domandginger:
    I used to read and comment on her blogs.. so sorry to hear about Red..
    I liked her
    Just goes to show... live life to fullest!
    Ginger
I'm sorry if this was the first you heard of it D&G. From what I know, she did.


sexysixties2 72F  
38886 posts
5/25/2014 10:55 am

This is a strange community here....we get to know people so well yet probably never actually meet them and yet when they leave or pass on....it leaves an ache in our hearts.

Hugs.


"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/27/2014 6:47 am

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    This is a strange community here....we get to know people so well yet probably never actually meet them and yet when they leave or pass on....it leaves an ache in our hearts.

    Hugs.

Yes, it's true - strange, but a community just the same.


tigger678902 53F  
4549 posts
5/29/2014 7:58 pm

I'm sorry to hear of this loss, and you do have every right to feel sad and mourn the loss of a friend no matter you had not met in the flesh surely you had met in spirit here in this forum

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hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/30/2014 3:26 pm

    Quoting tigger678902:
    I'm sorry to hear of this loss, and you do have every right to feel sad and mourn the loss of a friend no matter you had not met in the flesh surely you had met in spirit here in this forum
Thank you tigger. We certainly did meet in spirit.


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