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Fire and Rain
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Fire and Rain I had some dreadful news a little while ago. It’s taken a while for it to sink in, and I hesitated to say anything about it here, partly because I was worried it might come as a shock to any of you who had not heard, partly because anyway I don’t want to make any of you guys sad, and partly because I didn’t really feel like I had any right to be affected by it, or to write anything about it here, as I was only a bystander really. Bubblevishous wrote to me, to tell me the news for fear of me hearing it first on line, and I was grateful for that, so I apologise to anyone who is upset by this. One of our most cherished blogging friends, TheRedHeadinHeat has died. She was only fifty, and died in hospital after a very short sudden illness. I only know Red from her blog and her comments here on mine, but from the very first time I read anything by her I was captivated by her straightforward honesty and kindness, and her ability to get straight to the important part of anything, but at the same time without ever taking life too seriously. Whenever I wrote about anything which was important to me, she always seemed to understand what I was saying, and I always looked forward to seeing that look of knowing amusement - the trade mark of her user picture – when she posted me a comment. Bubblevishous was one of her best friends in real life, and although I knew Red first, it was Bubbles I met once, when she came to visit London. We talked about Red a lot, the fun they had had together, what a great friend she was, and how much she was sure I would like her. Bubbles was one of a few cherished women on this site who have recognised how to approach me without making me feel like retreating. As many of you know, I am really only here to blog, and I almost never initiate contact with anyone, but I am willing to respond if I am asked to. Bubbles - it’s in her nature - took that a stage further, wanting to meet when she was in England, and I agreed. I wish……I wish, that Red had been with her. Having met and made friends with Bubbles, somehow I always thought that one day, through her, Red and I would also meet. But we never even exchanged emails, and now of course we never will. But she was still my friend, and I will miss her every time I log on, and every time I write something here. Maybe that's why I haven't posted anything for a while - I couldn't really face it. Now anytime I write anything, I will have to remember that I no longer need to wonder what she will think of it, and whether she will comment. Like I said, I was only a bystander in her life. I can not imagine how her real friends and family must feel. I didn't think I had any real right to cry for someone I never even knew, but then a few days ago a well known voice came on the radio and suddenly I was in floods. "Just yesterday morning they let me know you were gone." |
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whether you were just a bystander in her life or more, it doesn't matter. She meant a lot to you, and you looked forward to your interactions with her. So, you have as much right to grieve as anyone else. i've been wondering where you've disappeared to.... i'm glad you're back. Because... i always look forward to hearing your thoughts on my posts too.... and you're missed sorely when you're silent.... and if you were to die, i'd have to mourn you as if i'd really known you while at the same time wishing i truly had. i'm so sorry for your loss, Dreamer. it's kinda nice that people carve themselves a space into your heart... but it's so bloody empty when they disappear, isn't it???   --Author Unknown
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Hey Rascal, thanks.
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whether you were just a bystander in her life or more, it doesn't matter. She meant a lot to you, and you looked forward to your interactions with her. So, you have as much right to grieve as anyone else. i've been wondering where you've disappeared to.... i'm glad you're back. Because... i always look forward to hearing your thoughts on my posts too.... and you're missed sorely when you're silent.... and if you were to die, i'd have to mourn you as if i'd really known you while at the same time wishing i truly had. i'm so sorry for your loss, Dreamer. it's kinda nice that people carve themselves a space into your heart... but it's so bloody empty when they disappear, isn't it??? By the way, just so you know, I will absolutely never disappear on you without a word. I have seen that done, and I know what it feels like. So you are safe from that from me. I might be away for a while, but you'd still be able to get hold of me. Unless I died. I might not be able to get on line then. Hopefully it won't happen!
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I'm not sure I can add to what Peter has written...other than to say that I'd give you a big hug and tell you that everything will be okay. I'm sorry Dreamer...
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People we know through here are as real and as important as anyone else we know. It might be that the grief process is different but it's certainly still there. Fire and Rain is, I'm sure is very appropriate. I'm sorry for your loss.
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I'm not sure I can add to what Peter has written...other than to say that I'd give you a big hug and tell you that everything will be okay. I'm sorry Dreamer... But I'm okay really. I mean it's like I almost don't quite believe it. And we weren't really friends. I just feel an emptiness about it, you know what I mean? I mean I probably could just forget about it - pretend she wasn't a real person and move on - but I don't really want to. And I just feel so sad for all the people who really did know her.
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I'm sorry if this was the first you heard of it D&G. From what I know, she did.
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This is a strange community here....we get to know people so well yet probably never actually meet them and yet when they leave or pass on....it leaves an ache in our hearts. Hugs. ~~Anais Nin~~
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This is a strange community here....we get to know people so well yet probably never actually meet them and yet when they leave or pass on....it leaves an ache in our hearts. Hugs.
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I'm sorry to hear of this loss, and you do have every right to feel sad and mourn the loss of a friend no matter you had not met in the flesh surely you had met in spirit here in this forum Good girls go to heaven,....Bad girls go EVERYWHERE! I love to travel  Come visit my blog tigger678902
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I'm sorry to hear of this loss, and you do have every right to feel sad and mourn the loss of a friend no matter you had not met in the flesh surely you had met in spirit here in this forum
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