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hotdreamer1000 60M
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4/5/2016 3:06 am

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Here's What Happened


I'm think that would be a good title for a new blog actually now I have written it. But I'm not one for change really am I so I think "While I was Dreaming" will do for now.

But that wasn't what clicked on "Add a Post" for.

Also, I was going to mention that I found a rather sweet voiced singer trawling about on the tube this morning, wasting time before starting work (which is what I am still doing now) who described herself as an avid dreamer, lone wolf, curious creature and freelance philosopher. All ways I could describe myself really, except she seemed nothing at all like me, partly by virtue of being young and pretty of course. Plus although I like doing things for myself, I wouldn't like to describe myself as a loner, and certainly not a wolf!

Anyway, where was I?

Oh yes.....Here's What Happened. Just a small thing really. I logged on to see if someone had replied to my email. They hadn't. Or if there were any new comments on my last post. There weren't. Or if anyone had responded to any comments I had made. No, but fair enough really as I hadn't made any new comments myself for them to respond to. No new blogs from bloggers I follow either.

"Oh my GOD I am so bored with this" I thought to myself.
Imagine my surprise when Myself thought back, "yes, but you know it is your own fault - when you first blogged you were always chasing round finding new interesting people to write with."
"Okay" said the other me. "I will go to newly created posts, find the most interesting looking title and go and comment."

So I found one: "Things I am too old for."

"Okay," Myself said, "that sounds fun, just the sort of quirky, silly, but half serious clever tongue in cheek post I would enjoy reading. It sounds like the sort of post Rose might have written."

I imagined it would be things like: "I am too old for getting up for lunch on Sunday morning and finding that the half empty bottle of cheap red wine left over from last night's party tastes better after it has been breathing for 24 hours."

Or, "I am too old for crop-tops and leg-warmers. Or a boob tube."
"I am too old for Megan Trainor."
"I am too old for 'And she was like get out, and I was like no way'!"
"I am too old to be bothered what people think about me blogging on AdultFriendFinder "
"I am too old for suddenly deciding to take a few days off and driving down to Cornwall to see my surfer friend friend Starburst and getting off with her younger sister after a weird evening drinking Scrumpy Jack at the local pub." .................No, wait, that's something Me Myself and I am too old for, so that wouldn't have been in the blog. I could have commented with that. And of course someone would have commented "You are never too old for anything, just go for it."

All this flew through my imagination in the time it takes to click on a link. What great fun it was going to be.

But no. It was a stupid rant about how she was no longer willing to put up with men treating her badly. Oh heavens if I read one more men-are-so-useless-and-controlling blog I am going to throw my computer out of the window, leave home and go and live in the forest and set up shop as a full-time spoon whittler.

YES I KNOW SOME MEN ARE BASTARDS. But I can't help noticing that the women who complain most about this kind of treatment seem to me to be the least likely sort of people to attract a more sensitive kind of man who maybe might not treat them so badly! And the thing is, what comes across clearly to me from the seemingly endless supply of these posts, is that the people who write them actually don't really like men that much! They don't like men who are how men are, they just think they would like a man who was how they want a man to be. And even then they probably wouldn't once they got to know him. What a surprise that they keep attracting the kind who don't really like women either!

I'm not going to mention the names of the women I know here who love men with all their faults, but you know who you are. And I know you have your fair share of not being treated well! But you don't half have some good times with them too, lol. And it isn't exclusive to men, as you know. Women can be [insert a word I might get the post denied for using here] too.

Oh well, rant over. It doesn't apply to any of you who are reading anyway. And at least it gave me something to write about.

Now I can go back to being bored. Once I have finished some work. Or listened to a few more Heykelsey songs. And had another cup of tea.

sexysixties2 72F  
38886 posts
4/5/2016 1:32 pm

I saw that post too but I had an idea of what the content might be so I didn't bother opening it!!!

There has only been one occasion on the site when I was treated in a message as being less than a lady...and I suspect that it was a copy and paste email sent to a lot of women because the sender was banned from the site very quickly.

I have a feeling that there is a way of setting silent ground rules here....and it all stems from your attitude to people, how you behave and treat others. At the risk of bringing down the wrath of some of the female members here...perhaps they are giving off the wrong vibes.


"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/5/2016 2:22 pm

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I saw that post too but I had an idea of what the content might be so I didn't bother opening it!!!

    There has only been one occasion on the site when I was treated in a message as being less than a lady...and I suspect that it was a copy and paste email sent to a lot of women because the sender was banned from the site very quickly.

    I have a feeling that there is a way of setting silent ground rules here....and it all stems from your attitude to people, how you behave and treat others. At the risk of bringing down the wrath of some of the female members here...perhaps they are giving off the wrong vibes.

Agreed Sexysixties. Same in life on the outside isn't it?


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/5/2016 2:44 pm

    Quoting  :

I'm sure I replied to this earlier! But now it has disappeared.

I said "I agree, and I didn't blame her for feeling that way really - maybe it was just I had read one too many and it set me off. " Then I said "Are you who I think you are?" (Which of course you are - so good to see you. ) But now I am worried the dreaded disappearing comments plague has started again!


Wildfire9600 106F  
6572 posts
4/5/2016 3:47 pm

Everyone needs to rant now and then, if only to keep their heads from exploding. However, I dislike the kind of rants that paint a particular group with a wide brush and label them all as no good. There may well be a reason to rant about an individual, even two, but if people consistently treat you in a way that you dislike, well it might be time to look in the mirror and figure out why you keep choosing that type of person.

Think of all the lovely people you could be missing out on meeting by assuming they are all bastards!

You want to stop the flame from burning. I just want to let it go...


MyNameIsKay 58F  
11808 posts
4/6/2016 12:37 am

Okay, I'm going to completely ignore the rant and comment on what caught my attention back up near the top of the post. You had a fleeting thought and a mini epiphany in that moment. So many thoughts run through our minds just under our consciousness...some are very telling...if only we happen to notice. It reminded me of the time I was a new grad student reading Freud for the 3rd time in my college education...because every teacher has to give his personal spin on Freud...when I caught myself saying how much I hated it. Ten days into grad school for psychology, and I was done! I've never regretted that decision to quit, and I eventually got my degree in something far better suited to my interests.

But you did make me chuckle a bit at your too-old-for list!

Swim...Bike...Done


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/6/2016 3:11 am

    Quoting Wildfire9600:
    Everyone needs to rant now and then, if only to keep their heads from exploding. However, I dislike the kind of rants that paint a particular group with a wide brush and label them all as no good. There may well be a reason to rant about an individual, even two, but if people consistently treat you in a way that you dislike, well it might be time to look in the mirror and figure out why you keep choosing that type of person.

    Think of all the lovely people you could be missing out on meeting by assuming they are all bastards!
That's what I thought!

Although as I said to Simplysinful, I didn't really blame the blogger I read for feeling that way - and she shouldn't have to put up with men treating her badly, but I had just read one to many of that kind of post and it set me off!

And it is true, that the fact that you often do get the treatment you expect from people often has a lot to do with your expectations!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/6/2016 3:15 am

    Quoting MyNameIsKay:
    Okay, I'm going to completely ignore the rant and comment on what caught my attention back up near the top of the post. You had a fleeting thought and a mini epiphany in that moment. So many thoughts run through our minds just under our consciousness...some are very telling...if only we happen to notice. It reminded me of the time I was a new grad student reading Freud for the 3rd time in my college education...because every teacher has to give his personal spin on Freud...when I caught myself saying how much I hated it. Ten days into grad school for psychology, and I was done! I've never regretted that decision to quit, and I eventually got my degree in something far better suited to my interests.

    But you did make me chuckle a bit at your too-old-for list!
Thanks Kay - and well spotted. As with many of my posts, the main theme was just a vehicle for a bit of a rambling thought dump!

Plus I really wanted to read a jokey post about things we are too old for. Maybe I will expand on that next time......

Fascinating about your psychology epiphany!


zandigal 55F
13002 posts
4/6/2016 6:45 pm

your brain makes me smile



Respond to every call that excites Your Spirit
~Rumi


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hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/7/2016 5:59 am

    Quoting zandigal:
    your brain makes me smile


Hahaa, that's a lovely compliment!


Violette001 48F
4497 posts
4/11/2016 8:43 am

lol really enjoyed this post! i think it would be a grand idea... to use the titles others use as a trigger for our own thoughts and compare notes and see what they came up with and how ours is the same or different... lol

and i don't agree with that stupid response about not being too old for certain things... that is so not true! i KNOW i'm too old for candy and trick or treating. but i'm not too old to dress up in weird clothes.

i think i should write a post about things i'm too old for... lol

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



marshamaybe 32F

4/11/2016 10:32 am

You're always welcome at my rants . I try to keep them at a minimum , but every once in a while , hey , gotta cut er loose . I meant to return your visits before , but #HEYLOOKASQUIRREL!!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/11/2016 1:38 pm

    Quoting marshamaybe:
    You're always welcome at my rants . I try to keep them at a minimum , but every once in a while , hey , gotta cut er loose . I meant to return your visits before , but #HEYLOOKASQUIRREL!!
Hello, how lovely to see you over here! And I have mostly enjoyed your rants! I tend not to do too many rants here - you just came to visit at a frustrated moment!

I have frogs on my pond.......


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/11/2016 1:39 pm

    Quoting Violette001:
    lol really enjoyed this post! i think it would be a grand idea... to use the titles others use as a trigger for our own thoughts and compare notes and see what they came up with and how ours is the same or different... lol

    and i don't agree with that stupid response about not being too old for certain things... that is so not true! i KNOW i'm too old for candy and trick or treating. but i'm not too old to dress up in weird clothes.

    i think i should write a post about things i'm too old for... lol
Yaayyyyy! Just like the one I was hoping for??


Violette001 48F
4497 posts
4/12/2016 6:34 am

lol you did a great job of writing that one yourself! i just wish you hadn't stopped, i was really enjoying your list!

but. i might write one too, because, it's such an awesome title! lol

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
4/12/2016 10:45 am

    Quoting Violette001:
    lol you did a great job of writing that one yourself! i just wish you hadn't stopped, i was really enjoying your list!

    but. i might write one too, because, it's such an awesome title! lol
If you write one maybe it will inspire me to write a longer one of my own, if I get round to it before I am too old to write blogs about things I am too old for!


Violette001 48F
4497 posts
4/12/2016 10:53 am

    Quoting hotdreamer1000:
    If you write one maybe it will inspire me to write a longer one of my own, if I get round to it before I am too old to write blogs about things I am too old for!
the only way you'd get too old to blog is if you lost your ability to type. or see. or think. lol

but then, when you lose your ability to think... imagine what windy posts you'd write! you wouldn't need me to entertain you anymore! lol

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



stormyroses 36F
1628 posts
4/29/2016 7:40 pm

Made you one! Things I am Too Old For inspired by hotdreamer1000

Do not seek an external refuge, but be a light unto yourself.

"Be the change you want to see."

HalfNekkid Wednesday Peekaboo


stormyroses 36F
1628 posts
4/29/2016 7:41 pm

Well hell, that didn't link. I guess I've gotten so old I've forgotten how to use this site.

Do not seek an external refuge, but be a light unto yourself.

"Be the change you want to see."

HalfNekkid Wednesday Peekaboo


oldhabits88 34F
166 posts
5/10/2016 12:10 pm

"Oh heavens if I read one more men-are-so-useless-and-controlling blog I am going to throw my computer out of the window, leave home and go and live in the forest and set up shop as a full-time spoon whittler."

can I come with you?


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
5/11/2016 1:51 pm

    Quoting oldhabits88:
    "Oh heavens if I read one more men-are-so-useless-and-controlling blog I am going to throw my computer out of the window, leave home and go and live in the forest and set up shop as a full-time spoon whittler."

    can I come with you?
Well I would definitely need a spoon whittler's mate.......


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