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hotdreamer1000 60M
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1/22/2019 10:15 am

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I Don't Get it


I really don't understand why the site allows people to send me emails when I can't read them? You have to be my one fan or some such rubbish, or you can send me an email, but it arrives blurred out by a frosted glass panel with what I suppose might be a translation in Spanish underneath.

I mean it doesn't really matter because I only get about two or three a year anyway, and most of them look like they might be fake, even though the latest one says it is from a gold member. I would be pissed off if I was a gold member, and I wanted to write to a standard member, but they couldn't read my emails. (OlyaDonna from Aldershot, I do apologise if you are a lovely genuine person - leave me a message here on my blog, because I couldn't read your email.)

Why on earth does the site bother if these users are fakes? Surely they can't still be hoping I'm going to sign up for gold membership, they must have worked that out by now, I've been here twelve years. And while I'm on the subject, I do find it odd that whenever I sign in after a few days away, I get a notification that someone gorgeous has just that minute flirted with me or viewed my profile, but never once in all this time has any one of those ever left a comment on my blog, or had one of their own I could check out. I know, I know, it's all automated bots, but really, what is the point???

I'm just wondering whether any of you real gold members can enlighten me? It never used to be that way - I have lots of friends I email sometimes off site who originally contacted me by email here back in the day. And everyone knows you can pin a private message box to your blog and let all comments stay pending so they don't show to anyone else in order to get round the system if you want to. Don't you feel short changed that after trusting the site with your details and paying them money, even you can't fully use the facilities because some of us don't want to sign up?

Sorry, very unlike me to complain about the site, no fun for you to read and as I always say, they run the site, they can make whatever rules they like, and I can either accept it as it is or not bother with it, I know that, but honestly.........I JUST DONT'T GET IT!!!!!

hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 10:18 am

And I don't mean sex! Although I don't get that either, lol, and come to think about it, if I did sign up as a gold member maybe that would change!


2Saltie2 26F

1/22/2019 10:33 am

This site is a business. They want to make $$$. If we could do everything for free nobody would pay. If you owned a business don't you want to make money?

Love all animals. Tolerates humans.


superbjversion2 65F
20127 posts
1/22/2019 10:53 am

I remember the days when standards could read emails from gold members. I also remember when silver memberships existed. The changes I've seen have always been to try and put money into the site's pocket. I'm trying to figure out why female members are suddenly getting fembot remarks and likes on their profile pictures.

I use my points to allow standards to contact me. It's the only thing I can do to help standards out.

btw - under the blur, the email is in untranslatable Latin.

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ltrskr 72M  
4280 posts
1/22/2019 11:03 am

""There's no such as a free lunch, spare change or too much horsepower!"

If u play, u play! Free loaders to the back of the bus!


BendMeOver278 29F  
2723 posts
1/22/2019 11:08 am

It makes sense to me that standard members can't send a message. The site wants you to buy the ability to do that. But I would think that standard members could read messages from gold members. The gold memebr pays so, they do get their money from that. I would also think more people would see a message from someone and maybe be more interested in buying a membership for themselves to respond.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 11:16 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I remember the days when standards could read emails from gold members. I also remember when silver memberships existed. The changes I've seen have always been to try and put money into the site's pocket. I'm trying to figure out why female members are suddenly getting fembot remarks and likes on their profile pictures.

    I use my points to allow standards to contact me. It's the only thing I can do to help standards out.

    btw - under the blur, the email is in untranslatable Latin.
Thanks - I didn't recognise it as Latin......again I ask, why bother if it is untranslatable?? I don't have a problem with people trying to improve the profitability of their business, (see the comment 2saltie2 above) what I don't get is why penalise even the gold members? But thanks for your input, I didn't know that even female members get the autobots.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 11:18 am

    Quoting ltrskr:
    ""There's no such as a free lunch, spare change or too much horsepower!"

    If u play, u play! Free loaders to the back of the bus!
Yes, I understand that. (Although actually I think there are such things as those, though apart from too much horsepower they are quite rare.)

I know I am being a freeloader as far as the makers of this site are concerned, and I don't mind being at the back of their bus. But what I don't get is that even the gold members are unable to email anyone who is not also gold.........


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 11:22 am

    Quoting BendMeOver278:
    It makes sense to me that standard members can't send a message. The site wants you to buy the ability to do that. But I would think that standard members could read messages from gold members. The gold memebr pays so, they do get their money from that. I would also think more people would see a message from someone and maybe be more interested in buying a membership for themselves to respond.
Yes exactly BendMeOver278. I totally understand why I can't send mail as a standard, and I have no objection to the site trying to incentivise me to join up. But I don't see why the gold members can't. Oh well, it doesn't matter really. Thanks for stopping by though, that's a very attractive red bow you are wearing by the way.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 11:35 am

    Quoting 2Saltie2:
    This site is a business. They want to make $$$. If we could do everything for free nobody would pay. If you owned a business don't you want to make money?
Thanks. I know it is a business and I know how businesses work, but I obviously didn't make that clear in my post.


sexysixties2 72F  
38886 posts
1/22/2019 11:44 am

It's been a very long time since I have understood the thinking behind some of the actions taken by the site. I don't get it either....surely a gold member should be able to message whoever they wish and expect the recipient to be able to read the message.

"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


Violette001 48F
4497 posts
1/22/2019 12:18 pm

this is her profile: Beautiful, attractive girl in search of new acquaintances. I'm also interested in creating relationships. And the creation of a strong family.
Information

Sexual Orientation:
Straight
Looking For:
Men
Birthdate:
February 3, 1985
Marital Status:
Single
Swinger Type[+]:
Not applicable
Height:
5 ft 8 in
Body Type:
Athletic
Smoking:
I'm a non-smoker
Drinking:
I'm a light/social drinker
Drugs:
Don't use drugs
Education:
BA/BS (4 years college)
Race:
Caucasian
Religion:
Catholic
Have Children:
No
Want Children:
Might want to have children
Speaks:
English
Hair Color:
Blonde
Hair Length:
Medium
Glasses or Contacts:
None

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



Violette001 48F
4497 posts
1/22/2019 12:23 pm

the pictures on her profile, two face pics, don't look real - i mean, they look like barbie doll faces, just bigger and slightly less plastic. lol I sent her a message to make sure.

Used to be that standard members could respond to messages, but not initiate them. But, if you can see the username, then i can check on them for you! and i can tell them about your blog. I don't know if the newer people know about being able to communicate through the private comments on the blog posts. But then, i don't know any new people, so... i'm jsut guessing.

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



porterpiper1 53F
3767 posts
1/22/2019 1:17 pm

I use to be a gold member but it was worth it, to some it is and too others it isn't, everyone have to know what is best for them, but make sure you delete your credit or debit info and turn off your auto renew, because have stated they still get charge after they have cancel, I can't view whole profiles but I do get messages and can send them, I guess you have to get a gold membership first than keep it for a year after that get get some perks, even if you cancel after that


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 1:37 pm

    Quoting Violette001:
    the pictures on her profile, two face pics, don't look real - i mean, they look like barbie doll faces, just bigger and slightly less plastic. lol I sent her a message to make sure.

    Used to be that standard members could respond to messages, but not initiate them. But, if you can see the username, then i can check on them for you! and i can tell them about your blog. I don't know if the newer people know about being able to communicate through the private comments on the blog posts. But then, i don't know any new people, so... i'm jsut guessing.
Oh V you are so sweet! Thank you so much. There's not much to go on in her profile is there. Apart from "swinger type +" ?? I don't know what that means but I've never thought swinging sounded like my thing. Now if she said she was a wannabe slut then I might sit up and take notice!

I can see her user picture on my notification and I agree, it is of course a real person's picture, but maybe not a person who has actually put up a profile. I don't really care as I am not here looking for a meet, but on the other hand I do like to respond to people who want to be in contact with me. Do let me know if you get a reply to your message!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 1:39 pm

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    It's been a very long time since I have understood the thinking behind some of the actions taken by the site. I don't get it either....surely a gold member should be able to message whoever they wish and expect the recipient to be able to read the message.
Yes, that was kind of what I was thinking. Oh well, if you don't know the answer no one will. Thanks for being here as always.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/22/2019 1:43 pm

    Quoting porterpiper1:
    I use to be a gold member but it was worth it, to some it is and too others it isn't, everyone have to know what is best for them, but make sure you delete your credit or debit info and turn off your auto renew, because have stated they still get charge after they have cancel, I can't view whole profiles but I do get messages and can send them, I guess you have to get a gold membership first than keep it for a year after that get get some perks, even if you cancel after that
Thanks porterpiper, really good to see you again. That's funny, that even after cancelling your gold email privilege seems to have continued. I think I'll stay as I am for now - as I said to Violette I'm not really here looking for a meet, it is just that I hate the idea of someone thinking I couldn't be bothered to reply after they made the effort to contact me!


marysia4u 64F
15362 posts
1/22/2019 7:55 pm

I too remember the Silver days. I have been thinking of having a private message box, but haven't got round to creating one.

It is annoying that I can't send an email to those that aren't gold Members.... lucky for you....


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/23/2019 12:02 am

    Quoting  :

Hi Freeonereturns. I would reply thanking you for your comment, but I'm worried you wouldn't take me seriously!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/23/2019 12:06 am

    Quoting marysia4u:
    I too remember the Silver days. I have been thinking of having a private message box, but haven't got round to creating one.

    It is annoying that I can't send an email to those that aren't gold Members.... lucky for you....


Ha ha. Mail from you would be great. Actually I think we have in the past haven't we? Or did I only ever exchange mail with your sister?

Anyway, I suppose I probably would sign up if I was actually here looking for a meet, and like I said, they have the right to make the rules. But some of the rules strike me as being a bit odd!


marysia4u 64F
15362 posts
1/23/2019 1:21 am

    Quoting hotdreamer1000:
    Ha ha. Mail from you would be great. Actually I think we have in the past haven't we? Or did I only ever exchange mail with your sister?

    Anyway, I suppose I probably would sign up if I was actually here looking for a meet, and like I said, they have the right to make the rules. But some of the rules strike me as being a bit odd!
Would be fun having a chat.

It was my sister that you probably chatted to, as it was her that put me onto your blogs. I passed your Christmas message onto her.

I keep telling her to come back to the site, but for some reason, she won't.

I'll let you know if I ever get round to that private message thing.


Violette001 48F
4497 posts
1/23/2019 8:45 pm

    Quoting hotdreamer1000:
    Oh V you are so sweet! Thank you so much. There's not much to go on in her profile is there. Apart from "swinger type +" ?? I don't know what that means but I've never thought swinging sounded like my thing. Now if she said she was a wannabe slut then I might sit up and take notice!

    I can see her user picture on my notification and I agree, it is of course a real person's picture, but maybe not a person who has actually put up a profile. I don't really care as I am not here looking for a meet, but on the other hand I do like to respond to people who want to be in contact with me. Do let me know if you get a reply to your message!
No... she hasn't replied. But it's only been a day. And she may not be interested in responding to someone she's not interested in... I mean. not everyone is polite to a telemarketer like you and I might be! lol

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



Violette001 48F
4497 posts
1/23/2019 8:53 pm

I just sent her another message, this time I gave her the link to your blog. Maybe she'll come by! Her page shows that she was online today. But no activity.

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/24/2019 7:41 am

    Quoting Violette001:
    I just sent her another message, this time I gave her the link to your blog. Maybe she'll come by! Her page shows that she was online today. But no activity.
Don't hold your breath! I am fairly sure she is a fabrication of the site, designed to lure me into gold membership! I will let you know if she mails me and invites me round to her place for a quick feel-up!


MyNameIsKay 58F  
11808 posts
1/24/2019 8:58 pm

If I see someone with whom I want to send an e-mail, and they are not a gold member, I'll spend those silly points to buy standard contacts for a month.

But I get it...

Swim...Bike...Done


Wildfire9600 106F  
6572 posts
1/26/2019 7:08 pm

I see the place has improved since I wandered off.

(She was known for being sarcastic.)

And I giggled at some of your replies to the obvious newbies. I, too, am a 12-year vintage. The good ol' days, huh?

You want to stop the flame from burning. I just want to let it go...


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/30/2019 10:53 am

    Quoting Wildfire9600:
    I see the place has improved since I wandered off.

    (She was known for being sarcastic.)

    And I giggled at some of your replies to the obvious newbies. I, too, am a 12-year vintage. The good ol' days, huh?
So glad someone gets me Wild! It's nice to have you reading. Thank goodness we got in touch before the new regulations kicked in!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/30/2019 10:55 am

    Quoting MyNameIsKay:
    If I see someone with whom I want to send an e-mail, and they are not a gold member, I'll spend those silly points to buy standard contacts for a month.

    But I get it...
Ahhh, that's crafty. I have tens of thousands of points, but as a standard I think can't actually do much with them!


rm_1littlehose 57M
436 posts
12/9/2019 4:21 pm

I Think you are spot on!

I will not ever be Gold and i really don't know why anyone would pay to be either.
I have encountered the same profile looks, yet never a post on my blog. Same with the mail messages that I can't read and the album pics of Gold member friends that I can't see.
As I have said in my blog, when it gets to be no fun here for the standard member I am, I will just not be back one day. It is that simple.

Great post BTW.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
12/10/2019 5:56 am

    Quoting rm_1littlehose:
    I Think you are spot on!

    I will not ever be Gold and i really don't know why anyone would pay to be either.
    I have encountered the same profile looks, yet never a post on my blog. Same with the mail messages that I can't read and the album pics of Gold member friends that I can't see.
    As I have said in my blog, when it gets to be no fun here for the standard member I am, I will just not be back one day. It is that simple.

    Great post BTW.
Its crazy really isn't it. But if you are only here to blog, which is really all I ever come here for, then it doesn't really matter I suppose.


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