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hotdreamer1000 60M
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1/27/2016 12:06 pm

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Music as a Substitute for Sex?


I keep finding myself writing, "I know this isn't a music site but...."

The thing is music definitely can be associated with sex in many ways, and I am sure that without knowing it, I may have used it as some kind of substitute at quite a few times in my life. I don't suppose I am the only one.

D you remember that feeling you get when you can be completely absorbed by the music, as if nothing else matters or exists? I used to listen like that far more when I was younger, especially in my late teens.

Lost in music, caught in a trap

It can be a bit like the feeling of being absorbed in another person. Or maybe you might have experienced that blissful rare occurrence when someone you are with is lost in the same music as you. Dirty Magic indeed. Maybe that's the lure of the stadium concert or the packed out local venue. If it really goes off, everyone becomes part of that shared experience.

The music I like covers a very wide range of styles. I am always listening to old blues, rock 'n' roll and jazz, but I also love motown, dance music of many styles, rock, pop, you name it there's something I can find to like. Except County, lol.

And now and then, I like to keep up with more current music. Not necessarily charts pop, although I sometimes do like that too, but stuff on the edge of the charts, maybe the sort of things I would probably be listening to if I still was a , working out how to relate to the world. And I have noticed that when I listen like that, it seems to coincide with me feeling the lack of sex more acutely than usually.

So for anyone who might want to follow where my head is at just the moment, as they say, I keep hearing Snakehips "All my friends" on the radio, featuring Tinashe and Chance the Rapper. And going back a year or so I was into Circa Waves - "Fossils," and "T Shirt Weather."

I can't help feeling "T-Shirt Weather" will be providing nostalgic memories of first kisses, last days at school, or golden holidays between college terms for a whole new generation of Dreamers over the next few decades. When I play that song I almost feel as if I am still one of them.

sexysixties2 72F  
38886 posts
1/27/2016 12:48 pm

I love music too but I don't really keep up to date with the current stuff these days. I still tend to return to my old favourites.

"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/27/2016 1:32 pm

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I love music too but I don't really keep up to date with the current stuff these days. I still tend to return to my old favourites.
Yes, I do too, but keeping up with the new helps remind me not to get too set in my ways!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/27/2016 1:36 pm

    Quoting sexyjess555:
    Not sure if recommendations is what you are looking for, but I just discovered this album today and it IS better than sex.

    https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL49DEE194782935E1
Thanks Jess, I wasn't especially looking for recommendations, but sadly, (or perhaps fortunately ) your link is dead. Can you tell me the actual name of the album?


love2pleasu13 52M
6474 posts
1/27/2016 1:46 pm

What ever helps the mind.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/27/2016 2:19 pm

Okay.


Wildfire9600 106F  
6572 posts
1/27/2016 7:46 pm

Music is often an escape for me. A lot of nights you'll find me with headphones on, tuning out the world and letting the music carry me to places I'll never go. I'm also the one who can't hold back a tear or two at concerts when whoever is performing does a number that has personal meaning for me.

I can't say I've ever thought of it as a substitue for sex, but it is a substitute for the intimacy. Music can make you feel surrounded by emotion and not quite so alone sometimes.

You want to stop the flame from burning. I just want to let it go...


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/28/2016 1:10 am

    Quoting Wildfire9600:
    Music is often an escape for me. A lot of nights you'll find me with headphones on, tuning out the world and letting the music carry me to places I'll never go. I'm also the one who can't hold back a tear or two at concerts when whoever is performing does a number that has personal meaning for me.

    I can't say I've ever thought of it as a substitue for sex, but it is a substitute for the intimacy. Music can make you feel surrounded by emotion and not quite so alone sometimes.
I think that is exactly what I was thinking Wild, thanks!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/28/2016 6:27 am

    Quoting sexyjess555:
    The album is Mercury, artist Darryl Reeves
Actually I did manage to find it in the end using the numbers in the text from your link, but I'm afraid it didn't do it for me. Although it sounds like the kind of music I might have to give a bit more time to - not instantly accessible - so maybe I'll give it another go now I know I am actually listening to what you recommended, not something random.

Thanks so much for coming back and giving me the details!


marshamaybe 32F

1/29/2016 11:31 am

I enjoy several types and styles of music , even "some " country . The radio stations tho , play a song to death , for a week or two , then i seem to not only get sick of the song , but the singer , and soon even the station . As i've been with the same one for several years , i'm glad it doesn't translate that way ,for me , at least as far as sex goes .


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
2/1/2016 8:46 am

    Quoting marshamaybe:
    I enjoy several types and styles of music , even "some " country . The radio stations tho , play a song to death , for a week or two , then i seem to not only get sick of the song , but the singer , and soon even the station . As i've been with the same one for several years , i'm glad it doesn't translate that way ,for me , at least as far as sex goes .
Ha ha, yes. Although the ones you really love....they last forever don't the?. I can't imagine ever tiring of listening to "Your the best thing that ever happened to me" by Gladys Knight.

The country thing is a running gag with a couple of people who have been reading my blog for years - I have nothing against Country or people who love it, just can't seem to like it myself..


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