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Talking Blogging With My Best Friend  

hotdreamer1000 60M
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1/7/2015 6:20 pm

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Talking Blogging With My Best Friend


I had dinner with my best friend this evening. I've known him most of my life, but these days we don 't get together as often as we would like, and it has been a while this time. It was a great evening - we slipped straight into talking about things that matter to us, sharing views on the world and on how people act, what motivates us, what we still want from life. I love spending time with him, we both agreed we tend to forget how much. I like the person I become when I am in his company - he reminds me of who I want to be.

At one point it became a little surreal as we talked about some of you guys. He knows I have a blog on some kind of "alternative" website, I don't say where. I have always said that whilst there isn't anything in my life I couldn't talk to him about, I would feel differently about this place if he found me here. And if he looked, he'd know it was me. He gets that.

But it was fun discussing what I know about some of you guys with him. We talked about the obsessive compulsive one, and the one who gets off on teasing her; the one who read everything; the guy who posts pictures of trees; the one who loves the moon; the one who sometimes wishes she was a skank; the ones I used to be in love with.

The one who died.

It made me realise again what an amazing place this is, how much so many of the people I know here come to think of it as a sanctuary. For some of us, it's the place where there will always be a friend who will be going through something similar, or even if they are not, will try to understand what matters. My friend is the exception to a general rule that in real life we are mostly less open than we are with people here.

He asked me how the people who read my blog would have found it in the first place. He meant the website more than my particular blog. What would they have been looking for, he wanted to know. I explained that I couldn't say too much without risking giving tempting clues as to where to look, but in trying to describe it, I found myself saying that the blogging aspect of the site has very little to do with its main purpose. That in fact many people who write blogs say little on their profiles other than "just here to blog." That many of us come to the site looking for something else, we might not even know quite what. But, unexpectedly we find a group of bloggers who are all about empathy, understanding, relationships and human nature, and that is what keeps us here, often long after we would have lost interest otherwise.

Maybe we are a small subset of the blogs as a whole - the seekers, the questioners, the wanna-be self aware. Because there are other types of blogs too of course. But I notice that if I go to read what I think is an interesting, but randomly found blog, I find names I recognise among the commenters. How can that happen when there are thousands and thousands of blogs? You and me are drawn to the same sorts of themes, that's how. And unlike many other blogging sites, which seem to me to be more like places to self publish journalism or diaries, in our little subset it is about interaction. The comment threads are as important as the posts themselves. I always get more out of these blogs when I read the comment threads as well as the posts.

I'm going to bed now, it's late. I wonder what all you guys have been doing?

I wish Rose was here. I could call her. But it still isn't the same as blogging with her.....

hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/7/2015 6:44 pm

    Quoting  :

That's good to hear, and yes, I have had a lot of fun as well the thought provoking stuff here. Thanks for stopping by.


demonicsexkitten 45F
10701 posts
1/7/2015 6:50 pm

I love the blogs


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/7/2015 7:36 pm

See now there you go - you and I have not, as far as I recall, exchanged blog comments before, but I know your name: I've seen you around.

So now I go over and have a look at your blog, and I really like it and will go back to read more.

I love it here too, lol.


marysia4u 64F
15362 posts
1/7/2015 8:03 pm

I wasn't sure I'd meet someone to have a long term relationship, but as luck has it, I have, so have changed my profile to blog only.

I've made so many friends from all over the world through the blogs, so plan on being around for a long time.


Violette001 48F
4497 posts
1/7/2015 8:14 pm

omg! I felt myself being talked about! I've been smelling the happy smell most of the day today, and I was wondering where it was coming from...! lol

So glad you were able to spend time with a close friend! I like what you said about him: I like the person I become when I am in his company - he reminds me of who I want to be.

I was just thinking about that while listening to a song my Jason Mraz - Best Friend. well...if I start writing all that I was thinking... it'll be a whole blog post right here... lol

"Do not put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket"
--Author Unknown



hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/7/2015 8:55 pm

    Quoting marysia4u:
    I wasn't sure I'd meet someone to have a long term relationship, but as luck has it, I have, so have changed my profile to blog only.

    I've made so many friends from all over the world through the blogs, so plan on being around for a long time.


Glad you are hanging around. Good news on the relationship as well, I am pleased it is hanging around too!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/7/2015 8:56 pm

    Quoting Violette001:
    omg! I felt myself being talked about! I've been smelling the happy smell most of the day today, and I was wondering where it was coming from...! lol

    So glad you were able to spend time with a close friend! I like what you said about him: I like the person I become when I am in his company - he reminds me of who I want to be.

    I was just thinking about that while listening to a song my Jason Mraz - Best Friend. well...if I start writing all that I was thinking... it'll be a whole blog post right here... lol
I used only the good words about you, lol. Jason Mraz....I'll check it out.


demonicsexkitten 45F
10701 posts
1/7/2015 10:11 pm

See now there you go - you and I have not, as far as I recall, exchanged blog comments before, but I know your name: I've seen you around.

Hmm... now that I'm thinking of it I can't remember if we've commented directly to one another. But I've seen you around a lot, commented on many of the same blogs, and I thought I've read and commented on yours before, but it's been a goodly while.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/8/2015 3:16 am

    Quoting demonicsexkitten:
    See now there you go - you and I have not, as far as I recall, exchanged blog comments before, but I know your name: I've seen you around.

    Hmm... now that I'm thinking of it I can't remember if we've commented directly to one another. But I've seen you around a lot, commented on many of the same blogs, and I thought I've read and commented on yours before, but it's been a goodly while.
I did wonder if you might have, and I'm so sorry of you did and I have forgotten!


sexysixties2 72F  
38886 posts
1/8/2015 8:11 am

I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the blogs....that's all I sign in for now....and to have the occasional poke at Site Support lol!!!!

I have a couple of friends that I made through blogging who no longer sign in....I chat to them often and we meet up now and then. Of course I keep them up to date with the gossip here but it's still not the same as blogging with them.

It's nice how we form little communities of like minds within the larger blogging community.


"Age does not protect you from love, but love, to some extent, protects you from age."

~~Anais Nin~~


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/9/2015 5:17 am

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for the blogs....that's all I sign in for now....and to have the occasional poke at Site Support lol!!!!

    I have a couple of friends that I made through blogging who no longer sign in....I chat to them often and we meet up now and then. Of course I keep them up to date with the gossip here but it's still not the same as blogging with them.

    It's nice how we form little communities of like minds within the larger blogging community.

Silly isn't it - I email or speak to the real life women behind the blogs of Amakamaria and Coloradorose fairly often, but I still miss seeing them here!


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/9/2015 5:44 am

    Quoting rainbowsox:
    Sounds like a convo. We would have
    And we have had it too!
    I'm here because of that OCD one
    But truth is. I like it too. The site is vommitishious (is that a word?)
    Shame it has that shame. Be fun to share with others

    Interesting the people we know. The relationships we've made. Those we call friends
    Amazing. How when so busy. How much I miss it!

    Thanks for counting us in your circle!

    Love,
    -H'


I first came across The OCD One's blog at a time when many of the bloggers I had been interacting with had left the site and I was almost losing interest. I was immediately drawn to her positive attitude and her blog's mix of forthright opinion, personal journey and kind-hearted openness. I was delighted to find we sometimes shared a similar way of thinking about things even though we often debate from different standpoints, and I couldn't have been more surprised and pleased to find she was becoming a real friend.

When the blog began to include The Tiny-but-Beautiful One's quirky sense of humour, teasing innuendo and oddly phrased rants it became one of my top blogs to follow, and one of the main reasons for signing in these days.

As to the vomitiishousness of the site, the thing is, who hasn't got an interest in sex? And why shouldn't people use technology to find other like minded people, especially if their own particular interest is slightly....unusual?

And on this site, no one is obliged to interact with people who want to use it in a different way. But the trouble is that to an outsider, one who doesn't understand the various different ways in which the site can work, I think there would still be a sensationalist "ewww" reaction. They are going to notice the cock shots and spam hook-up emails first. Even though, if they only knew it, they might actually find something valuable here themselves.


hotdreamer1000 60M
11652 posts
1/9/2015 5:49 am

    Quoting PassionCork:
    . . . "in our little subset it is about interaction."

    You summed it up so perfectly with that one line, the pleasures I derive from the blogs is indeed a direct result of the conversational flow, without that it would feel vacant and clinical.
Yes, I think what I like about it is that whereas the circle of friends you make in real life mainly depends on geographical proximity, common interests and also demands a natural reluctance to be too open about personal issues, here we have access to millions of people all around the world who have been drawn to a site which encourages openness about taboo subjects. No wonder we find people here who seem to understand us almost better than our friends at home.


MyNameIsKay 58F  
11807 posts
1/9/2015 9:50 pm

I found this post and your thoughts rather sweet actually. It is the anonymity of this place that allows the freedom to express. This lets those on the site see us as we truly are. No masks, no walls...just us! So when we as bloggers have a fondness for one another through our comments, we know it's genuine.

I also like the commentary of a post. A lot of times I'll edit things out that aren't the core of what I'm trying to say in the hopes that a comment will draw it out. It usually does.

I have friends that know I'm on this site, but none of them have ever wanted to get on it to see what it's all about. But I do tell them that the blogging side is completely separate. I would have left long ago had it not been for the blogs. And now that I've met some of the bloggers in real life, it just makes it all that much harder to move on sometimes.

Swim...Bike...Done


hippiechick1967 41F
12074 posts
1/12/2015 5:17 pm

I stumbled upon the blogs by accident; it was at a time when I was needing to do some serious self-reflection. There was a time when I looked forward to getting home from work so I could see what I had missed in my absence, but that time faded too. Now I'm just floundering around, a woman without a country...

Elevate me...


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