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hotmamamm 45F  
9007 posts
1/5/2020 10:36 am
Brand New Year Brand New Attitude!

It was a lot easier meet people on this site before I became a exhibitionist. People have a preconceived notion 5 minutes after meeting me I will take panties off and fuck you like a porn star. Unfortunately it does not work way. I am someone who can not build chemistry on a dick pic alone . I am also someone who is not going meet you after a one conversation.
I met a man coffee last week Yes I stepped outside box and I am putting myself out there Before I meet someone I always tell them rules. We meet in a public place. We go dutch. I do not become intimate on the first meet. I can not imagine how awkward it could be meeting someone for the first time at a hotel. ,Discovering you have no chemistry or they are not who they portrayed themselves be. When it comes internet / hook up you can never be overly cautious.
The man I met agreed these terms. However when we parted our ways he made a scene. Demanding I go the car and give him a blowjob. Treating like a cheap . Im so embarrassed I will not be getting coffee particular place anymore...lol..
Do you think rules are too strict? I definitely know I am worth waiting .

Brand New Year Brand NewHair Maybe Ill have better luck as a feisty red brunette
What do you think?

Did you enter year giveaway. . is a lin..[post 42868]
Remember beautiful friends are having point giving away contests as,well. They are linked on contest page. We are SUPPORT eachother. So stop trying to pit us against eachother. .thats lame.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/5/2020 10:38 am

Red Hot !!


mchlnwh 60M
333 posts
1/5/2020 10:41 am

Your rules are just as they should be. Didn't see a link to your contest but would love it if you entered me.


Story435 73M
3460 posts
1/5/2020 10:42 am

Oh you are right to rules for dating and men need to respect them. Not very cool to ask you to go out in car and give him a blow job that's just not right at all!
I do not think your rules are to strict at all!
Butch


6inchjoey 51M
1202 posts
1/5/2020 10:43 am

Beautiful looking mmm


hornybbc69 61M
181 posts
1/5/2020 10:45 am

hot red looks amazing on you great attitude for 2020 ...i say you have to learn how to walk before you can run.......that's an old saying...i always remember good luck in 2020....tp all......


CortonMan 47M
36 posts
1/5/2020 10:47 am

Your rules are not to strict...You respect yourself, and will cause others to respect you..or, they loose out on what I believe is a special and unique woman. I have been on this site for a while, but I know longer pay for it because of the whackos that have approached me on here...and I mean some scary stalkers. The few people that I met on here that were nice, I still communicate with, either via text or e-mail, because they want advice and friendship more then they want just a random romp. Do what makes you feel safe and smile, and when you find the right guy, then open up and unleash what you have inside that you have desires for. But until then..just keep learning more about yourself, and ALWAYS remember your self worth!


bass_playah 47M
129 posts
1/5/2020 10:49 am

Sounds like you and I have the same rules. I hope you a fun, safe new year. Dig your new look as well!


drizzt10768 52M  
154 posts
1/5/2020 10:50 am

Fuck that guy, you be you, you be comfortable with what you want!


Sigard8 53M
35 posts
1/5/2020 10:51 am

Your rules are bang on. How could any guy be such an obnoxious idiot towards anyone?


wjb1958 62M
3700 posts
1/5/2020 10:57 am

You are right to have rules and they are too strict. Happy New Year


mjb595 50M  
178 posts
1/5/2020 11:01 am

I hope you don't let that dick ruin it for the rest of us.


mc_justmc 60M  
6553 posts
1/5/2020 11:03 am

I've had some good and some bad meets, the woman should be very cautious.


Kayak_Playmate 58M
147 posts
1/5/2020 11:06 am

I totally agree with you and your rules. I would expect the same scenario. HE was an ass! Please consider me in your contest, I could use a few points.


crowdy123 66M  
71 posts
1/5/2020 11:06 am

Your rules are perfectly reasonable. Men who don't respect your boundaries aren't worth your time.


ClassicRock2015 67M
1729 posts
1/5/2020 11:15 am

You both agreed on the terms of your date...and should be respected by both...so sad you had to put up with such a person...hopefully your next date will have respect for women....best wishes to you !


positively4you 71F
4245 posts
1/5/2020 11:16 am

Good you found out what an ass he is. I wonder if it is because we are on this site, some think they are entitled to whatever and manners and respect are not warranted. Those men make it hard for the good ones here.


shadowtoo69 65M  
1013 posts
1/5/2020 11:23 am

He was an ass. Nothing wrong with the way you meet.


coolpoolguy3 54M
3106 posts
1/5/2020 11:32 am

Your rules are perfect, people have to show a little respect otherwise they're not worth it. I like your new look and I just love seeing that smile.


MyBaffies 51M
4609 posts
1/5/2020 11:39 am

"five minutes after meeting me I will drop my panties and fuck you like a porn star" - I'm polite and would not expect that at all. I'd wait at least ten minutes!

Hope you have success in finding someone better than that in 2020.

Baffies

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Cum_Happy 107M
2779 posts
1/5/2020 11:44 am

Well, Hot Mama, You're just a lovely person inside and out! Not to forget, you are also a very sexy redhead! Wow!

As everyone seems to have confirmed, your rules are perfect. I would only suggest adding one more. If you have a friend that you can confide in. Let them know when and where you are meeting the person. Tell them when they should expect to hear from you, and what action to take if they do not.

Whoever it is that gets to meet you, they should consider themselves fortunate.

Happy hunting Happy New Year!

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badteacherAK 64M  
1518 posts
1/5/2020 11:54 am

Your rules are both smart and reasonable. The guy was an ass to try and bulldoze your boundaries.

Sometimes people do you the favor of revealing themselves unexpectedly. Suddenly your choice is clear.

You are a star. You deserve someone who shines at least nearly as bright and can, at a minimum, follow instructions.

XOXOXOX

B.


jajo696 66F
3191 posts
1/5/2020 12:02 pm

Your rules are perfect......and is as someone said.....they feel that just because we are here....that everything is a go. NOT SO !!

Keep your rules and those that are worthy , will be fine with them. That will be the test~~


Single_Chivette2 43F

1/5/2020 12:06 pm

No I don't think they are strict at all, right on point. and yes I agree, Red Hott!


easy_going2014 54M
14366 posts
1/5/2020 12:14 pm

thanks for sharing

I like to change things up a bit

underlying principles that we hold dear, are still dear

I've changed my profile to reflect my true wants, and I think it lets people decide immediately if the risk is worth the reward

good luck with your new attitude

reminded me of this

Van Morrison - "Brand New Day"

When all the dark clouds roll away
And the sun begins to shine
I see my freedom from across the way
And it comes right in on time

Well it shines so bright and it gives so much light
And it comes from the sky above
Makes me feel so free
Makes me feel like me
And lights my life with love

And it seems like and it feels like
And it seems like, yes it feels like
A brand new day
A brand new day, yeah, yeah, yeah

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thikhead 64M
3286 posts
1/5/2020 12:16 pm

youre always attractive, in all ways



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mamacita38dd 42F
61825 posts
1/5/2020 12:18 pm

Doesn't matter the hair color my friend, you are beautiful and yes we are all trying to support each other, because that's what real queens do only one person is trying to divide us and all of all blogland has realized who that is.

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LickYourYoni 72M
569 posts
1/5/2020 12:31 pm

You look awesome! Keep your standards high as you have listed them. It is a great platform. You can always tweak them a bit though out the year, if necessary. Have grand luck!


funiithesun58 63M
1262 posts
1/5/2020 12:35 pm

You look hot as always ! Have beeen here four years ! And your so hot !


luv2pleaseuall2 42M  
27 posts
1/5/2020 12:42 pm

Your rules aren't strict they are smart. That guy was just an asshole. I think more of you that you don't just jump in and have sex with just anyone. Keep being that sexy strong woman that you are.


BangalTiger98 22M  
34 posts
1/5/2020 12:57 pm

Your rules are 100% reasonable for a first meeting. Look out for yourself #1 and ALWAYS have an exit if you don't know the person. Count your blessings to be rid of the chump.


Love_My_Toys 57M  
818 posts
1/5/2020 1:02 pm

Sorry to hear you met another asshole. Nothing wrong with your rules at all. I never expect sex on a first meet. My rules don't differ all that much from yours.

One caveat though, if the the sparks are flying, (in both directions) then go for it!


HuttValleyboy67 53M  
518 posts
1/5/2020 1:17 pm

great smile, best wishes for the year ahead


ime4real 56M
491 posts
1/5/2020 1:27 pm

Your rules are perfectly reasonable. The guy sounds like a douchebag.


stopbyandsayboo 49M
1266 posts
1/5/2020 1:36 pm

Hi Mama

Your rules are paramount for your safety.. Way to many idiots on this site ..This is a new year. I do hope you find your special person.. He will want to take his time to get to know your soul.. If he pushes or rushed you into anything your not ready for then he is not worthy of you

Chris

JUST ME A TALL PASSIONATE MAN WITH A HUGE HEART


dreamon78 60M
1199 posts
1/5/2020 1:44 pm

Your rules are extremely reasonable and appropriate. Even if they weren’t, it doesn’t matter, they’re YOUR rules and any true man would honor them.
Being presumptive based on what any woman posts here is just wrong.
No one should ever be treated with such utter callousness and disrespect.

I suspect the joy of getting to know the real you is totally worth the wait regardless of whether it ever leads to sharing something truly intimate. One of the wonderful parts of the journey of getting to know someone here is the time spent building that chemistry, comfort level and earning their trust. Any man worthy of your company would embrace your rules and cherish the opportunity to start that journey.

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PAWAPh 44M
14634 posts
1/5/2020 2:01 pm

*Red Hottie*

"Do you think my rules are too strict?"
I Think Your Rules Are More Than Fair!

"What do you think?"
You Look Brunettiful!
(Makes Your Eyes Pop)

Jack


CleavageFan4U 64M  
65467 posts
1/5/2020 2:06 pm

The rules about a no-expectations, safe, public place first meeting? - I agree completely! (Though I CAN recall three first meets that occurred when I was already in the hotel room waiting. But these we all fellow bloggers - we KNEW each other - just never had met in person.)

Now the rule about no more coffee dates? Well sorry that one seems a bit extreme.

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stopbyandsayboo 49M
1266 posts
1/5/2020 2:22 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    Good you found out what an ass he is. I wonder if it is because we are on this site, some think they are entitled to whatever and manners and respect are not warranted. Those men make it hard for the good ones here.
For me it would not matter what the site is.. A woman's safety is number one No one male or female should be subjected to that type of behavior , For sure an idiot like that does make it difficult for some who are sincere and real

JUST ME A TALL PASSIONATE MAN WITH A HUGE HEART


fang070 50M
911 posts
1/5/2020 3:00 pm

First of all, regarding your look: wow! you look gorgeous.

For your rules "thing", it should not be required if, as I would expect, there SAS mutual respect, but unfortunately as shows your last date there are still many men which does not even known this word exists.
I consider your rules pretty natural and appropiate, but it seems you have to consider a more restrictive rule ser ☹️


Tmptrzz 58F
94652 posts
1/5/2020 3:02 pm

I am so sorry my friend this should have NOT happened to you. Your rules are PERFECT and men need to understand them and NOT EXPECT anything more. You have set boundaries for yourself, and I agree with them and anyone else who doesn't well they don't deserve a meeting or date with you.

I hope your enjoying a very Peaceful Sunday..


Looknfind18 68M  
4326 posts
1/5/2020 3:48 pm

Not a thing wrong with your rules and you are definitely worth it.


powercaps716 64M
53871 posts
1/5/2020 3:57 pm

 you did the right, drop him...  you are not a cheap date your
worth more than what he offer you . this is a new year something
good will come your way.


ULIXBIG 66M
9083 posts
1/5/2020 4:14 pm

Jeanie, your rules are absolutely perfect. Those who disrespect them are not worth your attention anyway.
My rules are similar. But not everyone thinks like that ... When I once suggested to a woman to meet over a coffee, she became quite abusive. No loss!


FresnoWoman 50F
858 posts
1/5/2020 4:39 pm

Your rules seem perfectly reasonable to me. He was just trying to see if he could push past your boundaries. Good riddance to him!


teddy425 62M
287 posts
1/5/2020 4:41 pm

Your rules are entirely reasonable, that guy was a jerk, and an idiot, and has now blown his chances forever with you. His loss...


hungndumb42 45M  
30 posts
1/5/2020 4:42 pm

Your rule is very reasonable. If they don't understand your rules then they are not right for you. You should have busted him in the balls!!


laughwithsinners 59M  
48 posts
1/5/2020 4:46 pm

no your rules are not to strict. I don't know way anyone has the expectations that someone will drop everything to come fuck them. Some type of chemistry is necessary and to many people lie online .


pocogato12 68F  
36398 posts
1/5/2020 4:54 pm

I have the same rules. And unfortunately, I had similar endings to a meet so I have become more circumspect before I agree
PS I LOVE the hair

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Lonely16842 56M  
878 posts
1/5/2020 4:56 pm

There is absolutely nothing wrong with your rules. I'd would never expect anything like that from a woman on a first meet. IMHO I'd say the guy was probably just an entitled a-hole and you deserve so much more than that.


Lonely16842 56M  
878 posts
1/5/2020 4:57 pm

P.S. the new look is fantastic


Desir4Fire 46M
2329 posts
1/5/2020 5:05 pm

Queen Janeane,
You are definitely Red Hot Hottie!!
I cannot believe some assholes would treat you like that in public.
Your rules are meant to protect you and your self worth.
Don't break them or set them aside for anyone.
You know what is best for you.
2020 is your year love!!


Desir4Fire 46M
2329 posts
1/5/2020 5:05 pm

PS... did I tell you that you look amazing!!


Northshore2031 42M  
42 posts
1/5/2020 5:32 pm

Your rules are not too strict. He knew them and even after agreeing to them he disregarded them. To hell with him. Better luck on your next encounter. He gives us other guys a bad name. Makes it harder for everyone else here.


Sexczy69 66M
3665 posts
1/5/2020 5:41 pm

I like your rules!!! I personally like to know who I having sex with or without... Either way I like to know the person...


NJGUY08090 54M
3581 posts
1/5/2020 5:58 pm

Happy New Year to you. Your rules are spot on and I have no trouble with any one or all of them. I think meeting some one here should be no different than meeting some one in a chance meeting at a bar. You have to get to know that person at some initial level and build on it.


1salesman3 66M
6098 posts
1/5/2020 6:23 pm

Jeanie, stick by your rules. You deserve respect. Anyone who would ask that of you is not worth you wasting your time. Could only lead to bad news later.


1salesman3 66M
6098 posts
1/5/2020 6:27 pm

Jeanie, I also like you new hair style. I loved the photo of you when you didn't have all the makeup on. You are a very pretty lady.


eclecticskr 59M  
218 posts
1/5/2020 6:28 pm

Your rules are your rules. It seems to me they are perfectly reasonable and safe. The jerk agreed to those rules knowing you would not have met him otherwise. Be strong and stay with your rules!


pacnwlover42 52M
8876 posts
1/5/2020 8:45 pm

Your hair looks beautiful Jeannie! What a complete jerk he is to try to make you do that. I truly hope you find someone who is authentic and treats you with the greatest respect. You are a great woman!

Funny women are incredibly sexy!


Cpllooking6671 54M/49F  
2926 posts
1/5/2020 9:26 pm

Great rules and we use the exact same ones as well- The person follows these as the price of admission to meet you. That's all- do not give in on your foundation. Yes- you ARE worth more than what he did and obviously he didn't like being rejected... We let people know when we meet that my Mrs is a processor that she thinks about how it all went before making a decision so that this is known in advance of the meet n greet. Its usually a day or 2 before she makes up her mind then there isn't the live blow off issue like you had...


64liveNlearn 56M
28 posts
1/5/2020 9:47 pm

IMO your rules are exceedingly reasonable and smart, but even if they were not the guy agreed to them. He is clearly a liar and a fool.

Love the new look.


author51 58F
112187 posts
1/5/2020 11:21 pm

Welcome to the world of red my friend.You look beautiful but you are beautiful both inside and out regardless.My rules are the exact same as yours my friend.Stick with them Jeannie. You dodged a bullet with that one.There are so many wonderful men and those are the ones that will wait. Keep the faith my friend and never let anyone have the power to make you feel anything less than the beautiful person that you are.. We are worth the wait for that special one...

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toolswh1969 51M
33 posts
1/6/2020 2:00 am

Jeanie
There is nothing wrong with you having some rules.
For one thing I know from talking with you.You are worth the time to get to know. Wish I was closer. Would love to spend time with you talking and getting to know you better then I do.
Sucks when things go wrong after they agreed to the rules.
Wish you could are me as a friend on here too be able to talk more with you.
Have a great day Jeanie 💋 keep that sexy smile on


toolswh1969 51M
33 posts
1/6/2020 2:02 am

Very not and sexy as a red head Jeanie 😘


Heathen_G 62M
7849 posts
1/6/2020 2:44 am

Do you think rules are too strict?...

Not at all strict. Those seem like fair rules to me. I have rules , too. One of them is, "If there is no sign of sexual attraction nor sexual interest, then walk away".

I definitely know I am worth waiting for. ... No woman is worth , "Waiting for". That's just wasting his time. A woman either wants to see the guy naked, or she doesn't. She knows one way or the other within 10 minutes or less of meeting.

Most men, myself included, will continue to date other women, when one woman is just not sure. . I don't wait. It's yes or it's no.

Anyway, "Dating" is never exclusive. Exclusivity takes time. Some times never happens.


Heathen_G 62M
7849 posts
1/6/2020 2:50 am

    Quoting toolswh1969:
    Jeanie
    There is nothing wrong with you having some rules.
    For one thing I know from talking with you.You are worth the time to get to know. Wish I was closer. Would love to spend time with you talking and getting to know you better then I do.
    Sucks when things go wrong after they agreed to the rules.
    Wish you could are me as a friend on here too be able to talk more with you.
    Have a great day Jeanie 💋 keep that sexy smile on
Would love to spend time with you talking and getting to know you better ...

"Talking and getting to know" .... doesn't make sexual energy happen. You either have it, or you don't.


azriel1970 50M

1/6/2020 4:26 am

Oh wow what an incredible piece of shit. No wonder folks are so jaded on here when all it takes is an asshole like that to act that way. I will just never understand how someone can act like that in private let alone in public!!!!!

I am sorry you went throiugh that. No you being an exhibitionist does not lessen your right to be treated like the amazing woman you are. Hugs sweetie you deserve far better.


Shots30 45M  
2309 posts
1/6/2020 4:53 am

Your rules are very reasonable and should be honored by any honorable man. The men that expect something right away just because of the site we are on, are animals. And they don't deserve to meet or even be spoken to. I am sorry you had to experience that and make it a bad experience for you stepping out side of your box.

Stick to your rules and you will find the few that will honor them. Happy New Year!

Cheers!


profcoquin27bis 56M
3831 posts
1/6/2020 6:01 am

nice face and smile !!!!


Blueyedguy823 54M  
789 posts
1/6/2020 7:12 am

I can't imagine throwing a tantrum to get a BJ in a car. Weird.


59vintage 62M
33 posts
1/6/2020 7:19 am

Nothing unreasonable about your rules Jeanie. As you point out, you can't be too careful about making sure people are who they say they are. So many people don't understand that patience is usually well rewarded.


Piper3654K 50M
113 posts
1/6/2020 8:46 am

Welcum back dear. Your rules are just fine. They're very similar to mine. If anyone doesn't like it, just send them along without even a response. You're worth the effort and don't ever sell yourself short or doubt it for a second.

I've heard similar stories from other friends here and even had a couple of friends physically assaulted when they said no. You can't be too safe. It's shocking to me that some people act the way they do.

As for the hair, sorry I didn't even notice. Personally I never get past your eyes in your pics.


CJDOU 56M
100 posts
1/6/2020 9:19 am

Agree with all, except rule of no intimacy on first “date” , hey if there is chemistry why not, but I do respect your view and would never push myself on anyone, what a jerk that guy is!


69ereatwetpussy 58M
4894 posts
1/6/2020 10:10 am

You are just beautiful to me .
So sorry you met with a guy like that
Respect is no longer
He's the fool for loading his cool.
You are write to walk away never to say hello again to him
He has no right to say or want that at all.
I'ld never do it to you or anyone I meet first or second time
It takes time to know someone to be intermit with.

Ope you have a better day alone XOXOXO


ec51257 53M
12 posts
1/6/2020 10:25 am

Beautiful look and great rules.


Dtts43rt35 62M
12030 posts
1/6/2020 11:18 am

Your red hair suits you because it's so beautiful wonderful I'm your fan!

Rio flows in its bed and goes around with its waters!


Aden0069 53M
127 posts
1/6/2020 11:46 am

Happy New Year Beautiful! You are always beautiful! Your rules are pretty standard, and no one should ask you to compromise them! Don't let the stupid pushy guys make a bad name for the rest of us! Most guys are pretty reasonable, or at least I would like to think so!


savageguy378 54M  
38 posts
1/6/2020 1:33 pm

Good afternoon Hot,

Happy Belated New Year! I enjoyed reading your blog and thoughts on your most recent meeting. I'm in full agreement in having rules that are explained before the meet, and if a true gentleman, adhered to when you meet. Likewise, ladies I have met and noted in my profile is my request of a public place, coffee and most importantly, never assume or judge anyone what they want or like if having a profile posted on this website or any adult/Internet meet/match sites.

I've been involved in this type of lifestyle since my early 20's, (longer or exposed/experienced to the adult lifestyle than most on this site and long before the Internet sites like this one) and learned not to expect sex/hop into bed so to speak on a first meeting. For me, truly has to be some chemistry beyond the physical attraction, mutual interests and great conversation. Easier said than done, but worth it in the end if you meet a new friend.

Still, I do prefer quantity over quality and not just saying that as a cliché line, but I'm not as active on this site as I was in the past, take some breaks from here sometimes and love to catch up with old friends and new acquaintances. But it is refreshing when you do meet someone equally open minded, nonjudgmental and who can carry a conversation while sharing some laughs. I think it takes practice everyday to discipline yourself to really say you are open minded, and never assume things about ladies or opposite sex when they post a profile on this site.

Wishing you a very fun filled 2020!

Enjoy it all!

Steve


HAMONMAN 61M
10343 posts
1/6/2020 5:53 pm


We meet in a public place. We go dutch. I do not become intimate on the first meet.

Do you think rules are too strict?


No Sweet Hottie. Those are my rules as well.

New hair ?
Looks nice. I don't think you could ever look bad . . .

( PS I'm commenting for the sake of commenting, NOT to qualify for the contest as you were kind enough to award me points in a past recent contest. )


j4theladies69 38M
33 posts
1/6/2020 6:47 pm

The guy is was being a jerk. You deserve better. You’re a beautiful woman.


Heathen_G 62M
7849 posts
1/6/2020 7:21 pm

    Quoting  :

Ha!! The picture looks like shes thinking ... "oh no.. not another gay one".


Mataurefun 67M
222 posts
1/6/2020 8:16 pm

Beautiful photo!


jtwrigleyville 42M
396 posts
1/6/2020 8:30 pm

You've always looked smoking hot, and you've never looked better.


lonlyforlove2 78M
18793 posts
1/6/2020 8:30 pm

Young Lady, you be YOU, if he can't understand the simplest set of rules, kick him out without any hesitation .

stop in at lonlyforlove2 you might get a smile!!
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Buddieboy11 59M/65F  
205 posts
1/6/2020 8:31 pm

Like the new Hair.. Looks very pretty/
As you said , When it comes internet / hook up you can never be overly cautious.
You have a Happiest of New Years and A safe time.


volunteerofd 49M
47 posts
1/6/2020 9:30 pm

Hot Mamamm, your rules are very good and safe for you and if they can't be followed by the guy, he isn't worthy of your time. Love your new look and that amazing smile that instantly warms a person. Here's to a Great NEW YEAR!

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80SROCKR 61M
157 posts
1/6/2020 9:50 pm

Red is good.

This blog is written for entertainment purposes only. Mostly mine, but I hope you enjoy it too.


fakufan 42M
1290 posts
1/6/2020 10:32 pm

Wow, your pic is beautiful. Love your smile and eyes, hotmamamm. You set the right boundaries, hope you are ok after the jerk's outburst. Matching with someone is a hard patient road.


reallyready46 61M
1254 posts
1/7/2020 11:14 am

No your rules are pretty much like my rules. Meet in public, no promises see what is going on first. This guy was an IDIOT and you smoked him out by not just hopping into his Car.


justAmale55 65M
467 posts
1/7/2020 11:43 am

I think your rules are perfect. I also like to meet first in a public place, chemistry and are they what they portrayed themselves to be, are two main reasons. If someone is not going to agree to that, they need to look elsewhere.


citizen4722 63M  
70858 posts
1/7/2020 4:00 pm

There is absolutely no doubt that you are so worth waiting for


RoosterTex69 57M
53 posts
1/7/2020 4:48 pm

As Tim Allen said "men are pigs, argh argh argh aaarrrgghhhooo"
Unfortunately I think he was right. I'm sorry that dude was an asshat to you. Totally uncool.


gardenboy321 57M  
41765 posts
1/8/2020 8:27 am

I think your rules are fine. It's all about respect, trust, and comfort level.

Thoughts from the Garden...


fun4couplesnmore 48M
612 posts
1/8/2020 2:28 pm

gorgeous! you are fabulous xoxoxoxo


xist4more 51M
57 posts
1/8/2020 4:07 pm

You are right on point. Chemistry needs to be tested to prevent explosive results (just as my profile says).

I love the look in your pic. All the best to you!

Until then...

Feel free to kik me, same username


OlderWiser1959 61M

1/8/2020 11:46 pm

So beautiful


samson19682006 53M  
1391 posts
1/9/2020 4:56 am


hardandread81000 42M
1057 posts
1/9/2020 7:09 am

wow, some people have no class. Yes this site is to meet up to have some fun but you are not a pocket pussy. It is good and for your safety to have rules and no you should not bend them unless you feel safe and the chemistry. Stay safe and protect yourself when you go meet, have some mace or something .


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:44 am

Boom


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:46 am

    Quoting mchlnwh:
    Your rules are just as they should be. Didn't see a link to your contest but would love it if you entered me.
Sad to say no matter how old you are you should always have rules. Safety first . The gremlins keep eating my links so go on my blog and you will find the contest. I appreciate you stopping by. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:46 am

Thank you Joey


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:47 am

    Quoting Story435:
    Oh you are right to rules for dating and men need to respect them. Not very cool to ask you to go out in car and give him a blow job that's just not right at all!
    I do not think your rules are to strict at all!
    Butch
Well he definitely lost his "cool" points. No manners. I appreciate you stopping by. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:48 am

    Quoting hornybbc69:
    hot red looks amazing on you great attitude for 2020 ...i say you have to learn how to walk before you can run.......that's an old saying...i always remember good luck in 2020....tp all......
Thank you. That is a excellent saying. I walked..fast pace. Lol... great to see you again. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:51 am

    Quoting CortonMan:
    Your rules are not to strict...You respect yourself, and will cause others to respect you..or, they loose out on what I believe is a special and unique woman. I have been on this site for a while, but I know longer pay for it because of the whackos that have approached me on here...and I mean some scary stalkers. The few people that I met on here that were nice, I still communicate with, either via text or e-mail, because they want advice and friendship more then they want just a random romp. Do what makes you feel safe and smile, and when you find the right guy, then open up and unleash what you have inside that you have desires for. But until then..just keep learning more about yourself, and ALWAYS remember your self worth!
Thank you Corton. I never want to lose my self respect again. Yes this site is full of scary stalkers. I have had a few. Part of the reason I left for awhile. It is always great to see you. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:52 am

    Quoting bass_playah:
    Sounds like you and I have the same rules. I hope you a fun, safe new year. Dig your new look as well!
Thank you. Hopefully I will meet a guy that has the same set of rules. Lol..great seeing you again. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:52 am

    Quoting drizzt10768:
    Fuck that guy, you be you, you be comfortable with what you want!
That is what I plan to do drizz Great to see you again. happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:53 am

    Quoting Sigard8:
    Your rules are bang on. How could any guy be such an obnoxious idiot towards anyone?
Yeah In not very fond of rudeness. It great seeing you. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:54 am

    Quoting  :

Exactly. I could not have said it better myself. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:55 am

    Quoting wjb1958:
    You are right to have rules and they are too strict. Happy New Year
Idk if they too strict but it is what I am comfortable with. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:56 am

    Quoting mjb595:
    I hope you don't let that dick ruin it for the rest of us.
I won't..lol.. I have had worse dates. Great seeing you again. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:57 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I've had some good and some bad meets, the woman should be very cautious.
Honestly the men should be cautious as well. The world of internet dating can be crazy but here I am.. lol.. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:58 am

    Quoting Kayak_Playmate:
    I totally agree with you and your rules. I would expect the same scenario. HE was an ass! Please consider me in your contest, I could use a few points.
Ai am happy I found out his character early..lol.. yes did you sign up on my contest page?


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 10:59 am

    Quoting crowdy123:
    Your rules are perfectly reasonable. Men who don't respect your boundaries aren't worth your time.
Thank you. I am just happy I stepped outside my Box and put myself out there great seeing you again. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:00 am

    Quoting ClassicRock2015:
    You both agreed on the terms of your date...and should be respected by both...so sad you had to put up with such a person...hopefully your next date will have respect for women....best wishes to you !
Yes your right. I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:03 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    Good you found out what an ass he is. I wonder if it is because we are on this site, some think they are entitled to whatever and manners and respect are not warranted. Those men make it hard for the good ones here.
Yes I wondered that as well. I'm just happy I put myself out there. Honestly I didn't expect to find a match so easily. He was just rude. Men like him make it difficult for the good ones on here. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:03 am

    Quoting shadowtoo69:
    He was an ass. Nothing wrong with the way you meet.
He was a ass..lol.. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:05 am

    Quoting coolpoolguy3:
    Your rules are perfect, people have to show a little respect otherwise they're not worth it. I like your new look and I just love seeing that smile.
Thank you coolpoolguy. He definitely was not worth my time. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:06 am

    Quoting MyBaffies:
    "five minutes after meeting me I will drop my panties and fuck you like a porn star" - I'm polite and would not expect that at all. I'd wait at least ten minutes!

    Hope you have success in finding someone better than that in 2020.
Lol...I was hoping you would wait at least 15 minutes. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:07 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you Selfless. Brand new year. Brand new attitude.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:07 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:07 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you naughty friend


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:09 am

    Quoting Cum_Happy:
    Well, Hot Mama, You're just a lovely person inside and out! Not to forget, you are also a very sexy redhead! Wow!

    As everyone seems to have confirmed, your rules are perfect. I would only suggest adding one more. If you have a friend that you can confide in. Let them know when and where you are meeting the person. Tell them when they should expect to hear from you, and what action to take if they do not.

    Whoever it is that gets to meet you, they should consider themselves fortunate.

    Happy hunting Happy New Year!
That is a excellent idea. Like I said you never can be too safe. Great to see you again. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 11:10 am

    Quoting badteacherAK:
    Your rules are both smart and reasonable. The guy was an ass to try and bulldoze your boundaries.

    Sometimes people do you the favor of revealing themselves unexpectedly. Suddenly your choice is clear.

    You are a star. You deserve someone who shines at least nearly as bright and can, at a minimum, follow instructions.

    XOXOXOX

    B.
You make a excellent point. He did do me a favor. It was great seeing you on cam last night. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:21 pm

    Quoting jajo696:
    Your rules are perfect......and is as someone said.....they feel that just because we are here....that everything is a go. NOT SO !!

    Keep your rules and those that are worthy , will be fine with them. That will be the test~~
Yes I agree. Or they do not think we have options..lol.. I learned to be cautious through out the years. Internet dating can be dangerous. It great to see you pretty lady. Happy day to you


mrwalleye15 56M  
31 posts
1/9/2020 3:23 pm

He knew the rules ahead of time, what's the problem? You look great in any color hair! I don't think yo need red to be feisty.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:23 pm

    Quoting Single_Chivette2:
    No I don't think they are strict at all, right on point. and yes I agree, Red Hott!
Thank you so much. I really do appreciate you checking out my blog. It is nice to have a ladies opinion on here. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:26 pm

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    thanks for sharing

    I like to change things up a bit

    underlying principles that we hold dear, are still dear

    I've changed my profile to reflect my true wants, and I think it lets people decide immediately if the risk is worth the reward

    good luck with your new attitude

    reminded me of this

    Van Morrison - "Brand New Day"

    When all the dark clouds roll away
    And the sun begins to shine
    I see my freedom from across the way
    And it comes right in on time

    Well it shines so bright and it gives so much light
    And it comes from the sky above
    Makes me feel so free
    Makes me feel like me
    And lights my life with love

    And it seems like and it feels like
    And it seems like, yes it feels like
    A brand new day
    A brand new day, yeah, yeah, yeah
Love that song!! I been broadening my music selection and I always would enjoy some recommendations. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:27 pm

    Quoting thikhead:
    youre always attractive, in all ways


Thank you so much sweet friend. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:28 pm

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    Doesn't matter the hair color my friend, you are beautiful and yes we are all trying to support each other, because that's what real queens do only one person is trying to divide us and all of all blogland has realized who that is.
Thank you so much mama. Yes we do support each other. Period. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:30 pm

    Quoting LickYourYoni:
    You look awesome! Keep your standards high as you have listed them. It is a great platform. You can always tweak them a bit though out the year, if necessary. Have grand luck!
That is true. Every situation is different as well however I do not think it is wrong to have standards...lol.. thank you for the compliment on my hair. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:31 pm

    Quoting funiithesun58:
    You look hot as always ! Have beeen here four years ! And your so hot !
Of course. I know who you are I really hope life has been treating you well.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:32 pm

    Quoting luv2pleaseuall2:
    Your rules aren't strict they are smart. That guy was just an asshole. I think more of you that you don't just jump in and have sex with just anyone. Keep being that sexy strong woman that you are.
Thank you. He was not a delight..lol.. It is great to see you again. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:33 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:35 pm

    Quoting BangalTiger98:
    Your rules are 100% reasonable for a first meeting. Look out for yourself #1 and ALWAYS have an exit if you don't know the person. Count your blessings to be rid of the chump.
That is a good point. Counting my blessings as we speak..lol...It great to see you my friend. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:37 pm

    Quoting Love_My_Toys:
    Sorry to hear you met another asshole. Nothing wrong with your rules at all. I never expect sex on a first meet. My rules don't differ all that much from yours.

    One caveat though, if the the sparks are flying, (in both directions) then go for it!
No reason to be sorry. At least I put myself out there..lol..If the sparks were flying who knows what would happen..lol... I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:38 pm

Thank you hutt. Happy new year to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:39 pm

    Quoting ime4real:
    Your rules are perfectly reasonable. The guy sounds like a douchebag.
Yeah he was. Lol.. great watching you the other day. Happy Thursday to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:40 pm

    Quoting stopbyandsayboo:
    Hi Mama

    Your rules are paramount for your safety.. Way to many idiots on this site ..This is a new year. I do hope you find your special person.. He will want to take his time to get to know your soul.. If he pushes or rushed you into anything your not ready for then he is not worthy of you

    Chris
Thank you Chris. Your right. I appreciate it. It hard to find people with patience. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:47 pm

    Quoting dreamon78:
    Your rules are extremely reasonable and appropriate. Even if they weren’t, it doesn’t matter, they’re YOUR rules and any true man would honor them.
    Being presumptive based on what any woman posts here is just wrong.
    No one should ever be treated with such utter callousness and disrespect.

    I suspect the joy of getting to know the real you is totally worth the wait regardless of whether it ever leads to sharing something truly intimate. One of the wonderful parts of the journey of getting to know someone here is the time spent building that chemistry, comfort level and earning their trust. Any man worthy of your company would embrace your rules and cherish the opportunity to start that journey.
Your right . They are my rules and I will stand by them. I just happy I put myself out there for once. It has been years. I feel like that was accomplishment itself. So I will just look in the positive. I always appreciate your input and honesty. Happy Thursday to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 3:48 pm

    Quoting PAWAPh:
    *Red Hottie*

    "Do you think my rules are too strict?"
    I Think Your Rules Are More Than Fair!

    "What do you think?"
    You Look Brunettiful!
    (Makes Your Eyes Pop)

    Jack
Jack.. you always make me laugh Thank you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 4:52 pm

Safety is my number on priority. Oh and the gremlins ate some words I did not give up coffee dates..lol.. I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 5:00 pm

    Quoting fang070:
    First of all, regarding your look: wow! you look gorgeous.

    For your rules "thing", it should not be required if, as I would expect, there SAS mutual respect, but unfortunately as shows your last date there are still many men which does not even known this word exists.
    I consider your rules pretty natural and appropiate, but it seems you have to consider a more restrictive rule ser ☹️
Thank you. I agree mutual respect is very important. I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 5:09 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I am so sorry my friend this should have NOT happened to you. Your rules are PERFECT and men need to understand them and NOT EXPECT anything more. You have set boundaries for yourself, and I agree with them and anyone else who doesn't well they don't deserve a meeting or date with you.

    I hope your enjoying a very Peaceful Sunday..
No reason to be sorry. I happy I stepped outside my Box. I rather find out sooner than later. Great to see you pretty lady. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 5:11 pm

    Quoting  :

Sounds like you can totally relate. I also found it is the same men on other sites. Maybe internet dating is not for me..lol..It is great to see you pretty lady. Happy 2020 for you.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 5:12 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you so much Scott. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 5:14 pm

    Quoting Looknfind18:
    Not a thing wrong with your rules and you are definitely worth it.
Thank you Lookn. I did not think they were unreasonable. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 5:15 pm

    Quoting powercaps716:
     you did the right, drop him...  you are not a cheap date your
    worth more than what he offer you . this is a new year something
    good will come your way.
Thank you. I feel the positive vibes in the air..lol
.happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 5:17 pm

    Quoting ULIXBIG:
    Jeanie, your rules are absolutely perfect. Those who disrespect them are not worth your attention anyway.
    My rules are similar. But not everyone thinks like that ... When I once suggested to a woman to meet over a coffee, she became quite abusive. No loss!
Sometimes the way people react is quite telling. It times to build trust and chemistry. I am not going to settle. I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 8:56 pm

    Quoting FresnoWoman:
    Your rules seem perfectly reasonable to me. He was just trying to see if he could push past your boundaries. Good riddance to him!
Your right ..good riddance..lol.. great to see you. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 8:57 pm

    Quoting teddy425:
    Your rules are entirely reasonable, that guy was a jerk, and an idiot, and has now blown his chances forever with you. His loss...
That is true teddy. I will not be seeing him again..lol.. I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 8:59 pm

    Quoting hungndumb42:
    Your rule is very reasonable. If they don't understand your rules then they are not right for you. You should have busted him in the balls!!
The thought did cross my mind however I did not want to break the law..lol... I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:01 pm

    Quoting laughwithsinners:
    no your rules are not to strict. I don't know way anyone has the expectations that someone will drop everything to come fuck them. Some type of chemistry is necessary and to many people lie online .
That is true. A lot of men and woman lie on line. Some people do not need chemistry. I do not understand..lol... I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:03 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    I have the same rules. And unfortunately, I had similar endings to a meet so I have become more circumspect before I agree
    PS I LOVE the hair
Thank you. I'm sorry you had a similar situation. It make you hesitant for future possibilities however I stepped outside my box.That was a accomplishment...lol...great to see you. Happy day to ya!


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:05 pm

    Quoting Lonely16842:
    There is absolutely nothing wrong with your rules. I'd would never expect anything like that from a woman on a first meet. IMHO I'd say the guy was probably just an entitled a-hole and you deserve so much more than that.
Truth be told I have had worse dates on here..lol.. this was embarrassing though. Great to see you Lonely. Hopefully we will catch up soon.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:06 pm

Thank you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:07 pm

    Quoting Desir4Fire:
    Queen Janeane,
    You are definitely Red Hot Hottie!!
    I cannot believe some assholes would treat you like that in public.
    Your rules are meant to protect you and your self worth.
    Don't break them or set them aside for anyone.
    You know what is best for you.
    2020 is your year love!!
Thank you luv. Well at least I didn't waste a lot of time before realizing his character..lol..Great to see you my friend


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:08 pm

    Quoting Desir4Fire:
    PS... did I tell you that you look amazing!!
Thank you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:09 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you. I would have to agree with you statement. I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:11 pm

    Quoting Northshore2031:
    Your rules are not too strict. He knew them and even after agreeing to them he disregarded them. To hell with him. Better luck on your next encounter. He gives us other guys a bad name. Makes it harder for everyone else here.
I am sure it does. I know for a fact all men are not like that. Great to see you Northshore. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:13 pm

    Quoting Sexczy69:
    I like your rules!!! I personally like to know who I having sex with or without... Either way I like to know the person...
Same here. I would think building chemistry would make it more comfortable to be naughty Trust is a big factor for me. Always a pleasure to see you. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:15 pm

    Quoting NJGUY08090:
    Happy New Year to you. Your rules are spot on and I have no trouble with any one or all of them. I think meeting some one here should be no different than meeting some one in a chance meeting at a bar. You have to get to know that person at some initial level and build on it.
Happy new year to you. It sounds like we are on the same page on getting to know someone. I appreciate your input. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:17 pm

    Quoting 1salesman3:
    Jeanie, stick by your rules. You deserve respect. Anyone who would ask that of you is not worth you wasting your time. Could only lead to bad news later.
That is true I do deserve respect. However I think everyone does to proven otherwise.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/9/2020 9:18 pm

    Quoting 1salesman3:
    Jeanie, I also like you new hair style. I loved the photo of you when you didn't have all the makeup on. You are a very pretty lady.
Thank you. I'm only wearing lip gloss on this one. I try to show what's under the mask as well.


kumswaloer3 52M
281 posts
1/10/2020 7:36 am

I don't know what you were doing when you were away from here, but you look marvelous darling. As hot, and sexy as ever.


Lonely16842 56M  
878 posts
1/10/2020 7:47 pm

    Quoting hotmamamm:
    Truth be told I have had worse dates on here..lol.. this was embarrassing though. Great to see you Lonely. Hopefully we will catch up soon.
I would definitely love to catch up sometime. It would be nice to just chat one on one sometime.


Mikeelikesit75 45M

1/10/2020 10:17 pm

Beautiful smile , Gorgeous hair


francisphillip 68M

1/11/2020 6:53 am

Your rules are totally reasonable. I'm sorry you ran into the asshole, but having said that, meeting in a public place was your saving grace. Most people will not kick up a stink in public unless they are in danger. If someone is kicking up a stink in a public place where I am, then at least one person (me) will step in and help. That's the whole idea.


AFFJeff46214 51M
11 posts
1/12/2020 5:50 am

I have boundaries, too. I think he was wrong with his demands and very rude. I am happy just to go have the coffee and conversation. I am slowly learning not everybody is a match and that's okay. I am sorry for your bad experience. Lots of good comments wit the same stuff I would write.


kumswaloer3 52M
281 posts
1/13/2020 10:40 am

Your rules are perfect, don't change a thing.


Leegs2012 48M
68027 posts
1/14/2020 8:10 am

You are gorgeous!!


Leegs2012 48M
68027 posts
1/14/2020 8:11 am

You are..Sexy!


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:34 am

    Quoting eclecticskr:
    Your rules are your rules. It seems to me they are perfectly reasonable and safe. The jerk agreed to those rules knowing you would not have met him otherwise. Be strong and stay with your rules!
Thank you. They are my rules and my comfort and safety is important to me. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:35 am

    Quoting pacnwlover42:
    Your hair looks beautiful Jeannie! What a complete jerk he is to try to make you do that. I truly hope you find someone who is authentic and treats you with the greatest respect. You are a great woman!
Hopefully one day..lol..to then working on myself. I am so sorry for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:38 am

    Quoting Cpllooking6671:
    Great rules and we use the exact same ones as well- The person follows these as the price of admission to meet you. That's all- do not give in on your foundation. Yes- you ARE worth more than what he did and obviously he didn't like being rejected... We let people know when we meet that my Mrs is a processor that she thinks about how it all went before making a decision so that this is known in advance of the meet n greet. Its usually a day or 2 before she makes up her mind then there isn't the live blow off issue like you had...
Nobody likes to be rejected however your reaction to that shows your true colors. It sounds like you two have a great communication. That is awesome. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:39 am

    Quoting 64liveNlearn:
    IMO your rules are exceedingly reasonable and smart, but even if they were not the guy agreed to them. He is clearly a liar and a fool.

    Love the new look.
Thank you. I do not deal with liars well...lol..I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:41 am

    Quoting author51:
    Welcome to the world of red my friend.You look beautiful but you are beautiful both inside and out regardless.My rules are the exact same as yours my friend.Stick with them Jeannie. You dodged a bullet with that one.There are so many wonderful men and those are the ones that will wait. Keep the faith my friend and never let anyone have the power to make you feel anything less than the beautiful person that you are.. We are worth the wait for that special one...
Thank you. I love being a red head. I am a stubborn woman and will stay true to myself and my rules. I think we have that in common. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:43 am

    Quoting toolswh1969:
    Jeanie
    There is nothing wrong with you having some rules.
    For one thing I know from talking with you.You are worth the time to get to know. Wish I was closer. Would love to spend time with you talking and getting to know you better then I do.
    Sucks when things go wrong after they agreed to the rules.
    Wish you could are me as a friend on here too be able to talk more with you.
    Have a great day Jeanie 💋 keep that sexy smile on
Yes it does suck but I learned a long time ago on this site not to have expectations. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:47 am

    Quoting toolswh1969:
    Very not and sexy as a red head Jeanie 😘
Thank you sweet friend


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:50 am

    Quoting Heathen_G:
    Do you think rules are too strict?...

    Not at all strict. Those seem like fair rules to me. I have rules , too. One of them is, "If there is no sign of sexual attraction nor sexual interest, then walk away".

    I definitely know I am worth waiting for. ... No woman is worth , "Waiting for". That's just wasting his time. A woman either wants to see the guy naked, or she doesn't. She knows one way or the other within 10 minutes or less of meeting.

    Most men, myself included, will continue to date other women, when one woman is just not sure. . I don't wait. It's yes or it's no.

    Anyway, "Dating" is never exclusive. Exclusivity takes time. Some times never happens.
Fair enough. Truth be told I would never expect a man to wait however I do think I am worth it..lol..If you read my previous posts maybe you would have a better understanding. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:52 am

    Quoting azriel1970:
    Oh wow what an incredible piece of shit. No wonder folks are so jaded on here when all it takes is an asshole like that to act that way. I will just never understand how someone can act like that in private let alone in public!!!!!

    I am sorry you went throiugh that. No you being an exhibitionist does not lessen your right to be treated like the amazing woman you are. Hugs sweetie you deserve far better.
He was not a prize..lol.. However it is a new year and I said I was going to put myself out there. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:54 am

    Quoting Shots30:
    Your rules are very reasonable and should be honored by any honorable man. The men that expect something right away just because of the site we are on, are animals. And they don't deserve to meet or even be spoken to. I am sorry you had to experience that and make it a bad experience for you stepping out side of your box.

    Stick to your rules and you will find the few that will honor them. Happy New Year!

    Cheers!
It might have been a bad experience but I am happy I stepped outside the box. That was a accomplishment within itself. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:55 am

    Quoting Blueyedguy823:
    I can't imagine throwing a tantrum to get a BJ in a car. Weird.
Very weird..lol


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:56 am

    Quoting 59vintage:
    Nothing unreasonable about your rules Jeanie. As you point out, you can't be too careful about making sure people are who they say they are. So many people don't understand that patience is usually well rewarded.
Yes I have learned the hard way that you have to be careful. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 11:58 am

    Quoting Piper3654K:
    Welcum back dear. Your rules are just fine. They're very similar to mine. If anyone doesn't like it, just send them along without even a response. You're worth the effort and don't ever sell yourself short or doubt it for a second.

    I've heard similar stories from other friends here and even had a couple of friends physically assaulted when they said no. You can't be too safe. It's shocking to me that some people act the way they do.

    As for the hair, sorry I didn't even notice. Personally I never get past your eyes in your pics.
Thank you Piper. I like your new profile pic. My rules is to make me feel safe. To me that is very important. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:00 pm

    Quoting CJDOU:
    Agree with all, except rule of no intimacy on first “date” , hey if there is chemistry why not, but I do respect your view and would never push myself on anyone, what a jerk that guy is!
I understand what you are saying if there is chemistry, however I have my rules for a reason. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:02 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    You are just beautiful to me .
    So sorry you met with a guy like that
    Respect is no longer
    He's the fool for loading his cool.
    You are write to walk away never to say hello again to him
    He has no right to say or want that at all.
    I'ld never do it to you or anyone I meet first or second time
    It takes time to know someone to be intermit with.

    Ope you have a better day alone XOXOXO
Yes it does. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:02 pm

    Quoting ec51257:
    Beautiful look and great rules.
Thank you sexy friend. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:03 pm

    Quoting Dtts43rt35:
    Your red hair suits you because it's so beautiful wonderful I'm your fan!
Thank you sexy friend. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:04 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you. Gotta love Hottieville..lol... I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:06 pm

    Quoting Aden0069:
    Happy New Year Beautiful! You are always beautiful! Your rules are pretty standard, and no one should ask you to compromise them! Don't let the stupid pushy guys make a bad name for the rest of us! Most guys are pretty reasonable, or at least I would like to think so!
Thank you. Oh I won't. I know for a fact that great guys are on here. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:07 pm

    Quoting  :

Yeah he was..lol . Oh well. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:10 pm

    Quoting HAMONMAN:

    We meet in a public place. We go dutch. I do not become intimate on the first meet.

    Do you think rules are too strict?


    No Sweet Hottie. Those are my rules as well.

    New hair ?
    Looks nice. I don't think you could ever look bad . . .

    ( PS I'm commenting for the sake of commenting, NOT to qualify for the contest as you were kind enough to award me points in a past recent contest. )
Thank you. You can still enter my contests. I have had people win more than once before. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to ya


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:11 pm

    Quoting j4theladies69:
    The guy is was being a jerk. You deserve better. You’re a beautiful woman.
Thank you. At least I found out his character early. That could have been a disaster. Lol.. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:12 pm

Thank you sexy friend.


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:12 pm

    Quoting jtwrigleyville:
    You've always looked smoking hot, and you've never looked better.
Thank you jt. You always say the nicest things to me. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:14 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Young Lady, you be YOU, if he can't understand the simplest set of rules, kick him out without any hesitation .
Pretty much what I did. I do not tolerate rudeness. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:15 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you. That was very nice of you to say. I apologize for my late response. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:16 pm

    Quoting Buddieboy11:
    Like the new Hair.. Looks very pretty/
    As you said , When it comes internet / hook up you can never be overly cautious.
    You have a Happiest of New Years and A safe time.
Yes the internet is a crazy world..lol... I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:17 pm

    Quoting volunteerofd:
    Hot Mamamm, your rules are very good and safe for you and if they can't be followed by the guy, he isn't worthy of your time. Love your new look and that amazing smile that instantly warms a person. Here's to a Great NEW YEAR!

    post 4285888]
Thank you. Hope you have a fantastic year as well. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 12:19 pm

    Quoting fakufan:
    Wow, your pic is beautiful. Love your smile and eyes, hotmamamm. You set the right boundaries, hope you are ok after the jerk's outburst. Matching with someone is a hard patient road.
Thank you . Finding a match has been very difficult. Lol.. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:03 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you sexy friend. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:04 pm

    Quoting reallyready46:
    No your rules are pretty much like my rules. Meet in public, no promises see what is going on first. This guy was an IDIOT and you smoked him out by not just hopping into his Car.
He was not kind...lol.. that is why I have rules. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:06 pm

    Quoting justAmale55:
    I think your rules are perfect. I also like to meet first in a public place, chemistry and are they what they portrayed themselves to be, are two main reasons. If someone is not going to agree to that, they need to look elsewhere.
Sometimes I find that you have more chemistry online than in person. That is one of the reasons for my rules. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:06 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    There is absolutely no doubt that you are so worth waiting for
Thank you sweet friend. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:08 pm

    Quoting RoosterTex69:
    As Tim Allen said "men are pigs, argh argh argh aaarrrgghhhooo"
    Unfortunately I think he was right. I'm sorry that dude was an asshat to you. Totally uncool.
Uncool yes. That is why I never have expectations. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:09 pm

    Quoting gardenboy321:
    I think your rules are fine. It's all about respect, trust, and comfort level.
Yes respect, trust and comfort are important factors. It is always great to see you Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:09 pm

Thank you so much sexy friend. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:11 pm

    Quoting xist4more:
    You are right on point. Chemistry needs to be tested to prevent explosive results (just as my profile says).

    I love the look in your pic. All the best to you!

    Until then...

    Feel free to kik me, same username
Thank you. Truth be told I never Kik before..lol.. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:12 pm

Thank you so much sweet friend. It is always a pleasure to see you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:14 pm

    Quoting hardandread81000:
    wow, some people have no class. Yes this site is to meet up to have some fun but you are not a pocket pussy. It is good and for your safety to have rules and no you should not bend them unless you feel safe and the chemistry. Stay safe and protect yourself when you go meet, have some mace or something .
Yes. Some people feel like this a Instant hookup site however that is not what it is for me. I appreciate you kind words. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 1:15 pm

    Quoting mrwalleye15:
    He knew the rules ahead of time, what's the problem? You look great in any color hair! I don't think yo need red to be feisty.
Your right. I am feisty period..lol.. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 4:32 pm

    Quoting kumswaloer3:
    I don't know what you were doing when you were away from here, but you look marvelous darling. As hot, and sexy as ever.
Thank you so much;(


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 4:33 pm

Thank you so much Mike


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 4:35 pm

    Quoting francisphillip:
    Your rules are totally reasonable. I'm sorry you ran into the asshole, but having said that, meeting in a public place was your saving grace. Most people will not kick up a stink in public unless they are in danger. If someone is kicking up a stink in a public place where I am, then at least one person (me) will step in and help. That's the whole idea.
Yes. If someone is going to act like in public what are they capable to do in private. I apologize for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 4:37 pm

    Quoting  :

Indeed. I am sorry for the late reply. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 4:39 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you Phil. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/14/2020 4:40 pm

Thank you Leegs. You have been missing. Good to see you back


Leegs2012 48M
68027 posts
1/14/2020 4:44 pm

    Quoting hotmamamm:
    Thank you Leegs. You have been missing. Good to see you back
Thank you my sweet friend!! I would love to tell you what is going on but I can't email you in the system. I 'm standard as you know.


missthee 55F  
4352 posts
1/16/2020 10:15 am

Don't take what happened at the meeting personally, or as a measure of your making a faulty evaluation of the person or the circumstances.

It sounds like the person was being intentionally obnoxious, in a revengeful sort of way, just to upset/embarrass you. Maybe as a way to get back power over you/the situation, by ruining the scene just like you 'ruined' his hopes.

This reminds me of an experience I had years ago, with someone from a mainstream dating site.
Although it was obvious during our coffee meet that we didn't have a sufficient connection to lead to something further (that is, a second meet), the guy, knowing full well that there is a very slim-to-none chance of getting a yes, suggested we visit the ladies' room so that he could 'feel me up.'

I don't think he actually wanted that, it came off more like intentional meanness, a form of verbal humiliation.

Something I recognized as a pattern of behavior when reading about Harvey Weinstein's mockery of women when they rejected his advances. In spite of the no's he would become more crude and verbally cruel, or, more likely, precisely because of the no's.


slutcd4u2 60T  
33 posts
1/16/2020 7:21 pm

Just glancing through the comments i didn't see anything that if you say "No " it means No and he was wrong in the eyes of the law ! Your rules are just fine as you need to stay safe as it is your body and soul, And he agreed to them by accepting the date !


sensualmaninmn 59M  
516 posts
1/17/2020 6:21 pm

Sorry he tried to manipulate you on your first attempt at branching out. A meet and greet at a public place to get acquainted is the safest way to determine chemistry. You are worth waiting for.


whoisagentj 51M
6060 posts
1/20/2020 11:23 am

Hey hotmamamm! I just wanted to say that I hope that if you ever need someone to talk to, a person to chat with, let me know. I'm more than willing to talk and help. Even if it's someone to vent to, I'm your man.

Hit me up and let me know.

Who can you call on to save the day?

Why none other than...


Agent


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/20/2020 3:38 pm

    Quoting  :

Yes I have learned that when it comes to internet dating rules just like in regular life are required. If I wanted a Instant hookup I would go to a bar..lol.. I still don't think I will be getting coffee there anymore. I'm quite embarrassed. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
1/20/2020 3:39 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you I will
I appreciate you stopping by and commenting. Happy day to you


merlot5555 65M  
1290 posts
1/20/2020 4:57 pm

...anything worth doing is worth doing right... never rush a well prepared meal... so to speak.... hold on to your principles... and when you do decide its time to eat... enjoy it immensely...


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
2/1/2020 3:59 pm

    Quoting merlot5555:
    ...anything worth doing is worth doing right... never rush a well prepared meal... so to speak.... hold on to your principles... and when you do decide its time to eat... enjoy it immensely...
That is true. Slow but steady. I apologize for the late reply. Thank you for commenting


hotmamamm 45F  
16899 posts
2/1/2020 4:00 pm

    Quoting  :

Yes. Internet dating is scary...lol.. I appreciate you commenting.


Jules1590 52F
7421 posts
2/4/2020 8:19 am

Hello Sexy Lady. I am so sorry you had that experience. I do agree that people have pre-conceived notions about a sex site in general, the women who have profiles and are looking to meet people, would also be included in that. We all have "rules" or a process. I have a vetting process that works for me. It seems like you look for a connection with people. So do I. Those connections are not typically established that quickly which is why I had a vetting process and I knew ahead of time if a mental connection had been established. The physical connection would hopefully come to fruition later on. Women need to be sooo careful. I love that you embrace your sexuality. Its so important for you to be YOU. Hugs... Jules


dcimal22 45M
39 posts
2/8/2020 12:42 am

nice


Loopsntubes 34F
4 posts
2/8/2020 6:53 pm

OMG i absolutely love your hair!


Bigfri1 44M
29 posts
2/10/2020 7:23 pm

Thank you hottie for being out there for nights like tonight.


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