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Not sexual but maybe helpful...How to love a "broken" girl  

ima_goodgrl 43F
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7/3/2016 4:21 am

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Not sexual but maybe helpful...How to love a "broken" girl

How to love a broken girl. How many would benefit from an instruction book for that? Its easy to love the carefree girls, the “normal” girls, the confident girls next door, but what about the broken girls? The girls with fortresses around their heart and shields in their eyes? The girls whose souls have aged beyond their earthly years? The girls with bodies and minds that have survived wars which would break the strongest of men? Sometimes these girls should come with a warning label. The warning pendulum swings both ways. This warning is not only for how you must treat her but for all the ways she will ruin you.

1. You cannot love her gently. She does not realize she deserves to be loved. You must love her with a force that can crush mountains. You must burn her soul so hot with your love that doubt melts away. Your love must be unconditional and you must show her on her very worst days.

2. She doesnt know shes beautiful. She can get compliments all day and she wont believe it. There is a demon on her shoulder whispering that its not true. It takes a dozen compliments to erase one hurtful torment from her past. Shower her with compliments, be her cheerleader, until your words are her heartbeat instead of her doubts.

3. Chase her. I know we often have the attitude of not chasing anyone. I know it is said to be weak if we chase someone who walks away, but we need to see you are weak for us. Sometimes a broken girl needs to see how much you need her. She needs to.see that vulnerability in your eyes to feel ok. We need you to need us.

4. She needs routine. Broken girls over analyze everything. They notice everything, too. Did you stop asking her for pictures after some time passes? Did you stop using a pet name? Every broken pattern to us means the end of the only thing we have ever wanted and it terrifies us.

5. Smother us with affection. Touch us. Kiss us. Touch us some more. Broken girls have not experienced enough positive affection in their life. We will absorb every ounce as a person dying of thirst demands water. You cannot shower us with enough of a good touch.

6. Be honest and keep promises. Broken girls have not dared to dream much. Every vow made to us has been broken. Every promise has been a lie. We would rather you never let a promise escape your lips than have you utter false ones.

7. Prepare to drown. If we let you inside our chaotic soul, you will be immersed in a madness you will not understand. We sometimes walk the balance beam of insanity and sometimes we fall.
The biggest warning we should have is this.. if we love you, it is forever. We will love you with a loyalty that will amaze you.

Lastly, We will be committed and our heart will beat your name. While we are still broken we will try to devour all of your pain. We will be perceptive to your wounds and eager to heal your soul. If we love you, please be prepared that we will forever stay.

I am a good girl....

Staplercfg08 38M
2 posts
7/3/2016 4:31 pm

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myelin36 49F  
3615 posts
7/3/2016 6:38 am

I would like to see a post and perhaps yours may inspire a spin off post entitled, "Not Lovable : How We Sabotage Our Happiness In Relationships ."

Too many times we want others to change but that's not how it works. As a therapist, we can help facilitate chipping away at past betrayals to allow room for peace and healing.

I've seen many clients in my years of practice overcome internal conflict who are now able to love themselves. They now report more satisfying relationships.

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ima_goodgrl replies on 7/3/2016 6:48 am:
That is uplifting news. I am not there yet, still feel broken and not made to date. I push away the second I know or feel off. It's a lonely struggle.

charlio71 75M
596 posts
7/3/2016 6:07 am

I have never known any other way to love, but you must be prepared, that intensity is not always reciprocated. Love anyway!!!!!!!!!!!!

I believe nothing until it has become history!

abouttime28 50M
73 posts
7/3/2016 5:18 am

I don't believe there is any other way to love another person, broken or not. You give all or don't give at all!!

ima_goodgrl replies on 7/13/2016 12:16 am:
I guess I've lost my way...

AllWorkNoPlay205 43F  
554 posts
7/3/2016 4:45 am

Very interesting post, thank you. I think we are all a little broken in some way, aren't we? Unfortunately some are considerably more tortured or "broken" than others. I think that the first sentence of each of these points applies to all women but the intensity each woman requires will vary.
1. You cannot love her gently.
2. She doesn't know she is beautiful.
3. Chase her.
4. She needs routine [consistency].
5. Smother us with affection.
6. Be honest and keep promises.
7. Prepare to drown [in love].

I'm inclined to think that soft-hearted men need all or most of the same things that women need even though they might have a hard time admitting or verbalizing it. Women do tend to love "tough guys" with soft hearts.

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ima_goodgrl replies on 7/3/2016 6:52 am:
I agree and love this response. Thank you!

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