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kcclaire0923 65F  
437 posts
5/17/2016 10:54 am
Repeated Profile Views


For the longest time, I see local men who are actually Gold members that view my profile often. Like once or twice a week. They seem to meet my criteria of not being married or attached (or at least so they say) are in my age group, live within 25 to 50 miles from me and have pictures of their faces posted as the main photo. I can think of three at the moment and I always smile when I see that they have viewed me once again. I do check to be sure they are actually online at that time if I am signed in. Otherwise I see the notification was sent when I am not signed in so they may have viewed me once last year for all I know. AdultFriendFinder has several things they do to try and make sales understandably.

I know that AdultFriendFinder uses this notification as a sales tactic at times to make a member think someone has viewed them, but as a 5 year Gold member I usually can tell when that is the case. It's usually ones out of my criteria of what I am seeking. I also can see the three I am referring to on the IM feature at times when I am signed in over there. Are they waiting for me first?

So...men, my question to you is this - Do you view a woman's profile often when you find her attractive but never try to contact her? If you do this may I ask the reason why? Are you married and not serious? Shy? Or perhaps she doesn't meet all of your requirements of course, or you might just be pleasuring yourself while looking? I don't know, but I can tell you that the three that view mine often I would respond in a heartbeat if they would only make the first move. I am old fashioned and have a difficult time initiating contact and hate to send a message that just says "Hi" or "Good evening/good morning." I think there needs to be more in a first contact message. I am just uncomfortable doing that initially. I have done it but not often.

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Howdy3328 58F  
250 posts
5/17/2016 11:16 am

i think it is another Af f play, putting views on a loop. I have had men send me notes saying I see you keep viewing me..........and NO i dont possibly once...........if Isee nothing that attracts me then or meets my criteria. why continue without contacting them??

good luck to you


charlio71 75M
596 posts
5/17/2016 11:18 am

Men can be just as insecure as women. I have some times viewed a profile many times before getting up the nerve to make contact. Yet some how I always make the move. Just hang in there, if they are that interested they will contact you.

I believe nothing until it has become history!


MyLadylips 78F
49 posts
5/17/2016 11:18 am

I'm just aware of 1 in particular, but it is puzzling if something about the profile piques my interest. I've written with no response, even though all seemed to match, interest-wise.

Some men have written something to me like, "Thank you for stopping by to read my profile." "I appreciate the attention." could be added or "We seem to have a lot in common." or another brief comment on something in theirs to show you read and liked it. No expectations. Some guys are very tired of all the ether negative feedback or no feedback and are afraid to try anymore, not wanting one more "no, thanks". It costs me nothing to be willing to hold out my hand, verbally, and make the first effort if I really want to know more and see what might happen. Don't want anyone to put on my tombstone that I was afraid to take the first step. I just choose to do it tastefully and gently.

Also, I have a thing about guys who break a first date/meeting. No longer will I reschedule. They have told me what their priorities are, and meeting is not one of them.


Eviloutlaw1 58M
2831 posts
5/17/2016 11:21 am

I can't speak for all men. But If I've showed an interest in a woman, IE, winked or hot listed, and she's a Gold Member I wait for a response back, a wink or being hot listed by the lady. Before I contact her. Often as not women on AdultFriendFinder are receiving tons of mail from guys like us and most don't have, or take the time to respond to emails. After a number of rejections that kind of thing deflates a guys ego.


coptrainer56 70M
1879 posts
5/17/2016 11:39 am

You need to keep in mind that they may actually NOT be viewing your profile. Every time the cursor passes over a screen name, it shows as a profile view. This is especially the case if you spend any time in chat rooms.

Be safe, relax and just have fun!


Han54boat 67M
11667 posts
5/17/2016 12:11 pm

I use to message them and getting no reply. So at times, I just look when I can. I get many lookers too but too far or too young. I do believe A-F-F do play some games to get people to connect and/or interest.


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BiggLala 48F  
28534 posts
5/17/2016 12:34 pm

Frankly, I'm going to have to agree with what Heathen said (not HOW he said it, lol, but WHAT he said). I also agree with what my MyLadyLips said. I completely get that you're of the generation where men made the move. That said, I think it no big deal to just reach out with something simple; "Hi. I've viewed your profile a few times and I like what I see. I think we Would you care to chat?" To his point, you might not need to say much. If nothing else, see it as an experiment...no pressure what so ever (I'm betting copy and paste email is just fine here ). If something great happens...awesome!

Trust I know how difficult it is to get out of your comfort zone, and you don't have to. If you don't, however, it's also not likely you'll get what you want either. Might they say they're not interested? Absolutely, but that's okay. At least you'll know. You're not asking for marriage, you're just asking to converse with them. There is no guarantee of anything. If either of you find there is no connection, you move on.

Good luck. I'd be interested to see how things go.

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BiggLala 48F  
28534 posts
5/17/2016 12:36 pm

Oooops, I see you either deleted Heathen's comment or blocked him.

With all due respect...I still agree with the point of what he said...take a chance.

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kcclaire0923 replies on 5/17/2016 12:59 pm:
Thank you BiggLala and yes I did delete Heathen. It's his approach and and attitude. He did that once before to me so like they say first time shame on you..second time shame on me. He is done. It is my generation...You are a very sweet and smart gal and I always love reading your blogs and the way you look at things. Very enlightening. I will try your suggestions and let you know the results. Thanks for always being so articulate with your words.

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