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The Older Woman Syndrome  

kcclaire0923 65F
439 posts
9/3/2016 12:18 pm
The Older Woman Syndrome

I have chatted with and met several men over the years that have a preference for older women. As companions, lovers, friends and sometimes much more. It makes me wonder if these types of men are lacking something from childhood or is it really an "attraction" that is real to them. When I talk to them about this, I seem to always get the same three answers but indirectly of course. I realize that age can at times be just a number and has nothing to do with anything other than a number on a piece of paper. It has been common practice that most couples date and end up with each other from their own age group. Not always of course; and many of these relationships can be and are long lasting. Some older men seem to want the younger women; maybe for the "trophy" effect, I don't know. Obviously at least for the young gorgeous and tight body, what man wouldn't want that?

What I hear from younger men that are attracted to us older gals is this:

1) We have no (or at least less) drama in our lives
2) We know what we want in and out of the bedroom
3) We are much more experienced in bed and share that experience willingly

Does this sound familiar to any of you out there? It does seem odd to be with someone younger than my oldest but the experience can be fulfilling too.

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kcclaire0923 65F
823 posts
9/3/2016 12:52 pm

P.S. I will also say that most of the younger ones from about age 35 and up that contact me are usually very respectful and have good manners which I really appreciate....MOST of them anyway! {=} {=}

Myluvspcl 36M
42 posts
9/3/2016 1:25 pm

Mature ladies are so open and will do a lot of things to make us comfortable..

I_giv_pleasure 56M  
2715 posts
9/3/2016 3:09 pm

I go by the person, not necessarily someone older, but if she is then I have no problem Just seems that most of the ladies I have gone out with have been older.

ltrskr 72M  
4424 posts
9/3/2016 3:14 pm

"Older women make beautiful lovers, older women, they understand......"

What the hell am I thinking, I'm old too........

Your info is right on, Good post...!

ericasatin 66T
328 posts
9/3/2016 4:22 pm

I myself have always had a thing for older women. I don't know if it was because I was missing something as a child. I was a child when I use too admire much older women. The older you get it doesn't matter as much. Young, old or around the same age. All women have a sexy quality about them. I don't really agree with #1 but #2&3 are pretty much bang on.

Tobiwest 69F
82 posts
9/3/2016 5:48 pm

I hear age is just a number, I love mature women.

s2ndegree 61M  
9741 posts
9/3/2016 5:49 pm

I haven't heard that B S about men wanting younger women in a long time.
The ratio maybe 1 in 10,000 successes Older men younger women.
It seemed to be used to justify why older women don't care for
older men.
You forgot #4.It's the most popular genre on porn sites everywhere.
At least their making up believable reasons.

Using more than all the road!

northshoretake2 56M  
1628 posts
9/3/2016 9:15 pm

I think you're right, kcclaire0923. The attraction might have something to do with "something missing" in one's childhood. I lost my mother when I was 11 and always found older women very desirable.

It was more of a lustful, fantasy type of attraction. Idealized. In fact, I used to flirt with grown women who worked at my high school. They were administrators who wore suits, were married and had serious jobs but they knew I thought they were hot and didn't mind the attention.

It reminds me of girls "seeking older." I've chatted with a few and it's really the same thing--they're just into older. But it's a bit like asking why: blonde, brunette, red, boobs, ass, legs, white, black, Asian, etc? You're looking for a logical explanation--but logic has nothing to do with it.

Of course, there are guys who just think older women are "easy" and less demanding, so they make up a bullshit story of how much better older women are at (________________) fill in the blank. I'm sure you can spot those guys a mile away. But for the ones who truly seek older, it's really a strong, lustful attraction that has them filling your inbox. It's not rational. Purely emotional.


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xptsing 49M
250 posts
9/4/2016 2:09 am

I find some women attractive. They could be older than me, same age with me or younger than me. Obviously, looks play an important role but also personality, communication, how do get along etc. For me all these factors build the chemistry.
Women who are much younger than me (20-30) are in their prime as far as looks is concerned but they are still lacking in terms of personality and communication skills. They are still building these skills. I generalise for the purpose of this answer but you know what I mean. They have different priorities, different hang ups and have not reached emotional maturity and frankly I do not have the time or the patience to entertain them. I am looking for much more than a wrinkle free and a sexy tight body. But as I said I only generalise here. There are women with such hang ups and immaturity in their 40s, 50s and so on too. I was always physically attracted in older or much older women (but also around my age) even during my 20s and 30s. But then again my circumstances were different, my emotional maturity and confidence were different.
Older women are attractive and when they have a personality and a character to match I do not mind wrinkles or lose skin or grey hair. They can be great lovers too. It is the whole package that makes them attractive to me. They can be a really good company.

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