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normalisokaytoo 51M  
77 posts
7/8/2021 3:56 pm
" Ready or not " ...

…" here I come ".

This post will likely seem schizophrenic. Just because sense is made for me, doesn't mean anyone else will understand. ( gosh – writing a sentence without " t o " or " i t " can be quite a challenge : )
Beginning as three ( if not four ) different posts, for brevity, I have consolidated them.

First: announcing your orgasm – ( thus the title line )
Do you tell your partner when you are coming? Does your partner tell you?
I don't mean moans, groans and squeals; I mean actual words. If so, what is spoken?

Secondly: brand loyalty
As an example, I purchase Kraft cheese products exclusively. Duracell batteries. Aussie Moist shampoo and Dial soap. Other than that, I'm pretty flexible – a variety of foreign and domestic automobiles, different clothing, sometimes a change is good. Many lessons can be learned in trying new things.
So I ask you, my readers, what brands will you simply NOT compromise? More importantly, WHY?

Third: meets
Personally, I can tell as many good stories as bad. I don't regret any of them.
I'm curious… would any of you share a story of a meet originating from this site? As detailed or not as you wish.
I almost married a woman I met here about five years ago. My last threesome was arranged here. I have others, I'll share them over time.

Lastly: breaking
Researching for a short story, and because the topic fascinates me endlessly, I've been reading a lot about quantum mechanics – Heisenberg, Schrödinger, Einstein and all the others. Their experiments and thought experiments. Mind-boggling.
The idea that human observation MAKES reality.
Anyway, Niels Bohr postulated this idea of the " quantum jump " – when there is an abrupt transition from one energy level to another. The moment when the point-of-no-return occurs. A change in condition. One moment a dropped coffee mug is intact, a moment later in pieces on the kitchen floor.
In human relationships, is there a quantum jump from being a couple to being two singles? Or is it more like classical systems where transitions are gradual and energy states change over periods of easily measurable time? I've experienced both and would like your thoughts on previous relationships ( or maybe one you are in right this moment ).

Any and all comments are greatly appreciated. Have a great weekend!


" Her smile had in it something of the intoxication of parched earth after a sudden and furious downpour " -- Henry Miller The Colossus of Maroussi. I sure wish I could write like that!


normalisokaytoo 51M  
55 posts
7/8/2021 4:58 pm

Do I really have to comment on my own post?

" Her smile had in it something of the intoxication of parched earth after a sudden and furious downpour " -- Henry Miller The Colossus of Maroussi. I sure wish I could write like that!


author51 58F  
126159 posts
7/8/2021 10:54 pm

My partner when I have one, usually tells me in words and actions. As for myself, it is usually only actions as I am a challenge to have even one orgasm..

No brand loyalty for me other than my Tim Horton's Coffee and Kraft Dinner. I find No Name cheaper usually than Brand Names..

I have had my share of both good and bad meets here and have one coming up shortly so will blog about it instead of commenting on it here..

Previous relationships mean that they are in the past, so I tend to keep them there and live in the present..

Good thought provoking post Hun...xoxo


normalisokaytoo replies on 7/13/2021 12:31 pm:
Few to no orgasms? This makes me sad : (

I'm curious what words your partners may have uttered.
There's that line from Randal in the film " Clerks" where he says something like, " people say all kinds of crazy shit during sex. Once I called a girl ' Mom ' ".

My current-sometimes-partner is very vocal, which is new to me. As new as an orgasm is to her - perhaps the reason why she announces each one. It can be very exciting, so I have started doing the same thing.

Just trying to come up with something more creative than, " I'm cumming " but not as mundane as, say, " Shazam! ".

Thanks for your comment, dear. Good luck Friday : )

CL_Love 49M/48F
374 posts
7/26/2021 1:21 pm

First - the comic made me giggle. I would say that most of the men I have been with have usually indicated that they are cumming simply by saying so - it is a matter of courtesy during oral sex and I think maybe just habit during regular sex? Not sure. It isn't universal and the oddest thing was when my last partner came completely silent - like I wasn't even completely sure he had until he pulled out and took off the cum filled condom. LOL I don't cum during sex very often so I usually don't have to announce it, but sometimes during oral sex or with battery assisted stimulation I will tell them that I am close so that they DON'T CHANGE ANYTHING. If I am close and you change something...argh!!!

Charmin, Kraft Mac N Cheese, Hostess mini donuts, Coke (not generic soda), Dawn dish soap, Dial bar soap, Aussie Moist conditioner...probably handful of others. In many cases, I just found I prefer the quality/taste. For instance, generic dish soap usually requires a lot more so where is the savings? I have sorta sensitive skin so I stick with the soaps, etc that I know won't break me out. Sometimes I like how it feels or how it smells or whatever. I tend to use a lot of generics in things that I don't notice a difference in and then splurge on the stuff that I really DO notice a difference in. And I remember the day early in my adult life where I realized I must have "made it" because I didn't even look at the price of a few of the items I knew I really liked.

My blog is full of stories of actual meets that happened because of this site. I don't usually go into much about first meet and greets, but once things get "fun", I keep a fairly detailed diary (though I am behind on writing the last few meets bc was working on a fiction piece). Mostly good experiences and a few bad (though I have not written much about the bad ones as they aren't memories I care to preserve).

I've been with my husband for thirty years (actually Aug 3 will be 30 years) so I haven't done the "quantum jump" to two singles in a really long time. In high school it was very sudden it seemed to me, but watching a few friends that have had marriages deteriorate in the last decade - seems like most are more the nuclear decay style....over time, they just become less and less of what they were initially until there isn't enough energy to sustain them as a couple.


normalisokaytoo 51M  
55 posts
7/26/2021 4:08 pm

    Quoting CL_Love:
    First - the comic made me giggle. I would say that most of the men I have been with have usually indicated that they are cumming simply by saying so - it is a matter of courtesy during oral sex and I think maybe just habit during regular sex? Not sure. It isn't universal and the oddest thing was when my last partner came completely silent - like I wasn't even completely sure he had until he pulled out and took off the cum filled condom. LOL I don't cum during sex very often so I usually don't have to announce it, but sometimes during oral sex or with battery assisted stimulation I will tell them that I am close so that they DON'T CHANGE ANYTHING. If I am close and you change something...argh!!!

    Charmin, Kraft Mac N Cheese, Hostess mini donuts, Coke (not generic soda), Dawn dish soap, Dial bar soap, Aussie Moist conditioner...probably handful of others. In many cases, I just found I prefer the quality/taste. For instance, generic dish soap usually requires a lot more so where is the savings? I have sorta sensitive skin so I stick with the soaps, etc that I know won't break me out. Sometimes I like how it feels or how it smells or whatever. I tend to use a lot of generics in things that I don't notice a difference in and then splurge on the stuff that I really DO notice a difference in. And I remember the day early in my adult life where I realized I must have "made it" because I didn't even look at the price of a few of the items I knew I really liked.

    My blog is full of stories of actual meets that happened because of this site. I don't usually go into much about first meet and greets, but once things get "fun", I keep a fairly detailed diary (though I am behind on writing the last few meets bc was working on a fiction piece). Mostly good experiences and a few bad (though I have not written much about the bad ones as they aren't memories I care to preserve).

    I've been with my husband for thirty years (actually Aug 3 will be 30 years) so I haven't done the "quantum jump" to two singles in a really long time. In high school it was very sudden it seemed to me, but watching a few friends that have had marriages deteriorate in the last decade - seems like most are more the nuclear decay style....over time, they just become less and less of what they were initially until there isn't enough energy to sustain them as a couple.
What a great word. Giggle. I don't use that one enough.

I will spend time with your blog and appreciate you visiting mine this evening. Your particular comment above is almost as long as my post!

Happy early anniversary. A special thanks for grokking the gestalt of my post.

" Her smile had in it something of the intoxication of parched earth after a sudden and furious downpour " -- Henry Miller The Colossus of Maroussi. I sure wish I could write like that!


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