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partygald 38F
2616 posts
7/22/2015 9:08 am

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Is it cheating?

I'm supposed to already be in Bali and, I dunno, fucking my the pool, probably. But my flight got pushed back to tomorrow morning. I'm a little bummed out, but am still glad it's not too much of a delay. The good news also is, I'll touch down about the same time as two others flying in from somewhere else, so. We'll probably get to our place around the same time. I took the opportunity to repack my bag, and also had a good friend over earlier while I did it.

She's a good friend of mine so, she knows where I'm going, and what I'll be getting up to when I get there. She even know some of the people I'm meeting. ANyways. We were going through some of the stuff I was packing and we came across a slinky dress that my fiance had bought me. It's a sexy little piece - backless, very short, with a slit on the right thigh. He bought it on the pretext that it'd be that dress I wear when we go out and I want to be a little raunchy. Which is usually when we travel. You know the kind. I like it. It doesn't cover much, but it covers what I want covered, and I can actually move in it. I've only worn it a few times, like I said, when we travel. But I'm bringing it now cos, well, aside from the obvious, I feel sexy in it. I think I might even go dancing in it this weekend (albeit, not too vigorously)

So anyhow, my friend saw it, pointed it out, and I told her about the dress. And she asked me if it's the same as cheating on my fiance. Ok, to make things clear, I didn't mention that I was going to bring this dress along. I didn't think it's "cheating" cheating, but I am now also thinking, maaybe it is a little...? Basically, she's given me a complex. Is it cheating if I brought it along? Should I leave it behind? Or bring it along and tell him? (Yeeeesh...i'm kinda dreading the second option. I mean, he's already not too crazy about me going...)

I dunno. What do you guys think? (Although I think, by the time I get responses, I'd already have decided on my own cos I'd already be out) But tell me anyways. Is it cheating?

daytimer09 52M
7693 posts
7/22/2015 9:14 am

I think you are looking at it in the wrong mindset. I think you need to be trying it out to make sure it fits just right and is going to look totally awesome when he sees you in it. After all, you do need to make sure that you are able to accessorize it properly.

If you really want our opinion then you will post a picture of you wearing it on here so we can give our honest opinion.

LadyTeddieBear 63F  
1131 posts
7/22/2015 9:38 am

Well if your fiance bought it for you to wear out with him then it should stay home. I have an outfit that my ex boyfriend bought for me when we went out and its hanging in my closet havent worn it since we broke up


shakeurbonbons 36M  
196 posts
7/22/2015 9:47 am

😁 how can it be cheating... Its an article of clothing... But then again. It isnt as simple as that is it... Bring it... Wear it send him a pic and tell him thats what ur gonna be wearing when u touch down

shakeurbonbons 36M  
196 posts
7/22/2015 9:50 am

Oh... And have fun in bali!!

(I wonder if what happens in bali stays in bali - or gets documented here 😘)

Cum_Happy 107M
2757 posts
7/22/2015 10:23 am

Too late; you've already cheated in your mind!
It's simple . . . Entertaining the idea that it could be cheating, implicates you as cheating.
If he were coming along, then of course not. But if he is not -which is what I gleaned from your post, then it is. He bought it, for when, you two go out. How much simpler can it be? CHEATER!!!
Now, as the other guy suggested, put it on and show us how naughty you look in it!

Oh, and have a good time in Bali

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lok4fun500 110M
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7/22/2015 10:44 am

Wearing a sexy dress isn't cheating!

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LQQK7979 M
444 posts
7/22/2015 10:49 pm

It's not really cheating because he knows what you are up to. But to be honest it will hurt him more if you are doing it in a dress he bought for you. But judging from the dynamic you have with him, that will only turn him on more.

But....from experience, unless you are ready to fully cuckold him, don't wear or take the dress. It will only drive those jealous intense feeling in more. And if was me, and u wore the dress, i would make u tell me what you did in it, and fuck you senseless while you do, hard, deep, aggressive, angry and fucking mean.....but lets face it, you love it that way.

however unless u are planning to fully cuck him, it will be playing with fire that won't make your marriage go well....just so you know

FunPleasurable 56M
3998 posts
7/26/2015 12:46 am

Nope. He gave it to you. It's a gift. You do what you want with it.

I used to buy nice clothes for a certain person.
She said she didn't like those clothes. Makes her feel slutty.
Then I realised she wore those clothes going out with other guys.
So I realised that
1) She doesn't like to wear those clothes in my presence.
2) She like wearing those clothes in the company of other guys.
3) I bought those clothes because I think she would look nice in them, which of course she does.
4) Those clothes were gifts. What she does with them is up to them.

So it is not cheating. A gift is a gift.
Of course she now complains I don't buy her any more clothes. My answer is I am no good at selecting clothes for her. (She used to be happy with my selection but that's another story)

Moral of the story, it isn't cheating. And I am saving lots more money for my vacation expenses.

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Perfectlyflaw93 50M
25 posts
7/27/2015 2:21 am

I once asked a gay friend of mine how he'd managed to stay in the relationship for so long, and what his secret was given that I knew he had a wondering eye. He replied that because he and his partner commit their infidelities together, they weren't infidelities at all.
Sadly young lady, I think the dress is somewhat irrelevant as he will see it as cheating anyway, and sooner or later it will become a problem. By all means take the dress if it makes you feel sexy. but don't tell him - it was a personal gift between the two of you.
As for me if I were your boyfriend, or better yet your husband, I'd be attending the party with you. I'd wait until you were riding some guys cock, or a strap-on while leaning forward to suck off one or two others. I'd then come up behind you, and whisper in your ear how much I adore you (Sorry to sound like a stalker - but you get the just lol) & how hard you make, then slowly slide into your ass. I'd always give you permission....I hope you find someone who will too. Whether he is him or not only time will tell. Can't you invite him?

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partygald 38F
1813 posts
8/2/2015 6:59 pm

Hi all. FIrst up, thank you all for your contributions. It is greatly appreciated. I'd like to blog about a few things from my trip, but I feel I should settle this.

I brought my dress, the dress in question. But it was not worn. I had planned to wear it on a night out. I did have a night out, but decided against wearing it. Not cos I felt guilty at the time. But mainly cos I decided on something else. In hindsight, I think it worked out, cos I probably would have felt a little guilty wearing it, and doing all sorts of fun stuff in and out of it. So there. It was not worn. Tricky, these things can be...

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discreteSteve62 52M
2077 posts
4/7/2016 2:37 am

I'm very late to the party here, and it's a moot point by now, but I don't see it as cheating -- it's a dress.

Cheating is violation of what people have agreed to between them. By conventional rules, sex with someone else, or even things like kissing with emotional involvement with someone else, is cheating. By extremely prudish rules, even masturbating with porn might be cheating. In a poly relationship, going outside the home group might be cheating. With some swingers, playing with others without proper safety precautions might be cheating. With other swingers, playing with others when the partner isn't around to join in on the fun might be cheating. For a couple that's staying together for the sake of appearances, playing with others without proper attention to secrecy might be cheating.

But if you bought the dress with him in mind, it's probably most comfortable for you if you save it for that purpose, and release it for other occasions only after it had been used that way.

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