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How fake most of you are  

rm_seventhstar3 52M
12 posts
3/8/2015 7:43 pm
How fake most of you are

Since becoming a member of this website I've been trying to pinpoint just what I think would make this whole experience more fun. And I think I finally have figured it out. For one if you all knew how to communicate at all - perhaps you would have better luck finding what you are setting out to look for. Expecting something or someone to just come your way is ridiculous. And if you say nothing back to them after they have looked, flirted, hotlisted and most of all - messaged you - the very least you can do is send a message back saying you aren't interested. I've viewed over a thousand profiles since joining and only a small handful will actually respond back with anything. What it comes down to is if 99% of you were even half of who you claim to be - perhaps you wouldn't need to be here because you would have found something or someone worth while. If you all were not so phony maybe I would find what I'm looking for. YOU SUCK AT COMMUNICATING!! ALL OF YOU!


comingtogetya4me 50M
165 posts
3/8/2015 8:14 pm

It's not about them being phoney. It's about them not being interested in you.

That's no one's fault. You can't force people to be attracted to you anymore than you can force them to get in touch with you.

Pull your big boy's pants on. The site and the women on it owe you nothing.


rm_seventhstar3 replies on 3/9/2015 2:41 pm:
I can accept rejection. I just get annoyed by people who give one line responses and have the hardest time opening up. Just saying!Ones who may even just take a peak at the profile and say nothing is one thing - I get that and have no problem with that. But when they flirt, they will view your profile over and over again and maybe even hotlist you. You finally reach out to them and get no response. That is irritating to me. Obviously if someone is not interested - they are not going to respond when I initiate contact. I can accept that easily. I'm really more frustrated with people on here who seem to really not know what they want out of this site.

Horny_Holly 39F
2772 posts
3/8/2015 8:55 pm

    Quoting comingtogetya4me:
    It's not about them being phoney. It's about them not being interested in you.

    That's no one's fault. You can't force people to be attracted to you anymore than you can force them to get in touch with you.

    Pull your big boy's pants on. The site and the women on it owe you nothing.
Yep, this ^^^^

It's always men who can't get women interested in them that complain about lack of communication.

Women aren't going to waste time engaging with men they have no interest in. They have better things to do with their time.

Harsh? Perhaps. But also true. Just because women don't reply to you doesn't mean they are not who they claim to be - your words. It simply means they've no interest in you.

As 'comingtogetya' said, neither the site nor the women owe you anything. And you are free to leave anytime.


"I'm always disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually catch on fire..."


rm_seventhstar3 replies on 3/9/2015 2:39 pm:
It's not really women I am talking about here. And it is silly for me to say "All of you" when I have particular people in mind that I am directing this toward. There are a lot of people who visit my page regularly but have the biggest problem with a simple word of hello. I'm the type of guy that is going to be ugly to one woman and hot to the next. So rejection is not my issue here. I can accept rejection. I just get annoyed by people who give one line responses and have the hardest time opening up. Just saying!

burblesback07 39M
532 posts
3/8/2015 9:20 pm

A grown man accusing others of being fake to mask his own short comings and rejection issues ?
When you were younger did you tell the teacher when a girl wouldnt kiss you ?

What youve done here only personifies your complete ignorance and lack of knowledge pertaining to all things woman, so could you blame any girl for not taking note of you when, most likely, you couldnt hit it even if you had a detailed map and GPS coordinates !!!!

Next time someone offers you a penny for your thoughts,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

SELL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


rm_seventhstar3 replies on 3/14/2015 3:27 pm:
If I was Jewish I just might do that!

StickyLips007 51F
231 posts
3/14/2015 5:39 am

There are a few things going on here that I'd like to point out.

First, the technology on this site sucks. You can not believe it when this site tells you someone looked at your profile, 'cos maybe they didn't. I don't know how many times I've looked at my "Profiles I've Viewed" list and seen profiles I have never and would never look at. Now I've got some guy messaging me saying "hey, you looked at my profile, wanna fuck?" Which leads me to my second point...

Just because I looked at your profile does not mean I am actually interested in you. I may have clicked on it by mistake. I might have been curious about a word or picture but that does not mean I am interested at all.

Third, I'm not sure guys get just how much attention women on this site get. I have absolutely no problem finding what I am looking for, whatever that may be, any day of the week. I could probably have 5 dates a day if I wanted...I'm not bragging, that's just the way it is. I can't go on IM without being blasted with 25 instant messages and I have about 20 messages a day. I'm very sorry to anyone who feels upset that I haven't responded to them but I just can not respond to everyone. I have tried the courteous instant message of "no thanks but good luck" and it just leads to questions of "oh but why not, you don't even know me" or some hateful response. So I find it's easier for me to just not say anything.

Lastly, dude, I get you've had some bad experiences so you feel a little tainted by that. Believe me, so have I. I could tell you some stories. But most people are totally turned off by negativity. You gotta put your game face on and leave all that behind you if you hope to find a woman of substance on this site or in real life. No one likes a Debbie Downer except other Debbie Downers. Or, maybe that's what you're looking for?

Just some friendly advice. I'm definitely not trying to insult you. I wouldn't waste 15 minutes of my life just to insult you. But lighten up. Don't assume you know what's going on in the hearts and minds of all the women on this site.


rm_seventhstar3 replies on 3/14/2015 3:36 pm:
I totally agree with you. I came off a bit harsh however some people on here do visit me regularly and flirt or they may hotlist me - but never speak up. That to me is annoying just like the ones who cannot take no for an answer. I can take rejection - no prob there! I don't mean to be negative at all really. I am a very positive person and confident in myself. I wouldn't be here if I wasn't. And I like to reach out to those who have viewed my profile. But that being said you are right in that the system is not 100% on accuracy when it comes to that. I've had some message back saying they never seen me before. I'm glad to see how many are chipping in on the comments though! Cheers!

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