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scoupe42 58M  
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10/15/2021 9:01 pm

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10/19/2021 2:48 pm

"They don't spend a Red cent"!

I been on a million 1st dates, one and done and no second date. They not really interested in me for they don't even ask me my real name. They don't care. They go to a nice resturant of their choice, then after a couple of hours we both go our separate ways.Then a day or so, you called their number and ask is Sally home? Sally answer the phone and said, Sally don't live here, then hang up. There was a lady I went out with, I invited her, so I payed. I believe whom asking out for the date should pay! We went out several times, I asked, so I knew the routine, so I paid.

She asked me to some by, ofcourse I had to bring the beverages. I did, I lie down on her bed with her, I got to spooned and some kisses and also got to squeeze a little boob, It was a start, in the right direction. A couple of day, she called me and said she going back to her old boyfriend. So basically I got voted off the Island, AGAIN! A couple of months passed and she called me one morning, around 7:am on a Sunday. She told me that she won $400 at the casino, and want to know if I want to go out for breakfast. I'm thinkg she called me. So I said Hell yeah! We went out for breakfast.

Then when the check came, she looked at me. She said, "Ain't you going to pay for breakfast"? I said, you called me! You also told me you won $400 and I belive it some call someone for breakfast, they should pay! She said, i left my money at home, so ofcourse I paided. I fiqured I had the right to be angry for I was pissed! So after the date, I didn't here from her. I was going to find a Tee-shirt and draw a "S" on it and call myself "Suckerman"! They new superhero, the man who pay for women meals. Ofcourse, I got the date site Again!

I went to breaskfast with this new lady. invited her, so it was on me. She told me, I don't have to cook a meal for the next 3 days. I said, why? She said, I'm going to breakfast with you, I already got a lunch date and a dinner date and dates for the next 3 days. "Ain't that a bitch? Who say the man always pay? Years ago, I got a message from a woman on here, she own a business in Santa fe NM. I went on a date with one, no two women that was business women, I drive up my hooptie, they drive in in the luxury cars, some results, after the dates, they can't get away from me fast enough. I look, she was gone! They don't spend a Red cent"!











scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/19/2021 2:48 pm

    Quoting CL_Love:
    I always show up to a meet/greet/date expecting to pay for my own meal. Actually sort of prefer it because then I don't feel like I "owe" them anything. Sometimes I let them pay and sometimes I'll pay the next time if they'll let me or at least go dutch.
They are some women that believe that the man pays all the times. It should be equal, I like the way you think!


CL_Love 49M/48F
378 posts
10/19/2021 1:17 pm

I always show up to a meet/greet/date expecting to pay for my own meal. Actually sort of prefer it because then I don't feel like I "owe" them anything. Sometimes I let them pay and sometimes I'll pay the next time if they'll let me or at least go dutch.


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 5:32 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Well, at least you ate. 😊
That's true! Might as well, since I'm buying


Paulxx001 64M
21930 posts
10/16/2021 4:30 pm

Well, at least you ate. 😊


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 1:16 pm

    Quoting Fun4u3276:
    Only YOU can stop the abuse. First meets should be for coffee or a drink ... as in one! If she really likes you and isn't looking to use you, then she will be satisfied with that and be open to a second meet/date. Going "Dutch" is the best policy. Again, if a woman in this day of equality still wants to live in the past ... let her! Just don't JOIN her. I am not against treating woman. But, you don't want a woman that only is into you for what she can get out of you--financially speaking.
Good advice, I'll take it the next time Thanks for sharing


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 1:16 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    I am so sorry to hear that these ladies took advantage of you my friend. Your such a nice man and don't deserve to be treated this way. I truly hope some day that you will find that special lady who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and not take advantage of you!!!

    I hope you enjoy your weekend..
Thanks Temp for the kind words!


Fun4u3276 58M
58 posts
10/16/2021 11:40 am

Only YOU can stop the abuse. First meets should be for coffee or a drink ... as in one! If she really likes you and isn't looking to use you, then she will be satisfied with that and be open to a second meet/date. Going "Dutch" is the best policy. Again, if a woman in this day of equality still wants to live in the past ... let her! Just don't JOIN her. I am not against treating woman. But, you don't want a woman that only is into you for what she can get out of you--financially speaking.


Tmptrzz 59F  
104279 posts
10/16/2021 11:08 am

I am so sorry to hear that these ladies took advantage of you my friend. Your such a nice man and don't deserve to be treated this way. I truly hope some day that you will find that special lady who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated and not take advantage of you!!!

I hope you enjoy your weekend..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 6:07 am

    Quoting G000dbuddy:
    Stop thinking of first meetings as dates
When should I consider it a date? After the 3rd or 4th meeting??? Let me know.


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 6:05 am

    Quoting staci_19702:
    That’s just rude!!
    My next 3 meals are paid for…?? Wtf???
I agreed, I thought that was rude too. Thx for viewing


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 6:04 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    Splitting the bill on your first date may be a better way forward. It means your date has some interest while not feeling obliged. Also it means you don't feel used.
There's a lot of women, atleast the one's I meet, feel like they shouldn't pay anything! First, second or 5th date.


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 6:02 am

    Quoting PonyGirl1965:
    I would be calling those women bad names. So very rude of them to behave that way.
Morning my friend, I had one woman, came in the place, gave me a weird look, say she going to the bathroom, when out the door, got in her car and drove away!


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 5:59 am

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Hey I can get your frustration even if I'm completly clueless about dating etiquette where paying is concerned. Back when I was footloose and fancy free, I liked paying for the meals when I went out with friends. It was my one way of saying thanks for bringing me along and they never took advantage of my generosity thankfully.
I usaully do, when I'm hanging with friends, for my friends are broke. But courting, dating, is different, maybe I wasn't what they looking for?


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/16/2021 5:56 am

    Quoting bulehyatt:
    It does sound like you have been taken advantage of by some of these women.

    Up to you - of course - how you spend your time and money. According to me, a first face-to-face meeting is to see whether you feel that mutual click of attraction that makes second and subsequent dates more likely. At least for me, generally I know whether I am attracted to her - or NOT - within the first five minutes.

    That sense of attraction is less about physical attractiveness . . . I mean come on, probably you judge whether she is physically attractive within the first 3 seconds. Instead, the key make-or-break decider is whether we find ourselves talking comfortably and laughing easily with each other. If the conversation doesn't flow, then time spent together can feel pretty awkward.

    For sure, if you feel awkward, you don't want to spend the time required to share a meal together, even breakfast - no matter who is paying.

    A couple of suggestions to consider:

    1 - invest more time before ever meeting, on emailing, or IM'ing back and forth, to get a better sense of how well you communicate with each other. Minimal or poor communication means very low likelihood of chemistry, face-to-face. Again, chemistry is not about physical attraction; it's more than whether you think someone looks hot.

    2 - plan your first meetings around having coffee or some other drink - ideally at a quiet cafe or bar where you don't have to raise your voice to be heard. If you don't click, then the 30 minutes (or less) you spend sharing a conversation over coffee, juice or beer is a better use of your time than sitting through a full meal and watching each other eat.

    Stop thinking of first meetings as dates - they can turn into dates, sure, but they're just a chemistry-check encounter. If you click really well, you can always invite the other person to spend more time with you - either immediately, if they're available, or another day.
I appreciate you viewing and the words of wisdom,i'll take your advice the next time.


G000dbuddy 34M  
1256 posts
10/16/2021 5:34 am

Stop thinking of first meetings as dates

goodbuddy781


staci_19702 51T
2511 posts
10/16/2021 4:45 am

That’s just rude!!
My next 3 meals are paid for…?? Wtf???

Have a great day! 💋
Staci


spunkycumfun 61M/66F
39404 posts
10/16/2021 3:48 am

Splitting the bill on your first date may be a better way forward. It means your date has some interest while not feeling obliged. Also it means you don't feel used.


nsnguystill 69M
390 posts
10/16/2021 2:16 am

i gotta go with bulehyatt on this one, except for the IM's and chatting part. i like to meet face to face. within the time i sit down i usally can tell if i want to sit or run.
as for the first meat... it is not a date just a meet and greed
bonne vie

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


author51 58F  
126238 posts
10/16/2021 1:25 am

I never let the man pay for me unless we are in a committed relationship and even then it is 50/50 on everything..xoxo

You can never have enough JOY in your life...xoxo

LOVE SEX GODDESS


PonyGirl1965 56F
20165 posts
10/16/2021 12:15 am

I would be calling those women bad names. So very rude of them to behave that way.


MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2233 posts
10/16/2021 12:08 am

Hey I can get your frustration even if I'm completly clueless about dating etiquette where paying is concerned. Back when I was footloose and fancy free, I liked paying for the meals when I went out with friends. It was my one way of saying thanks for bringing me along and they never took advantage of my generosity thankfully.

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


bulehyatt 63M  
1714 posts
10/15/2021 11:36 pm

It does sound like you have been taken advantage of by some of these women.

Up to you - of course - how you spend your time and money. According to me, a first face-to-face meeting is to see whether you feel that mutual click of attraction that makes second and subsequent dates more likely. At least for me, generally I know whether I am attracted to her - or NOT - within the first five minutes.

That sense of attraction is less about physical attractiveness . . . I mean come on, probably you judge whether she is physically attractive within the first 3 seconds. Instead, the key make-or-break decider is whether we find ourselves talking comfortably and laughing easily with each other. If the conversation doesn't flow, then time spent together can feel pretty awkward.

For sure, if you feel awkward, you don't want to spend the time required to share a meal together, even breakfast - no matter who is paying.

A couple of suggestions to consider:

1 - invest more time before ever meeting, on emailing, or IM'ing back and forth, to get a better sense of how well you communicate with each other. Minimal or poor communication means very low likelihood of chemistry, face-to-face. Again, chemistry is not about physical attraction; it's more than whether you think someone looks hot.

2 - plan your first meetings around having coffee or some other drink - ideally at a quiet cafe or bar where you don't have to raise your voice to be heard. If you don't click, then the 30 minutes (or less) you spend sharing a conversation over coffee, juice or beer is a better use of your time than sitting through a full meal and watching each other eat.

Stop thinking of first meetings as dates - they can turn into dates, sure, but they're just a chemistry-check encounter. If you click really well, you can always invite the other person to spend more time with you - either immediately, if they're available, or another day.


scoupe42 58M  
12855 posts
10/15/2021 9:18 pm

Sometimes I admit, I'm a goofy MOFO


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