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secret_lade 46F
6312 posts
7/4/2020 5:25 pm
Happy Fourth of July!!


My didn't start so ....

I ended up spilling half a cup of coffee down the side of my fridge and on the kitchen floor when I went to move the cup.

Cripes....

It was like the thing stuck to the counter and refused to slide. Probably didn't help that my mind was in a million places at once.

Like always....

After two loads of laundry and an hour at the , everything seemed better.

For me, the is like mental clarity. I listen to music and get on the elliptical and everything kind of comes into focus.

I can think.

Today I thought about my current romantic situation, or, lack thereof... And realized, it is exactly what I need it to be.

Am I happy with things the way they are? No....

Do I want them to be different? Yes....

I've realized, however, that I now need something way different in my life then what I've always looked to find.

looking for someone with whom I can develop an emotional attachment to as well as have sex.

It's been a really, really long time since I've felt this way.

I've always been a little cavalier about sex.... not going to coat things as I've had many sexual partners over the years, in some cases I don't even remember names.... But sexual activity to me had always just been for gratification and fun.

Not for love... Not since I was married....

Which is why I've always found my way back here. The men on here aren't looking for love, they're looking for a little gratification and someone to<b> stroke </font></b>their.... ego.

For a time, it was exactly what I needed.

not quite sure what to do with this epiphany. Even as sitting here, enjoying this amazing summer evening, drinking wine on my balcony.... perplexed.

The moment I decide to start looking for love, I know my feelings will be hurt over and over again as familiar with how the real world operates. I will continue to encounter the men who are looking for just a piece of ass, only now it will be disguised behind the facade of "looking for the one". up there in age now so I will be compared to past wives/girlfriends and judged by buddies.

I think for today, I'll just stick to the wine on my balcony and save the heart ache for another day.

secret_lade 46F
4245 posts
7/6/2020 2:37 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    If I found love tomorrow, I wouldn't know what to do with it
    What I always say to myself is "It's better to have loved a short woman than never to have loved a tall"
Oh my... That made me laugh. LOL


citizen4722 62M  
68010 posts
7/6/2020 7:58 am

If I found love tomorrow, I wouldn't know what to do with it
What I always say to myself is "It's better to have loved a short woman than never to have loved a tall"


Paulxx001 63M
16346 posts
7/5/2020 7:25 pm

Good idea... Cheers !


topherific 57M
4690 posts
7/5/2020 6:39 pm

been thinking since i read this yesterday and a relationship deeper than sex is an attractive idea, and honestly a marriage is long behind me, i would like a 'girlfriend' hope you enjoyed your wine


positively4you 71F  
4021 posts
7/5/2020 6:38 am

The mindless fuck no longer appeals to me, either.


pocogato12 68F  
34147 posts
7/5/2020 6:27 am

I,too, stopped looking for love. It reached a point where it became an empty emotion. I am much happier now that I have settled into my own space and love can come find me. It might not be "love" but I will know it when it arrives

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KX450F2016 51M  
119 posts
7/5/2020 6:25 am

For me I'm not sure what I want. I was a late bloomer and didn't get laid til I was 23! A bit of a story there but we split up and get married and get divorced. I never had a gf in high school to speak of really. I had some one or 2 maybe even 3 time adventures with sex after Then met someone I should have stayed away from. Now divorced from her too. At this point I don't know that I want another relationship, but I'm not looking to fuck just anyone either. I have had offers on here which I declined. I am sort of in limbo I guess. I spend most of my time at work or alone. But keep busy with chores and side business/job.


CUMHANDLEME 58F  
677 posts
7/5/2020 12:46 am

At some point most of us reach that point.

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easy_going2014 53M
13743 posts
7/4/2020 11:16 pm

Hi secret_lade

thanks for sharing another side of you

there are many changes and choices you are making in your life during this past year (well, those that I can be a fly on the wall about)

little things, like taking time out for yourself; appreciating the people in your life that mean something to you; letting go of those things that you can't or don't want to control; hitting that elliptical like you mean it; choosing and path and staying true to it; letting that weight come off of your shoulders...

this was a nice read

hmm

be safe

Hozier - "Someone New'

Don't take this the wrong way
You knew who I was with every step that I ran to you
Only blue or black days
Electing strange perfections is in any stranger I choose
Would things be easier if there was a right way
Honey, there is no right way
And so I fall in love just a little ol' little bit
Every day with someone new
I fall in love just a little ol' little bit
Every day with someone new
I fall in love just a little ol' little bit
Every day with someone new
I fall in love just a little ol' little bit
Every day with someone new
There's an art to life's distractions
To somehow escape the burning weight
The art of scraping through
Some like to imagine
The dark caress of someone else I guess any thrill will do

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MrWrong4RghtNow 54M  
396 posts
7/4/2020 8:48 pm

I can feel what you’re going through. While I’m not actively looking for sex on here , I can relate to the need for a connection without emotional context. The irony is that while I can do this online, in person I need to feel something beyond physical gratification.
I hope you do decide to find love again. It’s scary as hell but a necessary part of living. That’s my hope anyways. Please do what you need to make your life a happy one. Be sexy. Be fun. Be safe.
Time will tell when your Heart is ready. Take care


mc_justmc 60M  
6477 posts
7/4/2020 8:01 pm

I quit looking for love, I'm gonna let love look for me.


Granny872 68F  
2569 posts
7/4/2020 6:54 pm

I've realized, however, that I now need something way different in my life then what I've always looked to find.

I'm with ya on that point, sistuh...


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