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secret_lade 46F
5763 posts
7/11/2020 7:07 pm
Out of Gas Anything Helps


I've struggled with a headache all day today.

After sitting on the balcony, listening to music for God knows how long, I finally decided to just crawl into bed and sleep the rest of the day away.

It helped.

When I woke up I decided to put myself back together as best I could and head to the gym for just a bit... Just to keep the routine going.

And then I saw him.

There was a guy, barefoot, standing on the corner by the stoplight holding the cardboard sign that said "Out of Gas Anything Helps".

Where I live, this isn't something you see very often.

Real... Not real... Who knows.

It's a human being and he kind of looked to me like he needed help. So, I rolled down my passenger window and said "I don't have much, but I'd like to help."

I gave him the $5 bill I had in my purse.

Whether it was a scam or not, I don't know, I'd like to think he really needed help.

While my day was not the greatest and I didn't really feel my best, I'd like to think that at least one good thing came out of it.

Human kindness.

secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/13/2020 6:04 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Yep... take off your shoes and socks...barefoot does it for me too.
    You should see the results I get when I take off my pants.
Raking in the dough, huh... You must be quite the stud!


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/13/2020 6:03 pm

    Quoting lindoboy100:
    Oh, where to start..........

    Kindness is free, even when it costs $5 bucks. For me, that's money well spent. There's a particular part of west africa where I visit regularly. It has a small but important tourist economy, and many of the boys who hang around there are on the make. Bumsters they're known as because they constantly 'hassle' the tourists, not in a bad way, just looking for something, anything. But you know what? These people have nothing, and I mean nothing. Nothing that you and I would consider important. They often do not know where their next meal is coming from. (Except for Fridays, the muslim holy day, where many of the guys and their families can be found outside the mosques looking for charity - one of the five pillars of Islam.) People, humans, just trying to make their way in the world, to go from one day to the next. Who am I to judge that? And who am I to refuse that help if it's within my gift to offer it?

    That was a very kind thing you did McLade. Lovely.
when my ex-mother in law was still travelling,she would often go to Mexico and the Dominican Republic. I have heard stories and seen pictures of less fortunate people and barely livable conditions.... I consider myself thankful all the time. I'm thankful that I can give out $5 to someone in need and that I am not the one who is standing there, in need.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/13/2020 5:58 pm

    Quoting jolielaide:
    i got out my car at a convenience store and a guy rolled upon a bike asking for change, just change. these days you don't and never really know who sincerely needs help or not but a little kindness, a little charity doesn't hurt.

    but at the same time you do have to be careful and safe. if the man on the bike wanted to do it, he could've snatched my entire wallet outta my hand and peeled off. of course,i only thought about that afterwards and i'm grateful that he didn't.
But, he didn't snatch your wallet... The honest people will be grateful with what you can share. Right now, where I live, we're experiencing a change shortage. I never thought I would see the day when there wouldn't be enough change....


Paulxx001 63M
16703 posts
7/13/2020 3:01 pm

Yep... take off your shoes and socks...barefoot does it for me too.
You should see the results I get when I take off my pants.


lindoboy100 57M
21631 posts
7/13/2020 12:19 pm

Oh, where to start..........

Kindness is free, even when it costs $5 bucks. For me, that's money well spent. There's a particular part of west africa where I visit regularly. It has a small but important tourist economy, and many of the boys who hang around there are on the make. Bumsters they're known as because they constantly 'hassle' the tourists, not in a bad way, just looking for something, anything. But you know what? These people have nothing, and I mean nothing. Nothing that you and I would consider important. They often do not know where their next meal is coming from. (Except for Fridays, the muslim holy day, where many of the guys and their families can be found outside the mosques looking for charity - one of the five pillars of Islam.) People, humans, just trying to make their way in the world, to go from one day to the next. Who am I to judge that? And who am I to refuse that help if it's within my gift to offer it?

That was a very kind thing you did McLade. Lovely.

Pull ma finger.........


jolielaide 48F  
1397 posts
7/12/2020 7:32 pm

i got out my car at a convenience store and a guy rolled upon a bike asking for change, just change. these days you don't and never really know who sincerely needs help or not but a little kindness, a little charity doesn't hurt.

but at the same time you do have to be careful and safe. if the man on the bike wanted to do it, he could've snatched my entire wallet outta my hand and peeled off. of course,i only thought about that afterwards and i'm grateful that he didn't.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 11:58 am

    Quoting positively4you:
    I do the same and I know some are just scamming. But that one chance it is real gets to me. I am so blessed. So, if it is real I am okay with it. If not, I never know. But, I may have done some good for someone. It won’t break me. Sometimes we are put where we need to be.
Like you, I also believe, sometimes we are put where we need to be.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 11:55 am

    Quoting musicmuse63:
    Self-love, you're doing well for yourself and only you can do it. Sleep as long as you need, no guilt.
    Same with the man on the street. It was a gift for inner thought and reflection. We're not here to pass judgement, give if you can or are up to it, but what he does with it is not our concern. You are finding a good path, well done.
    Love your blog, so thanks.
    J
Thank you, that was a very kind comment. Thanks for stopping by.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 11:53 am

    Quoting citizen4722:
    That's a kind gesture. I hope he genuinely needed help.
I hope he needed the help too. But, I'd rather be a schmuck that got taken advantage of than the woman who could help but did not.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 11:51 am

    Quoting mufdiver69er2:
    i worked for a while as a mall security and we..the property owners..didnt allow mooching...i was dispatched to a corner after a report of a moocher..when i got there i had to laugh...his sign read..not gonna lie,just want a good cold beer..and yes..he moved on on request.
I wonder if he ever got that cold beer...


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 11:50 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    I give to them all the time.....i keep bills in the beverage holder for that. I would rather be scammed than not helping someone out. I know.....that some probably have more $$ than me....still i give. The way i look at it.....there was a reason why you left the house on a headache day, and now reading the comments, there was also a reason why you had that 5$ there. This.....to me.....was the reason. Kudos !! ~~
I agree.... Everything happens for a reason, and that was the reason.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 11:48 am

    Quoting Granny872:
    I have given cash handouts in the past, but always felt like I was being scammed afterwards, so I have stopped caving in to that practice.

    Instead, I have considered carrying gift certificates or cards for gas or food.
    Cheap alternatives, and if the person refuses it and asks for money instead, I assume I'm being scammed. Just as well, it saves the certificate for the person who's willing to use the gift for its intended purpose.
A couple of years ago there was a couple and a dog on the corner outside where I work. Their sign said they were experiencing hard times, anything helped. I was going to pick up a meal for them when a coworker told me she had bought some deli chicken and a side for them as they were there when she got to work too. They fed the food to the dog right in front of her and said what they really needed was some cash assistance. Needless to say, I ended up not doing anything for them. You have a great idea though, with the gift cards.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 11:41 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    A well dressed middle aged woman came up to me at a gas station one morning asking for $5 for gas with a big elaborate sob story. I gave it to her thinking how hard that has to be to ask for help. When I saw her jump in her car and drive away without getting any gas it didn't bother me, I figured she really needed it for something and it was just $5. Good for you and your kind heart. We should share when we can.
I'm a real believer of Karma. We get out of this world what we put into it. When I have the opportunity to put good things into this world... I take them. Lord knows, I'm not perfect, and I've put my share of bad out there, in the past, too.


musicmuse63 57M  
2 posts
7/12/2020 9:13 am

Self-love, you're doing well for yourself and only you can do it. Sleep as long as you need, no guilt.
Same with the man on the street. It was a gift for inner thought and reflection. We're not here to pass judgement, give if you can or are up to it, but what he does with it is not our concern. You are finding a good path, well done.
Love your blog, so thanks.
J


citizen4722 62M  
67505 posts
7/12/2020 8:49 am

That's a kind gesture. I hope he genuinely needed help.


mufdiver69er2 59M  
1340 posts
7/12/2020 6:20 am

i worked for a while as a mall security and we..the property owners..didnt allow mooching...i was dispatched to a corner after a report of a moocher..when i got there i had to laugh...his sign read..not gonna lie,just want a good cold beer..and yes..he moved on on request.

woop woop


jajo696 65F
2230 posts
7/12/2020 6:10 am

I give to them all the time.....i keep bills in the beverage holder for that. I would rather be scammed than not helping someone out. I know.....that some probably have more $$ than me....still i give. The way i look at it.....there was a reason why you left the house on a headache day, and now reading the comments, there was also a reason why you had that 5$ there. This.....to me.....was the reason. Kudos !! ~~


Granny872 68F  
2434 posts
7/12/2020 5:55 am

I have given cash handouts in the past, but always felt like I was being scammed afterwards, so I have stopped caving in to that practice.

Instead, I have considered carrying gift certificates or cards for gas or food.
Cheap alternatives, and if the person refuses it and asks for money instead, I assume I'm being scammed. Just as well, it saves the certificate for the person who's willing to use the gift for its intended purpose.


mc_justmc 60M
6312 posts
7/12/2020 5:50 am

A well dressed middle aged woman came up to me at a gas station one morning asking for $5 for gas with a big elaborate sob story. I gave it to her thinking how hard that has to be to ask for help. When I saw her jump in her car and drive away without getting any gas it didn't bother me, I figured she really needed it for something and it was just $5. Good for you and your kind heart. We should share when we can.


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 5:00 am

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    Whether he was scamming people or not, your act of kindness remains the important part.
Funny thing is, I never carry cash in my purse. I've had that $5 in there for a month or more, apparently it was there for a reason. The ex had given it to my daughter to buy a smoothie at the smoothie place. I ended up paying for the smoothies with my card.

Leaving me the $5...


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 4:57 am

    Quoting CharlesD6996:
    I guess I'm too jaded about the human condition, but I see most of these people hanging out at Walmart hoping for a handout as scammers. There are a lot of people in need, especially now. But to try to determine which ones are in genuine need versus those that are just trying to take advantage of a good hearted Samaritan is tough.
This is an uncommon occurrence where I live. I can't tell you the last time I saw someone with a sign needing help.... Maybe Christmas? And, he was looking for only food items to feed his family. I think if I saw it all the time, I might too become jaded, but I do not...


secret_lade 46F
3964 posts
7/12/2020 4:54 am

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Hi secret_lade

    thanks for sharing this one

    sometimes, you just need to go back to bed

    I did the same thing, and, it felt good

    have a nice Sunday

    be safe

    Dave Matthews - "Windows"

    When the war is over
    and we go back to everyday, everyday
    will it be the same again
    when you've been turned inside out and outside in?

    Singing from the windows
    shadow on the wall, the way they dance
    not much of nothing
    and look at this fire burning bright

    Look at how the children play
    none of us know what's to come tomorrow
    but I'm not going out today
    so dance with me like the time we've got is borrowed

    Singing from the windows
    sirens in the dark, where are you going?
    pretend that it's nothing
    but look at this fire burning wild

    Well this is how we keep holding on
    every day, all day long
    but sometimes things just fall apart
    no matter how you try, they won't stop
I felt a lot better after I got back up.... I'm going through something right now, and, I just don't know what it is. Too much pandemic, too much change at home, too much stress at work.

And, no break from any of it.


positively4you 70F  
3954 posts
7/12/2020 3:38 am

I do the same and I know some are just scamming. But that one chance it is real gets to me. I am so blessed. So, if it is real I am okay with it. If not, I never know. But, I may have done some good for someone. It won’t break me. Sometimes we are put where we need to be.


easy_going2014 53M
13447 posts
7/11/2020 9:59 pm

Hi secret_lade

thanks for sharing this one

sometimes, you just need to go back to bed

I did the same thing, and, it felt good

have a nice Sunday

be safe

Dave Matthews - "Windows"

When the war is over
and we go back to everyday, everyday
will it be the same again
when you've been turned inside out and outside in?

Singing from the windows
shadow on the wall, the way they dance
not much of nothing
and look at this fire burning bright

Look at how the children play
none of us know what's to come tomorrow
but I'm not going out today
so dance with me like the time we've got is borrowed

Singing from the windows
sirens in the dark, where are you going?
pretend that it's nothing
but look at this fire burning wild

Well this is how we keep holding on
every day, all day long
but sometimes things just fall apart
no matter how you try, they won't stop

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topherific 57M
4680 posts
7/11/2020 9:25 pm


CharlesD6996 50M  
263 posts
7/11/2020 9:07 pm

I guess I'm too jaded about the human condition, but I see most of these people hanging out at Walmart hoping for a handout as scammers. There are a lot of people in need, especially now. But to try to determine which ones are in genuine need versus those that are just trying to take advantage of a good hearted Samaritan is tough.

All the best,

Post Me


pagancountrygirl 62F
5255 posts
7/11/2020 8:57 pm

Whether he was scamming people or not, your act of kindness remains the important part.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


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