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The Bait and Switch  

secret_lade 47F
14043 posts
10/13/2021 1:58 am
The Bait and Switch


Anyone who makes the attempt to communicate with anyone else from this site has fallen prey to this particular individual at least once.

It's the old....

'If you'd like to talk sometime, just to get to know each other' ploy, 'nothing sexual.'

Nothing sexual my ass!

I was feeling bored last night so I decided to test out the waters. I was not disappointed.

Five texts into the conversation the guy was asking me about my pajamas, hinting around that he would like to ask me for a picture but didn't want to 'waste his time and mine'.

Like usual, I avoided going down that road of conversation, I certainly don't plan on sharing that kind of shit with randoms I don't know and will likely never meet.

"You seem conservative."

And, I thought about his observation for a moment.

He was right. I guess I am kind of conservative. I had responded back to him that yes, I suppose I was conservative until I got to know the real personality of the person I was 'trying to get to know'.

Perhaps the continual, repeating cycle of coming into contact with the same kind of guy on here has tainted me in a way. I've gotten to a point where I feel like most of the men who reach out to me on here are like this guy....

They don't really want to get to know me, they just want an easy, random<b> fuck </font></b>and this is their new pick up line.

The problem is, I'm not an easy, random<b> fuck </font></b>that is content with just being used for sex.

The conversation ended not long after that.... Not in a bad way, it had just run it's course. He wasn't really interested in 'getting to know me' and I wasn't really interested in sexting with him.

But, it left me wondering.... Am I seeking out the type of guy who just does not exist anymore?

Thoughts to ponder.....

Happy Wednesday!

69ereatwetpussy 59M
6233 posts
10/14/2021 4:43 pm

Socks I live in socks
I hate my naked feet
I wear socks as shoes outside and inside
I f I need to run out of my home at any time at least I have socks on.
As for being with someone I would take them off if it bothers them.
I sleep in short, clothing on floor at ready my home burnt down back in 1974 so one never knows.
Oh tee shirt and short would be fun to remove off of you lololol


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/14/2021 4:03 pm

    Quoting CUMHANDLEME:
    Oh Momma I understand your dilemma with men in AdultFriendFinder.

    Your standards for a relationship are not unrealistic, just probably not to be found from any man from AdultFriendFinder.
You are probably right....


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/14/2021 4:02 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    I'm guessing it's the guys that can't be bothered to read profiles that are still the main morons?
Pretty much...


citizen4722 63M  
73580 posts
10/14/2021 12:43 pm

I'm guessing it's the guys that can't be bothered to read profiles that are still the main morons?


hogknot 55M  
1020 posts
10/14/2021 11:17 am

    Quoting secret_lade:
    You're right, it is the nut jobs who are ruining it for the average person. They're the reason why we stop reaching out to others, the reason why we become hesitant to respond back, the reason why we become jaded. Why bother when all you find are the nut jobs?
Buried deep in the nuts is a gem. It might take a long time to find that gem, nevertheless, when you do it is awesome.


nsnguystill 69M
390 posts
10/14/2021 4:21 am

"I'm looking for an adult friend.... What better place to find him than AdultFriendFinder?"

well then you are getting exactly the type of person the AdultFriendFinder solicits
(AdultFriendFinder - World's Largest Sex Dating & Hookup Community. )

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2241 posts
10/14/2021 3:21 am

I have faith you will find someone. Whether it is from here or not is a whole other ball of wax!
I personally enjoy getting to know people on here before sharing any sort of personal things such as pictures or names even. I'm definitely not looking to get laid so my agenda is vastly different from the men and women who decry this place as a sex site only.
I'm not above getting horny or extra flirty at times but I'm just not that guy that wants to get off. I was that guy for a bit but learned rather quickly that there was no real pleasure derived from it without having genuine emotional connection.
That's why I love blogging. I get to read fine folks such as yourself and see the inner workings. I'm a perv but I like to think and laugh more.
My advice, for what it's worth, is keep hanging on. You're beautiful in your wonderfully flawed way and there is that guy out there who will appreciate your humor, humanity and honesty.

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


CUMHANDLEME 59F  
790 posts
10/13/2021 9:35 pm

Oh Momma I understand your dilemma with men in AdultFriendFinder.

Your standards for a relationship are not unrealistic, just probably not to be found from any man from AdultFriendFinder.

Do you have any Primal Urges ... I do, please CUMHANDLEME and explore some of my naughty and nice Primal ... Urges with me !!!


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 9:27 pm

    Quoting New2Midlo:
    Well, share about your pajamas...unless you're too conservative.
Shorts and a tshirt presently.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 9:26 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Of course THOSE guys exist, except past eleven o'clock at night. 😎❗❗
Then what happens?? They become werewolves? Pumpkins?? Lol


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 9:24 pm

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    They do exist, and yes they are on here! But like you they have just about given up hope too!!!
Too bad there isn't a way to just match those people up together....


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 9:21 pm

    Quoting Only_one_14:
    It's hard to find someone who is looking for the same. I've been here for many moons and I have made a few good friends. Just friends only....distance and life just gets in the way. Maybe I am conservative and picky but....I am ok with that. I wish the site wouldn't say that I am on the IM when I am really not. Some men send me points to chat and I am not even on it. I hate for someone to waste points on me. I have no expectations on here anymore.
I've been on here off and on since 2007.... I've seen a lot of changes during that time. Some changes, not so good....


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 5:01 pm

    Quoting hogknot:
    It can be a long process to find a good person. Finding the "right" person is even harder. It does happen. Sorting through all the fake profiles and dirty whores can take years. Is it better to do it on a site like this or the old bar routine (that is almost impossible the last 18 months) There are good men on here and there are good woman on here. The problem is that the fucking nut jobs ruin it for normal people.
    The first problem is finding a real person. Am I real? Are you real?
You're right, it is the nut jobs who are ruining it for the average person. They're the reason why we stop reaching out to others, the reason why we become hesitant to respond back, the reason why we become jaded. Why bother when all you find are the nut jobs?


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:59 pm

    Quoting Granny872:
    Yep, you're preaching to the choir.

    I make it pretty clear in all of my conversations here that I'm not into random sex chat, but yep, it still goes there. Not because I've initiated it, but because these guys just cannot, will not and aren't capable of any other conversation.

    And yep, with each passing conversation, I terminate it more quickly than the prior conversation with some different guy.

    I suppose it's folly to hope that 'no means no' will sink in.
This is precisely why I rarely chat on here. People don't talk just to talk anymore.... It's all about how quickly can I reach sexual gratification so I can move on with my day.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:57 pm

    Quoting 62Mature4young:
    There are generaliy three genre's of folks here--

    Some are here for the sexual exploration of their own desires
    SAome are here to explore and push the limits of their boundaries
    Some are here to find a compatible partner

    Most everyone believes and seems to accept that this is a sex site geared to getting one's own rocks off--certainly most men think so, or there would not be an underlying issue regards HOW one communicates their desires for another

    At the bottom of all this is the resentment for being treated as a piece of meat, even while some members portray themselves as little more than that

    Overriding all of this is the truth that we all wish to be treated as human beings--with respct, consideration, as equals and as opposites both.

    In this day and age the bait and switch tactics played out here complex--and simple.

    I want someone to find me interesting, knowledgeable and as an individual, not something off-the-rack to just fuck--and I think most all of us want the same thing....

    So why is it so difficult to approach another as a human being?
I would like to know that myself. Why is it so difficult to approach another as a human being?


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:53 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    I don't use the IM feature on here but I get some of the same "bait and switch" tactics through the regular message system. It's not unusual for some to get really angry when I don't comply with their wishes/demands for pictures. It seems my blocked list just keeps growing....
There have been a few guys who have gotten angry with me for not responding to their messages or sharing pics with them because they have sent me theirs. I have posted about some of them.... Real classy gents they were. It's unfortunate that the golden rule is non existent when it comes to an online persona. My feelings are still present, whether I'm in person or sitting behind a computer screen.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:48 pm

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    Good morning sunshine hope your day is as beautiful as you.
    So what are you sleeping in nightly lololol.
    Wondering minds all like to know.
    Since this sight is programed for sexy people to meet it only goes with the territory.
    I myself sleep in just my shorts and a very warm blanket.
    Ps socks too lololol
    Ok sure there are some gentleman on this sight just not reading your blog
    I love your blog it's clean every day life.
    You Don't sell yourself out to be someone your not
    Now that you moved you seam more at ease
    More out going
    You always been a pleasant person
    And with respect for yourself and other
    You know how to catch fly with honey
    Just a few right world and all the horny me come out.
    We human have such small brains when sex is on our minds
    I know your at work so have a good day and keep your food off your chest other wise someone my want to clean it off (hint hint)....
You're always so kind to me. Thank you! I'm glad you enjoy my blog, I like making people laugh and sharing little tidbits and insights into my day. I have to ask.... Why do you wear socks to bed?? LOL That would drive me crazy. Most of the time, I'm wearing tshirts and shorts for pj's... Unless I have special company. Then, I don't wear pajamas, they just get in the way.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:30 pm

I hope so too!


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:30 pm

    Quoting AnewWoman:
    What is funny about this site is it never ceases to amaze me how many people believe everyone here should think like and be here for the same reason they are. What those people don't realize is there are people like you and the type of individual you seek on this site. Sometimes it just takes times to sort out the bad apples.
This go around has been very different than my past experiences. I didn't have the same struggles finding what I was seeking.... When I was married, I found my married lover. When I was single, I found other men that were seeking a friend / lover without the need for commitment. When I was ready to commit to one person, I found him too.

Perhaps it is me this time around....


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:25 pm

    Quoting nsnguystill:
    "But, it left me wondering.... Am I seeking out the type of guy who just does not exist anymore?"
    i would like to believe that what you are looking for is the average guy... just the place you are looking for him is a "specialty" shop.
    it is like looking in clothing stores for shoelaces, and shoe stores for slacks
    you may get lucky once in a while. but on the average you will find what they specialize in
    bonne vie
I'm looking for an adult friend.... What better place to find him than AdultFriendFinder?


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:23 pm

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I've never chatted with anyone here. But if the chat is typical of what happens in the site's adult room, it's not a place I want to frequent!
There was a time, when chat first came about, when I used to chat on here all the time. The site was different, and the men were different. This was before I met the Hippie.... I had actually met the Hippie here, he was one of my blog readers back in the day.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:20 pm

    Quoting positively4you:
    I rarely engage im here. Especially if he is far away. Just wants some sex chat which I am not into with some random stranger. But, you may find that rare one here who is for you. Some will start out nice and then switch to the mindless boring sexual bs. Im done at that point. I can be sexual but not with the headless dick pic hundreds of miles away or in the same town either.
Yah, I don't have any interest in the random sex talk with complete strangers, either. The funny thing is, I do kind of enjoy that stuff with the right person, the playful teasing... etc. I just can't get into it, though, unless it's someone I feel attracted to and trust.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:14 pm

    Quoting notsure1949:
    site is getting full of so many fakes male and female, had one where she used someone else's photo and had email listed, different person form the photo, worst case was someone contacting me with an address that either turned out to be a retail store location or a hotel behind it so was a scammer not from the area, then you have those with the nice photo, but the profile says yo get what you pay for
I don't encounter the fakes as much as others.... Possibly because I don't spend a lot of time chatting or in chat rooms. Most of the people I interact with are from the blogs, those people I know are real and I do enjoy our interactions and conversations. It's funny how the blog world on here is so completely different than the people I encounter outside of that on this site.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 4:09 pm

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    I got bored, and started messaging with a woman here and it got real, real quick. She wanted a quick meent n fuck. I dodged her for several days then finally had to admit I wasn't ready to meet anyone. I've got to lose some covid weight and get some dental work fixed before I meet anyone. Now I take my boredom out on other websites.
Are you feeling self conscious about your appearance? It's possible she may not have been worried about that stuff....


New2Midlo 52M  
1037 posts
10/13/2021 3:38 pm

Well, share about your pajamas...unless you're too conservative.


Paulxx001 64M  
21958 posts
10/13/2021 3:20 pm

Of course THOSE guys exist, except past eleven o'clock at night. 😎❗❗


boobwhisperer69 58M  
7866 posts
10/13/2021 9:53 am

They do exist, and yes they are on here! But like you they have just about given up hope too!!!


Only_one_14 52F
4181 posts
10/13/2021 9:09 am

It's hard to find someone who is looking for the same. I've been here for many moons and I have made a few good friends. Just friends only....distance and life just gets in the way. Maybe I am conservative and picky but....I am ok with that. I wish the site wouldn't say that I am on the IM when I am really not. Some men send me points to chat and I am not even on it. I hate for someone to waste points on me. I have no expectations on here anymore.

A Man who knows how to use his tongue is extremely useful!


hogknot 55M  
1020 posts
10/13/2021 7:42 am

It can be a long process to find a good person. Finding the "right" person is even harder. It does happen. Sorting through all the fake profiles and dirty whores can take years. Is it better to do it on a site like this or the old bar routine (that is almost impossible the last 18 months) There are good men on here and there are good woman on here. The problem is that the fucking nut jobs ruin it for normal people.
The first problem is finding a real person. Am I real? Are you real?


Granny872 69F  
4038 posts
10/13/2021 6:41 am

Yep, you're preaching to the choir.

I make it pretty clear in all of my conversations here that I'm not into random sex chat, but yep, it still goes there. Not because I've initiated it, but because these guys just cannot, will not and aren't capable of any other conversation.

And yep, with each passing conversation, I terminate it more quickly than the prior conversation with some different guy.

I suppose it's folly to hope that 'no means no' will sink in.


62Mature4young 62M
250 posts
10/13/2021 6:13 am

There are generaliy three genre's of folks here--

Some are here for the sexual exploration of their own desires
SAome are here to explore and push the limits of their boundaries
Some are here to find a compatible partner

Most everyone believes and seems to accept that this is a sex site geared to getting one's own rocks off--certainly most men think so, or there would not be an underlying issue regards HOW one communicates their desires for another

At the bottom of all this is the resentment for being treated as a piece of meat, even while some members portray themselves as little more than that

Overriding all of this is the truth that we all wish to be treated as human beings--with respct, consideration, as equals and as opposites both.

In this day and age the bait and switch tactics played out here complex--and simple.

I want someone to find me interesting, knowledgeable and as an individual, not something off-the-rack to just fuck--and I think most all of us want the same thing....

So why is it so difficult to approach another as a human being?


pagancountrygirl 64F
6228 posts
10/13/2021 6:08 am

I don't use the IM feature on here but I get some of the same "bait and switch" tactics through the regular message system. It's not unusual for some to get really angry when I don't comply with their wishes/demands for pictures. It seems my blocked list just keeps growing....

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


69ereatwetpussy 59M
6233 posts
10/13/2021 5:59 am

Good morning sunshine hope your day is as beautiful as you.
So what are you sleeping in nightly lololol.
Wondering minds all like to know.
Since this sight is programed for sexy people to meet it only goes with the territory.
I myself sleep in just my shorts and a very warm blanket.
Ps socks too lololol
Ok sure there are some gentleman on this sight just not reading your blog
I love your blog it's clean every day life.
You Don't sell yourself out to be someone your not
Now that you moved you seam more at ease
More out going
You always been a pleasant person
And with respect for yourself and other
You know how to catch fly with honey
Just a few right world and all the horny me come out.
We human have such small brains when sex is on our minds
I know your at work so have a good day and keep your food off your chest other wise someone my want to clean it off (hint hint)....


PleasureUdeeper 45M

10/13/2021 5:58 am

Hopefully you find what you are looking for!


AnewWoman 63F
268 posts
10/13/2021 5:54 am

What is funny about this site is it never ceases to amaze me how many people believe everyone here should think like and be here for the same reason they are. What those people don't realize is there are people like you and the type of individual you seek on this site. Sometimes it just takes times to sort out the bad apples.


nsnguystill 69M
390 posts
10/13/2021 5:19 am

"But, it left me wondering.... Am I seeking out the type of guy who just does not exist anymore?"
i would like to believe that what you are looking for is the average guy... just the place you are looking for him is a "specialty" shop.
it is like looking in clothing stores for shoelaces, and shoe stores for slacks
you may get lucky once in a while. but on the average you will find what they specialize in
bonne vie

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


spunkycumfun 61M/66F  
39485 posts
10/13/2021 4:58 am

I've never chatted with anyone here. But if the chat is typical of what happens in the site's adult room, it's not a place I want to frequent!


positively4you 72F  
4523 posts
10/13/2021 4:54 am

I rarely engage im here. Especially if he is far away. Just wants some sex chat which I am not into with some random stranger. But, you may find that rare one here who is for you. Some will start out nice and then switch to the mindless boring sexual bs. Im done at that point. I can be sexual but not with the headless dick pic hundreds of miles away or in the same town either.


notsure1949 72M
10502 posts
10/13/2021 4:51 am

site is getting full of so many fakes male and female, had one where she used someone else's photo and had email listed, different person form the photo, worst case was someone contacting me with an address that either turned out to be a retail store location or a hotel behind it so was a scammer not from the area, then you have those with the nice photo, but the profile says yo get what you pay for


mc_justmc 61M  
6854 posts
10/13/2021 4:13 am

I got bored, and started messaging with a woman here and it got real, real quick. She wanted a quick meent n fuck. I dodged her for several days then finally had to admit I wasn't ready to meet anyone. I've got to lose some covid weight and get some dental work fixed before I meet anyone. Now I take my boredom out on other websites.


secret_lade 47F
8811 posts
10/13/2021 1:58 am

Anyone who makes the attempt to communicate with anyone else from this site has fallen prey to this particular individual at least once.

It's the old....

'If you'd like to talk sometime, just to get to know each other' ploy, 'nothing sexual.'

Nothing sexual my ass!

I was feeling bored last night so I decided to test out the waters. I was not disappointed.

Five texts into the conversation the guy was asking me about my pajamas, hinting around that he would like to ask me for a picture but didn't want to 'waste his time and mine'.

Like usual, I avoided going down that road of conversation, I certainly don't plan on sharing that kind of shit with randoms I don't know and will likely never meet.

"You seem conservative."

And, I thought about his observation for a moment.

He was right. I guess I am kind of conservative. I had responded back to him that yes, I suppose I was conservative until I got to know the real personality of the person I was 'trying to get to know'.

Perhaps the continual, repeating cycle of coming into contact with the same kind of guy on here has tainted me in a way. I've gotten to a point where I feel like most of the men who reach out to me on here are like this guy....

They don't really want to get to know me, they just want an easy, random fuck and this is their new pick up line.

The problem is, I'm not an easy, random fuck that is content with just being used for sex.

The conversation ended not long after that.... Not in a bad way, it had just run it's course. He wasn't really interested in 'getting to know me' and I wasn't really interested in sexting with him.

But, it left me wondering.... Am I seeking out the type of guy who just does not exist anymore?

Thoughts to ponder.....

Happy Wednesday!


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