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Sugaring: Sensualman's Take  

sensualmaninmn 58M  
207 posts
1/1/2020 6:41 am
Sugaring: Sensualman's Take

Brief relationship explanation from Wikipedia:

"A is a person who receives cash, gifts or other financial and material benefits in exchange for company. It usually includes sex or intimacy. The paying partner is typically wealthier and older. A 's partner is often referred not as a trick or a john but a , while the less-common female counterpart is a "sugar mama"

Being an older guy, I occasionally encounter a woman that is looking for a sugar daddy (FYI, I have never, ever met a quot;sugar mama"). I have met women, both under deceitful circumstances, that were looking for "compensation" one way or another-- one told me at our first (and last) meeting at a coffeeshop, the other woman seduced me and tried to fulfill every desire I ever expressed. I later learned why (for a -by- description, see my blog post "One Night Stands").

If you are "Sugaring", i don't condemn you-- I get it that many younger women (and even older) have a need feel financially secure and maintain a certain lifestyle, and see a as a means an end. Conversely, a well--do older guy in that role can essentially "buy" sex with most physically desirable women available. However, no matter where I was at financially, I personally could never consent being a SD for one major reason: Trust.

I only welcome into my life those that value chemistry, compassion, caring, laughter, and open sexuality. Anything else is secondary, and perhaps irrelevant. In a SD arrangement, the man may only be of value as good long as the "gifts" that keep coming to his SB. I could never give myself to a woman in an ongoing sexual relationship that I knew or suspected deep down inside didn't necessarily like me as a person, but tolerated me inside her just to get a car, rent paid, $400 Botox injections, and would go missing if I fell short on any provision. And that's not to mention "Stuff" happens in life that may not have anything to do with sexual performance -- Recession, job loss, accident, illness, etc.

One major life change is all that is needed to make a "sugaring"relationship bittersweet.


sensualmaninmn 58M  
515 posts
1/1/2020 6:43 am

Happy New Year 2020 to all my friends and readers!


superbjversion2 65F
20127 posts
1/1/2020 7:15 am

I wonder if that's why so many young men look for older women? Hoping that 'cougar' is really a Sugar Mama.

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jajo696 65F
2145 posts
1/1/2020 7:29 am

it takes all kinds to make up this world we live in. Its a supply n demand kinda arrangement. i think if both parties are upfront from the onset...and the rules are laid out....to me...its no different than master/sub contract~~


sensualmaninmn 58M  
515 posts
1/1/2020 8:34 am

    Quoting superbjversion2:
    I wonder if that's why so many young men look for older women? Hoping that 'cougar' is really a Sugar Mama.
Some of it could also be experience and maturity. Years ago, I had a brief relationship with a woman 10 years older than I. Confidence and mutual attraction made me feel very comfortable in her in bed.


GhostofH 61M
19701 posts
1/1/2020 9:12 am

I thought this post was going to be about something completely different....


sensualmaninmn 58M  
515 posts
1/1/2020 10:14 am

    Quoting GhostofH:
    I thought this post was going to be about something completely different....
Click bait, lol.


BiggLala 48F  
28372 posts
1/1/2020 11:04 am

Conversely, a well--do older guy in that role can essentially "buy" sex with most physically desirable women available.
-That's what he's doing already. Regardless of the spin people want to place on 'sugar dating', it's prostitution plain and simple. He's the John and she's the professional. More power to them if they're in agreement to that transaction(s).

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sensualmaninmn 58M  
515 posts
1/2/2020 5:08 am

Tried to fix the missing words, ugh!


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