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sensualmaninmn 58M  
207 posts
12/21/2019 9:20 am
"Verified" Scammers

It never ceases amaze how scammers literally spend their entire lives (probably careers) scouring the web for pictures create fake profiles, and spend what most would consider an inordinate amount of time engaging unsuspecting (and suspecting) men and women in conversation with the intent of extracting some type of monetary gain.

A trending trick that many of those no-lifes are using now is get their profiles "verified" . Along with pictures lifted from who knows where, they include (as seen here) a photo of the person holding a sign that had been taken from another profile and obviously photo-shopped with the screen name for this profile.

With the holidays approaching, I have had a bit more time available, so I decided to along with an allegedly "local" woman that was trying lure into a scam. Here is an edited-for-clarity version of that transpired over the course of a week-and-a-half:

: Hi, ______, It's _____ - Sensualmaninmn on AdultFriendFinder.
Her: Oh hi, How is it going?
: Good... just getting some gift cards for relatives this afternoon. Your profile on AdultFriendFinder is a bit vague. May I ask what you are seeking?
Her: Oh nice nice. Can I get one? Maybe as an early Christmas gift lol.. I am seeking love and sex. And communication. Have you found anything interesting?
Me: Maybe you if you are willing meet sometime. I can travel your town 30 miles away
Her: I can travel too.
: Are you free tomorrow evening? Wanted to see if we could meet.
Her: No, sorry, I will tell you when I can
Me: I know it was short notice...Does this mean you can't really plan in advance?
Her: I can but I have priorities and responsibilities, So it will be hard to plan. Plus when I’m ready to meet you. You will have to for the Uber or Lyft.
: I understand that.. was just looking see if you were free that night. Am I correct in assuming you don't drive?
Her: Well, I have my own reasons so if you could get an uber gift card or OneVanilla gift card since I can't use your credit card. Then I will book it and come around.I did try meet someone and after using uber go around. He didn't show up.The second one too. I made him for it and later requested for a charge or something like that so I had and he also didn't show up. Both did it for no reason. Don’t worry. Uber will be better.
: Okay, how would that work? How would I get you a Uber Ride? And would I take you home afterwards? Just curious
Her: How I will go back wouldn't be a big problem. Uber back or you can take me back if you want..
Me: How much would it be? I am not that familiar with Uber, as I have my own car.
Her: About $50 will be o
: Let's talk on the phone first and get acquainted before we take that Uber step.
Her: I won’t share my number now. I’ve been spammed with calls and all that also. Why do you we have talk on phone????
: If you were a mature lady genuinely seeking get know and meet a man, you would not have a problem with that. But as I have now exposed, you are a scammer and a fake.
Her: If that’s what you thin I have nothing say about that. I’m verified for Gods sake.

**** I shut down the conversation after that last post****

What do YOU think? You may not agree with my approach, but if you have read the "Basic Communication Expectations" blog then it would make complete sense. I don't make a hobby of exposing fakes and scammers, but I have admit sometimes it's fun and gratifying do so.


HAMONMAN 60M
10172 posts
12/21/2019 1:43 pm


it's a job - the 'new' economy I suppose


lonlyforlove2 77M
8152 posts
12/21/2019 1:55 pm

Seen this to many times, so blatant in their actions..

Be sure to look in at lonlyforlove2 . It may make you smile


sensualmaninmn 58M  
514 posts
12/21/2019 2:40 pm

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Seen this to many times, so blatant in their actions..
As soon as Uber was mentioned, I knew it was a scammer. I simply played dumb just for the fun of it to further expose the fake.


RyuFujin 52F  
1170 posts
12/21/2019 6:35 pm

Not everyone who's a "verified" member is a fake. I tried to get "certified", but my *formal ID* kept getting denied for some inane reason.
C'est la vie.

Plus, I'm a bit sketchy about having my formal ID out there for a website to verify that I'm indeed "real". How do I know that their employees are honest? That there isn't someone there at the headquarters that's going to dupe my ID along to someone else for a cheap amount? Not worth the cost in $$$ I don't have to clear my name in the long run...

I'm under the impression that the members who are certified did so a long time ago, before the site started going wonky all the time. I've only been here about a year, and so only know what's happened in that time frame.

Why *she* didn't wish to give you her number/*she* gets a lot of spam calls... Guess she doesn't know about the Nat'l Do Not Call Registry, or maybe she doesn't know how to properly block unwanted numbers on the phone.? Fairly easy to do, and not rocket science. My phone is an old PoS, and I can block numbers with no issues. I would think on any "newer phone" it's easier to figure out how to do.
Scammers don't want to take the time to think, maybe?

Uber payment options: you can book via credit card, in some cities there's a cash option. But according to the Uber website itself, there isn't a gift card option. Nice try though. Looks like you dodged a bullet.

Yep, the scammers are getting a bit more clever in their tactics now.


"Be who you are and say what you feel. Those who matter won't mind, and those who mind won't matter." ~ Dr. Seuss.


sensualmaninmn replies on 12/21/2019 7:38 pm:
I realize not every "verified" member is a fake. If you note the picture, a more than a quick look will reveal that it was photo shopped.

A newer tactic of the scammers is to create profiles with mature women (as opposed to post-teen and 20-30 somethings) as most sincerely seeking guys like myself are interested in. I am somewhat old-school and interested in women with, among other things of course, good people skills. Imho, A phone conversation before meeting is a no-brainer.

Thanks for your comment, and I enjoy your blog posts. Once again, sorry about your recent "Dear Jane" experience.

BiggLala 48F  
28364 posts
12/21/2019 10:25 pm

    Quoting RyuFujin:
    Not everyone who's a "verified" member is a fake. I tried to get "certified", but my *formal ID* kept getting denied for some inane reason.
    C'est la vie.

    Plus, I'm a bit sketchy about having my formal ID out there for a website to verify that I'm indeed "real". How do I know that their employees are honest? That there isn't someone there at the headquarters that's going to dupe my ID along to someone else for a cheap amount? Not worth the cost in $$$ I don't have to clear my name in the long run...

    I'm under the impression that the members who are certified did so a long time ago, before the site started going wonky all the time. I've only been here about a year, and so only know what's happened in that time frame.

    Why *she* didn't wish to give you her number/*she* gets a lot of spam calls... Guess she doesn't know about the Nat'l Do Not Call Registry, or maybe she doesn't know how to properly block unwanted numbers on the phone.? Fairly easy to do, and not rocket science. My phone is an old PoS, and I can block numbers with no issues. I would think on any "newer phone" it's easier to figure out how to do.
    Scammers don't want to take the time to think, maybe?

    Uber payment options: you can book via credit card, in some cities there's a cash option. But according to the Uber website itself, there isn't a gift card option. Nice try though. Looks like you dodged a bullet.

    Yep, the scammers are getting a bit more clever in their tactics now.
Actually, there are Uber "gift cards"...more like pre-paid cards. We sell them at the store where I work (also, see this link: https: // www. uber.com/us/en/gift-cards/ ...I removed some spaces so site wouldn't eat the link 🙄 ).

Anyway, to me, it's not so much about whether Uber has a gift card, it's that she asked in the first place that tells me scammer. The Vanilla pre-paid card thing too.

To you, senualman, the not wanting to talk on the phone thing isn't necessarily an indication she's a scammer or fake. Personally, I don't give out my number until after I've had significant conversations with someone OR met them in person. I accomplish a voice conversation through apps that allow that, like kik or Skype. I understand blocking numbers, but I'd rather wait to determine if the person is someone I want to have my number at all, but that's just me. I only bring this up because you seem to automatically think 'fake/scammer' if they don't want to talk on the phone. Not always the case. But, yes, I think all things combined suggest THIS one is a scammer.

Lastly, I dare suggest you focus on finding the 'real' women here. Yeah, I get that you think it 'fun' and perhaps you accomplished something. However, you could have directed the energy you spent on this 'person' toward a genuine woman. Isn't that the point of being here? I mean, the best way to shut the scammers down is to cut off their supply. Yet, far too many men (maybe a few women too) give them attention...even if it doesn't yield them $$$, they'll continue thinking they'll eventually reach their goal...and they do. *holding up picket sign* Don't feed the scammers!

Just my opinion since you asked.

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sensualmaninmn replies on 12/22/2019 4:41 am:
Lala, I didn't mean to imply that I require a phone conversation immediately upon making a connection -- an unintentional omission while cutting to the chase in this blog post. In fact, I am having a significant conversation with a woman on kik that I KNOW is real, just from the flow and our mutual knowledge of places. Unfortunately, the video option is no longer available on kik since their sale to another company a few months ago. And I know very few people that have Skype anymore -- I think that service has also been folded into another company.

Typically, if someone mentions email or Google Hangouts right away, I know it is a scammer and I disengage. But you are right -- Better to focus attention finding real women, and I am grateful for the real people like yourself I have encountered in blogland. Thanks for your input -- appreciate it.

jajo696 65F
2121 posts
12/22/2019 1:10 am

For me...the scammer button went off....when she asked for a gift card in the first line of convo. I mean.....who does that .

...and phone numbers?? Im not verified or certified cuz im not giving up my phone number to the site....
i do however, give it to those that have emailed and been properly vetted~~


sensualmaninmn 58M  
514 posts
12/22/2019 6:22 am

    Quoting jajo696:
    For me...the scammer button went off....when she asked for a gift card in the first line of convo. I mean.....who does that .

    ...and phone numbers?? Im not verified or certified cuz im not giving up my phone number to the site....
    i do however, give it to those that have emailed and been properly vetted~~
Initially, it could have been a flirt, or off-the-cuff joke, but as you see when the conversation unfolded, it was anything but.

Vetting takes effort, but it is well worth it. And there are ways to protect yourself, such as having a "Google Voice" alternate number, which can provide an extra layer of protection against stalkers, etc. Appreciate your thoughts.


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