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Making Hard Decisions  

sexyldy1000 59F  
6188 posts
6/26/2020 4:39 pm
Making Hard Decisions




The above quote is from 'Economic Warfare: Secrets of Wealth Creation in the Age of Welfare Politics', a book by Ziad K. Abdelnour. I immediately felt drawn to those words and how the concept was applicable far beyond economics.

Often, in our lifetime, we are faced with difficult decisions. How we deal with them can vary depending on many factors including the potential consequences.

There’s no question, the hardest choice I have had to make happened many years ago. It was the decision to leave my ex-husband. My was two and a half years old and I was five months pregnant with my .

I won’t go into why I chose to do so. However, once I actually said the words out loud, it made it all very real. A tremendous weight was lifted off my shoulders. While the journey has been difficult, not once, have I regretted making it.


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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/26/2020 4:43 pm

How do you handle making difficult decisions?

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lonlyforlove2 77M
15899 posts
6/26/2020 5:50 pm

Young Lady, been there done that, many years back, a very hard decision but once made , a big relief and healing begin, it takes a long time ...have a good day, be safe

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mc_justmc 60M
6282 posts
6/26/2020 6:03 pm

My 1st marriage was like that. There was never any thought to go back, or any question about my decision.


bitchkitty2017 67F  
5289 posts
6/26/2020 6:41 pm

hmmm interesting question ..I usually weigh the pro's and con's of whether i do or do not..normally if it comes to household decisions i always put what is needed or most important first ..sometimes i put all the bills in a basket shake 'em up and pick one ..lol this is rare but when times are tough it works ...good one hope there are some interesting answers..chow


redrockrascal 61M
21594 posts
6/26/2020 8:32 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    How do you handle making difficult decisions?
It tends to depend on the circumstances. Is it a right now decision or do I have time to ponder the options. If a right now I sometimes go with my gut. It's never perfect but you make the best of what you have to work with.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


clittywhisperer1 56M
1363 posts
6/26/2020 8:57 pm

I had to do it 5 years ago .My soulmate ,love of my life ,I gave her my entire heart mind body and soul , and she gave her hers one problem circumstances made it impossible to be together as man and wife .distance , ex's ,support , economics, responsibility to kids . I waited 5 yrs , no relief on the horizon ,I could not help her .So I sacrificed myself , my heart my soul and stopped seeing her so she could find a man who could give her the security she needed at the time .I still had her soul I know ,She wanted to see again , but there was not time nd I was angry she would never compromise to make more time ,but she worked 60-70 hrs a week to keep the house .I felt I was taking time from her kids even if I loved her and her daughter as much as a man can .I had kids to finish raising too in my area ,she was 90 miles away .It hurt like a mother ,gosh the anguish ,but it was for her .Now I tried to replace her ,that has not worked well and i am divorcing that woman .She could not give me her heart ,I no longer had mine to give .I had faith .If you love someone let them go ,If they return you ARE LOVED . Guess who returned into my life ? not sure if she is available yet , talked a bit , everything came back as it was .I know she loves me ,but she may have decisions to make ,she is now just 15 miles away , kids raised and moving out .has mom to care for with dementia ,not sure if she has a man . We are going to meet soon or eventually,then I will know Her eyes and body language will tell. we had such a connection , so deep so intens e, so .I leave it up to my higher power to lead the way and just be still, calm , appreciative and patient .She will come to me .... faith , strength, confidence , love I must first get through the divorce ,it is amicable and simple .


sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:42 am

    Quoting  :

It's not easy to face hard decisions head-on. We each have to find what works best for ourselves. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your storry.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:45 am

    Quoting lonlyforlove2:
    Young Lady, been there done that, many years back, a very hard decision but once made , a big relief and healing begin, it takes a long time ...have a good day, be safe
Yes - sometimes just making A relieves the burden. Living with the outcome can become another challenge. Thanks for stopping by and always be safe.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:48 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    My 1st marriage was like that. There was never any thought to go back, or any question about my decision.
I never re-considered my decision either. Seems to be a situation that many have gone through.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:53 am

    Quoting  :

My decision was not made lightly. There were many factors to consider. Without a doubt, it continues to be the toughest decision I have ever made. I think it gave me a different perspective on how to handle hard decisions going forward. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experience.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:55 am

    Quoting bitchkitty2017:
    hmmm interesting question ..I usually weigh the pro's and con's of whether i do or do not..normally if it comes to household decisions i always put what is needed or most important first ..sometimes i put all the bills in a basket shake 'em up and pick one ..lol this is rare but when times are tough it works ...good one hope there are some interesting answers..chow
Sounds like you have found a process that is effective for you. Comments are always interesting to read and I appreciate when people stop by and share their thoughts.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:57 am

    Quoting redrockrascal:
    It tends to depend on the circumstances. Is it a right now decision or do I have time to ponder the options. If a right now I sometimes go with my gut. It's never perfect but you make the best of what you have to work with.
'Gut instincts' are often the best barometer. We have to be prepared for whatever the outcomes may be.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:59 am

    Quoting clittywhisperer1:
    I had to do it 5 years ago .My soulmate ,love of my life ,I gave her my entire heart mind body and soul , and she gave her hers one problem circumstances made it impossible to be together as man and wife .distance , ex's ,support , economics, responsibility to kids . I waited 5 yrs , no relief on the horizon ,I could not help her .So I sacrificed myself , my heart my soul and stopped seeing her so she could find a man who could give her the security she needed at the time .I still had her soul I know ,She wanted to see again , but there was not time nd I was angry she would never compromise to make more time ,but she worked 60-70 hrs a week to keep the house .I felt I was taking time from her kids even if I loved her and her daughter as much as a man can .I had kids to finish raising too in my area ,she was 90 miles away .It hurt like a mother ,gosh the anguish ,but it was for her .Now I tried to replace her ,that has not worked well and i am divorcing that woman .She could not give me her heart ,I no longer had mine to give .I had faith .If you love someone let them go ,If they return you ARE LOVED . Guess who returned into my life ? not sure if she is available yet , talked a bit , everything came back as it was .I know she loves me ,but she may have decisions to make ,she is now just 15 miles away , kids raised and moving out .has mom to care for with dementia ,not sure if she has a man . We are going to meet soon or eventually,then I will know Her eyes and body language will tell. we had such a connection , so deep so intens e, so .I leave it up to my higher power to lead the way and just be still, calm , appreciative and patient .She will come to me .... faith , strength, confidence , love I must first get through the divorce ,it is amicable and simple .
Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experience. I hope it all works out the way that you want it to.

Stimulate my mind and let’s see what happens 😊
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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 4:00 am

    Quoting  :

Perhaps. For some, it seems those difficulties are few and far between. While others seem to have more than their fair share. Thanks for stopping by.

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powercaps716 63M
28239 posts
6/27/2020 5:01 am

 i've been there. at the time i refused to see the hand writing on the wall and then   BAM ,  it hit me. now what do i do? where do i go?  i finally when back to my parents and stay with them for a few weeks, then finding a place, i moved out  feeling some what isolated i was determined to make it and find my way back to living since then i haven't looked back and feel much better about myself  and life. not saying is was easy but hard making the decision


sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 5:09 am

    Quoting powercaps716:
     i've been there. at the time i refused to see the hand writing on the wall and then   BAM ,  it hit me. now what do i do? where do i go?  i finally when back to my parents and stay with them for a few weeks, then finding a place, i moved out  feeling some what isolated i was determined to make it and find my way back to living since then i haven't looked back and feel much better about myself  and life. not saying is was easy but hard making the decision
I was also fortunate that I was able to move in with my parents until my son was born. Like you, once I got back on my feet and rented a place on my own, I never looked back. It made me stronger and able to face all the other challenges that happened. Thank you for sharing your story.

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pocogato12 68F  
33740 posts
6/27/2020 5:19 am

Sometimes I have had to just go with my first instinct and once in a while it has returned to bite me. But most of the time I do the pro here con there and do w hat will be best for me in the long term. Serious illness played a large role in how I now approach life

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Paulxx001 63M
16615 posts
6/27/2020 9:23 am

Glad to hear that it all worked out.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 12:57 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Sometimes I have had to just go with my first instinct and once in a while it has returned to bite me. But most of the time I do the pro here con there and do w hat will be best for me in the long term. Serious illness played a large role in how I now approach life
Yes I certainly understand the latter part of your comment. There's no doubt it impacts how we view things and I have embraced the 'don't sweat the small stuff' mindset.

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sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 1:00 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Glad to hear that it all worked out.
Thanks! Resilience and perseverance and being grateful for each and every day have been big factors.

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Tmptrzz 57F
81791 posts
6/27/2020 1:11 pm

Life decisions are the hardest, you knew what you had to do and you did it. And now your happier and life is so much better for you and your kids and that's all that matters my friend.. I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening..

Just your average every day run of the mill nana here!!!


sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/27/2020 3:14 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Life decisions are the hardest, you knew what you had to do and you did it. And now your happier and life is so much better for you and your kids and that's all that matters my friend.. I hope you enjoy the rest of your evening..
I agree that the decisions that have lifelong implications are the most difficult to make. Thank you for your supportive words. Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

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mamacita38dd 41F
51149 posts
6/28/2020 2:19 am

As we go through life I believe we all look back at decisions we have made and wish we could go back and change that decision, but it's part of life we should always learn from bad decisions, but unfortunately as we see here some people don't. My decision making process is a lot different now then when I was younger that's for sure, I am glad you were able to overcome my friend, but as we all know life is always evolving and changing.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/28/2020 3:36 am

    Quoting mamacita38dd:
    As we go through life I believe we all look back at decisions we have made and wish we could go back and change that decision, but it's part of life we should always learn from bad decisions, but unfortunately as we see here some people don't. My decision making process is a lot different now then when I was younger that's for sure, I am glad you were able to overcome my friend, but as we all know life is always evolving and changing.
Funny...with all the challenges and obstacles I have had to deal with, I never look back and think, ‘If only....” nor ‘Why me?”. Instead, I know they have all contributed to the woman I am today...strong, resilient, capable. I always appreciate your support...thank you.

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CynicusMaximus 48M
1805 posts
6/28/2020 11:18 am

It's never an easy decision to make, but it is okay to cut toxic people from your life.


sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
6/28/2020 11:50 am

    Quoting CynicusMaximus:
    It's never an easy decision to make, but it is okay to cut toxic people from your life.
Definitely the 'right' choice to make! Thanks for stopping by.

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tulsflimythguan 38F
40 posts
7/11/2020 4:47 pm

Good stuff. Thanks


sexyldy1000 59F  
6306 posts
7/11/2020 7:10 pm

Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for stopping by

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