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meeting on aff and its challenges  

spomrsfun 58F
44 posts
6/5/2016 8:52 am
meeting on aff and its challenges

In bed who takes lead? Say you met someone on AdultFriendFinder and barely had time to chat it up and both had time to hook up because of timing issues. There is always that awkward when your in bed not knowing what each other likes? You can only say so much on profile but in person total different thing. My 3 things in my profile say no poop, pain, anal. I love to touch a mans body and squeeze, bite, pull but depends on the mood and what other person is into.

It is known fact most men have a hard time hooking up due the lack of women online. I answer all emails/IM's.

It is hard to find a match where you both enjoy where you see each other again for round 2. Knowing the first meet both or one is nervous and sex doesn't go to good and yet neither say anything LOL

Good hunting today!

bikwiz21 61M
89 posts
6/5/2016 9:03 am

You seem to know. Having not met up I wonder and wonder some. Stay well and thrive on ....

iwalkstilts 45M  
2859 posts
6/5/2016 9:08 am

You have a good point.
In my opinion it takes at least 3 times just to get comfortable.

BiggLala 48F  
29062 posts
6/5/2016 9:11 am

This is just one of the reasons that, as a 'rule', I don't do hookups...of course there have been exceptions, they're just not my 'norm' or preference. It takes time (not a lot of time) to converse and get to know someone to find these things out, i.e. the things I not only need to know about the person I'm with, but know what he likes in the bedroom...and he can find these thing out about me.

Good hunting to you too!

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sirenprime 64M/45F  
514 posts
6/5/2016 9:25 am

Hey Mrs.spo!
It IS a problem, that's for sure. Nervousness and awkward feelings aren't really conducive to great sex. Hopefully a few will appreciate what you bring to them: those are the ones to hang on to.

BrownEyedBBW 52F
8837 posts
6/5/2016 9:47 am

barely had time to chat it up

And this is your problem. You can't make time to talk to a person, if even to check your creep meter to see if this person seems to be okay, but you can make time to have sex with them.

I'm not talking about flowers and a six month courtship, but even if you're just looking for hit and run sex, it goes a lot smoother if you can engage in a little more communication before hunka-bunka time.

flowerkings2012 57M  
4276 posts
6/5/2016 10:16 am

And this highlights the advantage of those seeking something more meaningful, more enduring (even if not love) with the mandatory doses of chemistry and connection. I know the nature of the site and the way it's advertised lends to hook-up, but too many negatives attached to that, as you reveal eloquently. Communication indicates that it takes time until one isready for the other steps; including rounds two and upwards!

want2shareparts 68M/59F  
1 post
12/12/2019 9:16 am

I find that if you email someone, and your interested, then you can learn a lot about them by emailing back and forth. Then you can text, which is my preferred way to chat. When you finally meet in person you have descent idea of who you are meeting and what they might like, or dislike. Face to face you can discuss likes and dislikes. Then if you want to play it usually works out without to much angst.

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