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DOMINATRIX INTERVIEWS PORN PHOTOGRAPHER  

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7/21/2014 12:22 am
DOMINATRIX INTERVIEWS PORN PHOTOGRAPHER



Above and below are photos taken by Barbara Nitke, a porn photographer. She has taken many photographs of porn-film sets.

Barbara Nitke is also a member of The Eulenspiegel Society, America’s oldest support group for sadomasochists. She is currently documenting the sex lives of real couples within the S&M community.

If invited to watch a porn film being made, would you accept the invitation?
If invited to appear in a porn film, would you agree to be be filmed having sex?
If one of your adult wanted to be a porn star, what would you do?


Below is the transcript of an interview between Karley Sciortino, a dominatrix, and Barbara Nitke.

Sorry for the length of this post, but it’s only long if you read the quite interesting interview.

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Karley Sciortino: How did you start working on porn sets?
Barbara Nitke: Well, I was married to a guy who owned a chain of movie theatres around New York. In the 1970s he figured out that you could make a lot of money showing porn, and he also produced a famous porn movie called The Devil and Miss Jones. I had taken up photography as a hobby, so when he was making The Devil and Miss Jones Part II he got me to take stills on the set. One job led to another, and then I got divorced and had to make a living.

KS: What was it like being on a porn set for the first time?
BN: I was pretty desensitised, actually. By the time I was on the set I had seen over 100 porn movies. See, somebody had to screen the movies at my husband’s theatre before he played them to an audience, but he didn’t want to bother most of the time so he would send me to do it. The first few I watched were a huge turn on, but after a while I’d seen so many that I’d just bring a magazine. But then on set, getting to watch sex in a live environment, ignited a whole new cycle of excitement. I felt so honoured to be in such intimate situations with other people like that.

KS: I wanted to talk to you about this new generation of porn stars - people like Sasha Grey and Stoya - who are recognised as women who love sex, who are intelligent, feminist, and who seem in control of their careers. This feels like a change from the way porn starlets were perceived in the past. It feels less exploitative.
BN: I couldn’t agree more, and I think it’s fantastic. I witnessed that change happening in the 1990s - suddenly this new wave of girls were showing up with clipboards, with business plans and lists saying, “These are things I’ll do, these are things I’m not comfortable doing.” They really had it figured out. In the 1980s it was different - there was more shame around it.

KS: So you think people got into porn for different reasons back then?
BN: I think it was a mix. At the very beginning, in the 1970s, some of them were trained actors who, post-sexual revolution, decided to move into the porn business. Then in the 1980s things changed and there was more of a “lost soul” vibe. Not everyone - a lot of the people I worked with were sexually free, were exhibitionists, and had they been born ten years later would have been more in charge of their careers. It’s just that the culture around them hadn’t caught up yet. But there were also a lot of people who were drug addicts or who were generally just down in life, and that was difficult for me because I would think, “Am I supporting someone’s downfall by being here?” Especially as a woman. And then AIDS came along, and no one was using condoms in the beginning, so then I was going, “Am I standing here watching people who are going to die?” I had a lot of emotional ups and downs in the 1980s.

KS: If people stayed in the business, fucking without condoms during the AIDS epidemic, it must have been out of desperation, right?
BN: No, they were in denial. Most of the people could have made a living doing other things. They were usually bright people who had college degrees, and it almost never felt like they had no other choice.
But since we live in a culture that doesn’t honour or celebrate sexuality, there is always going to be an element of shame that one working in the sex industry has to overcome.

KS: Very true.
BN: But going back to intelligent feminists, we can’t forget to mention people like Candida Royalle, Nina Hartley and Annie Sprinkle, who were early porn stars who were totally in control, and who helped to ignite that shift that we’re talking about.

KS: Just yesterday I was looking at photos from Annie Sprinkle’s performance piece, Public Cervix Announcement, where she opened her vagina with a speculum and invited the audience to look at her cervix with a flashlight.
BN: Oh yeah, I was there for one of those performances. It was so hysterical! Men are so fascinated with those spread vagina shots in porn, and I guess we should all be honoured that they love the vagina so much, but she just took it to the final frontier of extremes and said, “Here guys, look all the way in, look at my cervix! In fact, here’s a flashlight!” Only Annie could pull that off.

KS: What made you move away from hardcore in the 1990s?
BN: Well, around that time the industry moved to LA, but I just don’t like California, so I stayed in New York. But then fetish shoots started to get really popular here, partly because it was a way to have safe sex - the performers would just act out the fetish, so there was no exchange of bodily fluids. Then it was my friend, the porn star Rick Star, who introduced me to the real S&M scene.

KS: How so?
BN: Well, Rick had fallen in love with a woman who was a member of The Eulenspiegel Society. He wanted me to meet her, so he took me down to my first meeting. When we got there there was this big, really domineering black woman at the front desk, and she looked at me and said, "Oh, I’m so glad you could come!" It made me feel so special that she was so happy to see me. It took me ten years to find out she said that to everybody who came for the first time.

KS: What were the Eulenspiegel meetings like?
BN: They were very big on safety, so every meeting would start with a presentation - like demonstrating how to safely do a suspension scene, or whipping, caning, how to use hot wax, that type of thing. And then the second half would be circle where everyone would just talk, like any support group.

KS: Your book Kiss of Fire: A Romantic View of Sadomasochism documented the sexual practices of many people in the S&M world. On your website you say, “What fascinated me most was the genuine love I saw all around me. Coming from the been-around-the-block porn world, it was a breath of incredibly fresh air.”
BN: Well, I always enjoyed the whole, ‘sex worker, I’m bored looking at my watch’ thing, and I loved being part of the porn world, but I did it for 12 years. So after that, walking into this new group of people who weren’t performers, who were really in love and so passionate, was just so enchanting. People at meetings would say things like "Oh my god, my boyfriend spanked me and it was so amazing!" Where on a porn set it would be like, "Oh, just another spanking scene." So they were infusing everything with their joy and their love.

KS: Some of the work is so intimate, photographing people having sex in their homes. Did you ever end up joining in?
BN: I never did. My friends were always shocked that I didn’t, like, “What is your problem girl!?” I wanted to take pictures in people’s bedrooms, and be like a fly on the wall. But that could never really work because my being there would always inevitably change things, so the energy of it often turned out to be more like a threesome.

KS: So they were still sexual experiences for you?
BN: Yes, there was always a sexual charge. One of the things that scared me along the way, especially when I was getting deeper into the S&M scene, was that I was pushing my own sex drive and into the photos so much that it was taking the place of having an actual sex life. Then I became almost superstitious, like if I got a boyfriend and was having regular sex that my artwork would go down the tubes. I didn’t really want to mix the two though - I didn’t want to compromise my role as the photographer by becoming a participant. However I think the reason why my work was ever any good was because I always felt that charge.

KS: I work as a Dominatrix, and the feeling I get during sessions is strange because although there is a sexual energy, I don’t necessarily get turned on. It’s more about adrenaline. Like I wouldn’t masturbate thinking about a session later on.
BN: Yeah, same for me, but it’s still sexual. It’s hard to explain. I also think being a pro-Domme is a different experience to watching a real S&M couple. I don’t know if you’ve seen anyone play outside of a paid session, but there is this exchange of energy that's really incredible. Whereas pro-Dommes are being paid to provide a service, so that’s still sex work.

KS: Yeah, I’ve actually seen a Domme whipping someone with one hand and texting with the other.
BN: Ha, yes exactly. I was hanging out at Pandora’s Box dungeon once. I’ll never forget it - all the girls were hanging out in the back reading magazines and watching soap operas, and the manager came in and said to one of the Dommes, “So-and-So is here to see you," and she was like, "Oh God, no!” and trudged over to her locker, yanked on all of this leather paraphernalia, and then trudged out the door. I thought, this has to be my next photo essay! I love that the customer is buying into this fantasy of a woman who sits around all day thinking about nothing but dominating him, when really it’s the last thing on her mind. That appeals to my grand sense of irony.

KS: So why, over the years, had you always stuck with the subject of sex?
BN: I’m just fascinated with human sexuality in general, and the diversity of it and the many different ways people find to sexualise things. It’s just unbelievable.

KS: Sex is endless, basically.
BN: It’s true! But my goal was never to titillate. My goal is to make people think about sex and the people who are having these various types of sex in a more human way. Because really they are just people - it’s your neighbour, your lawyer, it’s you, it’s me. For me sex is an art form, and that means all the variations of it: sex work, vanilla sex, private sex, public sex, S&M, whatever. Everyone I've photographed has taught me something new about the nature of sexual desire, humanity, and the fact that no matter how we're wired to express love, freedom is having the courage to be who we are.



Smokeblower 63M
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7/21/2014 1:06 am

Great post. I have a very few friends in the industry and they are all wonderful people and excellent business persons. It's gotten a lot better since the early days.


FullOn4U 55M  
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7/21/2014 1:57 am

"For me sex is an art form."

I'd better get my tent out of the loft...


pal334 66M  
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7/21/2014 3:58 am

If invited to watch a porn film being made, would you accept the invitation? I think so, not much different then being at a party,WITHOUT participation

If invited to appear in a porn film, would you agree to be be filmed having sex? I think not, don't need that publicity

If one of your adult children wanted to be a porn star, what would you do? Wish them luck after explaining possible consequences for the future

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canyaz 52F
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7/21/2014 4:33 am

If invited to watch a porn film being made, would you accept the invitation? YES! I'm such a nerd I would want to know all the technical info...like how does he cum on command?

If invited to appear in a porn film, would you agree to be be filmed having sex? NO!

If one of your adult children wanted to be a porn star, what would you do? I have always said, "My job is to keep them off the pole." But if that's what they wanted to do, I would hope they would be good at it.

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lok4fun500 110M  
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7/21/2014 6:57 am

Probably.........not so probable.........I would do my best to talk them out of it!




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khuXBFXM8u 58M
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7/21/2014 9:16 am

It would be very I teresting too see how things are do, but I don't think I would be down for making one. Even though it is having sex, it not like making a sex tape; it's about performing. .. what looks good instead of what feels good.

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sweet_VM 62F
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7/21/2014 9:32 am

Oh yes.. I would go love to watch as you know.. I think it would be very interesting to see how they make these films.. I do love porn! hugs V

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demonicsexkitten 45F
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7/21/2014 5:46 pm

I'm reversing the order of your questions due to my answers lol.

If invited to appear in a porn film, would you agree to be be filmed having sex?
No (thought I was extended an offer once)

If invited to watch a porn film being made, would you accept the invitation?
Possibly, though after saying no to the participation offer I was offered to just hang out while he did the filming because he really enjoyed talking to me. I said no.

If one of your adult children wanted to be a porn star, what would you do?
I would probably go ballistic LOL... but ultimately she's an adult. Also not really my child. Though that didn't stop me from calling up her dad and freaking all over him for letting his 14-yr old go across the country to stay with her 15-yr old internet bf and his family for a week. I'd probably do the same if she decided to be a porn star. If it were really my child... well, probably the same.


sexysixties2 72F  
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7/22/2014 9:28 am

I'd go along to watch if invited but couldn't be filmed having sex.

If one of my children wanted to be a porn star....I'd point out a few problems....like publicity....and the fact that it's probably more hard work than fun....then mind my own business.


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spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:22 am

    Quoting Smokeblower:
    Great post. I have a very few friends in the industry and they are all wonderful people and excellent business persons. It's gotten a lot better since the early days.
I've never met anyone from the porn industry. I'm pleased to hear the industry has got better.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:23 am

    Quoting FullOn4U:
    "For me sex is an art form."

    I'd better get my tent out of the loft...
I can see some great tents being sold on the art market now!


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:24 am

    Quoting  :

The Ron Jeremy photo looks like taken in a 1970s time-warped era, perhaps it was the 1970s!


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:26 am

    Quoting  :

Most porn movies are very boring (and unrealistic). I like porn films to have a sense of humour, but I know that's now what they're supposed to be about.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:27 am

    Quoting pal334:
    If invited to watch a porn film being made, would you accept the invitation? I think so, not much different then being at a party,WITHOUT participation

    If invited to appear in a porn film, would you agree to be be filmed having sex? I think not, don't need that publicity

    If one of your adult children wanted to be a porn star, what would you do? Wish them luck after explaining possible consequences for the future
I think it would be an experience to see a porn film made. I don't think I'm ready yet to be a porn star though!


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:28 am

    Quoting canyaz:
    If invited to watch a porn film being made, would you accept the invitation? YES! I'm such a nerd I would want to know all the technical info...like how does he cum on command?

    If invited to appear in a porn film, would you agree to be be filmed having sex? NO!

    If one of your adult children wanted to be a porn star, what would you do? I have always said, "My job is to keep them off the pole." But if that's what they wanted to do, I would hope they would be good at it.
I think it would be fascinating to watch a porn film made. I'm sure it would destroy some of my stereotypical thoughts about the porn industry!


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:29 am

I would give the same answers you. I'm not yet ready to be launched as a porn star!


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:30 am

    Quoting fun_tchr951:
    I'm not really into it, and I think I'd wonder why they couldn't do something else.
I guess they do it because they like it, are good at it and/or they earn money from it.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:32 am

    Quoting lok4fun500:
    Probably.........not so probable.........I would do my best to talk them out of it!
I'd have a big talk with my children if they wanted to be porn film stars, while realising that they are adults and have to make their own (hopefully informed) choices.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:33 am

    Quoting  :

Your experience of watching a porn film being made would make a great blog post.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:34 am

    Quoting NoMoreMrStr8Guy:
    Porn is a business so eventually the players in the movie must learn to be actors just to fake enjoying the sex. I think in porn the smart woman has emerged because the smart woman has emerged in society in much larger numbers. They fit into the stereo types demanded of them in the 50's but as they engaged in society outside of the home and job market then they slowly learned to be themselves and become aggressive to compete in the business world. women in the sex industry would finance their college educations doing what they felt comfortable with and payed well enough. I'd say many finally took control instead of letting themselves be lead around by the porn producers. I'm not really into porn but i do watch some from time to time. It is just too hard for the porn producers to make porn look real. It looks too contrived with no real chemistry between the actors being shown since it really isn't there. Interesting read though. Thanks.
I don't think I could act out having sex.
I hardly watch any porn films. Occasionally I used to watch porn with a partner.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:36 am

    Quoting  :

Perhaps if there was an Oscar award for porn films, porn film acting would get better!


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:37 am

    Quoting khuXBFXM8u:
    It would be very I teresting too see how things are do, but I don't think I would be down for making one. Even though it is having sex, it not like making a sex tape; it's about performing. .. what looks good instead of what feels good.
I too think it would be interesting to see a porn film being made. The closest I've come to that was watching the Boogie Nights film.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:39 am

    Quoting sweet_VM:
    Oh yes.. I would go love to watch as you know.. I think it would be very interesting to see how they make these films.. I do love porn! hugs V

    Congrads on MciLRoy won the golf. Excellent game he had..
I think it would be a great experience to watch a porn film being made, though I don't think I'd like to star in a porn film. I may change my mind if someone offered me a million pounds to be an extra.
Rory McIlroy did do well especially as he more or less led from start to finish.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:42 am

    Quoting demonicsexkitten:
    I'm reversing the order of your questions due to my answers lol.

    If invited to appear in a porn film, would you agree to be be filmed having sex?
    No (thought I was extended an offer once)

    If invited to watch a porn film being made, would you accept the invitation?
    Possibly, though after saying no to the participation offer I was offered to just hang out while he did the filming because he really enjoyed talking to me. I said no.

    If one of your adult children wanted to be a porn star, what would you do?
    I would probably go ballistic LOL... but ultimately she's an adult. Also not really my child. Though that didn't stop me from calling up her dad and freaking all over him for letting his 14-yr old go across the country to stay with her 15-yr old internet bf and his family for a week. I'd probably do the same if she decided to be a porn star. If it were really my child... well, probably the same.
I don't think I'd like to see a porn film being made if my partner or best friend was appearing, though I'd like to see a film being made.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:42 am

    Quoting  :

Like you, I'd love to watch a porn film being made. I think it would be fascinating.


spunkycumfun 60M/65F  
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7/27/2014 1:46 am

    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I'd go along to watch if invited but couldn't be filmed having sex.

    If one of my children wanted to be a porn star....I'd point out a few problems....like publicity....and the fact that it's probably more hard work than fun....then mind my own business.

I would certainly point out some of the potential pros and cons if any of my children wanted to be a porn actor. But it would be their choice to make. That's me saying this while not having children; the reality may be quite different!


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