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Rim job Rules

JUL 5, 2019
Long before Nicki Minaj made rim jobs famous by rapping about "tossing salads" (yup, that's what that meant), many people were licking a** and taking names. And now that butts are having a major cultural moment (thanks, !), rimming—literally licking around and in another person's anus—has become even more mainstream.

And for a ton of good reasons. "There are a lot of erotic nerve endings in the anus, so people can really find themselves having a different, better orgasm from rimming," says Joe Kort, PhD, a certified sex therapist in Royal Oak, Michigan. Plus, you can even get more aroused than usual because the area's typically unexplored, he adds.

"There are a lot of erotic nerve endings in the anus, so you can have a different, better orgasm."

"It's definitely a legitimate source of sexual pleasure for many people," affirms Kimberly McBride, PhD, Associate Professor of Public Health at the University of Toledo, 's extensively researched anal sex. In fact, she encourages people not "shy away from that kind of an exploration because it can be very pleasurable."

and btw, it's totally possible to orgasm from analingus without penetrative sex, according to both Kort and McBride. But if that seems out of reach, McBride says that rimming can definitely make a vaginal orgasm more intense.

So...ready to give or get a rim job? Here's everything you need to know before you and your partner go down that hole (pun intended):

1. Talk it out.
Surprise parties can be fun, sure, but not when they're happening around your under-exposed anus. So yeah, consent is essential to<b> giving </font></b>a rim job—and, obviously, receiving one, too.

Your bedroom beau isn't a mind reader, which is why McBride says "sexual partners need to have clear communication about their wants and needs." If you're interested in rimming, she recommends being candid and fully clothed when you first suggest 'tossing salads.' "It's always better to talk about a new sexual act in a non-sexualized moment," she explains. (It feels less intimidating that way.)

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In fact, McBride recommends having this discussion well in advance of getting naked, so your partner has enough time and space to make an informed decision and can prepare to do it safely (more on that in a sec).

Once you've found the right moment, it's all you how you approach the topic. According to McBride, some people will just come out and ask for a rim job (major props to y', but if that's not your style or comfort level, she suggests saying something a bit less blunt.

Try: ", my friend was talking about this experience, and she really enjoyed it. It's something I might like pursue." Or: "I saw an article about rimming. What do you think about trying it?" (I mean, it's the truth...)

2. Know that you might get turned down.
Whenever you try shake your sexual routine, "there can be a fear of rejection," Kort says. get ahead of that, he recommends sharing that fear with your partner and asking them withhold judgment until after you explain exactly why you're interested in adding a new dish the sexual menu.

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"I never support a conversation stopping just because one person says that they don't want to do it," explains Kort. Instead, he suggests asking your partner, "How are we going to negotiate this in a way that respects both of our boundaries?" If they're not okay with rimming, maybe they are okay with watching an erotic movie that features rim jobs or talking through a rimming fantasy together.

Whatever you end up doing, the goal is not to get the other person to eventually cave in to your desires, Kort says. "The goal is to allow you to share your sexual interests with your partner."

3. One word: shower.
At the end of the day...a butt's a butt. And considering you've probably spent plenty of QT with your own, you know what it does. So if you're worried about cleanliness or smell (fair), both McBride and Kort recommend showering ahead of time. Or to get in the ~mood~, shower together.

However you decide to suds up, McBride advises "washing gently with warm water and soap." She also recommends staying far away from any cleansers that are too astringent "because that can actually draw moisture away from the anus and make the tissue more prone to contracting STIs."

Look for body wash or bars labeled "soap-free," since traditional soaps (meaning the ingredient, not an actual bar of soap) fall into that heavily astringent category.

While you're there, why not warm up with these tried-and-true shower sex positions?

4. Come prepared.
Again, you know what butts do, but I'm just gonna come out and say it: They poop. And that poop is loaded with bacteria that gets moved around when you wipe—which could increase your risk of contracting an STI if you forgo protection.

"Oral transmission of bacterial (e.g. gonorrhea and chlamydia) and viral (e.g. HIV and HPV) STIs can and does happen," explains McBride."If you add other factors, such as the use of certain lubricants, a lowered immune system, microtrauma to the skin or mucus membranes, or an existing STI, the chances increase."

To make things less risky, she recommends using a dental dam. ICYDK, dental dams are a thin square, typically made of latex, that you put over genitalia, tush included. (Polyurethane ones are also available if you're allergic to latex.)

In a pinch? You can also DIY a dental dam by cutting the bottom and top off of a condom and then cutting it lengthwise create a square shape, she says. Really, really in a pinch? Just tear off a piece of cellophane (as long as it's not microwavable, because that's porous and can allow for STI transmission), according McBride.

5. Beware of teeth brushing.
Apparently,<b> giving </font></b>a rim job is kind of like getting fluoride at the dentist (emphasis on "kind of"). By that, I mean that you don't want brush your teeth for two hours before or after rimming, according McBride.

"If you get tiny microtears in your mouth from brushing, that can facilitate STI transmission," she explains, as tears give an entryway infected cells. (The same applies for regular oral sex, too, btw.)

6. Don't lick from back to front.
If you're a vagina owner, you (hopefully) already know the daily dangers of wiping back to front. (In case you don't: UTIs galore.) Same goes for oral-anal contact if you're not using a barrier—like, know, said dental dam.

If you're with a trusted partner and you choose go cheek--cheek (hehe), just make sure you don't immediately switch going down on a vagina or penis. That also makes spreading an STI more likely.

7. Be open trial and error.
Unless you're ridiculously talented, chances are, your first time ever having sex wasn't your best. So don't be surprised if you don't exactly nail your first rim job, either. Practice makes perfect.

Both partners should embrace that experimentation—by constantly communicating with words (and sounds) about what feels good, says McBride. Plus, the more open you are, the hotter it'll be. Trust.

8. You can get off (sorta) just by thinking about rim jobs.
Sex is often more than just a physical experience. And rimming is no exception: Because it's so intimate in nature, experiencing one with your partner can significantly deepen your connection.

Case in point: McBride's research uncovered that many participants across multiple studies think "breaking taboos is sexy and adds the erotic experience."

So don't be afraid ask for a rim job, or offer give your partner one, if the thought of it turns you


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