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Soooo..... AFF the only thing free is logging in?!?!?  

wetbetweenmylegz 48F
341 posts
7/22/2020 11:09 am

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9/14/2020 9:59 am

Soooo..... AFF the only thing free is logging in?!?!?

I have been and off this site for several years now... and I must say they limits content now are crazy!
If you have never used the site before how would you even know if it was worth it when there is literally no way talk another person without an exorbitant ???

Not sure how much longer I will keep my profile open with things this way... it just isn't really worth it...

What are your thoughts? Have you found different solutions or a reasonable middle ground? Would love hear from y'all!
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AFFJPJP 57M  
4 posts
9/10/2020 2:21 am

Agreed. At least it is not like the sites that claim you have 20 messages before you finish signing up. I guess the blogs and chats work, but only if people post some of their profile info, like live in a nearby town, looking for fwbs nsa, active, energetic, etc.


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 9/14/2020 9:59 am:
Good to know... Ironically I always forget to check out other blogs! How is life in Lexington?

Massass1963 57M
348 posts
7/23/2020 6:52 pm

    Quoting papis_baby_girl:
    Sort of like a grocery store...stepping in is free but merch costs...imagine that!
but you still want to get what you pay for!


profcoquin27bis 56M
3440 posts
7/23/2020 6:07 am

standard member can't do anything here


Massass1963 57M
348 posts
7/22/2020 9:08 pm

    Quoting Mr00Fun4U:
    It is crazy but AdultFriendFinder has gone by the way...you can't play unless you pay. But even if you pay you run into a lot of false updates of who viewed your profile or sent you a flirt. Oh I had a young Woman quite mad at me in Chicago but I only messaged her after I was informed she viewed my profile multiple times.

    Good luck to you on where you may end up...all of these dating sites seems to bring in the scam artists and fakes.

    Stay healthy.

    Soooo AFF the only thing free is logging in
She got mad at you just for messaging? Even if you didn't get notifications that she viewed you, it is no reason to be MAD at you....she could either ignore you or reply politely that she isn't interested. Kind of reveals her character, huh?


Massass1963 57M
348 posts
7/22/2020 9:04 pm

    Quoting womennomen:
    Its free to show off on cam do buzz mode when youre naked or fuckin n you earn points that way. Non members have to pay points to watch you n sometimes hit buzz mode or tip. You can contact w points
Are you serious that people pay points to buzz? What the heck do they get out of that? Is there any real way to know if THEY are doing anything at all for the cammer? I have opened cams without paying points and although there is a box in the center, I can see enough of the woman to accomplish my goal--to verify what she REALLY looks like.


Massass1963 57M
348 posts
7/22/2020 5:04 pm

I agree the points system absolutely SUCKS for IM. One should ONLY pay if they get a response. When I did spend a few points to IM a few people, most didn't respond at all. Then I finally learned from one, later, that she was not even logged on....the site SHOWED her logged on. So, if this is truly happening, then do you repeatedly attempt to reach someone for fear a nice opportunity might pass by simply because IM isn't connecting? Or, do you try once or twice and move on (that was my choice). Then another occasion we got disconnected by the ever-so-reliable IM. Had to pay another 15 points to reconnect.
The root of the problem, though, are the people themselves (collectively). I'd have no real problem paying for a membership if I thought there were more than a handful of women that were truly interested in meeting, were honest about who they are, their situations, and had current pics. The number of fake profiles is overwhelming to a point I'd estimate more than 50% are such.


usernamenotinuse 56M
18 posts
7/22/2020 3:18 pm

Just seen the latest innovation on the poor re-vamp of the IM (why keep spending money on, forgive the pun, jazzing things up that don't need it?) - so now, if you chat with someone who goes away from screen for an hour - you know, perhaps to eat or take a phone call - you have t o pay more points to resume the conversation.

And, of course, you have to pay to send a message in IM regardless of whether you get a reply - so paying 15 points for no reason in many cases.

There may be a core of people who stay but I think the site's policy is driving people away. I'm certainly looking at alternatives.


MyBaffies 51M
4406 posts
7/22/2020 2:27 pm

The blogs are free, the chat rooms are free although hardly anyone goes in there now compared with a few years ago.

But it is a commercial site, they need to make money in order to run it and the other sites under the Various brand. And they do that by charging people to use it. Given some of the offers I'm presented with on logging in, it is cheaper than some of the more mainstream dating sites.

I have upgraded in the past but I wont be doing that again given their attitude, or lack of it, to data security.

Baffies

My Blog: MyBaffies


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 5:58 pm:
I forgot all about the chat rooms... I will have to check them out again. Thanks for the reminder...

bbuckwwheat 61M
4897 posts
7/22/2020 2:27 pm

You could always do a private mailbox blog post to have conversations with anyone.

An example and instructions are at BiggLala

Private mailbox at my blog bbuckwwheat
Fayette, Iowa


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 5:13 pm:
Very cool! I will check it out!

xNewsPhotog 58M
218 posts
7/22/2020 1:58 pm

Agreed.... SUCKS!!


Starsearch1965 55M
839 posts
7/22/2020 1:56 pm

There is enough advertising on the sides of the home page that the site should be all free not just log in


looking4u69ca 60M
4254 posts
7/22/2020 1:34 pm

I can't even open a message for less reply.
Was gold for eons until the site pissed me off.


1seeking1 55F
3242 posts
7/22/2020 1:31 pm

Well we can still blog, I do agree with you site is going downhill. I mostly her for sharing information and entertainment.


Mr00Fun4U 61M  
974 posts
7/22/2020 1:22 pm

It is crazy but AdultFriendFinder has gone by the way...you can't play unless you pay. But even if you pay you run into a lot of false updates of who viewed your profile or sent you a flirt. Oh I had a young Woman quite mad at me in Chicago but I only messaged her after I was informed she viewed my profile multiple times.

Good luck to you on where you may end up...all of these dating sites seems to bring in the scam artists and fakes.

Stay healthy.

Soooo AFF the only thing free is logging in


papis_baby_girl 41F
5364 posts
7/22/2020 1:22 pm

Sort of like a grocery store...stepping in is free but merch costs...imagine that!

"The role of a writer is not to say what we all can say, but what we are unable to say."
-Anais Nin

"I am big, it's the pictures that got small!"
-Norma Desmond


womennomen 47F

7/22/2020 1:15 pm

Its free to show off on cam do buzz mode when youre naked or fuckin n you earn points that way. Non members have to pay points to watch you n sometimes hit buzz mode or tip. You can contact w points


redrockrascal 62M
21688 posts
7/22/2020 1:09 pm

You just posted a blog - how much did that cost you?
When I read this post I checked your profile and you were on camera - how much did that cost you?
You have a profile and pictures - how much did that cost you?

No worries I don't expect any answers.

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


oldognewtrick5 45M

7/22/2020 1:03 pm

i had the same surprise logging back in after years away. it's nothing like it used to be. i'm learning it's going to cost me a gold membership to get the functionality i had for free when i was here before.


samson19682006 52M  
1352 posts
7/22/2020 12:59 pm

I've been on AdultFriendFinder in some form since 1999/2000, this current profile that I have goes back to 2006. It has gotten more expensive over the years. Originally, women had no limit to view and send email while men had a limit of three per day if they just did a standard membership. they ratio between women to men was 1 to 10. They also had a silver member ship that while not as extensive as a gold a man could view and send emails at a lesser cost. you use to be able to view someones cam with a standard membership as well, but that ended a few years ago.

Problem is so many of the profiles on here are fake, and even some of the gold ones who I'll get flirts from turn out to be a cam girl or another website. I guess I keep my gold membership going just out of habit. There are a few friends and bloggers who I do interact with, problem is they are also far away.


jan04005 62M/48F
9 posts
7/22/2020 12:57 pm

this sight has sucked for years an its not dick


Brownie202 63F
1902 posts
7/22/2020 12:56 pm

I believe the ad says free to join. It is a business so maybe just maybe they want to make money. There is things that is free.

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 4:06 pm:
I understand that it is a business... and I don't mind if the make a profit. I just think these things should an amount of balance...

wob4wt2 57M
62 posts
7/22/2020 12:28 pm

SSSHHH don't give the idiots any ideas....


coxswain55a 66M
217 posts
7/22/2020 12:23 pm

I would have to agree with you - same situation here. And then they try to fake you out with "icebreaker" messages and false "flirted with you" messages and so forth.


maturem1967 52M  
11 posts
7/22/2020 12:15 pm

Lol, it's sadly true. Only logging in is free now !!


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 1:24 pm:
It used to be a good mix of free and pay fun! I guess they think they are the only option these days... o-o

Duder130 39M
15 posts
7/22/2020 12:07 pm

Yeah pretty much. Can’t even IM without points and if it kicks you out which seems often then it’s another 15 to start again for a convo you already paid for.


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 12:59 pm:
Right?!? If you want to nickel and dime things the service should be flawless!

wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 1:25 pm:
{=}

Mr_Mercedes 59M
405 posts
7/22/2020 11:59 am

Sadly it’s basically pay to play - as far as I can tell. Just blogging here for now.


You are in my most inappropriate thoughts...


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 12:58 pm:
Overall - pretty disappointing... I never cheated the service and moved conversations to other platforms but they don't leave you much choice...
Nice blog BTW! {=}

Lance_Goodthrust 63M
280 posts
7/22/2020 11:42 am

To answer you subject line..... yes, it would seem the only free thing on this site now is the ability to log in.


wetbetweenmylegz replies on 7/22/2020 11:59 am:
I have always liked this site... and have been open to the different payment structures but now it just seems to have gone too far...
Glad to hear there wasn't just something I am missing...
Appreciate the comment {=}

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